Preparing for the New Year

New Year Transition

It’s that time of year again.

As everyone finalizes their holiday shopping, and settles into the final few weeks of the year, business owners start to contemplate what the new year has to offer.

Some business owners view the future with excitement, a light heart, and joyful anticipation. While some are overwhelmed with fear, doubt, worry, and trepidation.

Why is that?

For centuries, business experts have recommended ongoing planning and forecasting as a part of running a successful business. Basically, they believe that a whole lotta focus on ‘what is’ will help improve business. Deliberate Creators, however, understand that left-brained what-is-focused business planning has its limits. Fire up your spreadsheets and business data, all you want, but there’s more than *facts* deciding outcomes.

How Our Energy Affects Our Business Planning

Energetically, all businesses reflect how the business owner feels (thoughts + emotions) about all aspects of the business, products/services, clients, working conditions, employees (if applicable), and so forth. If there are employees and business partners, then their energy is also a part of this mix.

Because I know this, I consciously make business planning a relaxed, easy, and joyful experience. As I take action on those plans, the results will have that same relaxed, easy, joyful energy.

Every 90 days or so, I take some quiet time for a planning and forecasting session. I review my business targets and imagine what I’d like to experience moving forward. It won’t surprise you that the majority of time during these sessions is spent getting into the feeling place of ALREADY experiencing my targets.

During these planning sessions, I have candles lit, relaxing music playing, my kitty cat slumbering nearby, and ensure I’m in a relaxed and appreciative energy for pre-paving my future. This way, my mind is open, clear, and most receptive to good ideas.

If I’m not sure about my targets or what I want to create, I spend a few minutes doing Pure Awareness meditation to still my mind and raise my vibration before I remember how Source views me and my business. This is enough to put me in a fabulous energy field for imagining my highest excitement for my business.

If I only focused on the left-brain data and planning for my business, I might get stuck in What-Is-ville —never seeing a viable way out of quagmires.

My Silent Business Partner

new yearOver the years, I’ve learned that the energy with which I make decisions and take actions is mirrored back to me in the result.

Like that time when I was not sure what a design client was really looking for, and spent most of the project time swimming in doubt as I questioned all my creative choices, only to have the client question me with the SAME DOUBT (verbatim) when she reviewed the project!

GULP.

That’s when I remembered that the energy that creates worlds is always my silent business partner (and yours, too!). That experience taught me to get clear about being of excellent service, being guided to the right choices, and opening to the intuitive knowing of my client’s unspoken needs. When I do, the resulting work thrills the client! (That has been my secret to ‘exceeding client expectations’ all these years.)

So…once my environment is set, and the planning session begins, I start answering these questions:

  1. What do I appreciate most about my business? (I milk this)
  2. What would I like to expand in my business? (I reach for what feels better)
  3. What am I ready to release in my business? (I follow my guidance)
  4. What am I willing and ready to receive help with as I move forward? (ditto)
  5. How do I expect to feel once my business has expanded (2, above), I’ve released what no longer serves (3, above), and I’ve received help (4, above)? (paint the picture)
  6. What can I do now to feel that way (5, above)?
  7. After spending a few minutes feeling the feeling of 5 and 6, above, I ask: What additional inspired actions come to mind? (Write it down)

Number 1 puts me in appreciative energy. Number 2 – 4 provides my next quarterly ‘targets’, and 5 – 6 help me tap into that energy. Finally, Number 7 is actually ongoing. Whatever information comes to me in the session, I write down, and take the action that feels like the next logical step.

Hours, days, or even weeks later, additional inspirations will spring up in my awareness. Some may feel completely unrelated. Like calling a friend. Or going grocery shopping. Yet, by following the inspiration, I will meet, talk with, or discover something that helps improve my business.

Your turn! What do you do to prepare for the new year? Share your comments and suggestions below…

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Embracing Your Seeds of Opportunity

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Seeds germinate in the darkness, and push their way up through the soil until they finally see the light of day. Nature is constantly showing us the value of going within, and working our way through the darkness toward the light.

None of us escape the experience of pain, physical or emotional, within our lifetimes. In fact, the more we try to avoid it, the more likely we will attract more of it. (What we resist, persists.)

Abraham calls the opposite of what we want to experience (our desires) ‘contrast’. Why would all of us experience so much contrast if, as I often say, we are living in a benevolent universe?

All contrast, all pain has a purpose and a value.

Seeds of Opportunity

Think and Grow Rich author, Napoleon Hill, is famous for his statement that, “Every nhill_seedsopportunityadversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” This is also a common mindset of successful business owners.

While many people get stuck in and on the problem, and stay there, successful business owners look at the problem as an opportunity to shift strategies and try something new. The clue to the solution is often within the problem, itself.

Here are a few clues to consider along your journey:

  • Get into the vibration of the solution. The vibration of the problem(s) and the vibration of the solution(s) are at opposite ends of the energy spectrum. So, we must first let go of the idea that a problem is permanent or unsolvable, and open our mind to all the opportunities and benefits that our contrast contains.
  • Embrace each experience. The seeds of our growth, expansion, and prosperity lie within the ability to embrace every experience that our business has to offer, from the successes to the failures, and see the opportunities. Shake off the anger, resentment, and frustration because those keep you stuck at the vibration of the problem.
  • Train your eyes to see the opportunities. If you don’t currently have eyes for the opportunities, you can train your mind to look for them. Positive, powerful, and focused affirmations train your conscious and subconscious mind to look for the positive, powerful, and focused opportunities all around you.
  • Know which opportunities are right for you. You will know which ones are right for you by how they feel. If if feels exciting, fun, interesting, intriguing…light and good…then, check it out. If it leaves you feeling heavy or depleted, it’s not for you (at this time).
  • RELAX! I’ve said it before, and I’ll keep saying it: When we are relaxed, everything from our brains to our body functions better, and solutions come to us more quickly. Don’t know how to relax? Here’s a good place to begin: Get some rest and activate your joy list.
  • Use your knowledge to serve. After you’re rested, and have reaped the benefit from your contrast, use all the knowledge you gained from the experience to help others. In some cases, you will be paid to do this, as many healers and creatives are paid to help others. In some cases you might not, as when volunteering or when it can benefit humanity. The important part is making sure the value of the experience is harnessed and passed along to benefit others.

