Getting Out of the “How” Business

how - letting go[This article was previously published on AffirmingSpirit.com. It has been revised and updated for the enjoyment of blog-readers.]

Recently, I have written about embracing change, the power of decision, and believing in what’s possible as tools for creating powerful positive change in your life. Once you open the door to possibilities, your intuitive guidance will begin to show you options. Here is when it is critical to move past the next trap: Wanting to control “how” everything manifests.

Paralyzed by the need to control or see exactly how their wish will materialize, many folks cease taking any action. They need to know exactly how, from start to finish, they will accomplish their goal. The lack of knowing how becomes an excuse never to even begin taking action toward their desired goal. Since a clear solution does not seem available, or viable, they then conclude that their goal is simply not possible. Many goals die a quiet death in this trap.

The truth is “how” your goal manifests is not up to you…at all. That’s the job of the Universe that is orchestrating all beyond your comprehension. It’s your job to sift through all your experiences to decide what it is you really want to experience, and which of those you are really going to pursue, put yourself into the feeling of it as if it’s already manifested…AND LET GO! ‘How’ it comes about is truly the “domain of the Universe” as Mike Dooley says in the original version of The Secret DVD.

In fact, failure to let go sets us up for a vicious cycle. The more we worry about, and try to control, “how” our desires manifest, the more we are adding to the very resistance that keeps those goals at bay. Then, with proof that nothing is working, you have yet another excuse to conclude that the goal was an impossible dream.

If you’ve decided to become a conscious creator, you need to get out of the ‘how’ business. When we let go of the need to control exactly how our desires show up, we release the self-imposed limits on the possible ways our desires can manifest. As humans beings, we have a limited view of what can be accomplished, always based on what we are aware of that has already been done. Getting away from the need to know how is what is meant by “getting out of your own way”.

There’s no question that we DO benefit from pure, positive passion on your way to experience your desired goal, and the persistence to stay focused on the outcome regardless of any naysayers. That said, sometimes the very passion that drives us can cause us to want to know “how”. Successful people the world over know that you do not need to know “how” you will accomplish your goal in order to succeed. They realize that passion for the outcome and trust in the process are the big keys to successful conscious creating.

Jerry Hicks tells a story of how he and Esther had decided they wanted to take the Abraham materials to a wider audience. They happily told others about this, and when people asked how they were going to do it, they just said something to the effect of, “We don’t know right now, but we know the way will be shown.” Then, out of the (seeming) blue, Wayne Dyer and Christiane Northrup, M.D. contacted them to say how much they loved their materials and asking how they could help. Other notable authors and media people stepped forward to do the same. Louise Hay offered to publish their books to a wider audience. They were contacted by Rhonda Byrne to make The Secret movie (original version), which led to them creating their own movies and participating in Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. Along the way, Oprah called to interview them on her XM 156 Radio show.

All this happened for them because they put their desire out to the listening Universe and spent no time trying to second-guess the energy that creates worlds. They got out of their own way. Esther and Jerry considered what they wanted, focused on that, and trusted that it would show up for them…and it did! You wouldn’t know about all of their books, movies, or YouTube videos if this hadn’t happened for them.

The “Needing-to-Know-How” Addiction
Some people have been demanding to know how for so long that they’ve become addicted to needing to know, not to mention tallying up failures of past goals that never saw the light of day.

The addiction to knowing coupled with the lack of knowing keeps them stuck, in a perpetual (and emotionally exhausting) tug of war.

At the root of needing to know how your goal will manifest is a lack of trust in the energy that creates worlds, the one single source of all we perceive as humans: The Universal Energy field, sometimes known as Source Energy, Divine Source, All that Is, or God. Quantum Physicists have identified this energy field that permeates everything that we perceive with our senses, and have determined that this field of energy responds to and is affected by our thoughts and feelings.

Quantum Physicist Fred Alan Wolfe, PhD in the movie, The Secret, said,“Quantum Physics really begins to point to this discovery. It says that you can’t have the Universe without the mind entering into it.” He goes on to explain, The mind is actually shaping the very thing that is being perceived. Experiments with particles have shown them responding as soon as particles are being observed.

