Are You Fully Supporting Yourself?

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The Idea Behind Supporting Yourself

If you attend a party in the U.S., one of the first questions a stranger is likely to ask you is, “What do you do?” Their meaning in the question: What do you do for a living? The question is directly asking about your vocation, employment—how you earn money to financially support yourself and loved ones.

Savvy Conscious Creator business owners will immediately spot the faulty thinking underlying the idea that support only means money and the way many see their jobs or business as their ONLY source of supply (money, opportunity, resources, connections, expansion). The only thing more absurd is expecting action, alone, to be the way to improve our life experiences.

Both concepts are the equivalent of looking into a mirror and expecting your reflection to change before you do!

Quite an irony, when mirror work is a wonderful way to shift faulty thought patterns!

Louise Hay Opened My Eyes About Supporting Myself

Being a person who knows how to surround myself with positive materials, I often listen to uplifting audio books. Recently, I was re-listening to the late Louise Hay reading her classic book, You Can Heal Your Life, when I heard her say something remarkable: The conscious and loving way she supported herself when she first began speaking publicly.

Now, I’ve read this book several times and listened to this audio book many times over the years, but this time I really HEARD what she was saying.

Louise consciously chose to speak only lovingly and positively to herself immediately after she stepped off the podium from delivering her first speech, reminding herself that she would only get better with experience.

What an amazing example Louise gave of supporting herself as a developing public speaker! This example is quite opposite of what many people do: Immediately berate themselves and find fault with nearly every aspect of their developing skills. We don’t expect babies to walk across the room perfectly on their first try, yet somehow we expect ourselves to immediately learn and flawlessly execute new skills.

A few hours after she completed her first speech, she sat down to consider improvements she could make so the next talk would be even better. Her support of herself as a speaker didn’t stop with speaking positively to herself. It continued with making her future work more effective.

Through the vibrational field in which we operate, the Law of Attraction is always lining us up with similar vibrational energy. When we send the signal that we fully support ourselves, the people, resources, opportunities, clients that fully support us and our success will also show up.

Listening to Louise tell her story made me stop and question myself:

Am I as fully supportive of myself as I can be?

Truly, I can improve in this area. Most people I know could benefit from being more supportive of themselves, as an individual, on the mental, emotional, and physical levels. Perhaps you, too, are reading this and have a similar response or perhaps you are seeing ways you can begin supporting your business.

Fully Supporting Ourselves

Let’s consider the other ways in which we could begin, this moment, to be more fully supportive of ourselves (as humans) and our businesses.

• Start with your self-talk – Our self-talk reflects our deepest held beliefs about ourselves. Is your business self-talk awesome, but your personal self-talk not so great? If you’re a business owner, the energy of your business feeds off of who you are as the person who runs the business. Energy knows no boundaries between you and your business. Just like with affirmations, it helps to decide in advance (when you feel good about yourself and your business) how you would like to speak to yourself, give yourself some good examples (like Louise’s), and practice them. This way, you’ll gradually become more familiar with positive self-talk, and when you occasionally think negatively, you’ll be able to re-direct yourself.

• Mental, emotional, and physical – Begin noticing, in your day-to-day life, how you can think, feel, and be more supportive of yourself and your business. Do you speak kindly of yourself, your business, your clients, your vendors, your experiences? Do you feel and practice  gratitude and appreciation on a regular basis? Do you take actions that support yourself and your business on all levels? If not, where could you use some help? Where you see improvement needed, be kind: Acknowledge your awareness as the first step in the right direction. Ask for guidance how to be more supportive and let the solutions find you.

• Engage in mirror work – Louise Hay was a huge proponent of using mirror work to bring faulty thought / limiting belief patterns to the surface for healing. She strongly believed that the mirror is a valuable self-help tool for moving through our own blocks. When you stand in front of the mirror to speak your new (preferred) self-talk aloud while looking into your eyes, you’ll FEEL where you are blocked. Don’t ignore it. Notice it and ask what needs to be healed. You know you’re on the right track when positive statements that used to feel uncomfortable begin to feel much better.

Note: If you don’t feel any discomfort when you speak kindly to yourself or about your business while looking into the mirror, that’s great. Keep doing it! Mirror work reinforces the positive subconscious messaging.

• Affirm, Journal, Meditate, Visualize – There are many self-help tools available for affirming, writing, visualizing, and opening our mind to supporting ourselves and our businesses. If we’ve held a long pattern of negative self-talk or not supporting ourselves, it can feel awkward to begin doing so. Wrap yourself in the same LovingKindness you would if working with a small child. We all have issues to work on, and we all have to start somewhere. Be the supportive adult you wish you had in your life, and call upon your own self-compassion to write out, visualize, and mediate on what being more self-supportive would look like in your world.

• Give up the struggle – Whenever we learn a new skill, there are going to be moments when we falter. Those are the times to double up on self-love. Remember that when learning new patterns feels too hard, it’s a good time to give up the struggle. Release it to a Higher Power. Evoke Easy World. Go take a nap. Get out into nature. Spend time with loved ones. You can always give yourself a fresh start and begin again. You’re developing a new skill, and that can take practice, patience, and persistence.