OK, now I want to know: How have you embraced your seeds of opportunity? Share in the comments, below.

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The Key to Better Decisions

decisionsMaking good decisions is a big part of being alive, and has an even bigger role for the self-employed. Wouldn’t you love to know that you can easily improve your decision making skills while also improving your health, reducing your stress, and having more fun?!?

Sounds amazing, right. It is!

Relax Into It

As I’ve written before, there is tremendous power in relaxing on a regular basis. Research is showing us that when we’re relaxed, we think clearer. Solutions come to us quicker when we’re not stressed. Our DNA relaxes, too, opening up access to receptors that allow us to heal our body. The list of  benefits goes on. Plus, we’re also a lot more fun to be around when we aren’t stressed out of our mind.

Decisions Come with Ease

Marc Allen is a successful composer and the multi-millionaire founder of publishing house, New World Library. (He originally founded Whatever Publishing with Shakti Gawain, which later became New World Library). In this wonderful 2011 interview with Lilou Mace, Marc candidly and humorously shares his personal journey to creating and sustaining his successful business.

If you haven’t watched this before, grab your favorite drink and enjoy this inspiring conversation. (Even if you have watched it before, it’s fun to watch each time.)

Marc has thrived the most when he made regular time for relaxation, with his attention on appreciation and his custom affirmations…and struggled when he forgot his practice. As a result, he’s learned to build some serious relaxation time into his business, beginning with his unique work schedule. Marc works Tuesday through Friday, after 1pm only, and part of Saturday. The rest of the time he reserves to ensure he has plenty of time to rest, relax, and watch clouds float by. His business flourishes when he makes time for this important practice.

His examples shows that you can start a great business with little money, and grow it successfully with ease. Here’s his favorite affirmation:

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After watching this video, and learning how relaxation, appreciation, and affirmations can improve your business decision-making, what are you inspired to do next? Please share your thoughts below in the comments.

Getting Out of the “How” Business

how - letting go[This article was previously published on AffirmingSpirit.com. It has been revised and updated for the enjoyment of blog-readers.]

Recently, I have written about embracing change, the power of decision, and believing in what’s possible as tools for creating powerful positive change in your life. Once you open the door to possibilities, your intuitive guidance will begin to show you options. Here is when it is critical to move past the next trap: Wanting to control “how” everything manifests.

Paralyzed by the need to control or see exactly how their wish will materialize, many folks cease taking any action. They need to know exactly how, from start to finish, they will accomplish their goal. The lack of knowing how becomes an excuse never to even begin taking action toward their desired goal. Since a clear solution does not seem available, or viable, they then conclude that their goal is simply not possible. Many goals die a quiet death in this trap.

The truth is “how” your goal manifests is not up to you…at all. That’s the job of the Universe that is orchestrating all beyond your comprehension. It’s your job to sift through all your experiences to decide what it is you really want to experience, and which of those you are really going to pursue, put yourself into the feeling of it as if it’s already manifested…AND LET GO! ‘How’ it comes about is truly the “domain of the Universe” as Mike Dooley says in the original version of The Secret DVD.

In fact, failure to let go sets us up for a vicious cycle. The more we worry about, and try to control, “how” our desires manifest, the more we are adding to the very resistance that keeps those goals at bay. Then, with proof that nothing is working, you have yet another excuse to conclude that the goal was an impossible dream.

If you’ve decided to become a conscious creator, you need to get out of the ‘how’ business. When we let go of the need to control exactly how our desires show up, we release the self-imposed limits on the possible ways our desires can manifest. As humans beings, we have a limited view of what can be accomplished, always based on what we are aware of that has already been done. Getting away from the need to know how is what is meant by “getting out of your own way”.

There’s no question that we DO benefit from pure, positive passion on your way to experience your desired goal, and the persistence to stay focused on the outcome regardless of any naysayers. That said, sometimes the very passion that drives us can cause us to want to know “how”. Successful people the world over know that you do not need to know “how” you will accomplish your goal in order to succeed. They realize that passion for the outcome and trust in the process are the big keys to successful conscious creating.

Jerry Hicks tells a story of how he and Esther had decided they wanted to take the Abraham materials to a wider audience. They happily told others about this, and when people asked how they were going to do it, they just said something to the effect of, “We don’t know right now, but we know the way will be shown.” Then, out of the (seeming) blue, Wayne Dyer and Christiane Northrup, M.D. contacted them to say how much they loved their materials and asking how they could help. Other notable authors and media people stepped forward to do the same. Louise Hay offered to publish their books to a wider audience. They were contacted by Rhonda Byrne to make The Secret movie (original version), which led to them creating their own movies and participating in Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. Along the way, Oprah called to interview them on her XM 156 Radio show.

All this happened for them because they put their desire out to the listening Universe and spent no time trying to second-guess the energy that creates worlds. They got out of their own way. Esther and Jerry considered what they wanted, focused on that, and trusted that it would show up for them…and it did! You wouldn’t know about all of their books, movies, or YouTube videos if this hadn’t happened for them.