Whether you view this ever-present energy field in a religious, spiritual, or a scientific way, the fact still remains: The energy that permeates all things in the universe is constantly responding to our thoughts and feelings. If you trust this, then you will find it easier to let go of the ‘how’ and let this energy source assist you. It will respond to your trust by providing your deepest heart-felt desires.

If you do not trust this source, by virtue of your lack of trust, it will reflect back to you proof that you cannot trust it. The Law of Attraction ensures that whatever we believe is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Practice Shifting and Cultivating
So, what do you do if you are addicted to needing to know ‘how’ before you proceed? Start by practicing shifting your thinking and attitudes, and cultivate trust.

• Cultivating trust is like building muscles. Develop your trust muscle so you can easily imagine yourself living the outcome you desire. Spend a few minutes each day practicing— visualizing (see, feel, know) yourself living the outcome of the goal and noticing how it feels for you.

For example, if you want a good parking spot, imagine yourself driving to the location, finding the perfect spot and pulling right in without waiting.

Notice how you feel when you are visualizing (seeing, feeling, knowing) this. Feel yourself physically there in your visualization. Then, let it go and continue with your day. Resist the temptation to get into too much mental detail because that will lead you to ask ‘how’. Instead, focus on the feeling you want and are expecting to experience. Abraham refers to this technique as pre-paving a future experience. As you find yourself stepping into a future that matches your visualization (seeing, feeling, knowing), you know it’s not a coincidence.

• Start with smaller goals until you begin to trust that Universal Energy is constantly responding to meet your requests. We tend to be less attached to emotionally to smaller goals, so use that to it’s advantage if you are just starting out. As your trust deepens, you will find it easier to begin visualizing and feeling the outcome of much larger goals. Soon, you will find yourself trusting and knowing that everything you desire will manifest for you quickly and efficiently.

• Release emotional attachment to the outcome. I realize that the more emotionally attached we are to a certain outcome, the harder it can be to let go and trust. However, if you channel that emotion away from attachment and toward your visualization, you’ll notice something remarkable. The more emotion invested in the visualization, rather than the attachment, the more you will feel as if you are already living the desire you seek.

At that point, it’s only a matter of time for it to manifest. The creation process is well underway, and ironically, you are likely to feel less attached to the final outcome because you already have the satisfaction of feeling as if you are living that reality. And that makes you, and your goal, very attractive!

Feel the Outcome as Reality
How to do this? Let me share a personal experience from my own business.

One day I realized that a client had not paid a large project invoice by the milestone date. I called their accounting department to find out when payment would be made and was told they would “pay it when they got around to paying it.” I was incensed that this client corporation had me working around the clock and was extremely demanding, but was unwilling to pay their invoices on time. Soon, I found myself arguing with their Accounts Payable rep and heard my inner voice say, “Stop. Arguing is not helping.” I forced myself to end the conversation and hang up the phone, and needless to say—I was not in a very good mood!

Realizing that my energy was so negative that I would only attract similar energy by staying there, I immediately left my office. I sought out my kitty cat who always soothed me and lifted my energy. As I petted my kitty, I felt my heart warm and completely forget why I was mad in the first place. I stayed in that loving energy for a while, as it felt so good, and then began to think about the ideal outcome for the situation. All drama aside, the ideal outcome was to have possession of the client payment and deposit it into the bank.

So, I imagined myself holding the check, walking into the bank to make the deposit. I stayed with that visualization until it felt real to me. Then, I went back to petting my sweet kitty who was soaking up all the love.

Eventually, I made it back into my office and went back to work. I had let go of the outcome and trusted that what I visualized would show up. About three hours later, I received a call that the check was in the company’s lobby for me to pick up. It was not long before I was holding that check, walking into my bank to make the deposit just as I had visualized a few hours before!!!