The more frequently and regularly we send the signal to the universe that we support ourselves and our businesses on all levels, the more comfortable it will feel. Soon, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think this way all the time!

Are you fully supporting yourself, as a human being, and your creative or healing business? If so, share what works for you in the comments below.

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Tawatchai Khid-arn, subbotina, Teerawit Janpeng, and subbotinaaleq1463

 

 

Creating Your Spirit-Guided Business

spiritHave you ever wondered how Spirit can help you grow, nurture, and sustain your business?

If you’re caught up in the day-to-day process of identifying, connecting with, and serving clients, processing payments, managing projects and vendors, you might have lost track of the spiritual connection with your business. I get it. I’ve been there, too.

Even with the most spiritual business there are still physical logistics and details that must be organized, managed, and overseen. How do we handle those when we’re not sure which decision is best?

Let Spirit Guide Your Business

When growing and running your business begins to feel like a never-ending chore, it can be the perfect time to step back and tap into Divine energy. Regardless of religious or spiritual beliefs, or the terms we use, most of us can agree there is One Energy Source from which is created All That Is.

That energy source can be a integral part of our business and all its components. As human beings, especially the founders of businesses, we can get stuck thinking we must know it all and have all the answers all the time. Yet the omnipresent and omnipotent Source / Spirit actually DOES know it all and have all the answers! Answers and perspectives we cannot not possibly know from our vantage point. Nor can we access it from a state of frustration or fear.

In his classic book, The Abundance Book, one of the most important premises that John Randolph Price wrote was the concept that no person, place, or condition is our supply:
spiritEmbracing the expansive consciousness that Spirit is our Supply—not our business or our customers/clients, is an important part of allowing Spirit to support, nurture, and sustain our growing businesses.

When we recognize that everything comes from One Source, and that One Source is our ultimate Supply, it changes how we view business situations, climate, interactions, transactions, and outcomes. Our own energy about our business changes. Clients/Customers as well as vendors and support members come and go as part of a positive energy alignment process. Everyone in the process is served well. Where a vacuum is created, something even better will take it’s place. Overall, it becomes increasingly easier to trust that Spirit’s wider perspective is helping us in ways we might not be able to foresee. As a result, we develop a deeper faith in our business success.

How to Invite Spirit Into Your Business

It’s easier to invite Spirit in than you might think, but first there are a few things to release:

A. Start by letting your ego take a backseat. By admitting that you cannot have the full perspective that Spirit has, you can let your ego off-the-hook for ‘being in control’, ‘knowing it all’, and ‘having all the answers’. Actually, it feels wonderful!

B. Cultivate a Willingness to Be Guided. To an outsider, this might look a little like giving up, but the energy is very different. Giving up can come from frustration and feeling like a failure, whereas a willingness to be guided is energetically opening up to guidance and wisdom to which you currently do not have access. You can do this by:
– Silently offering your questions to Spirit and asking for guidance
– Journaling your questions to Spirit, writing down what comes to you in response
– Affirmatively praying appreciation for Spirit’s presence, and for all wisdom coming forward on this subject
– Lighting a candle, or holding a crystal, as you cultivate the feeling of already receiving Spirit’s guidance and give thanks
– Use Abraham-Hick’s Placemat Process to write down what you need the Universe to help you accomplish (and be willing to let it go, knowing it’s taken care of)
– Starting and ending your business day with a 10-minute meditation to align yourself with Spirit’s guidance and involvement in your business decisions

C. Appreciate when Answers, Solutions, and Opportunities Arise. Mindfully appreciate the support that is coming through. Some of us might not notice it *in the moment*, but when it comes into our awareness we say, “Thank you, Spirit!” Give thanks in advance, as well. Regularly AFFIRM your receipt and appreciation for all the insight Spirit sends your way. The more you acknowledge the support you are receiving, the more Law of Attraction brings additional support into your awareness.

D. Do not Argue With / Resist What You Don’t Like. When answers, solutions, and opportunities show up like losing a big client or seeing a door close, do your best not to argue with or resist what shows up. Instead, ask “Spirit, how is this a blessing for my business?” and notice what comes up. If you get stuck energetically in resisting what shows up, you might miss the blessing that is coming right behind! When a big client goes away, a bigger and better one often shows up. When a door closes, something better is about to enter. Be ready, energetically, to receive!

E. Keep Spirit in the Loop. Many business owners begin inviting Spirit in when our business is struggling. When things start going really good with our business, it can be easy to forget this process and stop inviting Spirit to join you. However, when things start to spiral downward, you’ll be reminded why this is a process to continue for the entire life of your business. Keep it going, even when it doesn’t look like your business could get any better than it already is!

Now, I want to know: Do you let Spirit guide your business? If not, are you ready to start?

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WITH images from rangizzz and AFFIRMINGSPIRIT.COM.


Nancy Barry-JanssonNancy Barry-Jansson is a Metaphysical Teacher / Mentor who specializes in helping creative and healing women entrepreneurs grow and prosper through their businesses. She has spent more than 33+ years with metaphysical studies and been running her own creative business for more than 23 years. Learn more at AffirmingSpirit.com.

