Have You Been Stoking the ‘Need’?

Are you Stoking the NEEDYears ago, I knew someone who used to call me every few hours insisting that she ‘needed me’ to solve the crisis-of-the-moment. In reality, none of these crises actually existed, except in this person’s mind. Despite being fully capable of handling these crises herself, she had convinced herself that I was the *only* person who could help.

Initially, I spent copious time patiently reassuring her and answering her same questions over and over and over. Talking to her positively, encouraging her to see the bigger picture. Meanwhile, I kept wondering WHY this particular person constantly  calling with dramatic stories of needing rescue.

Then, it dawned on me.

This was a common pattern for this gal. Despite being fully qualified in many ways, she had convinced herself that she wasn’t…and that she needed others to rescue her…everyday! She was clearly carrying a story around that must have been something like:

OH, NO…I don’t think I can handle this. This is too hard! I’m not capable or smart enough to figure this out. I don’t want to be alone with this [fill in the blank problem] because there’s NO WAY I can figure it out myself. Someone else has to help me! OMG – HELP! CRISIS! DISASTER LOOMS…HELP…HELP!!!

While she unconsciously stoked the feelings of urgency, crisis, lack and ‘need’ within herself,  it was manifesting in her outer world…or, rather it appeared to her as manifesting. To me, she seemed to be anticipating problems more than actually experiencing them. Law of Attraction was lining her up with experiences that would make her right.  How we show up in the world reflects our self-talk and deepest inner beliefs.

As I type this, and reflect back on this time in my life, this person was also a mirror for me to see my own ‘need to rescue’. Since like vibrations cohere, Law of Attraction was responding to my need by lining me up with someone who needed to be rescued.

In the beginning, I was happy to be of assistance. But over time, it was no longer fun for me to interact with this friend only in this way. In fact, it was downright exhausting and it was not a functional friendship since I was only called to put out fires, not to relate as a friend.

Do you recognize yourself in either of these examples?

If you like this experience, by all means, keep creating it! If you don’t then in order for Law of Attraction to deliver something different, you have to be willing to shift your energy. That sounds tricky, but it’s not as difficult as you might think.

First, start telling a different story. Even if it’s just a softer version of the story you’ve been telling yourself, begin anew. This friend might have started by shifting her self-talk to something like, I usually like to have help, but I am a capable adult…I wonder how much of this I can resolve on my own. If I can’t figure it out by [date], then I will ask around. Then, taking any actions that she felt guided to take that aligned with the new story.

If telling the new story feels too hard, or brings up lower energies of fear, worry, and doubt, it can be helpful to use a tool like EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) to address those feelings and begin to clear them before you start telling a new story.

The new story I actually told myself to shift out of this experience was I appreciate and cultivate healthy, functional friendships with kind people who are capable and helpful. Abraham has said, when we shift our own energy, our experience must shift in response. In fact, other people may meet us in the new vibration, or they may vibrate right out of our experience. In this particular situation, the person seemed to magically stop calling me, and eventually we lost touch. As I let go of the ‘need to rescue’, this person may have lost the need for help or may have connected with someone else who ‘needed to rescue’.

Second, remember times in your past when you exhibited capability. Chances are, you have many, but may not give them much mental attention. Change that now…close your eyes, remember those times, and feel how it feels in your body. Remember this feeling so you can call it up when feeling capable is desired.

Third, look without attachment for evidence that your new story is materializing. In other words, release attachment but allow the evidence to reveal itself to you.

Finally, practice. The next time you are feeling needy, remember this is a golden opportunity to practice a new vibration. Practice makes perfect, so remember the new story and implement it. Call up the memories from the past, and remember the evidence all around you.

Got an experience with this? Share your story in the comments below…

 

 

Our Stories Create Our Beliefs Which Drive Our Actions

You probably have noticed that I have written a lot about how our stories affect us. Last night, I was watching Oprah’s LIfe Class (episode 3, with Cheryl Richardson) where she talks about how we don’t get what we want, we get what we believe. Our beliefs are formed by the stories we tell ourselves, based on what we have perceived through our lifetime.

Stories Beliefs ActionsMost of the stories we carry with us as adults were developed between birth and 6 years old. When experience meets emotions, we create a meaning around that experience that becomes a story – and a story we tell ourselves long enough becomes a belief. If we witness our father being unkind to our mother, we create the meaning that this is how men treat women. When we grow up, we come to expect that behavior from men and will seek relationships that will make us right about our story…even though that story isn’t true for everyone, and it doesn’t even have to be true for you if you decide to drop the story!

Our stories become our beliefs which drive our actions. If you want to know what stories and beliefs you are carrying, take a look at your actions.

I was personally reminded of the power of our beliefs and stories last week when a gunman in my area killed 3 co-workers, wounded 7 others (6 of them co-workers), and eventually killed himself when law enforcement caught up with him. During the first day that he was loose in my neighborhood, we were not allowed to leave the house as SWAT teams with search dogs scoured the area. I work from home, so it really didn’t impact me as it may have impacted others. The whole time I felt safe and knew we were going to be fine.