Was it totally easy for me to get out of the “how” and shift my anger toward more productive visualization? It is easier now than it would have been 10 years ago, but it wasn’t totally easy, and frankly I needed the help of my furry friend to truly shift my energy to a higher vibration. (Furry friends are one of our greatest gifts!)

Could I have gotten there on my own? Probably, but not as quickly. If a kitty wasn’t present, I could have turned on some good music and danced, or put my attention on someone who always lifts my spirits. While it wasn’t easy, it was doable…and the more I do it, the easier it becomes.

In my example above, as I stepped out of the ‘how’ and focused on the outcome I desired, I gave the universe permission to fulfill my request in the fastest, most efficient way possible. I was then free to follow intuitve guidance. Jack Canfield has equated this to driving from NY to California at night with your headlights on, seeing only 200 feet ahead of you at any time, trusting that the road will take you to your final destination.

Have you been paralyzed to take action because you first needed to know how you would accomplish your goal? What has helped you to get out of your own way? Share your experiences with us below, in comments…

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Thinking About Others

The Thinker by Auguste Rodin, California Palace of the Legion of Honor, 2007

In the last week alone, I have had at least three people ask me this question:

How can I possibly feel good when [fill in the blank people, animal, or organization] is experiencing [fill in the blank hardship or difficulty that seems unfair]?

The Law of Attraction is always working, whether we believe it or not. Like a tuning fork, we are sending our vibration out into the quantum field. The Law of Attraction is lining us up with like-vibrations in people, locations, and experiences. When people first learn about this, they do their utmost best to stay positive about their own life, but often struggle to maintain a positive attitude about people and situations around them that seem unkind or unfair.

There is no need to expand on what those negative situations could be since most of us can quickly identify those in our own experiences. Worrying and fearing for oneself or others is praying for what you don’t want. Instead, make the decision to use your energy to uplift yourself and others.

10.2013.ThinkingAboutOthersWhile it’s true that we cannot create in the reality of another person because we cannot think and feel for them, feeling bad about or for another person only lowers your vibration and consequently will drag you down. In this way, even choosing to think bad about someone else is also harming you. What you give out energetically is what you receive back.

Vibrationally speaking, how would you want others to view you? Would you rather have them feeling pity for you, worrying about you, imagining the worst…or would you rather have them seeing you as capable, strong, successful, and easily able to overcome anything?

Think back on the hardships you’ve experienced. With hindsight, most people can say that every hardship they’ve endured helped them learn more about themselves and grow positively from the experience. Personally, I’ve discovered that every experience holds the seeds of blessings, if we are willing to see it that way. It’s not up to us to deprive others of their opportunities to learn and grow, but we can positively support them in their journey.

Like the time when I was 15 and the adults around me were clearly suffering from the belief that I had uterine cancer. X-Rays showed a mass over my uterus, but without major surgery they wouldn’t know for sure. Fortunately, I had an inner knowing that said I was fine, so I couldn’t figure out why people were putting so much attention on a negative outcome that wasn’t going to happen. Turns out, it was benign cysts on my ovaries that were easily removed during surgery. While I told every one around me that I was fine, I also let them hold onto whatever belief they wanted. Looking back, though, it would have been nice had the adults around me been imagining the best into the unknown, seeing me as coming through the situation with ease and trusting that all was well.

Research is now showing that it matters what the doctor thinks, too.  That is, if you give that kind of power over to your doctor. Even as a teen I was clear that the doctors were wrong and they’d eventually figure that out, which they did. I remember my mother saying she wished that she could trade places with me to prevent me from dealing with this, but that experience at age 15 taught me many important things that I have carried through my life.

What about when you don’t have a inner knowing that all is well? Cultivate it. Start where you are, and build from there. See the blessings that are always present. Appreciate what is working well, notice how the situation is better than it could have been, and begin to look for ways that good could present itself. As you make this your practice, you’ll find it gets easier and more fun…and the results make it worthwhile.

