Preparing for the New Year

New Year Transition

It’s that time of year again.

As everyone finalizes their holiday shopping, and settles into the final few weeks of the year, business owners start to contemplate what the new year has to offer.

Some business owners view the future with excitement, a light heart, and joyful anticipation. While some are overwhelmed with fear, doubt, worry, and trepidation.

Why is that?

For centuries, business experts have recommended ongoing planning and forecasting as a part of running a successful business. Basically, they believe that a whole lotta focus on ‘what is’ will help improve business. Deliberate Creators, however, understand that left-brained what-is-focused business planning has its limits. Fire up your spreadsheets and business data, all you want, but there’s more than *facts* deciding outcomes.

How Our Energy Affects Our Business Planning

Energetically, all businesses reflect how the business owner feels (thoughts + emotions) about all aspects of the business, products/services, clients, working conditions, employees (if applicable), and so forth. If there are employees and business partners, then their energy is also a part of this mix.

Because I know this, I consciously make business planning a relaxed, easy, and joyful experience. As I take action on those plans, the results will have that same relaxed, easy, joyful energy.

Every 90 days or so, I take some quiet time for a planning and forecasting session. I review my business targets and imagine what I’d like to experience moving forward. It won’t surprise you that the majority of time during these sessions is spent getting into the feeling place of ALREADY experiencing my targets.

During these planning sessions, I have candles lit, relaxing music playing, my kitty cat slumbering nearby, and ensure I’m in a relaxed and appreciative energy for pre-paving my future. This way, my mind is open, clear, and most receptive to good ideas.

If I’m not sure about my targets or what I want to create, I spend a few minutes doing Pure Awareness meditation to still my mind and raise my vibration before I remember how Source views me and my business. This is enough to put me in a fabulous energy field for imagining my highest excitement for my business.

If I only focused on the left-brain data and planning for my business, I might get stuck in What-Is-ville —never seeing a viable way out of quagmires.

My Silent Business Partner

new yearOver the years, I’ve learned that the energy with which I make decisions and take actions is mirrored back to me in the result.

Like that time when I was not sure what a design client was really looking for, and spent most of the project time swimming in doubt as I questioned all my creative choices, only to have the client question me with the SAME DOUBT (verbatim) when she reviewed the project!

GULP.

That’s when I remembered that the energy that creates worlds is always my silent business partner (and yours, too!). That experience taught me to get clear about being of excellent service, being guided to the right choices, and opening to the intuitive knowing of my client’s unspoken needs. When I do, the resulting work thrills the client! (That has been my secret to ‘exceeding client expectations’ all these years.)

So…once my environment is set, and the planning session begins, I start answering these questions:

  1. What do I appreciate most about my business? (I milk this)
  2. What would I like to expand in my business? (I reach for what feels better)
  3. What am I ready to release in my business? (I follow my guidance)
  4. What am I willing and ready to receive help with as I move forward? (ditto)
  5. How do I expect to feel once my business has expanded (2, above), I’ve released what no longer serves (3, above), and I’ve received help (4, above)? (paint the picture)
  6. What can I do now to feel that way (5, above)?
  7. After spending a few minutes feeling the feeling of 5 and 6, above, I ask: What additional inspired actions come to mind? (Write it down)

Number 1 puts me in appreciative energy. Number 2 – 4 provides my next quarterly ‘targets’, and 5 – 6 help me tap into that energy. Finally, Number 7 is actually ongoing. Whatever information comes to me in the session, I write down, and take the action that feels like the next logical step.

Hours, days, or even weeks later, additional inspirations will spring up in my awareness. Some may feel completely unrelated. Like calling a friend. Or going grocery shopping. Yet, by following the inspiration, I will meet, talk with, or discover something that helps improve my business.

Your turn! What do you do to prepare for the new year? Share your comments and suggestions below…

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Step Into Your True Power of Creation

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Dear Business Owners,

My deepest wish is for you to realize, and step into, your true power of creation.