Becoming a Magnet for Your Ideal Clients

magnetWouldn’t you LOVE to be a magnet for your most ideal clients? Last February, I led a Rock Your Business the LOA Way call at Good Vibe University to teach people how to do just that. The topic of the call was creating Strategic Action Plans that Work for You!

If you aren’t familiar with Strategic Action Plans, they are the subject of the book Attracting Perfect Customers: The Power of Strategic Synchronicity by Stacey Hall and Jan Brogniez (2001, Berrett-Koehler Publishers). You can find this book and others that I recommend on my Recommended Reading page.

These do-it-yourself plans are an excellent tool for anyone, especially the LOA savvy self-employed who want to regularly zero in energetically on their desired outcome(s).

You can think of a Strategic Action Plan as a combination of a Pray Rain ideal client / project list and an affirmative list of positive aspects on a single piece of paper you can carry around. It’s a tool to keep you grounded in what’s important for you and where you have decided to focus your attention.

Bring Out the Magnet!

Since everything is energy, we naturally expand energetically where we focus our attention. The more we do, the more we become like a magnet to the experiences and object(s) of our attention. I’m sure you can think of many positive ways you might want to focus on growing and sustaining your business.

To learn how to make your own Strategic Action Plan, download my call notes (right-click the images below):

For more in-depth material, you’ll want to invest in the book (linked above).

As you develop your own Strategic Actions Plan(s), they will continually change as you grow in consciousness and develop new preferences. I find myself editing the list almost daily, and by the end of two weeks, I use the new information to create a fresh new Strategic Action Plan to work from.

Keep in mind that you are not limited to just one Strategic Action Plan…you can make as many as you’d like, for any aspect of your business and/or your life. Play with them, see what works best for you and have fun with them!

Have you worked with Strategic Action Plans before? If so, share your experiences in the comments below. If you haven’t, download the instructions and give them a try.

 

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using images from olivier26 and nataliagesto

Preparing for the New Year

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It’s that time of year again.

As everyone finalizes their holiday shopping, and settles into the final few weeks of the year, business owners start to contemplate what the new year has to offer.

Some business owners view the future with excitement, a light heart, and joyful anticipation. While some are overwhelmed with fear, doubt, worry, and trepidation.

Why is that?

For centuries, business experts have recommended ongoing planning and forecasting as a part of running a successful business. Basically, they believe that a whole lotta focus on ‘what is’ will help improve business. Deliberate Creators, however, understand that left-brained what-is-focused business planning has its limits. Fire up your spreadsheets and business data, all you want, but there’s more than *facts* deciding outcomes.

How Our Energy Affects Our Business Planning

Energetically, all businesses reflect how the business owner feels (thoughts + emotions) about all aspects of the business, products/services, clients, working conditions, employees (if applicable), and so forth. If there are employees and business partners, then their energy is also a part of this mix.

Because I know this, I consciously make business planning a relaxed, easy, and joyful experience. As I take action on those plans, the results will have that same relaxed, easy, joyful energy.

Every 90 days or so, I take some quiet time for a planning and forecasting session. I review my business targets and imagine what I’d like to experience moving forward. It won’t surprise you that the majority of time during these sessions is spent getting into the feeling place of ALREADY experiencing my targets.

During these planning sessions, I have candles lit, relaxing music playing, my kitty cat slumbering nearby, and ensure I’m in a relaxed and appreciative energy for pre-paving my future. This way, my mind is open, clear, and most receptive to good ideas.

If I’m not sure about my targets or what I want to create, I spend a few minutes doing Pure Awareness meditation to still my mind and raise my vibration before I remember how Source views me and my business. This is enough to put me in a fabulous energy field for imagining my highest excitement for my business.

If I only focused on the left-brain data and planning for my business, I might get stuck in What-Is-ville —never seeing a viable way out of quagmires.

My Silent Business Partner

new yearOver the years, I’ve learned that the energy with which I make decisions and take actions is mirrored back to me in the result.

Like that time when I was not sure what a design client was really looking for, and spent most of the project time swimming in doubt as I questioned all my creative choices, only to have the client question me with the SAME DOUBT (verbatim) when she reviewed the project!

GULP.

That’s when I remembered that the energy that creates worlds is always my silent business partner (and yours, too!). That experience taught me to get clear about being of excellent service, being guided to the right choices, and opening to the intuitive knowing of my client’s unspoken needs. When I do, the resulting work thrills the client! (That has been my secret to ‘exceeding client expectations’ all these years.)

So…once my environment is set, and the planning session begins, I start answering these questions:

  1. What do I appreciate most about my business? (I milk this)
  2. What would I like to expand in my business? (I reach for what feels better)
  3. What am I ready to release in my business? (I follow my guidance)
  4. What am I willing and ready to receive help with as I move forward? (ditto)
  5. How do I expect to feel once my business has expanded (2, above), I’ve released what no longer serves (3, above), and I’ve received help (4, above)? (paint the picture)
  6. What can I do now to feel that way (5, above)?
  7. After spending a few minutes feeling the feeling of 5 and 6, above, I ask: What additional inspired actions come to mind? (Write it down)

Number 1 puts me in appreciative energy. Number 2 – 4 provides my next quarterly ‘targets’, and 5 – 6 help me tap into that energy. Finally, Number 7 is actually ongoing. Whatever information comes to me in the session, I write down, and take the action that feels like the next logical step.