For most of us, seeing others as capable, strong, successful, and finding their way through their situation will feel better than fearing, worrying or gossiping about them. Am I expecting you to be jumping for joy and celebrating someone’s hardship? NO! I’m not saying that.

This is what I am saying: hold the space for hope and possibility for others. Be the person in their life/lives that imagines the best outcome possible and sees them as capable, strong, thriving, and benefiting from the experience. For some people, you can be present around them during their struggles and others you may need to distance yourself. Either way, thinking well of them and holding a space for good will benefit everyone involved.

Not only will this feel better to you, the onlooker, but it will feel good to them to know someone sees a light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll appreciate it, too, when they return the favor during your difficult moments.

Your turn! What helps you stay positive and imagine the best outcome for those you see suffering? Share your comments below.

 

Image: The Thinker by Auguste Rodin,
California Palace of the Legion of Honor, 2007

Another Take on Ho’oponopono

A year ago, I wrote a post about the ancient Hawaiian energy clearing practice known as Ho’oponopono. In that post, I shared my personal experiences, how I had heard about it, and a 90 minute interview with Dr. Hew Len (broken up into 9-10 min segments on YouTube).

Aunty Mahealani, Native Hawaiian Teacher

Several people have privately mentioned that they have a hard time with this practice, especially the part about asking for forgiveness.

The whole forgiveness conversation is complicated as, technically, you are asking yourself for forgiveness, not anyone else or anyone outside of you. I know that is a complicated concept for many of us, so I recommend watching the videos with Dr. Hew Len to help you understand the concept much better.

However, in response to the forgiveness comments, I have told others that I once followed Dr. Joe Vitale’s suggestion to walk around for a week silently saying to yourself, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” as a way to generally clear any blocks. Within just a few days of this practice, I started manifesting experiences where I needed to apologize!!! Yes, I consciously realized the connection when I found myself having to say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. ” YIKES!!! I stopped that practice pretty darn quick.

It also showed me how powerful our energy is in attracting what we speak and feel! These days, I might only say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” ONCE, and then focus all my attention on “I love you. Thank you.” I’d much rather be manifesting reasons to say THAT to others! 😉

Anyway, I just came across a video interview (below) where Aunty Mahealani explains the Aloha Spirit and her take on Ho’oponopono. I must say, I like what she is saying and it resonates for me on many levels. I invite you to watch this video and see if Aunty’s interpretation feels better for you, too.


After you watch this video, let me know what you think! Share your comments and questions below…

Talking it Out: Affirmative Conversations

My son amazes me. He’s not interested in Law of Attraction, per se, yet he intuitively works many of the principles.

For instance, he’s always making conversation about what matters to him. When he wanted a car, he spoke about why he wanted a car, why it would be useful to him, where he would drive it and the trips he would take.

He spoke about it so often that eventually his Dad agreed to take him car shopping. His Dad didn’t expect to find anything on the first shopping venture, but our son didn’t know that. Standing in my office the night before the shopping trip, my son enthusiastically said, “I am so excited about getting my own car, I can FEEL it! Right now, my car is out there ready for me to pick it out and drive it home!”

He was so enthusiastic, it was infectious, and I really believed him when he spoke those words! As a mother and Deliberate Creator, I couldn’t have been more proud.

Much to his father’s surprise, our son DID locate an amazing used car the next day that was in excellent condition, had low miles, very well cared for and in a price range he could afford. That day, seven months ago, within hours of starting his search, he located and proudly drove home his first car.

Hans Jenny, the Swiss medical doctor and natural scientist, coined the phrase Cymatics for the study of wave phenomena and vibration that shows the transformational nature of sound. The work of Jenny and his ground-breaking book, Cymatics: The Study of Wave Phenomena, made sound visible and made us aware how sound literally transforms the energy around us.

When we speak in conversations with others, we are changing the energy around us (literally). Now we know from work done by the Institute of HeartMath that our thoughts combined with their related emotions is transmitted through our heart into the quantum field. Whatever we send out is mirrored back to us vibrationally.