As news reports came in about the suspect, his co-workers and friends began expressing astonishment that such a nice, happy person – a single dad who was considered to be an upstanding member of his community – could commit such a series of crimes. Most of the people interviewed could not have conceived this was even possible!

I know that beliefs and stories drive our actions, so when I heard about the disconnect between how this man was perceived by others and how he acted, I knew this man was being driven by stories and beliefs that made him feel justified in his behavior.

When you think about it, this is yet another perfect example of how Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working – whether you believe in it or not – and it’s always lining you up with experiences that prove you right. When you harbor thoughts that feel bad, you attract experiences that feel bad, which causes you to focus more thoughts that feel bad, and attracts even worse feeling experiences. The Universe is responding to the energy you are sending out through thoughts and emotions. It doesn’t matter if you are remembering the past, living in the moment, or imagining the future ~ whatever energy you are sending out is what you will attract back into your experience.

As that day progressed, when the media began interviewing the least-wounded, it became clear that the gunman perceived that his employer and all his co-workers were against him. Although he had been employed for 15 years at this company, he was convinced they were getting ready to fire him.

Now, many people lose jobs and…then they get another job. Sometimes even a better job with better pay and perks! So, in addition to feeling that everyone was against him and that he’d lose his job, the gunman last week also had to believe that he would NOT be able to get another job. Dwelling on those negative stories, stewing and festering in those growing negative beliefs, he felt compelled and justified in potentially killing all of his co-workers…which led to attempting a car-jacking (another victim) and eventually his suicide.

To top it off, his two children no longer have their father. My heart goes out to them!

Do you see how the Law of Attraction was lining this father up with more of what he was focusing upon? It really can be no other way – the Universe can only mirror back to us the same energy we are sending out based on what we focus upon and how it makes us feel!

In the end, like all of us, this man’s beliefs and stories drove experiences and his actions. Yes, this is a horrible and dramatic example, but this man would still be alive today – and his children would have their father – IF he had been willing to question his beliefs and stories! For that reason alone, I do not want this tragic series of events to be in vain.

Don’t let another day go by without questioning your stories and long-held beliefs—become aware of your actions, and follow the stories, beliefs, and thoughts that led up to those behaviors. Question the everything that feels bad (sad, mad, frustrated, irritated, etc.) to think. Those are the ones that will create actions you might someday truly regret.

Need help learning how to question your thoughts? Check out Byron Katie’s TheWork.com (watch the videos where she shows the process in action).

What beliefs, stories and thoughts are you willing to begin questioning?

Connecting with Who You Really Are: The Power of Quantum Entrainment

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UPDATE: Dr. Frank Kinslow’s Quantum Entrainment site (shown below) has been rebranded “The Kinslow System”  – www.kinslowsystem.com.
It’s the same process with a different name and updated/branded site.
The links below will take you to either the newly branded site or the archived older-style page on the new site. You can also find them here. I still highly recommend this process. It’s easy to learn, can be done alone or in a crowd, with your eyes closed or open, and it is effective on healing everything ~ because it’s all energy! Enjoy!!

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By now, I hope you have noticed that anything I recommend to you I have first tried and experimented with myself. In this blog, I share not only what I have learned, but what has worked for me, with the intention that you will also try what resonates for you and experience positive outcomes.

This past February, Trish Spadt told me about a process she was enjoying called Quantum Quantum Entrainment - AwarenessEntrainment. With excitement, she talked about how it has changed how she perceives the world and positively shifted many things in her life. I had met Trish virtually last Fall when she had inquired about selling my meditation program on her website. One day, I called Trish (it turned out it was also her birthday)  and we had a joyful conversation about metaphysics, her journey understanding how we heal ourselves, and about Quantum Physics. So, when she brought up Quantum Entrainment in our next conversation in February, I decided to check it out!

Many of you already know I have been on a metaphysical and spiritual journey since my late teens, so I have probably abandoned more processes and modalities than most people have even tried. When someone tells me about something new, I am usually a little skeptical, but I at least check it out. If it resonates, I keep going. If it fizzles or feels off to me, I let it go. If I am meant to learn it, it will resonate me at a future time.

I invite you to check out Quantum Entrainment and see if it resonates for you.

Following along with the free videos on the Quantum Entrainment website , I found the process easy to learn and intriguing. (BTW, ‘Stop Your Thoughts’ and ‘Science Behind QE’ videos are my favorites!) I also listened to the interview of Frank Kinslow (now on the home page), and listened to the free audio meditations. The process is simple yet very profound: By engaging in a deep form of rest, we are engaging powerful healing energy. When we get into a relaxed state of Pure Awareness, experiences we would normally consider miracles begin happening. Healings on many levels (physical, spiritual, emotional, etc.) begin to take place and seem to happen without any effort.

Right now, you are probably rolling your eyes. I know it seems crazy to get amazing results by essentially doing NOTHING. Stay with me, you’ll be glad you did!