Hours, days, or even weeks later, additional inspirations will spring up in my awareness. Some may feel completely unrelated. Like calling a friend. Or going grocery shopping. Yet, by following the inspiration, I will meet, talk with, or discover something that helps improve my business.

Your turn! What do you do to prepare for the new year? Share your comments and suggestions below…

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Step Into Your True Power of Creation

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Dear Business Owners,

My deepest wish is for you to realize, and step into, your true power of creation.

Why is it that you think nothing of creating products or services for your clients—out of nothing more than sheer inspiration—yet you don’t realize that you have the same ability to create success in your business?

You are a powerful being capable of amazing creations and accomplishments. The ability to create success is your birthright. You may have forgotten it, but you can never lose it entirely.

Over the years, I’ve received countless phone calls and emails from you complaining about what is going wrong in your business and your frustration in how to fix it, yet the power to do so has always been within you from the time that you were born. In fact, you’ve (unconsciously) created your problems in the same way you can also create your solutions!

In order to create solutions, though, you first need to become conscious of, and step into, your own true power of creation. This is imperative for your business to grow and thrive.

Here is what you might be doing to block your own power:

Ignoring your inner guidance (intuition). You own inner guidance will always direct you in the right direction. When a decision needs to be made, know that the answer IS inside of you. Get quiet, know the right answer is present, and listen for it. Assume and feel that your Divine Self / Christ Consciousness is at work within you finding the perfect solutions, then be in that energy and listen. Be ready to take inspired action.

Doubting and questioning yourself. The more you question yourself and ask others, instead of listening for your own guidance, the more you are blocking your own intuition. Some take this so far that they end up stuck in the pit of victimhood. You are also sending a signal to the Universe that you don’t know of and are unaware of any solutions, which will keep them vibrationally elusive until your energy shifts. Release the bad habit of doubting and questioning yourself, or seeing yourself as a victim, and make a conscious choice each day to affirm and know that the perfect solution is coming into your awareness. Then, get ready to receive!

Chronic complaining, to yourself and to others. Do you remember a time in your life when you didn’t complain? For most of us, that was back when you were much younger, before you had developed a bad habit of complaining. Many of us grew up learning that the only way to relate to others was through complaining and fault-finding. Complaining is a habit that is a form of negative affirmation—which limit you and block you from receiving anything positive! The Universe is always responding to the signal you are sending, and complaints just tell the Big U to send you more that you can complain about! The good news is that you can replace a bad habit with a new better habit…like letting what annoys you point you in the direction of what you prefer, and appreciating your new preferences. Abraham calls that ‘Taking the Bounce’.

Getting caught up in the ‘outside world circumstances’. This is what I often hear: “But you don’t understand, this (fill in the blank) is my problem and as long as it exists, I’m screwed!” With a belief like that, you surely are! And yet, you are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way…if you believe you are. The outside world is a reflection of what is going on inside of you, and nothing changes outside until you change yourself on the inside. This concept took me a long time to understand, and now Quantum Physics is showing us how this happens. Bashar has said, “Circumstances don’t matter. Only state of being matters.” When we’re so focused on ‘the problem’ being our roadblock, the Law of Attraction can only line us up with more of that. You are the only one with the power to create problems or solutions in your world. I know…that seems like a lot of responsibility. Take a deep breath! Take a few deep breaths. Taking full responsibility is the hardest part of the process, for most people, but doing so makes everything else much easier. What you created, you can begin anew and create differently from an upgraded perspective!

Resisting or refusing to create an environment for your success. I get it. It seems easier to stay where you are and keep doing what you’re doing. If that’s your preference, then keep doing it. But you’ll also have to let go of your expectation of improvement because that will require creating a different environment for your success. That might include changing how you talk to yourself and others about yourself and your business, who you spend time with, where you focus your attention, expanding what you believe is possible, using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

Here is what you can begin doing to unblock, and step into, your own power:

• Honor your inner guidance (intuition). No one has your back like your own inner guidance. Connect with and listen to your inner guidance on a regular basis. Doing so will make you very sensitive to how your guidance communicates with you. Over the years, my inner guidance has developed a shorthand that I know instantly what is right or not-so-right for me. I listen for it, feel for it, receive it, and honor it by taking appropriate actions based on the guidance. And yes, I ‘thank’ my inner guidance on a regular basis!

• Consciously choose to trust yourself. Ask your inner guidance. If the answer isn’t immediate, trust that your guidance will show up in some way. Perhaps it needs to come through another person or another situation that has yet to happen. Feel your higher self / Christ Consciousness working on your behalf, feel your appreciation for the support, then relax and focus on something that you enjoy. Sparks of insight usually occur when we are in a relaxed state of mind, often focused on something unrelated.

• Affirm, meditate on, and visualize your good. Everyday. As often as possible throughout your day. Let every thought and feeling (thought + emotion) you have focus on what feels better to you in any given moment. Train your mind and heart to lean toward the positive. In the beginning, this might take a lot of concentrated effort (depending on how long you’ve wired your brain to do the opposite), but after you’ve been doing it, it becomes easier and easier. Until, one day, you notice that it has become your ‘new normal’. Like a train (of thought) gaining momentum as it hits the summit and begins the route downhill. The cells of your body are like cells in a petri dish—affirming, meditating and visualizing your good not only uplifts your mind but also benefits every cell in your body. Your whole body will begin to vibrate at a higher level, attracting people, opportunities, and resources that you previously could not access vibrationally.