Ask yourself if what you generally speak about with others is affirming what you want to experience or affirming what you do NOT want (complaining)?

Complaining keeps us stuck in victimhood. However, when we make the choice and commit to only speak affirmatively about the things we appreciate, enjoy and want to create more of, the results are truly *magical*!

How often do you have affirmative conversations with, speaking about what you really appreciate?

How can you have more affirmative conversations and more often?

Don’t have anyone you can have affirmative conversations with? Don’t let that stop you. Speak aloud to yourself!

If you are a pet owner, remember, you can also speak to your pet about your dreams and plans. I guarantee you, your pets enjoy the sound of your voice, and you may be surprised how much they love having you talk directly to them!

Do you have similar stories of speaking affirmatively and experiencing a positive result? Share it below in the comments!

Releasing Your Victim Status

How often do you feel like a victim? How often do you feel like things happen TO you, instead of FOR you? Some of you reading this will probably say never, and if so you might really want to look a little deeper.

This is not easy to admit, but recently I became aware that I was raised to feel like a victim. In no way do I blame my family. I doubt they set out to *make* me feel that way, let alone to feel that way themselves, but it still is the truth: I was raised to feel and act like a victim.

I know I was raised to feel this way be cause my family’s favorite pastime is complaining! Not only did the adults around me model how to complain, we were actively encouraged to look for things to complain about and rewarded with extra attention when we did. In family gatherings, not only could you get lots of attention for complaining, most times the rest of the group would join in and add their complaints to the mix!

But it didn’t stop there. Complaining wasn’t even JUST the favorite pastime in my family, but in the culture around me, where it’s still active every where in our media and news sources!

But that was then, and now I understand how I create my reality with my thoughts, words, actions and the FEELINGS they invoke in me. Those feelings send out a vibrational signal to the Universe through the electro-magnetic field that connects everything. So, I’ve learned that when I take 100% responsibility for my thoughts, emotions, and feelings, the world around me shifts to reflect that back to me.

I know that I am a Deliberate Creator and what I give my attention GROWS vibrationally, and before long, it comes into physical manifestation. When you complain, you are giving a signal to the Universe that you want MORE of what you are complaining about, and that keeps you feeling stuck, as if nothing ever improves, and in a perpetual state of victimhood.

I have come to learn that if I really want to experience change, not just complain about it, I have to begin thinking and speaking differently. Even if I am complaining about complaining! 😉

That’s because it is impossible
to complain and NOT feel like a victim!

It makes vibrational sense: If you want to let go of your victim mentality, the first step is to stop complaining. It might be easier for you to make a decision to halt your complaints in mid-thought. However, if you hang around a bunch of people who like to complain verbally or in writing (blogs, articles, etc.), before you know it, it may become your habit, too. Once complaining has become an ingrained habit, you may find yourself doing it without even trying!

* * *

That means that if you REALLY want

to release your victim status,

you must FIRST let go of

the habit of complaining!

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You’ve probably heard me say that EVERYTHING that we say is affirming something – either something positive or something negative, depending on the label we give to it. When we complain, we are affirming our status as victims.

It’s up to you, though. No one else is going to think your thoughts, speak your words, or feel your feelings and emotions. When would you like to release the victim status and feel more empowered? That’s the time you will want to commit to letting go of the habit of complaining. It’s never too late to stop complaining and create a new habit.

Now it’s your turn: Do you have a story of how you let go of complaining and the victim status it creates? Share it below so others can benefit!

Power Animals

Have you ever contemplated the power that animals bring to your life experience?

As I type this post, I am sitting next to an open window with the sounds of hundreds of birds chirping. No, I don’t live in the country but in a rather large suburb, an area known as Birdland. Groves of mature trees attract birds to nest…from hummingbirds in my backyard to ravens and even some hawks and wild parrots! I happen to live near a large intersection, yet, more often than not, the noise from the birds is so loud that you can’t even hear the nearby traffic.

I love the sound of birds chirping, even at night. It connects me to nature and soothes me.

