Use the Holidays to Lift Your Vibe!

Whether you are feeling down this holiday season and need a quick lift, or you find yourself mired in negativity on occasion, having some positive resources to turn to is vital to keeping your energy positively focused. Here are some quick resources to have ready when you are looking to be uplifted or maintain your positive energy.

It’s as easy as 1-2-3…

I have been recommending for a long time to create your own JOY list. No one knows what makes you feel good and lifts your spirit better than you! So, get started on one or update the one you have and put it out where you will see it daily and remember to refer to it.

Check out my updated VibeLifters page with even more vibelifting goodies…free or for a fee, but all highly recommended! There are podcasts, books, audios, videos, and more! This list is constantly being updated, so bookmark it, share it, and check back often.

Watch something eye-opening and inspiring right now…Don’t have something inspiring to watch? Below is an interview Lilou Mace did with the co-founder of New World Library, From Drop-out to Multimillionaire. His story is eye-opening and inspiring on many levels. Grab a cuppa your favorite and treat yourself to something amazing:

How do you life your vibe during the holidays? Share your thoughts below…

Turning My Thoughts Around

You’ve probably heard it before, and know from your own experience: It’s easy to be calm and positively focused when all is going well. The REAL TEST is how you handle life in the face of major emotional upheavals.

Abraham uses the term “contrast” for any experience that is different from what we would choose to experience. Like an artist placing a dark color next to a lighter color creates visual contrast, the difference between experiences we want and those we don’t want creates emotional contrast. This past week, I had some major emotional contrast that gave me an opportunity to learn and grow.

Last Sunday night, I was in my home office working when I heard blood-curdling howling from my sweet kitty, Thelma. I raced to find her in my son’s room (she never goes in there), behind the door, her body shaking and unable to move or stand. As soon as I saw her, I realized that my darling Thelma – the caregiver kitty and loveball extraordinaire – was preparing to transition into non-physical energy. (That’s metaphysical-speak …Abraham just calls it “croaking” because they say there is no death, only energetic transformation.)

Everyone who knows me, knows that I truly adore kitties, and especially the bonded pair I adopted in early 2008 (Thelma and Louise). Thelma had become my personal shadow and furry office receptionist. She rarely left my side, showing such unconditional love and devotion that I sometimes wondered if she thought she was human!

So, when I saw her Sunday night, I realized just how much I was NOT ready to see her leave physical form!!! Seeing her like this was heartbreaking. I was crying and had to keep reminding myself: This was HER process, not mine. My job was to love her and honor her through that process.

The next morning, I made preparations to take Thelma to the Humane Society. Once I had her loaded in her carrier, sitting safely in the back seat, I began the drive to the new facility on the other side of South Bay.

What happened next really surprised me: As I drove, one negative thought after another piled into my mind. This is not normal for me. Usually, when a thought arises that fills me with negative emotion, I know it is an indicator to shift my thinking and get clear about what I really want. Once I do, I milk those better-feeling thoughts until they quickly multiply and I am feeling much better.

Monday was different. Instead of milking positive thoughts, I had been unconsciously milking NEGATIVE THOUGHTS about losing this precious kitty. I dearly wanted Thelma to LIVE, without pain or discomfort, but that option was not present. Every stop light, I had to remind myself that this was HER process – and if she was ready to go – it was not my place to keep her stuck in her painful, paralyzed body.

No matter how I looked at it, this was MAJOR CONTRAST for me:

Seeing Thelma immobilized and in pain = CONTRAST

Thinking of losing Thelma = CONTRAST


As I drove my precious Thelma to the Humane Society on Monday, my dominant thoughts were about losing her, and not having her soft, furry body cuddled up with me, purring and happy to be with me. The more I milked these thoughts, the harder I cried and the worse I felt. At times, I could barely see the road in front of me because of the tears.

Then I realized: In my deep sadness and milking negative thoughts, I had taken a wrong turn and was heading in the wrong direction. Both literally…and emotionally!

This sudden realization snapped me out of my cycle of negative thinking. I realized I had to quickly compose myself and get going in the right direction. But, when you are that far down the negative rabbit hole, how do you quickly excavate yourself and start feeling better? That’s when my coaching skills kicked in. I remembered that I do have control over the thoughts I choose to think. For me the key was…


Get back in the present moment by Focusing ONLY on what I know is true *right now*!

Moment-by-moment, I shifted my focus only to what I knew to be true….

I am driving in the wrong direction and need to turn around.