• Take full responsibility for your state of being. Let me restate: You are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way. Everything changes (in a good way) when you take full responsibility for consciously choosing a positive state of being. Not just acquiring a positive state, but learning how to return to that state when an experience knocks you into the (vibrational) bushes.

• Nurture your success. Value yourself enough to consciously upgrade your self-talk (cultivating your own affirmations is a great way to do this). Choose your words carefully when speaking with others about yourself and your business, as you are creating what you think and speak. Be discerning about who you spend time with, be conscious of where you focus your attention throughout the day and as you fall asleep. Open your heart and mind by expanding what you believe is possible. Using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

But wait, you say…all of your recommendations is about ‘inner work’!

That’s right. 🙂

BLOG_InnerWorkThe most important part of business success is the inner work you do before you take any physical actions! Once your energy is positively aligned with the inner work, every action you take will be the ‘right one’ for you and your business. Therefore, your inner work is more important than, and bears a greater influence on, any other business actions you take!

Too many business owners take actions from a defeated feeling of failure, a mindset of doubt and mistrust, an unwillingness to imagine a better outcome, and end up nurturing their failure. Then, when the outcomes are poor, they observe what they’ve created and then have more proof of their failure, frustration, doubt, and mistrust. It’s a vicious cycle.

Rather than take full responsibility for their power, the unconscious business owner will blame others, the economy, or ‘circumstances’, completely unaware that THEY are the ones who created all of it!

Here’s the good news: It’s never too late to become a conscious business owner and step into our true creative power. Whatever we’ve created, we can begin anew and create differently.

By honoring our inner guidance, consciously choosing to trust ourselves, affirming/meditating on/visualizing our good, taking full responsibility for our state of being, and actively nurture our success.

That is how we step into our true power of creation as a business owner.

Don’t just take my word for it, though. Give it a try for yourself…and keep in touch. If you are struggling, I am here to help. If you’ve already been doing this inner work for a while, share below in comments what you’ve experienced so others may benefit.

 

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Why Your Creative or Healing Business is Not Growing

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Many of my mentoring clients are creative and/or healing professionals who feel spiritually *called* to their work—it feels like their life’s purpose. They are drawn to me because they want to find a way to do their heart work while also making a good living.

Creative and healing professionals often have their craft at the forefront of their business radar—none would have considered opening their doors if they didn’t feel they offered a valuable service. In fact, the number one reason creative and healing professionals do not officially start their businesses is a fear that they are ‘not good enough, yet’.

These professionals spend an enormous amount of time making sure they have something of value to offer, and constantly improving those offerings.

What often takes a back seat to the honing of their craft or skill, though, is the actual Sales and Marketing for their business. It’s true. S&M (Sales and Marketing) are often viewed as torturous. Not only do these skills not come easy to these professionals, there are often a lot of bad-feeling stories and judgment wrapped around the idea of sales and marketing, as well as other essential business success functions like hiring a support team. I’m talking about the kind of bad-feeling stories and judgment that keeps people stuck where they are, never able to move forward.

When Our Stories And Judgments Hold Us In Limbo
Amy (name changed for privacy) feels called to her work as a massage therapist who incorporates sound healing, and often refers to it as her ‘heart work’. Performing her work fulfills her deeply and she cannot see herself NOT doing this work.

However, Amy has been struggling for the last few years to get her business off the ground and actually growing. See if you can tell from Amy’s stories why her business is not growing…

• “I hate having to sell or promote my business.”
• “UGH…Marketing feels like busy work—so much to do, for no results.”
• “No one can afford my fees—and I cannot afford to drop my fees any farther.”
• “It’s pretty much impossible to make a living doing my heart work!”
• “I highly doubt people making money doing this work are ethical. I don’t know how they can possibly be making any money!”
• “I’m not willing to be a sell-out like others, in order to be successful in my work.”

In addition to focusing on what she hates about her business, Amy has already decided people cannot afford her services, and she negatively judges others who manage to make money in her field.

These stories and judgments are woven into nearly every conversation Amy has, and despite understanding the power of energy, these are also woven into Amy’s own mental self-talk. In fact, her stories are now so embedded into her being (she’s been telling them so long), the minute she sees her business cards or equipment, she physically feels the negative impact in her body.

Professional colleagues who encounter Amy find themselves feeling drained after speaking with her, so they make excuses not to interact. No one is mentioning her business to potential clients.

Family and friends, who say they want to support Amy, instead, find themselves commiserating with just how *difficult* it must be to start and run a successful business. This only reinforces what Amy already believes to be true.

Creative and healing professionals who have both an inner calling to do their life’s work while simultaneously holding bad-feeling stories and judgments that prevent them from growing their business or being financially successful are their own worst enemies.

That disconnect between their calling and their stories/judgments that undermines their calling creates energetic resistance, keeping business growth and success forever at bay in a state of suspension. Never growing. Never thriving. Always pain-filled. Frustrating. Exhausting.