Why is it that you think nothing of creating products or services for your clients—out of nothing more than sheer inspiration—yet you don’t realize that you have the same ability to create success in your business?

You are a powerful being capable of amazing creations and accomplishments. The ability to create success is your birthright. You may have forgotten it, but you can never lose it entirely.

Over the years, I’ve received countless phone calls and emails from you complaining about what is going wrong in your business and your frustration in how to fix it, yet the power to do so has always been within you from the time that you were born. In fact, you’ve (unconsciously) created your problems in the same way you can also create your solutions!

In order to create solutions, though, you first need to become conscious of, and step into, your own true power of creation. This is imperative for your business to grow and thrive.

Here is what you might be doing to block your own power:

Ignoring your inner guidance (intuition). You own inner guidance will always direct you in the right direction. When a decision needs to be made, know that the answer IS inside of you. Get quiet, know the right answer is present, and listen for it. Assume and feel that your Divine Self / Christ Consciousness is at work within you finding the perfect solutions, then be in that energy and listen. Be ready to take inspired action.

Doubting and questioning yourself. The more you question yourself and ask others, instead of listening for your own guidance, the more you are blocking your own intuition. Some take this so far that they end up stuck in the pit of victimhood. You are also sending a signal to the Universe that you don’t know of and are unaware of any solutions, which will keep them vibrationally elusive until your energy shifts. Release the bad habit of doubting and questioning yourself, or seeing yourself as a victim, and make a conscious choice each day to affirm and know that the perfect solution is coming into your awareness. Then, get ready to receive!

Chronic complaining, to yourself and to others. Do you remember a time in your life when you didn’t complain? For most of us, that was back when you were much younger, before you had developed a bad habit of complaining. Many of us grew up learning that the only way to relate to others was through complaining and fault-finding. Complaining is a habit that is a form of negative affirmation—which limit you and block you from receiving anything positive! The Universe is always responding to the signal you are sending, and complaints just tell the Big U to send you more that you can complain about! The good news is that you can replace a bad habit with a new better habit…like letting what annoys you point you in the direction of what you prefer, and appreciating your new preferences. Abraham calls that ‘Taking the Bounce’.

Getting caught up in the ‘outside world circumstances’. This is what I often hear: “But you don’t understand, this (fill in the blank) is my problem and as long as it exists, I’m screwed!” With a belief like that, you surely are! And yet, you are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way…if you believe you are. The outside world is a reflection of what is going on inside of you, and nothing changes outside until you change yourself on the inside. This concept took me a long time to understand, and now Quantum Physics is showing us how this happens. Bashar has said, “Circumstances don’t matter. Only state of being matters.” When we’re so focused on ‘the problem’ being our roadblock, the Law of Attraction can only line us up with more of that. You are the only one with the power to create problems or solutions in your world. I know…that seems like a lot of responsibility. Take a deep breath! Take a few deep breaths. Taking full responsibility is the hardest part of the process, for most people, but doing so makes everything else much easier. What you created, you can begin anew and create differently from an upgraded perspective!

Resisting or refusing to create an environment for your success. I get it. It seems easier to stay where you are and keep doing what you’re doing. If that’s your preference, then keep doing it. But you’ll also have to let go of your expectation of improvement because that will require creating a different environment for your success. That might include changing how you talk to yourself and others about yourself and your business, who you spend time with, where you focus your attention, expanding what you believe is possible, using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

Here is what you can begin doing to unblock, and step into, your own power:

• Honor your inner guidance (intuition). No one has your back like your own inner guidance. Connect with and listen to your inner guidance on a regular basis. Doing so will make you very sensitive to how your guidance communicates with you. Over the years, my inner guidance has developed a shorthand that I know instantly what is right or not-so-right for me. I listen for it, feel for it, receive it, and honor it by taking appropriate actions based on the guidance. And yes, I ‘thank’ my inner guidance on a regular basis!