The “Needing-to-Know-How” Addiction
Some people have been demanding to know how for so long that they’ve become addicted to needing to know, not to mention tallying up failures of past goals that never saw the light of day.

The addiction to knowing coupled with the lack of knowing keeps them stuck, in a perpetual (and emotionally exhausting) tug of war.

At the root of needing to know how your goal will manifest is a lack of trust in the energy that creates worlds, the one single source of all we perceive as humans: The Universal Energy field, sometimes known as Source Energy, Divine Source, All that Is, or God. Quantum Physicists have identified this energy field that permeates everything that we perceive with our senses, and have determined that this field of energy responds to and is affected by our thoughts and feelings.

Quantum Physicist Fred Alan Wolfe, PhD in the movie, The Secret, said,“Quantum Physics really begins to point to this discovery. It says that you can’t have the Universe without the mind entering into it.” He goes on to explain, The mind is actually shaping the very thing that is being perceived. Experiments with particles have shown them responding as soon as particles are being observed.

Whether you view this ever-present energy field in a religious, spiritual, or a scientific way, the fact still remains: The energy that permeates all things in the universe is constantly responding to our thoughts and feelings. If you trust this, then you will find it easier to let go of the ‘how’ and let this energy source assist you. It will respond to your trust by providing your deepest heart-felt desires.

If you do not trust this source, by virtue of your lack of trust, it will reflect back to you proof that you cannot trust it. The Law of Attraction ensures that whatever we believe is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Practice Shifting and Cultivating
So, what do you do if you are addicted to needing to know ‘how’ before you proceed? Start by practicing shifting your thinking and attitudes, and cultivate trust.

• Cultivating trust is like building muscles. Develop your trust muscle so you can easily imagine yourself living the outcome you desire. Spend a few minutes each day practicing— visualizing (see, feel, know) yourself living the outcome of the goal and noticing how it feels for you.

For example, if you want a good parking spot, imagine yourself driving to the location, finding the perfect spot and pulling right in without waiting.

Notice how you feel when you are visualizing (seeing, feeling, knowing) this. Feel yourself physically there in your visualization. Then, let it go and continue with your day. Resist the temptation to get into too much mental detail because that will lead you to ask ‘how’. Instead, focus on the feeling you want and are expecting to experience. Abraham refers to this technique as pre-paving a future experience. As you find yourself stepping into a future that matches your visualization (seeing, feeling, knowing), you know it’s not a coincidence.

• Start with smaller goals until you begin to trust that Universal Energy is constantly responding to meet your requests. We tend to be less attached to emotionally to smaller goals, so use that to it’s advantage if you are just starting out. As your trust deepens, you will find it easier to begin visualizing and feeling the outcome of much larger goals. Soon, you will find yourself trusting and knowing that everything you desire will manifest for you quickly and efficiently.

• Release emotional attachment to the outcome. I realize that the more emotionally attached we are to a certain outcome, the harder it can be to let go and trust. However, if you channel that emotion away from attachment and toward your visualization, you’ll notice something remarkable. The more emotion invested in the visualization, rather than the attachment, the more you will feel as if you are already living the desire you seek.

At that point, it’s only a matter of time for it to manifest. The creation process is well underway, and ironically, you are likely to feel less attached to the final outcome because you already have the satisfaction of feeling as if you are living that reality. And that makes you, and your goal, very attractive!

Feel the Outcome as Reality
How to do this? Let me share a personal experience from my own business.

One day I realized that a client had not paid a large project invoice by the milestone date. I called their accounting department to find out when payment would be made and was told they would “pay it when they got around to paying it.” I was incensed that this client corporation had me working around the clock and was extremely demanding, but was unwilling to pay their invoices on time. Soon, I found myself arguing with their Accounts Payable rep and heard my inner voice say, “Stop. Arguing is not helping.” I forced myself to end the conversation and hang up the phone, and needless to say—I was not in a very good mood!

Realizing that my energy was so negative that I would only attract similar energy by staying there, I immediately left my office. I sought out my kitty cat who always soothed me and lifted my energy. As I petted my kitty, I felt my heart warm and completely forget why I was mad in the first place. I stayed in that loving energy for a while, as it felt so good, and then began to think about the ideal outcome for the situation. All drama aside, the ideal outcome was to have possession of the client payment and deposit it into the bank.

So, I imagined myself holding the check, walking into the bank to make the deposit. I stayed with that visualization until it felt real to me. Then, I went back to petting my sweet kitty who was soaking up all the love.

Eventually, I made it back into my office and went back to work. I had let go of the outcome and trusted that what I visualized would show up. About three hours later, I received a call that the check was in the company’s lobby for me to pick up. It was not long before I was holding that check, walking into my bank to make the deposit just as I had visualized a few hours before!!!

Was it totally easy for me to get out of the “how” and shift my anger toward more productive visualization? It is easier now than it would have been 10 years ago, but it wasn’t totally easy, and frankly I needed the help of my furry friend to truly shift my energy to a higher vibration. (Furry friends are one of our greatest gifts!)

Could I have gotten there on my own? Probably, but not as quickly. If a kitty wasn’t present, I could have turned on some good music and danced, or put my attention on someone who always lifts my spirits. While it wasn’t easy, it was doable…and the more I do it, the easier it becomes.

In my example above, as I stepped out of the ‘how’ and focused on the outcome I desired, I gave the universe permission to fulfill my request in the fastest, most efficient way possible. I was then free to follow intuitve guidance. Jack Canfield has equated this to driving from NY to California at night with your headlights on, seeing only 200 feet ahead of you at any time, trusting that the road will take you to your final destination.

