Letting Meaning Find You

meaningMeaning. Fulfillment. Purpose.

We’ve all heard those buzzwords for career and business.

They are used so often it makes us wonder if our career or business is only valid if it involves experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose.

So many people spend their time continually ‘chasing’ these experiences, never quite finding them, stuck in the cycle of flailing action, constantly wondering what they have to do next in order to actually experience them.

It’s exhausting to think what some people do to feel…meaning…fulfillment…and purpose in their career and business. It begs the question, what part of our mind decides that we’re experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose? Or not experiencing them?

Lately, I’ve been noticing people who are doing amazingly good, powerful, impactful work in the world…work that is really making a difference…and the common thread: All of them came to this work (career or business) through contrast.

Rather than consciously ‘deciding’ to do this work, the work itself pulled them forward into the next necessary step in their career.

The Pull Toward Success

For instance, Barry Kibrick, the host of the book-reviewing series, Between the Lines with Barry on PBS (in the U.S.), recently admitted that the only reason his author interview show began was because of a previous failed business deal. Out of failure came a new career that has given him greater visibility and helping authors as well as readers.

Another example: Suzanne Somers, who found herself the most popular character on the most post popular TV show in the 1970s being let go at the time of her contract renewal. This career bump could have derailed her, but instead she began following her own interest in health and well-being, researching topics of personal interest that later became resources for her best-selling books. Now she’s considered very knowledgeable on the topic of nutrition, health, and wellness. Twenty six books, fourteen of which have been NYT best-sellers. In addition, she now sells a wide range of products that support what she has learned and shared in her books, and she has a secondary career as a lecturer.

Suzanne Somers is heads a business empire that wouldn’t have been created if her TV career had continued on its original trajectory.

How about Leah Remini!?! After a mildly successful acting career, Leah has finally hit a home run after she began transmuting her pain of abruptly leaving Scientology (having been raised as and living as a devout member for about 34 years) into an opportunity to help others leave or better yet, never enter this organization (what many are calling a cult). She wrote a book about her experience, entitled Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology, and publicly supported the HBO Documentary Going Clear.

Then, she created the powerful A&E show, Leah Remini: Scientology and The Aftermath, now in it’s second season and recipient of a well-earned 2017 Emmy Award winner for Outstanding Informational Series or Special. Leah and her team has created one of the most powerful, impactful and important TV series I have ever witnessed*.

*Please Note: I was not raised in a cult, so I personally find the series extremely empowering, literally watching people take back their power and regain their voices!!! If you were raised in a cult, though, you might find that it triggers deep negative emotions. Your mileage may vary.

Ms. Remini has transmuted her own pain while also educating the rest of the population about how Scientology works, and what to expect if they went down that road. This not only helps us understand the issues, but develops compassion for the people who have been victimized and rebuilding their lives after leaving this organization. Remini’s new ‘work’ is educating the masses while giving former Scientologists a voice and emotional support. I feel like CHEERING during and after every episode I watch! I can see this getting better and better as time goes on.

Meaning, Fulfillment and Purpose Found Them!

None of these great examples made a conscious decision to get into their existing fields. Meaning, fulfillment and purpose found them! As a result, they are all having much greater impact on the world than if their original careers had worked out as planned.

If you’ve been derailed, deflated, frustrated or exhausted trying to ‘make’ your current career or business thrive, take heart. These examples show you that something even better may be just around the corner.

Perhaps the key to really finding meaning, fulfillment, and purpose is: Don’t chase meaning, fulfillment, or purpose. Let it FIND you!

Image credits: Bruce Rolff,
Barry Kibrick, Organic Authority,
and A&E Telelvision.

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Our Stories Create Our Beliefs Which Drive Our Actions

You probably have noticed that I have written a lot about how our stories affect us. Last night, I was watching Oprah’s LIfe Class (episode 3, with Cheryl Richardson) where she talks about how we don’t get what we want, we get what we believe. Our beliefs are formed by the stories we tell ourselves, based on what we have perceived through our lifetime.

Stories Beliefs ActionsMost of the stories we carry with us as adults were developed between birth and 6 years old. When experience meets emotions, we create a meaning around that experience that becomes a story – and a story we tell ourselves long enough becomes a belief. If we witness our father being unkind to our mother, we create the meaning that this is how men treat women. When we grow up, we come to expect that behavior from men and will seek relationships that will make us right about our story…even though that story isn’t true for everyone, and it doesn’t even have to be true for you if you decide to drop the story!

Our stories become our beliefs which drive our actions. If you want to know what stories and beliefs you are carrying, take a look at your actions.

I was personally reminded of the power of our beliefs and stories last week when a gunman in my area killed 3 co-workers, wounded 7 others (6 of them co-workers), and eventually killed himself when law enforcement caught up with him. During the first day that he was loose in my neighborhood, we were not allowed to leave the house as SWAT teams with search dogs scoured the area. I work from home, so it really didn’t impact me as it may have impacted others. The whole time I felt safe and knew we were going to be fine.