Sound familiar?

It Matters How You Start and Nurture Your Business
When I began working with Amy, I helped her see how she had actually started her business with the doubt, bad-feeling stories and judgments in place. Then, when her business began to reflect those stories and judgments back to her, she labeled what she observed as the ‘reality’ of her failing business.

Once she had observed and labeled the failure, she was never able to imagine something better because ‘reality’ (aka ‘what is’) was always staring her in the face. She literally set the groundwork for her business to fail before she started and then she nurtured the failure, not the success.

Whenever Amy had tried to set her observed ‘reality’ aside for a moment, to imagine something better for her business, she had plenty of people around her happy to remind her of ‘reality’. Her husband and parents, attempting to be helpful, were particularly relentless in suggesting that Amy give up on her dream, and just get a reliable 9-to-5 job. (For the record, not following your heart work is soul-crushing, and a fast-track to depression and loss of self-esteem.)

Abraham-Hicks often talks about the importance of only focusing on ‘what is’ if we ENJOY ‘what is’. Otherwise, they tell us we have to be willing to look beyond it in order to grow:

As others insist that you look at “reality,” they are influencing you to be rooted to this spot like a tree. As long as you are seeing only what-is, you cannot grow beyond it. You must be allowed to see what you want to see if you will ever attract what you want to see. Attention to what-is only creates more of what-is.

(excerpt, The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham, pg 190)

Looking beyond ‘what-is’ is a skill well worth developing as a business owner. Successful business owners know this. Children practice this every day as they play using their imaginations. They suspend their disbelief that their playmate is not really a cowboy and they are not really a pirate. They toss a piece of fabric around their backs and call it a cape, and strike the Super Man pose with true conviction.

In that moment…they ARE what they imagine themselves to be. They FEEL the power of their imaginations, and they revel in the joy of it.

As adults, we can benefit greatly from brushing off our childhood skills of suspending disbelief and imagining something fun in our professional life.

Brain science has already proven that the subconscious mind does not know the difference between our real observations, our memories, or our imagination. The subconscious is moving forward, choosing opportunities and experiences based on how you feel. If you start a business with stories of doubt, fear, and judgment of those who are successful, the feeling is probably not very good—and neither will be the results.

Getting Help To Succeed
Amy hired me when she needed someone dedicated to seeing her succeed, willing to guide her through the maze to turn her business around from the ground up. First, she had to consciously choose to wipe the slate clean on her business, create her business anew from a better-feeling place while releasing her judgments. Then, she had to be willing to actively nurture her own success as one would lovingly tend a garden. As a result, Amy discovered a new-found interest in sales and marketing on her own terms, in a way that was fun and invigorating for her. The result is a thriving business with a lot less frustration, and a MUCH happy business owner!

What are you willing to do to grow your creative or healing business? Share your better-feeling stories in the comments below…

Image credit: Ion Chiosea

Spring Clearing for an Energetic Boost

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For many of us in the U.S., the signs of Spring are joyfully in the air. So much of what I write about on this blog is about shifting energy through our body and thoughts, but there is a lot to be said for the things we can do to clear the physical space where we spend our time. The change of seasons is a perfect time to clear your space…your office, your home, your car, your garden!

LCMoTU_KonMariDecluttering and Organizing
Several of my Law of Attraction savvy friends are loving Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. What sets KonMari’s Method apart is her combination of quick clearing suggestions (how to let go with ease by focusing on what sparks joy) and her discussion of the energetics that ties beautifully with Law of Attraction teachings: Keep around you only items you truly love which spark true joy, and let everything else go for others to enjoy.

Shift Your Food
The change of seasons is a perfect time to start incorporating in-season local organic produce in your meals. It’s also a perfect time to consider how you’d rather be eating for your long-term health and well-being.

Three years ago, when I decided to begin eating Paleo there were a lot of people who thought I’d gone crazy. Now, after the effortless weight loss of myself and countless others, guess who are now announcing that they, too, have gone Paleo?!? (And yes, they are just as shocked as I was about how easy it is to eat this way and how great the food tastes, on top of the extra energy and effortless weight loss. Go figure!)

Exercise in the Sun
During the winter and rainy months, I tend to exercise indoors, but with the coming of Spring I am more motivated to take walks outdoor in the sunshine. Ten minutes a day of sunshine encourages the body to create Vitamin D, an essential element for mood stabilization and easing depression. You’ll breathe more deeply, release stress, and feel better just from exercising outdoors.

Whether it’s a walk in the ‘hood or a hike amid nature, our spirit is lifted out of the doldrums by just being around flowering bushes and trees, greenery, birds and squirrels. Bring your camera with you to record the feast for the eyes and turn it into a creative outing!


This is a great (easy and fun!) suggestion for energy clearing your home:

Posted by Danielle MacKinnon on Wednesday, March 25, 2015

So easy and fun…many of us probably do this instinctively. I know I tend to do this at least once every Spring, Summer, and Fall. (Nothing gets me dancing like MoTown!) Funny enough, with enough fresh air, sunshine and music flowing, the desire to clean and clear naturally comes with it.