Indoors, my kitties have a way of bringing me into the Vortex of love and appreciation simply by BEing—reminding me of the importance of rest, relaxation, connection and quiet time…and a little play time is good for everyone! When it comes to napping coaches, they are the best hands-on paws-on coaches!

Their presence is ever-felt, even though they are usually just quietly sleeping nearby or fascinated by a spider or bug in the corner. Unconditional love, openness to experiencing the moment just as it is, and willingness to be vulnerable with a human (many times their size) are ever-present lessons that pets gift their human companions.

The Institute of HeartMath in Boulder Creek, CA has discovered that the relationship between humans and animals is mutually beneficial, and it can be profoundly beneficial for both humans and animals. In addition to the emotional benefits, research conducted at the institute found that a type of heart-rhythm entrainment, or synchronization, can occur in interactions between people and their pets. People also benefit from befriending farm animals…actually, I have heard that chickens are quite a lot of fun, as are pigs, goats, cows and horses! Farm animals have been used to rehabilitate wounded soldiers, psychiatric patients, and former convicts.

Not only do the humans enjoy it and benefit, but so do the animals! The heart-rhythm coherence improves the health and immune system for all parties involved. I’ve adopted cats who looked like they were not going to live long, and then noticed their health, coat, and disposition improve immensely as they were exposed to plenty of love and appreciation. (I’ve heard avid gardeners say the same is true of plants.)

It’s  also quite possible that repeated physical benefits of connection with animals could be entrain humans to feel good even when just *thinking* about animals and nature. We remember how good the last connection felt and look forward to experiencing that again.

Even when we have suffered the loss of a pet, we are able to fondly remember past experiences even as we cuddle and enjoy the company of a new pet. Pets teach us the profound lesson that real love never dies~it just transforms, like all energy. When we connect with our pets, the love we feel is so deep and meaningful that almost nothing else matters in that moment, and we are transported away from anything not matching that loving vibration.

Deliberate creators know that a beloved pet has the power to shift us almost instantly from a bad feeling place into a high-vibration. When we are in a high vibratory energy pattern, we become a closer match to our high-vibing desires and therefore closer to bringing them into our physical experience.  Most deliberate creators will quickly admit that their love for their pet(s) is their go-to vibe shifter that works every time!

Another thing cats teach Deliberate Creators: You are not a victim to what is happening around you. You always have the choice to something that (or someone who) feels better. Don’t settle – if you have to, get up and MOVE to find good-feeling people and experiences.

So, the next time you hear birds chirping or connect with animals, remember the AMAZING power they provide us…day after day, freely and only with the hope that you will join in the love.

Letting Go of the Struggle with Affirmations

Personally, I’ve had such GREAT experiences with affirmations that it always SHOCKS me when I hear people saying things like…

Affirmations never work

I hate affirmations

Affirmations are pointless

and the most unbelievable one:
Take a pile of crap, put frosting on top of it…that’s what affirmations are

Yes, I’ve heard every one of those at some point and it always makes me think ….?!? WHAT ?!?

affirmationsHow is it possible that I have such great experiences with affirmations and so many others struggle with it? First, when people affirm regularly that something WON’T WORK for THEM ~ by the Law of Attraction it will never work FOR THEM! Second, I know HOW to create powerful customized affirmations so I do not struggle with affirmations ~ I know they work and I know they are very much worth the effort!

I realized it was time to work with some folks who didn’t believe in the power of affirmations, coach them, show them how to let go of the struggle, and have them talk about their experience.

So, I turned to the great community at Good Vibe University ~ asking who was ready to let go of their struggle with affirmations. Knowing that coaching is helpful for folks who are really struggling, and knowing that the ones who NEED the coaching the most are often the ones affirming that they cannot afford coaching, I decided to donate the coaching for up to five volunteers. Once five volunteers (Sophie, Mitch, Cheryl, Julie and Melissa) had come forward, I sent them to my site to do the free Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations eCourse. From there, I scheduled coaching sessions, and scheduled the call for GVU.