As news reports came in about the suspect, his co-workers and friends began expressing astonishment that such a nice, happy person – a single dad who was considered to be an upstanding member of his community – could commit such a series of crimes. Most of the people interviewed could not have conceived this was even possible!

I know that beliefs and stories drive our actions, so when I heard about the disconnect between how this man was perceived by others and how he acted, I knew this man was being driven by stories and beliefs that made him feel justified in his behavior.

When you think about it, this is yet another perfect example of how Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working – whether you believe in it or not – and it’s always lining you up with experiences that prove you right. When you harbor thoughts that feel bad, you attract experiences that feel bad, which causes you to focus more thoughts that feel bad, and attracts even worse feeling experiences. The Universe is responding to the energy you are sending out through thoughts and emotions. It doesn’t matter if you are remembering the past, living in the moment, or imagining the future ~ whatever energy you are sending out is what you will attract back into your experience.

As that day progressed, when the media began interviewing the least-wounded, it became clear that the gunman perceived that his employer and all his co-workers were against him. Although he had been employed for 15 years at this company, he was convinced they were getting ready to fire him.

Now, many people lose jobs and…then they get another job. Sometimes even a better job with better pay and perks! So, in addition to feeling that everyone was against him and that he’d lose his job, the gunman last week also had to believe that he would NOT be able to get another job. Dwelling on those negative stories, stewing and festering in those growing negative beliefs, he felt compelled and justified in potentially killing all of his co-workers…which led to attempting a car-jacking (another victim) and eventually his suicide.

To top it off, his two children no longer have their father. My heart goes out to them!

Do you see how the Law of Attraction was lining this father up with more of what he was focusing upon? It really can be no other way – the Universe can only mirror back to us the same energy we are sending out based on what we focus upon and how it makes us feel!

In the end, like all of us, this man’s beliefs and stories drove experiences and his actions. Yes, this is a horrible and dramatic example, but this man would still be alive today – and his children would have their father – IF he had been willing to question his beliefs and stories! For that reason alone, I do not want this tragic series of events to be in vain.

Don’t let another day go by without questioning your stories and long-held beliefs—become aware of your actions, and follow the stories, beliefs, and thoughts that led up to those behaviors. Question the everything that feels bad (sad, mad, frustrated, irritated, etc.) to think. Those are the ones that will create actions you might someday truly regret.

Need help learning how to question your thoughts? Check out Byron Katie’s TheWork.com (watch the videos where she shows the process in action).

What beliefs, stories and thoughts are you willing to begin questioning?

How Do We Know?

Over at the lively and upbeat Good Vibe University forums, we have lots of amazing conversations on just about every subject. It really is an amazing group of deliberate creators who come together to take thought beyond which it has been taken before WHILE having a lot of fun!

Recently, one of the members asked a devil’s advocate question about Law of Attraction: How do we know that it (LOA) is working all the time? What if we are wrong?

There were many responses, all pointing out how LOA is like gravity so it’s always working AND if we don’t believe it’s working, then it won’t work for us.

The questioner didn’t like the answers and kept pushing to ask us to consider that we may be wrong.

Personally, I’m not interested in a conversation on that topic, so I might not have responded. However, I did feel there was a greater message to share. Here’s what I wrote in response:

At the beginning 10 years of my journey, I didn’t know…I thought it would be cool, but I didn’t know for sure, and looking back, I didn’t always expect it to work, either. Rolling Eyes

Then, I started having personal experiences where there was NO OTHER explanation. Shocked Very Happy Shocked

And then another. And another…until, it just became OBVIOUS to me. I now trust it. Some experiences show up in minutes, others take years. When the long-desired experience finally shows up, THEN I can *see* why it took all that time and how it was ALWAYS working perfectly for me. I can see my role in holding it back, and opening up to receive. But, that knowledge comes as hindsight. Rolling Eyes

Shocked Such knowing only comes as foresight when I consciously decide it will be so. Shocked

What I’ve written is a moot point for you, though, as this is *my* answer. My answer includes the feeling of KNOWING in my body that no one else can feel, so it will never truly be enough for anyone else. It might be momentarily inspiring to those reading, but until you’ve experienced it yourself, feel that knowing to your core, and come to trust it, other people’s accounts likely won’t sustain your faith/belief.

It’s like Abe says we can’t expect someone else to keep us as the center of their positive attention all the time. We also can’t expect another person’s positive experiences to sustain OUR belief in such possibilities.

Everyone is responsible for asking their own questions and finding their own answers.

If you want to get deep: None of us can really fully answer your questions for you.

Perhaps the more helpful question to ask is:
Which world would you rather live in…the one where you can always rely on LOA, or one where LOA works randomly?

Wink Wink Wink

Many blessings,
Nancy

After posting that, I began to wonder how many of you have wondered the same thing. Do you know that Law of Attraction is working all the time? If so, share how you learned…if not, what is the source of your doubt? (For those who don’t know (yet), notice the stories those who DO know are telling…how can you shift yours?)

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