Have you been paralyzed to take action because you first needed to know how you would accomplish your goal? What has helped you to get out of your own way? Share your experiences with us below, in comments…

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Cultivating the Business Love Factor

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Earlier this week, cultivating love for our business was the topic of a panel call in which I was a participant. Not surprisingly, most entrepreneurs are taught to think of their business according the ‘numbers’: ROI, the number of paying clients, the profit after expenses, growing products and services, increasing the client roster or customer list—the metrics they believe point to whether their business is a “success”.

However, when you understand energy dynamics, metrics are only the reflection of what’s happening with those who started and run the business. It’s reflecting their *past thoughts and actions*.

Before any metrics are generated, the business begins responding to the person(s) starting and running the business. Our energy has a direct impact on the world around us, including our perceptions of our business.

Cultivating the Business Love Factor

While some entrepreneurs start out as employees in larger companies, those who finally have a chance to start their own business tend to gravitate toward:

• Business concepts that excite them, from the offerings to the business model

Ideas that energize them throughout the day, and keep the going so they feel fully engaged

• A sense of doing well by doing good: fulfillment and meaning

It’s easy to see why a business that exemplifies the above criteria would have a positive energy from within that helps it expand. They cultivate their business love on a constant basis throughout the day: in their words, thoughts, self-talk, attitudes, and writing. All before they ever take action in their business.

As a result, when they finally take action they result in great successes that reflect the business love energy they invested up front.

Those who have cultivated the business love factor have done a number of things to set themselves up for success, from the choice of what they offer to who they serve. Their choices from the beginning have lined them up to love every aspect of their business, and their business loves them back!

Not feeling it?

If you’re reading this post and realizing you don’t have the business love factor working for you, you have two choices: make some changes or close the business.

For some, closing an existing business might bring tremendous relief. If that’s you, then do what feels best.

For others, some re-evaluation is in order.

If you are in the latter group, one of the first questions you’ll want to ask is: Am I willing to experience my business differently? A Course in Miracles invites us to say, “I am willing to see this (situation) differently. Take my thoughts and judge them for me, returning to me (better feeling thoughts).” Once you’ve done this, get some much-needed rest to clear out your anxiety.

When you are rested and have some quiet time, write out your ideal business scenarios: What are your days like? What products or services do you offer? Who do you serve? How do feel at the end of your days? What are your business interactions like? Who else is working with you? How do you feel when you are not working? Keep writing as long as it feels energizing and uplifting. (Those feelings are an indicator that your business is capable of moving in those directions.)

Once you’ve written this out, compare it to your current typical day.

Resist the temptation to keep things the ‘same’ for the sake of comfort if they really are not suiting your business. This business is yours, and you have the freedom to change course or course correct.

From there, you can begin mapping out ways you can shift your business offerings and/or clientele/customers to better fit your ideal.

Then, find ways to love and appreciate what has been working all along as well as the changes that you’ve successfully made. Journal about it, think about it, express it frequently to yourself and others. Shift the story about your business so it sounds a lot more like your ideal scenario.

Bottom line: Focus on ways you love your existing business, release or delegate the aspects you don’t love, and your business will love you back!

 

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Step Into Your True Power of Creation

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Dear Business Owners,

My deepest wish is for you to realize, and step into, your true power of creation.

Why is it that you think nothing of creating products or services for your clients—out of nothing more than sheer inspiration—yet you don’t realize that you have the same ability to create success in your business?

You are a powerful being capable of amazing creations and accomplishments. The ability to create success is your birthright. You may have forgotten it, but you can never lose it entirely.

Over the years, I’ve received countless phone calls and emails from you complaining about what is going wrong in your business and your frustration in how to fix it, yet the power to do so has always been within you from the time that you were born. In fact, you’ve (unconsciously) created your problems in the same way you can also create your solutions!

In order to create solutions, though, you first need to become conscious of, and step into, your own true power of creation. This is imperative for your business to grow and thrive.

Here is what you might be doing to block your own power:

Ignoring your inner guidance (intuition). You own inner guidance will always direct you in the right direction. When a decision needs to be made, know that the answer IS inside of you. Get quiet, know the right answer is present, and listen for it. Assume and feel that your Divine Self / Christ Consciousness is at work within you finding the perfect solutions, then be in that energy and listen. Be ready to take inspired action.

Doubting and questioning yourself. The more you question yourself and ask others, instead of listening for your own guidance, the more you are blocking your own intuition. Some take this so far that they end up stuck in the pit of victimhood. You are also sending a signal to the Universe that you don’t know of and are unaware of any solutions, which will keep them vibrationally elusive until your energy shifts. Release the bad habit of doubting and questioning yourself, or seeing yourself as a victim, and make a conscious choice each day to affirm and know that the perfect solution is coming into your awareness. Then, get ready to receive!

Chronic complaining, to yourself and to others. Do you remember a time in your life when you didn’t complain? For most of us, that was back when you were much younger, before you had developed a bad habit of complaining. Many of us grew up learning that the only way to relate to others was through complaining and fault-finding. Complaining is a habit that is a form of negative affirmation—which limit you and block you from receiving anything positive! The Universe is always responding to the signal you are sending, and complaints just tell the Big U to send you more that you can complain about! The good news is that you can replace a bad habit with a new better habit…like letting what annoys you point you in the direction of what you prefer, and appreciating your new preferences. Abraham calls that ‘Taking the Bounce’.