Now, you get to listen in on the conversation where the five volunteers share their answers to these questions:

• What what was your experience with affirmations before?

• What was affirmation coaching like for you? Was it helpful?

• How have the last several weeks been since the affirmation coaching?
• What has changed?

• What advice would do you have now to folks who struggle with affirmations?

Listen to the “Letting Go of the Struggle with Affirmations” call now:

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Effective Solopreneur: Closing the Door on Success

closed_dreamHave you been closing the door on your dreams of success?

Most of you understand that everything that exists in physical form first started out in vibrational form, as a thought.

For instance, someone first *thought* about the computer display you are reading this post on before it came into physical form.

In the same way, someone received a vibrational impression of the keyboard I’m typing this on, and translated that thought into specifications that were given to a manufacturer to create. The manufacturer then created the keyboard on equipment that was once just a thought in someone’s mind.

Your dreams and ideas as a successful solopreneur also started as vibrational impressions that you chose to remember, write down, and flesh out into products and services you offer your clientele.

I don’t know any business owner who consciously starts out saying, “I want to create something that will not sell, that will cost more than it earns, and that will be a waste time and money for any of the people who do buy it.”

And yet, that’s the outcome that many people are experiencing. Why would that be? Because many people are unconsciously closing the doors on their own success before it has a chance to move from vibrational form into physical form.

Quantum physics has shown that the Universe is composed of more energy than solid, physical matter. Way more! The more scientists look deep into matter to find what it is made of, the less physical stuff they find and the more energy they reveal. Furthermore, they’ve learned that what we perceive as empty space is really untapped potential energy awaiting our conscious attention. Experiments have repeatedly shown that this energy responds to our conscious attention and that there is unlimited potential in every aspect of this energy. Every quantum possibility already exists, and the one that comes into physical form is the one we have given the most attention.

The difference between a financial depression and financial prosperity depends on which one we give the most attention.

The difference between a business failing and a business thriving depends on which one we give the most attention.

The difference between begging for clients and a waiting list of clients depends on which one we give the most attention.

Our attention includes our intentions, our attitudes, the stories we tell ourselves and others, and the feelings these thoughts, beliefs and emotions evoke. When you speak about your dreams and your business in ways that uplift you, your emotion is telling you that you are in alignment with the deeper part of yourself…the Source Energy that is the basis of everything we perceive with our senses.

When you speak about your dreams and your business in ways that saddens and depresses you, your emotion is telling you that you are NOT in alignment with the deeper part of yourself. You are, in effect, shutting down that quantum possibility before the vibration every has a chance to make it into physical form. That means, every time you repeatedly give your attention to aspects of your life or business that upset you, worry you, or cause you to feel bad, you are essentially closing the vibrational door on your own success. You are the one sabotaging your own potential!

You can blame the economy, or a corporation, or the government, or any host of others for your failures. But if you want to turn the tide, you’ll have to begin by taking responsibility for your success.

Every time you say you want to do something, but you can’t, you have just CLOSED the door on that quantum possibility! It will never open again, until you change the thoughts, stories, and emotions related to that idea. The bottom line is: You are the only one who can control your thoughts, and when you focus on what upsets, worries, depresses, or angers you, you are pre-paving your future with that same energy.

Think about that for a moment. If you don’t like what you are currently experiencing, how much do you think you’ll like more of the same in the future?!?

If you want to see your business succeed, then you must first make a commitment to keep your vibrational doors open. That commitment includes being conscious where you give your attention. It includes stopping the behavior, thoughts, beliefs and emotions that brought you to this point. It also includes not getting involved in other people’s dramas.

It’s one thing to allow others to think or believe whatever they choose, and wish them well, and another to feel it’s your responsiblity to make everyone think like you. You must stay focused on the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that support your success and let others find their own paths.