Remember Your Car!
When was the last time you gave some TLC to your car: clean the windows inside and out, vacuum the

How Does Your Garden Grow?
With love and intention, sweep out the dead leaves from your garden hardspace and place the leaves on your dirt for a natural and efficient mulch/fertilizer. When it rains, the nutrients from the leaves will trickle down into the soil and make it healthier.

Lovingly attend to the plants, trimming them where necessary, letting them know you love them and enjoy seeing them thrive. All matter, because we are all energetically connected  because we all come from the same Source Energy, responds to our energy toward it.

It’s amazing how taking simple actions like the ones mentioned above can give us an energetic boost, lighten our mood, and open us up to new possibilities. Your turn: What are you inspired to clear energetically?

 

Top Image Credit: Gunnar Pippel

Voted 2014 Best LOA Blog!

Best-LOA-Blog-badge-2014-250sqBack in 2012, LOALeaders.com ((Law of Attraction leaders) voted me one of the top 5 Law of Attraction Coaches, and I just found out today that this blog has been voted one of the top blogs for 2014!

Thank you very much to everyone who voted for this blog, and thank you to the organizers of LOALeaders.com, Jeannette Maw and Lisa Marie Hayes!

Over the years, I’ve written hundreds of posts on this blog, on top of the many law of attraction articles, Co=Creation Cafe audios, and other free resources. It has been my intention to share thought-provoking and heart-opening content for a serious students and practitioners of the Law of Attraction. So, it is truly an honor for LOALeaders.com to recognize this blog and for AffirmingSpirit to be included with some really amazing people!

Thank you for being part of this journey with me!

Connecting to the Sun?

connecting to the sunOK, this is really fascinating…at least, I hope it is as fascinating to you as it is to me!

Many of us know that the Institute of HeartMath has discovered that the human heart is the largest generator of electro-magnetic fields in the body. The heart creates an EMF Vastly greater than the brain, which was previously thought to fully “control the body”.

Science also tells us that atoms can be changed either electrically and/or magnetically. This means that the human heart, through which we feel emotions every time we think a thought, is capable of changing the atoms around us. Quantum physics concurs with this and delves further into multiple dimensions and probabilities.

Furthermore, the Earth itself has it’s own electro-magnetic field which our heart-based EMFs tap into.

Add to this information, this astonishing video…

Pilots knew about this phenomenon, but they were afraid to share this information for fear it would put their mental fitness in question. Scientists admit they don’t understand the lightning that happens on the Earth, let alone what happens in the atmosphere. However, NASA has found there is an electro-magnetic connection between the Sun and the Earth. The clouds, it appears, act as a kind of circuit-breaker that protects the Earth from potentially catastrophic lighting in the ionisphere. Well, at least from the electrical effects…what about the magnetic affects?

Many indigenous cultures refer to Mother Earth and Father Sun, fully honoring and recognizing the conscious connection that exists between the two.

Law of Attraction is based on the idea that, in this vibrational universe, everything is energy and we are all connected. The fact that our emotions connect us to the Earth which is also connected to the Sun, it’s not hard to imagine that our Sun and entire solar system is connected energetically with the rest of the Universe and multiverses!

Those of us who are finding their sleep and rest cycles disturbed by the most active Solar Flares may not be surprised by this connection. In fact, it might be a relief to have a better idea how the Sun is affecting humans on Earth.

It fascinates me that Science is catching up with what the ancient and indigenous cultures have been saying for eons! In the past, we had to accept these concepts on faith alone. I LOVE that Science is helping us examine the nuts and bolts, rubber-meets-the-road understandings of the ancient wisdom!

What do you think about all this? Share your thoughts and comments below…

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Nancy Barry-Jansson is a Teacher and Mentor of energy-based techniques, as well as an illustrator and creator of AffirmingSpirit Affirmation Cards. A 33+ year student of metaphysical and energy studies, Nancy is also a faculty member at Good Vibe University. Contact her at her site or on her AffirmingSpirit FB page

Can the New Brain Science Open the Door to Creating a New Reality?

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I am delighted to welcome LOA Brain Whisperer, Janette Dalgliesh, to the AffirmingSpirit blog with today’s post:

The underlying neuroscience premise

Although we are still exploring the brain, and there is much to be learned, the research of the past twenty years has been turning most of our old paradigms on their unsuspecting heads. And that means most of us over the age of 20 have been operating from a set of flawed premises.

I believe we have far more power when we understand how things work. And I believe we are not our brains – we are the USERS of our brains. 

Since the human brain is the single most sophisticated invention on the planet – by a very long way – it makes sense to get our hands on its user manual, don’t you think?

So let’s pretend this post is the preamble you’d get at the beginning – the User Quick Start Guide, if you like. In subsequent, I’ll share some specifics about how story and language work, because that’s where we’ll find out why the kind of personalized approach Nancy here at AffirmingSpirit recommends is so powerful.Click for free ebook during April 2014

But first, I want to set out what we know about the brain and peek behind the curtain of your ability to create miracles and change your reality.

Every aspect of our conscious experience of reality is delivered to us by the brain, from the pain of a paper cut to the emotional turmoil of a stressful day to the satisfaction of solving a complex puzzle. We have a vast and complex nervous system, continuously in dialogue within itself, and with the brain. But we don’t become aware of its messages until the brain decides to deliver them to us.