• Consciously choose to trust yourself. Ask your inner guidance. If the answer isn’t immediate, trust that your guidance will show up in some way. Perhaps it needs to come through another person or another situation that has yet to happen. Feel your higher self / Christ Consciousness working on your behalf, feel your appreciation for the support, then relax and focus on something that you enjoy. Sparks of insight usually occur when we are in a relaxed state of mind, often focused on something unrelated.

• Affirm, meditate on, and visualize your good. Everyday. As often as possible throughout your day. Let every thought and feeling (thought + emotion) you have focus on what feels better to you in any given moment. Train your mind and heart to lean toward the positive. In the beginning, this might take a lot of concentrated effort (depending on how long you’ve wired your brain to do the opposite), but after you’ve been doing it, it becomes easier and easier. Until, one day, you notice that it has become your ‘new normal’. Like a train (of thought) gaining momentum as it hits the summit and begins the route downhill. The cells of your body are like cells in a petri dish—affirming, meditating and visualizing your good not only uplifts your mind but also benefits every cell in your body. Your whole body will begin to vibrate at a higher level, attracting people, opportunities, and resources that you previously could not access vibrationally.

• Take full responsibility for your state of being. Let me restate: You are infinitely more powerful than any circumstance that comes your way. Everything changes (in a good way) when you take full responsibility for consciously choosing a positive state of being. Not just acquiring a positive state, but learning how to return to that state when an experience knocks you into the (vibrational) bushes.

• Nurture your success. Value yourself enough to consciously upgrade your self-talk (cultivating your own affirmations is a great way to do this). Choose your words carefully when speaking with others about yourself and your business, as you are creating what you think and speak. Be discerning about who you spend time with, be conscious of where you focus your attention throughout the day and as you fall asleep. Open your heart and mind by expanding what you believe is possible. Using your imagination to focus on positive possibilities, and caring enough about how you feel to set strong boundaries. If your (internal and/or external) environment has been nurturing failure, then it’s up to you to change the environment if you expect a better outcome.

But wait, you say…all of your recommendations is about ‘inner work’!

That’s right. 🙂

BLOG_InnerWorkThe most important part of business success is the inner work you do before you take any physical actions! Once your energy is positively aligned with the inner work, every action you take will be the ‘right one’ for you and your business. Therefore, your inner work is more important than, and bears a greater influence on, any other business actions you take!

Too many business owners take actions from a defeated feeling of failure, a mindset of doubt and mistrust, an unwillingness to imagine a better outcome, and end up nurturing their failure. Then, when the outcomes are poor, they observe what they’ve created and then have more proof of their failure, frustration, doubt, and mistrust. It’s a vicious cycle.

Rather than take full responsibility for their power, the unconscious business owner will blame others, the economy, or ‘circumstances’, completely unaware that THEY are the ones who created all of it!

Here’s the good news: It’s never too late to become a conscious business owner and step into our true creative power. Whatever we’ve created, we can begin anew and create differently.

By honoring our inner guidance, consciously choosing to trust ourselves, affirming/meditating on/visualizing our good, taking full responsibility for our state of being, and actively nurture our success.

That is how we step into our true power of creation as a business owner.

Don’t just take my word for it, though. Give it a try for yourself…and keep in touch. If you are struggling, I am here to help. If you’ve already been doing this inner work for a while, share below in comments what you’ve experienced so others may benefit.

 

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Why Your Creative or Healing Business is Not Growing

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Many of my mentoring clients are creative and/or healing professionals who feel spiritually *called* to their work—it feels like their life’s purpose. They are drawn to me because they want to find a way to do their heart work while also making a good living.

Creative and healing professionals often have their craft at the forefront of their business radar—none would have considered opening their doors if they didn’t feel they offered a valuable service. In fact, the number one reason creative and healing professionals do not officially start their businesses is a fear that they are ‘not good enough, yet’.

These professionals spend an enormous amount of time making sure they have something of value to offer, and constantly improving those offerings.