Getting caught up in the ‘outside world circumstances’. This is what I often hear: “But you don’t understand, this (fill in the blank) is my problem and as long as it exists, I’m screwed!” With a belief like that, you surely are! And yet, you are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way…if you believe you are. The outside world is a reflection of what is going on inside of you, and nothing changes outside until you change yourself on the inside. This concept took me a long time to understand, and now Quantum Physics is showing us how this happens. Bashar has said, “Circumstances don’t matter. Only state of being matters.” When we’re so focused on ‘the problem’ being our roadblock, the Law of Attraction can only line us up with more of that. You are the only one with the power to create problems or solutions in your world. I know…that seems like a lot of responsibility. Take a deep breath! Take a few deep breaths. Taking full responsibility is the hardest part of the process, for most people, but doing so makes everything else much easier. What you created, you can begin anew and create differently from an upgraded perspective!

Resisting or refusing to create an environment for your success. I get it. It seems easier to stay where you are and keep doing what you’re doing. If that’s your preference, then keep doing it. But you’ll also have to let go of your expectation of improvement because that will require creating a different environment for your success. That might include changing how you talk to yourself and others about yourself and your business, who you spend time with, where you focus your attention, expanding what you believe is possible, using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

Here is what you can begin doing to unblock, and step into, your own power:

• Honor your inner guidance (intuition). No one has your back like your own inner guidance. Connect with and listen to your inner guidance on a regular basis. Doing so will make you very sensitive to how your guidance communicates with you. Over the years, my inner guidance has developed a shorthand that I know instantly what is right or not-so-right for me. I listen for it, feel for it, receive it, and honor it by taking appropriate actions based on the guidance. And yes, I ‘thank’ my inner guidance on a regular basis!

• Consciously choose to trust yourself. Ask your inner guidance. If the answer isn’t immediate, trust that your guidance will show up in some way. Perhaps it needs to come through another person or another situation that has yet to happen. Feel your higher self / Christ Consciousness working on your behalf, feel your appreciation for the support, then relax and focus on something that you enjoy. Sparks of insight usually occur when we are in a relaxed state of mind, often focused on something unrelated.

• Affirm, meditate on, and visualize your good. Everyday. As often as possible throughout your day. Let every thought and feeling (thought + emotion) you have focus on what feels better to you in any given moment. Train your mind and heart to lean toward the positive. In the beginning, this might take a lot of concentrated effort (depending on how long you’ve wired your brain to do the opposite), but after you’ve been doing it, it becomes easier and easier. Until, one day, you notice that it has become your ‘new normal’. Like a train (of thought) gaining momentum as it hits the summit and begins the route downhill. The cells of your body are like cells in a petri dish—affirming, meditating and visualizing your good not only uplifts your mind but also benefits every cell in your body. Your whole body will begin to vibrate at a higher level, attracting people, opportunities, and resources that you previously could not access vibrationally.

• Take full responsibility for your state of being. Let me restate: You are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way. Everything changes (in a good way) when you take full responsibility for consciously choosing a positive state of being. Not just acquiring a positive state, but learning how to return to that state when an experience knocks you into the (vibrational) bushes.

• Nurture your success. Value yourself enough to consciously upgrade your self-talk (cultivating your own affirmations is a great way to do this). Choose your words carefully when speaking with others about yourself and your business, as you are creating what you think and speak. Be discerning about who you spend time with, be conscious of where you focus your attention throughout the day and as you fall asleep. Open your heart and mind by expanding what you believe is possible. Using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

But wait, you say…all of your recommendations is about ‘inner work’!

That’s right. 🙂

BLOG_InnerWorkThe most important part of business success is the inner work you do before you take any physical actions! Once your energy is positively aligned with the inner work, every action you take will be the ‘right one’ for you and your business. Therefore, your inner work is more important than, and bears a greater influence on, any other business actions you take!

Too many business owners take actions from a defeated feeling of failure, a mindset of doubt and mistrust, an unwillingness to imagine a better outcome, and end up nurturing their failure. Then, when the outcomes are poor, they observe what they’ve created and then have more proof of their failure, frustration, doubt, and mistrust. It’s a vicious cycle.

Rather than take full responsibility for their power, the unconscious business owner will blame others, the economy, or ‘circumstances’, completely unaware that THEY are the ones who created all of it!

Here’s the good news: It’s never too late to become a conscious business owner and step into our true creative power. Whatever we’ve created, we can begin anew and create differently.

By honoring our inner guidance, consciously choosing to trust ourselves, affirming/meditating on/visualizing our good, taking full responsibility for our state of being, and actively nurture our success.

That is how we step into our true power of creation as a business owner.

Don’t just take my word for it, though. Give it a try for yourself…and keep in touch. If you are struggling, I am here to help. If you’ve already been doing this inner work for a while, share below in comments what you’ve experienced so others may benefit.

 

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Bridging “I AM” Statements

AlexandraSchmithausen_BridgingIAMI am so happy to share this with you…

If you have been reading my blog for a while or following me on social media, you know that I am a proponent of making affirmations *your own*. If you like a generic affirmation, great. However, most people get bored with them really fast, then blame affirmations for ‘not working’. That is a lot like throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

Affirmations that are customized to you are not only going to be more enjoyable to say and think (so you’ll do so more often), but they are more likely to positively shift your energy.

Today, I am delighted to share with you a personal example from Alexandra Schmithausen, a coach in Germany who recently joined Good Vibe University. After listening to one of GVU’s LOA Business Calls with Jeannette Maw, Matt O’Grady, and myself, she was inspired to play with some business affirmations for herself, then shared her results.

Alexandra used the bridging technique with affirmations, where you find a baby step or middle step from where you are to where you want to go. She graciously agreed to let me share it with you here..see my bolding below for emphasis.