I hear Thelma is meowing in her carrier.

I am turning the car around.

I am now driving in the right direction.

I am not sure where I am, so I will ask directions.

(Stopped and got directions.)

I am going in the right direction now.

I am at the Humane Society’s parking lot wondering which entrance to use.

I see a vet tech and ask about the entrances, and go in the one she recommends.

I am carrying Thelma inside.

I am speaking with the staff and carrying Thelma down the hall…


As I focused only on the present, my energy shifted immediately and I was able to compose myself. I was calm and focused, able to give my full attention to each task. I still cried, but I wasn’t feeling overwhelmed.

Thelma passed peacefully of natural causes just after being given the anesthesia. It was her time to go. This was her process and her timing, and I was at peace being present with her at that sacred moment of transition.

Focusing only on the present moment, second to second, helped me quickly shift out of the negative cycling and remain calm and present when it really mattered.

As I drove home, I realized that thinking about losing a beloved pet is just one sad thought. If I had allowed myself to be present with that one thought, it would have been enough. That sad thought didn’t need my unconscious help to become 10 – 15 – or 20 sad thoughts all at one time. I came away from this experience realizing that I have the power to remain calm and focused in the midst of major contrast – and all I have to do is DECIDE to be fully present and focus only on what I know to be true.

Have you had an experience like this? How do you turn your thoughts around in the red-hot moment of contrast?

Effective Solopreneur: Energy Management

Why Worry?Almost 20 year ago when I was going through a particularly frustrating period of my life someone gave me the Why Worry? graphic [see right].

At the time, I was going through a difficult divorce while raising a not-yet-diagnosed toddler with Asperger’s Syndrome, working full-time at a Silicon Valley company and spending a great deal of my time worrying about WHAT IFs. No doubt, all that worrying was a colossal waste of what little energy I had available.

My analytical left-brain appreciated the statistics about the pointlessness of worry. I’d read it to remind myself, but before long, I’d find myself worrying…again. Why was that happening?!? More importantly, what could I do about it?

Even though I could logically see that worry was a waste of time and energy, my creative right-brain had become quite dependent upon worrying. You see, I had trained myself (over many years) to worry… about everything. I was really good at it, too! That’s why my creative thoughts immediately went *there* time and time again.

My brain defaulted to worrying, and I was so stuck in that rut I didn’t know how to train myself to use my energy more productively. The sad truth is, most people who are addicted to worry do NOT know how to use their mind to focus consistently in more positive ways. Worrying requires incredible creative skills and use our imagination to think of the WORST possible scenarios so our mind can spin on them.

Since the Law of Attraction ensures that we attract into our experiences whatever we give our attention, you can see that worrying attracts more things to fret and worry about.

Imagine being able to retrain yourself to harness your creative energy, and use it in an empowering way!

> What would you be creating more of, as a result?

> What would you be creating a lot less of?

> How would your life and business benefit?


Is WORRY your default energy or attitude? Share below what you have done to manage your energy better…

PS: If the graphic helps you, too, just right click the image at right to download and print the PDF reminder for yourself.

Keys to Effective Affirmations

AffirmingSpirit Blank Affirmation CardsMost people hear about affirmations in a book, usually where a few generic examples are sited or recommended. They say these generic affirmations for a day or two, find them boring because they are so generic and don’t apply to their life, and eventually give up. Based on this misguided experience, some people actually conclude that affirmations don’t work, and give up on them permanently.

Effective affirmations need to be more than just positive and in the present tense. They need to evoke an emotion in you when you say them, because it’s actually the positive emotional shift in you coupled with the meaning of the words that makes affirmations so powerful!

So, how do you get affirmations to evoke a feeling in you? By connecting what you really are passionate about, what you really desire, with the words you are speaking. One of the best ways I know to do that is with the no cost eCourse I developed entitled Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations.

When you download this no-cost eCourse, you will receive a PDF file that will walk you through the process of discovering your emotional connection to your desires, and in some cases your negative blocks that prevent you from achieving what you want. I have also provided 2 audio files to inspire you further.

One student who followed the course had this to say…

“I just completed step 6 and I wanted to let you know I think this was great! Absolutely GREAT! It made me see just how many negative emotions I associate with things I want to do. I would say it was about 90%. I would have never known this information without going through your 6 step course. I want to say THANK YOU for letting me see myself. You are a godsend.”

F. O., Saratoga, CA

Try it and see what you discover from Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations. Afterward, share your experience in the comments below.

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