What often takes a back seat to the honing of their craft or skill, though, is the actual Sales and Marketing for their business. It’s true. S&M (Sales and Marketing) are often viewed as torturous. Not only do these skills not come easy to these professionals, there are often a lot of bad-feeling stories and judgment wrapped around the idea of sales and marketing, as well as other essential business success functions like hiring a support team. I’m talking about the kind of bad-feeling stories and judgment that keeps people stuck where they are, never able to move forward.

When Our Stories And Judgments Hold Us In Limbo
Amy (name changed for privacy) feels called to her work as a massage therapist who incorporates sound healing, and often refers to it as her ‘heart work’. Performing her work fulfills her deeply and she cannot see herself NOT doing this work.

However, Amy has been struggling for the last few years to get her business off the ground and actually growing. See if you can tell from Amy’s stories why her business is not growing…

• “I hate having to sell or promote my business.”
• “UGH…Marketing feels like busy work—so much to do, for no results.”
• “No one can afford my fees—and I cannot afford to drop my fees any farther.”
• “It’s pretty much impossible to make a living doing my heart work!”
• “I highly doubt people making money doing this work are ethical. I don’t know how they can possibly be making any money!”
• “I’m not willing to be a sell-out like others, in order to be successful in my work.”

In addition to focusing on what she hates about her business, Amy has already decided people cannot afford her services, and she negatively judges others who manage to make money in her field.

These stories and judgments are woven into nearly every conversation Amy has, and despite understanding the power of energy, these are also woven into Amy’s own mental self-talk. In fact, her stories are now so embedded into her being (she’s been telling them so long), the minute she sees her business cards or equipment, she physically feels the negative impact in her body.

Professional colleagues who encounter Amy find themselves feeling drained after speaking with her, so they make excuses not to interact. No one is mentioning her business to potential clients.

Family and friends, who say they want to support Amy, instead, find themselves commiserating with just how *difficult* it must be to start and run a successful business. This only reinforces what Amy already believes to be true.

Creative and healing professionals who have both an inner calling to do their life’s work while simultaneously holding bad-feeling stories and judgments that prevent them from growing their business or being financially successful are their own worst enemies.

That disconnect between their calling and their stories/judgments that undermines their calling creates energetic resistance, keeping business growth and success forever at bay in a state of suspension. Never growing. Never thriving. Always pain-filled. Frustrating. Exhausting.

Sound familiar?

It Matters How You Start and Nurture Your Business
When I began working with Amy, I helped her see how she had actually started her business with the doubt, bad-feeling stories and judgments in place. Then, when her business began to reflect those stories and judgments back to her, she labeled what she observed as the ‘reality’ of her failing business.

Once she had observed and labeled the failure, she was never able to imagine something better because ‘reality’ (aka ‘what is’) was always staring her in the face. She literally set the groundwork for her business to fail before she started and then she nurtured the failure, not the success.

Whenever Amy had tried to set her observed ‘reality’ aside for a moment, to imagine something better for her business, she had plenty of people around her happy to remind her of ‘reality’. Her husband and parents, attempting to be helpful, were particularly relentless in suggesting that Amy give up on her dream, and just get a reliable 9-to-5 job. (For the record, not following your heart work is soul-crushing, and a fast-track to depression and loss of self-esteem.)

Abraham-Hicks often talks about the importance of only focusing on ‘what is’ if we ENJOY ‘what is’. Otherwise, they tell us we have to be willing to look beyond it in order to grow:

As others insist that you look at “reality,” they are influencing you to be rooted to this spot like a tree. As long as you are seeing only what-is, you cannot grow beyond it. You must be allowed to see what you want to see if you will ever attract what you want to see. Attention to what-is only creates more of what-is.

(excerpt, The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham, pg 190)

Looking beyond ‘what-is’ is a skill well worth developing as a business owner. Successful business owners know this. Children practice this every day as they play using their imaginations. They suspend their disbelief that their playmate is not really a cowboy and they are not really a pirate. They toss a piece of fabric around their backs and call it a cape, and strike the Super Man pose with true conviction.