Inspired by a call about identity shifting, I played around with „I am“ statements.

First I found a central one for me which felt good to think and say out loudly. As I am in the process of leveling up my business, it is „I am a very successful coach“.

Then I took some time to focus on „successful“ and define exactly, what this means to me. I wrote a long list of things that are part of being a successful coach for me – like being „well paid“ or „in high demand“. And while writing them down it felt really good and I didn’t feel any discord.

What was very interesting to me, was: When I started to make „I am“ statements with the single points of the list, I realized it felt uneasy to say something like „I am well payed“. It just felt wrong. As long, as it was „Success is – being well paid“ it worked… but „I am well paid“…

But then I found a solution, very fast. I was inspired to change the statement, by adding „this means“ to it. And suddenly it felt REALLY GREAT to say it! „I am a successful coach – this means I am well paid“ has no wobble in it for me at all. This way I can use it as an absolutely good feeling affirmation!

I went through the whole list like this and it was so much fun!! Afterwards I felt absolutely magnificent!!!

Isn’t grandiose? Sooo easy

AND: Evidences of my vibe shift showed up the same day! I randomly met two old friends of mine who both are very successful at their job and whom I didn’t see for quite a while. One just tapped on my shoulder while I was waiting in a line. The other one passed by on the sidewalk when I drove by and waved.

It’s easy for me to love this example — Alexandra started with a basic generic affirmation and followed what felt good for her until she was INSPIRED to find a solution that works really well for her.

I wish this for everyone who is just starting out with affirmations and wonders how to make affirmations that are truly powerful and life changing. Start with something basic that catches your attention, then play with it until it becomes *yours*, and evidence of your shift in energy will come swiftly. If you could use a little bit of help, download my free Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations eCourse and audios.

Thank you, Alexandra, for sharing your example with us!

Do you have some great examples of how you made generic affirmations your own? Share them with us below…

Image credit: Alexandra Schmithausen; Visit her HeartMind coaching site at http://http://herzenssinne.de/

Sleep Your Way to Success

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Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach, just posted her most popular blog posts for 2014 (well worth checking out this fabulous list for deliberate creators!). I was so honored to see that my guest post entitled, Sleep Your Way to Success, made #2 spot for most clicked posts! Sharing the blog post here for AffirmingSpirits who may have missed it the first time around.

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What’s the connection between sleeping and success? You might be surprised!

It is a well-known spiritual teaching that anything that exists in physical form, including your success in life, started first as an idea. When the idea is contemplated and the imagination takes hold, the thought begins to attract vibrationally similar thoughts, and before you know it, the idea begins to take shape.

Brain science tells us that our mind does not know the difference between reality and imagined past, present, or future. Many elite athletes take advantage of this fact to continue training their minds during their off-time. In the same way, you can harness your sleeping time (including naps) as a manifesting tool.

New Thought Teacher and Author, Neville Goddard, wrote in his book The Law and The Promise that “imagination creates reality.” Remember using your imagination as a child and being transported to other worlds in the process? Using sleep takes advantage of both your imagination and the state of relaxation that facilitates allowing.

In Goddard’s book, he details a number of stories in which people engaged their imagination while falling asleep to manifest their desires. In several cases, the people were manifesting a new home or renters for their existing home. To act AS IF they already have what they are manifesting, each of these people fell asleep each night imagining they were falling asleep in their preferred location.

This is ridiculously easy to do since, in most cases, you’ll be taking your own bed with you. If you have a pet who sleeps nearby, snoring or purring the night away, it’s easy to imagine they are on the journey with you!

Here’s How You Can Sleep Your Way to Success:

1. Lay in bed, close your eyes, relax and begin imagining what you desire has already come to pass and you are sleeping in your desired state.

 

2. Allow yourself to feel as if you’re at the end of a day after your manifestation arrived, relaxing in your bed, taking it all in.

 

3. Really appreciate what you’ve just created. Then, let yourself drift off to sleep.

 

Repeat as often as you feel inspired, knowing that everything is perfectly aligning on the non-physical level. When you feel done, let it go, knowing it’s already created and you’ll be inspired to the next step.

I’ve used this process many times as a way to keep me positively focused on the days when it was really hard to do so. If redirecting my thoughts didn’t work, I would go lay down, close my eyes and imagine. This immediately redirects my thoughts and I feel better, even more hopeful. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. So, if you are reading this and beginning to doubt you can do it, just stop thinking about it and give it a try!

San Francisco’s writing coach and author, Eric Maisel, teaches a similar process in his book Sleep Thinking. Maisel’s suggestion is to cultivate a sense of “wonder” as you fall asleep and let your subconscious discover the answer while you sleep. Upon wakening, the answer often presents itself, but sometimes this process requires staying in that sense of wonder several nights in a row.

Cultivate a Sense of Wonder by asking asking questions just as you fall asleep…

I wonder how I will (fill in the blank)?

OR

I wonder where (that missing item) is located?

OR

I wonder when is the best time to (fill in the blank)?

Ask your questions and remain in an open-minded state. Don’t try to consciously answer with your mind. Let your subconscious take over as you fall asleep, and you’ll often wake with the answer or become aware of the answer sometime during the following day.

In The Law and The Promise, Goddard discusses the power of “Revisioning,” which is also a fantastic tool to use as you fall asleep. Revisioning is using your imagination to go back in time and imagine a different experience or outcome.

One of Neville’s students used this technique to heal a long-standing injury that had caused chronic pain since childhood. This student fell asleep each night re-imagining the day they were on the swing. Instead of remembering how they fell off and broke their bones, they saw themselves jumping off the swing and landing safely in front of their mother. Over and over, night after night, they revisioned the experience being a positive one, and within a few weeks all the pain subsided until one day they noticed it was completely gone.