If you are unwilling to make that energetic commitment, you have just closed the door on your dream, behind the vault of your subconscious mind. Buried there, your subconsious mind will block attempts to access any kind of success. It will seem like every effort you make is failing, no matter what you do, nothing is working. But who was the one who closed the door?!?

The good news is that you can begin now unlocking your success.

Are you willing to make the commitment to your own success?

What are you willing to do to open the vibrational doors to your dreams and keep them open?

Taking Score Too Soon and Too Often

Last Friday, I was on the Good Vibe University WaterCooler call ~ that’s their weekly open call about random Law of Attraction (LOA) topics that changes every week. Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach and founder of GVU was talking about a manifesting technique that clearly worked for others, but didn’t work for her when she tried it. Immediately, I got an image that is familiar with other clients I have helped: I made a comment that when we are taking a specific action only for the result we are seeking, and we might be flowing the impatient vibe of “come on, come on…where is it? where is it? where is it?” And like a watched pot, it never seems to boil.
Jeannette heard me and wrote this entertaining blog post about the Watched Pot Syndrome.
I’ve actually seen this behavior with a lot of clients, those who are new to LOA and experienced teachers. Many fall victim to taking score too soon and too often, that keep them in a suspended state of NOT seeing what they are looking for.
Louise Hay equates this to planting a seed, watering it, nurturing and then digging it up every few hours to see how it’s doing. We all know from experience that it’s best to plant and nurture the seed, and THEN let nature take it’s course. Otherwise, you’ll kill the seed and it will never have a chance to blossom.
The hardest part may not be the seeding and nurturing of your dreams, but taking your attention OFF of them long enough to enjoy the rest of your life! This is why I recommended having a prepared “Joy List” you can go to any time you desire. I also recommend having lists of activities you know you enjoy so you have many options to choose from. Distracting yourself with activities and experiences that feel good will not only help the time pass quickly, but it will also help you to stop taking score too soon or too often, and stop watching the pot impatiently.

Have you ever done this: You got clear about what you really wanted, focused on it with positive energy, and then waited and watched intently for signs of your desire manifesting?

Did you find yourself keeping track of all you are doing, constantly taking score and waiting, waiting, waiting… and feeling incredibly frustrated by the process?

Last Friday, I was on the Good Vibe University WaterCooler call ~ a weekly open call for GVU members about random Law of Attraction (LOA) topics  of interest. Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach and founder of GVU, was talking about a manifesting technique that clearly worked for others, but didn’t work for her when she tried it.

As she spoke, I got a familiar image that I often see with the clients I have helped: The Watched Pot. I made a comment that when we are taking a specific action only for the result we are seeking, we might be flowing the impatient vibe of “come on, come on…where is it? where is it? where is it?” Just like a proverbial watched pot that never seems to boil, manifestations never seem to happen.

Jeannette heard my comment and wrote this entertaining blog post about the Watched Pot Syndrome.

I’ve actually seen this behavior with a lot of clients, those who are new to LOA as well as experienced LOA teachers. Many fall victim to taking score too soon and too often, so busy looking for results to show up, looking for the tiniest sign, that it keeps them in a suspended state of NOT seeing, not experiencing, not manifesting.

Louise Hay equates this to planting a seed, watering it, nurturing and then digging it up every few hours to see how it’s doing. We all know from experience that it’s best to plant and nurture the seed, and THEN let nature take it’s course. Otherwise, you’ll kill the seed and it will never have a chance to blossom. We give it the energy it needs and the time for the process to unfold.

The hardest part of manifesting may not be the seeding and nurturing of your dreams, but taking your attention OFF of them long enough to enjoy the rest of your life! This is one reason why I recommend having a prepared “Joy List” you can go to any time you desire. I also recommend having lists of activities you know you enjoy so you have many options to choose from.

Distracting yourself with activities and experiences that feel good will not only help the time pass quickly, but it will also help you to line up your energy with what you prefer to experience.

It also will help you to stop taking score too soon or too often, and stop impatiently watching that proverbial pot (of gold).

What do you do to take your mind off taking score too soon or too often? Share it in the comments below…

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