In order to manage and filter this vast array of data into something we can handle, the brain uses context, memory and selective focus to give us its “best guess” at what’s actually going on. Reality, we might say, is an opinion framed on what our brain already “knows” to be true.

In fact, what we call reality is nothing more than our own subjective representation, our own personal story put together by our brain. In effect, there is no such thing as an “out there” public version of reality that we all share. This is one reason why siblings can have radically different memories of shared childhood events.

The brain relies on memory to predict what’s possible in the future. But memory is highly fluid – the brain does not simply gather and stockpile information as a computer’s hard drive does. Every time we recall a memory, our brain writes it down again, and during this re-storage, it is also reprocessed and – depending on how we’ve retold the story (inside our heads or to another) – it gets distorted. But it feels utterly “real” because it’s now forming part of that opinion delivered by our brain. This is another reason for those sibling disagreements about who did what and to whom!

But we are not the victims of this default opinion of our brains. Because the brain can change – literally and physically – as a direct result of our thoughts and behaviour. In fact, it’s now known that the brain is DESIGNED for change, more than any other organ in the body.

And the more self-aware we become, the more choice we have about how our brain responds and, consequently, the reality it delivers. Therefore, from a place of self-awareness, we can begin to choose our thoughts. And, as the mystics have said, thoughts become things.

And, of course, physics has established via theory and experiment that “reality” changes at the quantum, sub-atomic level when human consciousness is watching. In other words, reality is a two-way relationship – both internally and externally.

Are you beginning to feel the wiggle room, the sense that reality is highly fluid, and you are the owner of a superpower? The power to change it? I hope so!

If you’re intrigued about Janette’s ideas about the brain science, you can click this link to get her new book Mastering Your Everyday Superpower as a free PDF during April 2014.

The stories we tell

Now let’s dive in a little more to the power of story and narrative, and why they work to change the brain. We are sense-making creatures. We want things to ‘hang together’ in a plausible, coherent way.

We require narrative not because it provides accuracy, but to provide coherence so we can assign meaning

And we tend to confabulate – to fill in the gaps of memory with plausible inventions that preserve narrative continuity. This is most pronounced in patients with significant memory loss, or in laboratory tests with participants who have had the connection cut between the left and right hemispheres of their brain (a procedure that, surprisingly enough, rarely results in death or significant impairment of function). 

Michael Gazzaniga, a cognitive neuroscientist, has performed countless experiments with split-brain participants. They have revealed a function of the left hemisphere he calls ‘the Interpreter,’ which jumps in to make sense of memories, when it has no direct access to those memories or the context in which they were made.  Gazzaniga suspects that narrative coherence helps us to navigate the world – to know where we’re coming from and where we’re headed. 

JanetteDalglieshIt tells us where to place our trust and why. That sense of security – that coherent sense of self – is essential to our survival. 

So we cannot help but try and fill in the gaps in our knowledge to create a coherent story about the things we see going on around us.  The problem comes when we unwittingly create a story about the bits we can’t know (what our boss really thinks of us; why our date didn’t show up; what happened to a lost airplane) – and that becomes a memory on which we rely for our sense of what’s real.

This means every time you retell a story in your head, or to your coach or your BFF or your lawyer, you’re reprocessing it AND you’re potentially bringing in “made up” facts about what’s going on. If it’s a painful story, you’re potentially making it worse and worse. But if it’s a story about how fabulous everything is, you can make it better and better.

And since your brain is relying on this story to predict your future, it’s unlikely to show you other realities.

And because you’re INSIDE that reality, being delivered by your brain, it FEELS like a true story.

You’ll often hear Abraham mocking our tendency to say things like “but it’s TRUUUUUUUUUE!” about the “what is” that doesn’t feel good. 

If you’ve battled with a story that feels solid, true and unshakable, just know that your brain has you fooled for the time being. It may have rewritten it in a slightly distorted way every time you’ve retold it; and it will have filled in gaps in your knowledge, such as other people’s motivations or actions.

This is all really good news, because it means you can begin to let go of any aspect of reality you don’t currently like! AND it means you can step into self-awareness and power, by choosing a better-feeling story to tell

I’m guessing you can already begin to see what affirmations are doing inside your brain, and why a good affirmation, correctly applied, has the power to change reality. In my next post, I’ll talk a little more about what gives an affirmation that quality.

If you enjoy learning how brain science ties in with affirmations and the Law of Attraction, you’ll want to sign up for Janette’s free webinar: If you’d like to hear Janette present in more detail exactly how story works in the brain (how it can trick us, and how we can use story to change everything) you’ll want to sign up for her FREE WEBINAR (23rd April /USA): Switch the Story, Change the Reality

 

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Janette Dalgliesh is the LOA Brain Whisperer, also knows as the Sweet Relief Coach. She’s a Law of Attraction coach and author, but also a self-confessed science geek who is especially lit up about the brain science because she believes it’s the biological mechanism by which we can consciously create the reality we want. Her books in the “Your Everyday Superpower” series ask the question “can the new brain science open the door to creating a new reality?” – and they answer a resounding YES.

 

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