You can do the same with any situation, whether it requires physical healing or revisioning a better relationship or financial outcome. Your imagination is a powerful tool, and when we sleep we are most often in the most relaxed and allowing state of the day. Combining the two gives you a powerful yet easy way to create a new positive outcome for yourself.

I hope this helps you think about how you might enjoy sleeping your way to success! Let’s hear your stories for how you use this technique or want to use it in the future …

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This guest post originally appeared on the Good Vibe Blog on April 4, 2014, and has been shared here with permission. Jeannette Maw is the LOA party host at GVU and publisher of the rave reviewed Good Vibe newsletter, which you can subscribe to here.

 

Image credit: gstockstudio via 123rf.com, used with permission.

Thinking About Others

The Thinker by Auguste Rodin, California Palace of the Legion of Honor, 2007

In the last week alone, I have had at least three people ask me this question:

How can I possibly feel good when [fill in the blank people, animal, or organization] is experiencing [fill in the blank hardship or difficulty that seems unfair]?

The Law of Attraction is always working, whether we believe it or not. Like a tuning fork, we are sending our vibration out into the quantum field. The Law of Attraction is lining us up with like-vibrations in people, locations, and experiences. When people first learn about this, they do their utmost best to stay positive about their own life, but often struggle to maintain a positive attitude about people and situations around them that seem unkind or unfair.

There is no need to expand on what those negative situations could be since most of us can quickly identify those in our own experiences. Worrying and fearing for oneself or others is praying for what you don’t want. Instead, make the decision to use your energy to uplift yourself and others.

10.2013.ThinkingAboutOthersWhile it’s true that we cannot create in the reality of another person because we cannot think and feel for them, feeling bad about or for another person only lowers your vibration and consequently will drag you down. In this way, even choosing to think bad about someone else is also harming you. What you give out energetically is what you receive back.

Vibrationally speaking, how would you want others to view you? Would you rather have them feeling pity for you, worrying about you, imagining the worst…or would you rather have them seeing you as capable, strong, successful, and easily able to overcome anything?

Think back on the hardships you’ve experienced. With hindsight, most people can say that every hardship they’ve endured helped them learn more about themselves and grow positively from the experience. Personally, I’ve discovered that every experience holds the seeds of blessings, if we are willing to see it that way. It’s not up to us to deprive others of their opportunities to learn and grow, but we can positively support them in their journey.

Like the time when I was 15 and the adults around me were clearly suffering from the belief that I had uterine cancer. X-Rays showed a mass over my uterus, but without major surgery they wouldn’t know for sure. Fortunately, I had an inner knowing that said I was fine, so I couldn’t figure out why people were putting so much attention on a negative outcome that wasn’t going to happen. Turns out, it was benign cysts on my ovaries that were easily removed during surgery. While I told every one around me that I was fine, I also let them hold onto whatever belief they wanted. Looking back, though, it would have been nice had the adults around me been imagining the best into the unknown, seeing me as coming through the situation with ease and trusting that all was well.

Research is now showing that it matters what the doctor thinks, too.  That is, if you give that kind of power over to your doctor. Even as a teen I was clear that the doctors were wrong and they’d eventually figure that out, which they did. I remember my mother saying she wished that she could trade places with me to prevent me from dealing with this, but that experience at age 15 taught me many important things that I have carried through my life.

What about when you don’t have a inner knowing that all is well? Cultivate it. Start where you are, and build from there. See the blessings that are always present. Appreciate what is working well, notice how the situation is better than it could have been, and begin to look for ways that good could present itself. As you make this your practice, you’ll find it gets easier and more fun…and the results make it worthwhile.

For most of us, seeing others as capable, strong, successful, and finding their way through their situation will feel better than fearing, worrying or gossiping about them. Am I expecting you to be jumping for joy and celebrating someone’s hardship? NO! I’m not saying that.

This is what I am saying: hold the space for hope and possibility for others. Be the person in their life/lives that imagines the best outcome possible and sees them as capable, strong, thriving, and benefiting from the experience. For some people, you can be present around them during their struggles and others you may need to distance yourself. Either way, thinking well of them and holding a space for good will benefit everyone involved.

Not only will this feel better to you, the onlooker, but it will feel good to them to know someone sees a light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll appreciate it, too, when they return the favor during your difficult moments.

Your turn! What helps you stay positive and imagine the best outcome for those you see suffering? Share your comments below.

 

Image: The Thinker by Auguste Rodin,
California Palace of the Legion of Honor, 2007

Vibration or Bio-Chemical?

vibration_or_biochemical_paleoFor years now, I have understood and been teaching the power of vibrational alignment. I don’t just teach this stuff, I live it and apply it to every area of my life! This also means that much of my life is a work in progress as I move toward what I am desiring to create…each improvement leads to a new vantage point from which to decide ‘what’s next?’. This constant growing is, as they say, what keeps life force flowing through me.

Sometimes, though, life experiences have me questioning what I know to be true. Questioning everything until you receive answers that feel right can be a good thing. This time, I am questioning if the food we consume is only affected by our vibration (as some teachers say) or if there is more to the story.

Last week, I was sharing with my friend, Jeannette Maw (the Good Vibe Coach), how much I am appreciating eating Paleo (no dairy or wheat/grains) for the past 10 months *despite* the energy that I had been flowing about it when I started:

With Paleo, the energy I was flowing in advance was MAJOR SKEPTICISM shifting to MILD WONDER. That’s what I was flowing. I had heard about it for a while and thought it was just a fad. Then, someone I respect shared some resources and I began researching. I was reading a doctor’s website where he systematically showed how it was the most beneficial diet for humans, way above vegetarianism which he had also tried and found defective.