After listening and following along, I found I could get into the state of Pure Awareness (you have to feel this because words really do fall short) relatively easily. QE/PA felt WONDERFUL, and after only a few minutes in this state I felt deeply rested ~ as if I had awoken from a restful night’s sleep! While I cannot point to any profound physical shifts, I could FEEL in that first 24 hours that something profound was shifting internally for me.

If you are scratching your head wondering what I am talking about, keep reading. Quantum Entrainment escapes explanation. As Frank Kinslow says, “It goes beyond words, it goes beyond the mind.” I can confirm that you really have to experience Quantum Entrainment/Pure Awareness for yourself.

I asked around at Good Vibe University [GVU] if they had heard about or tried Quantum Entrainment. Marielle Duijndam, in the Netherlands, had attended a workshop there called Rapid Healing which is essentially the same process and also mentioned that The Living Matrix is essentially the same. (Since then, I’ve heard that Tom Stone teaches Pure Awareness, which is the same process.) Before long, there was a lively conversation happening around this process, several people having some great breakthroughs, and we decided to host some calls combining the subjects of Quantum Physics and the Law of Attraction, Quantum Jumping, and Quantum Entrainment. You can listen or download the calls here.

Several folks from GVU have shared profound shifts they have experienced since incorporating this process into their life. One member, in Germany, was initially a naysayer but ended up getting a scholarship from GVU to attend the live workshop in his area. He enjoyed the course so much that this former-naysayer went on to take the Master Course with Frank Kinslow. Not only does he now employ QE/PA regularly, he’s experienced some financial and career breakthroughs as a result.

By the way, Frank mentioned in the Germany workshop that all the information about Quantum Entrainment is on the website. So, buy the books and register for a workshop if you feel drawn to do so, but everything you need to learn and do QE is right up there on the site, available 24/7. It costs you nothing to try and learn. That business model is intriguing to me as Frank easily makes a living selling books and offering workshops despite the fact that all the information is available for free on his website. To me, that points to a whole new way of doing business AND a perfect example of how it is easy to trust in abundance and well-being when we are in tune with Divine Source!

As a result of incorporating Quantum Entrainment, has my life shifted in a positive way? Absolutely! New opportunities showed up, abundance flowed in, and I gained a deeper appreciation for and interaction with Divine Source Energy. That energy is now palpably present in my  life, every where I go, every thing I do, and in every interaction. It’s easy to trust in Divine Source when you feel it palpably and know it is always working for your highest good. Quantum Entrainment feels wonderful to do and it has indeed improved my life. For me, it felt like the missing piece of the puzzle.

CAUTION: Quantum Entrainment/Pure Awareness is addictive! Once you become aware of this power in your life, and how wonderful it feels, you will no longer be interested in suffering. You simply won’t tolerate suffering and discomfort, especially when you can instantly find relief with QE/PA, so your life will shift for the better and you will find very little to complain about. Happiness is the by-product of shifting and healing how you show up in the world. You will see the direct result of making the effort to be in Pure Awareness, so you will never again question how you create your reality and you’ll refuse to stay stuck in misery. Consider yourself warned. 😉

Check out Quantum Entrainment for yourself and share your thoughts and experiences below!

 

Scripting Success

Scripting is a process that puts you in the feeling-place of receiving what you are wanting to experience AS IF it is already happened or happening.

Moving Into the Present Moment

By using the power of your imagination, you can experience feeling in the present moment how you will feel oncscriptinge your desire has come into physical manifestation. Scripting moves you from the future to the present moment, thereby shifting your attitude, belief in possibilities, and physical energy into closer alignment with your desires.

You can script your future by writing down, speaking out loud, acting AS IF (when possible), or a combination of all three! The real trick to experiencing benefit from scripting is to have FUN with it ~let your imagination play with all the possibilities that feel really good to you! If it feels like work, stop.

You can use scripting to imagine success for your business and your personal life. There really is no limit, unless you believe there is! You can script out a business that supports the personal lifestyle you’ve always been seeking. You can script once on a subject, or as often as you enjoy the process.

Tunisia Media Scripting Success!

One of the best and most powerful recent examples of scripting is what the media of Tunisia did shortly after their social-media-driven revolution. This video explains in detail how the entire media of Tunisia set aside political differences and got together to spend one day (24 hours) speaking, writing and acting AS IF it was 3.33 years in the future: June 16, 2014. Watch this video now and see how scripting affected an entire country:

Inspiring, Isn’t It?!?

One of my friends had shared the story with me on February 16, 2011 and I was so impressed by this simple but effective action by an entire country! After watching this video today, I began to wonder…beyond just helping ourselves personally…

Is this something we could do to help Japan? How might Japan be able to see beyond the current situation to something that benefits every citizen? Would Japan’s media be open to such an experiment?

I’d love to know what you think of the video and scripting! Share below your thoughts and ideas how you might be using scripting in the future to pre-pave a better life.

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