If only a fraction of the benefits that doctor listed were true, I thought it was worth trying…BUT…a huge part of me (not just my butt) didn’t think it was even possible to live without eating wheat! I’ve been a baker since a kid and couldn’t imagine *enjoying* a life without wheat/grains. Bread I might be able to pass on, but pastas, rice, cookies, cakes, doughnuts?!? NO WAY!

That’s why I set a timeline and gave myself an OUT if it was too hard. Instead, I was shocked to find it was easy! I didn’t get what I believed or was suspecting AT ALL!

There is NO WAY that this experience with Paleo was “just about my vibration”. There HAS to be more to the story…chemical…biochemical?!? It’s not about emotions either, for folks who claim you can only lose weight if you have your emotions worked out. Once I started eating Paleo, I lost more weight than ever with no effort and no emotional ‘work’.

After that, Jeannette just wrote a blog post about when our expectations don’t match results and briefly mentions our conversation as proof that I must have been flowing a positive expectation.

You see, Abraham teaches that when you enjoy your food, then it’s good for your body and you will metabolize it well (i.e., be at a good weight and feel healthy). Likewise, Abraham says, when you don’t enjoy eating food, then it’s not good for your body and you suffer the consequences.

Now, I have mostly been a meat-eater, but I started eating Vegetarian a few years ago because I *expected* it would be healthier for me. That was the intention and energy with which I approached this change in my diet, but that was not my experience. While I was eating Vegetarian, I very much enjoyed the food, yet still my brain felt muddled, I felt lethargic, and gained weight around the middle. I also pulled back on exercising because I had no energy, which compounded the weight-gain. I actually enjoy exercising, but while eating Vegetarian I’d be so worn out afterward and needed lots’o’naps! I’ve since heard that this is a common experience and a major reason why Vegetarians shift to eating Paleo.

Meanwhile, I kept hearing people rave about eating Paleo. As I mentioned to Jeannette, for almost 2 yrs, I dismissed eating Paleo as a ‘fad’, then researched it with major skepticism. Looking back, I researched it mainly to prove to myself why it was not worthy of my attention. I’m laughing as I type this realizing the vibrational discord on this subject!

In fact, I was so doubtful that when I finally decided to try eating Paleo, I set the intention for only 30 days, I gave myself an easy OUT that I would stop immediately if it didn’t feel healthy to my body.

I also made dietary modifications in advance of starting to eat Paleo! Reading that the strict Paleo can be difficult for anyone to handle if they don’t have a ‘health reason’ for sticking to it, one site recommended that we make allowances for a few foods that technically aren’t Paleo. My allowances are Greek Yogurt (technically dairy, but high in protein and probiotics) and dark chocolate. Pretty sure the cave men didn’t have chocolate but would have EATEN IT if it was a choice! 😉 I also chose to include potatoes and rice in the grain category, but allow legumes because I like them in my beef chili (with fresh diced onions and Greek Yogurt!). Mmmmmm…it’s so good!

Anyway, within the first week, with no sugar withdrawals and no feelings of deprivation, I not only LOVED it but the cravings for wheat-based foods that had been a life-long desire had vanished completely! With the cravings gone, I enjoy eating so much more and lost at least 2 dress sizes (maybe more) without effort. Eating this way is effortless for me, so maintenance is easy. Now I understand what they mean when they say it’s less a diet and more of a lifestyle choice.  My taste buds clearly have changed: 3 months later, when I saw sugary wheat or milk-based stuff, it made me gag. I remember how those baked goods tasted, but have no desire to eat it again.

With the cravings gone, I noticed that I enjoy vegetables and fruits so much more than ever before. They now taste so much better than when I was eating Vegetarian! Talk about ironic. This is NOTHING like what I was expecting or the energy I was flowing in advance. I was practically DARING it not to work!

NOW, when I look back to when I used to eat the dairy & wheat-based stuff…I LOVED THEM…even though they weren’t good for my body! I thoroughly enjoyed eating them. According to Abraham and Jeannette, they must have been really good for my body except how awful I felt. Clearly, despite loving the food, it wasn’t healthy for me.

The Deliberate Creator in me is well aware of the power of our vibration, thoughts, feelings, and emotions…but THIS experience has shown me that there is way MORE involved! Clearly, when my body got what it needed in nutrients, it figured out the rest despite my doubting vibration. Plus, I’ve heard that while a large percentage of us do well on Paleo, a smaller percentage actually does do well on the Vegetarian diet that didn’t work for me. That tells me there is also a bio-chemical issue at hand.

I recognize that with every thought, our brain cascades chemicals to the body, so there is a biochemical factor to every thought and experience. LOA purists may say that I must have been flowing a positive vibration, but I know that is not true in this instance. This experience showed me that even with major skepticism/doubt, a positive outcome can be created!

Yes, I was skeptical before I even started eating Paleo and that negative vibrational start should have had an equal affect on my experience. Still, I took each step in *good faith*, approaching each meal with the attitude of “what do I feel like eating that is Paleo-compliant?”. When I noticed at the end of the first week how easy it had been, how good my body felt (light yet fully satiated), how the hunger and bloating was gone, and how much more energy I had, I was delighted! I proceeded with that feeling of delight, and a month later when I started noticing weight loss (I no longer have a scale, so I don’t know how much), that was icing on the proverbial cake…gluten-free, of course!

What are your thoughts about vibration versus bio-chemical response?

 

Image: © Ernie Garcia

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