In that moment…they ARE what they imagine themselves to be. They FEEL the power of their imaginations, and they revel in the joy of it.

As adults, we can benefit greatly from brushing off our childhood skills of suspending disbelief and imagining something fun in our professional life.

Brain science has already proven that the subconscious mind does not know the difference between our real observations, our memories, or our imagination. The subconscious is moving forward, choosing opportunities and experiences based on how you feel. If you start a business with stories of doubt, fear, and judgment of those who are successful, the feeling is probably not very good—and neither will be the results.

Getting Help To Succeed
Amy hired me when she needed someone dedicated to seeing her succeed, willing to guide her through the maze to turn her business around from the ground up. First, she had to consciously choose to wipe the slate clean on her business, create her business anew from a better-feeling place while releasing her judgments. Then, she had to be willing to actively nurture her own success as one would lovingly tend a garden. As a result, Amy discovered a new-found interest in sales and marketing on her own terms, in a way that was fun and invigorating for her. The result is a thriving business with a lot less frustration, and a MUCH happy business owner!

What are you willing to do to grow your creative or healing business? Share your better-feeling stories in the comments below…

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Spring Clearing for an Energetic Boost

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For many of us in the U.S., the signs of Spring are joyfully in the air. So much of what I write about on this blog is about shifting energy through our body and thoughts, but there is a lot to be said for the things we can do to clear the physical space where we spend our time. The change of seasons is a perfect time to clear your space…your office, your home, your car, your garden!

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Several of my Law of Attraction savvy friends are loving Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. What sets KonMari’s Method apart is her combination of quick clearing suggestions (how to let go with ease by focusing on what sparks joy) and her discussion of the energetics that ties beautifully with Law of Attraction teachings: Keep around you only items you truly love which spark true joy, and let everything else go for others to enjoy.

Shift Your Food
The change of seasons is a perfect time to start incorporating in-season local organic produce in your meals. It’s also a perfect time to consider how you’d rather be eating for your long-term health and well-being.

Three years ago, when I decided to begin eating Paleo there were a lot of people who thought I’d gone crazy. Now, after the effortless weight loss of myself and countless others, guess who are now announcing that they, too, have gone Paleo?!? (And yes, they are just as shocked as I was about how easy it is to eat this way and how great the food tastes, on top of the extra energy and effortless weight loss. Go figure!)

Exercise in the Sun
During the winter and rainy months, I tend to exercise indoors, but with the coming of Spring I am more motivated to take walks outdoor in the sunshine. Ten minutes a day of sunshine encourages the body to create Vitamin D, an essential element for mood stabilization and easing depression. You’ll breathe more deeply, release stress, and feel better just from exercising outdoors.

Whether it’s a walk in the ‘hood or a hike amid nature, our spirit is lifted out of the doldrums by just being around flowering bushes and trees, greenery, birds and squirrels. Bring your camera with you to record the feast for the eyes and turn it into a creative outing!


This is a great (easy and fun!) suggestion for energy clearing your home:

Posted by Danielle MacKinnon on Wednesday, March 25, 2015

So easy and fun…many of us probably do this instinctively. I know I tend to do this at least once every Spring, Summer, and Fall. (Nothing gets me dancing like MoTown!) Funny enough, with enough fresh air, sunshine and music flowing, the desire to clean and clear naturally comes with it.

Remember Your Car!
When was the last time you gave some TLC to your car: clean the windows inside and out, vacuum the

How Does Your Garden Grow?
With love and intention, sweep out the dead leaves from your garden hardspace and place the leaves on your dirt for a natural and efficient mulch/fertilizer. When it rains, the nutrients from the leaves will trickle down into the soil and make it healthier.

Lovingly attend to the plants, trimming them where necessary, letting them know you love them and enjoy seeing them thrive. All matter, because we are all energetically connected  because we all come from the same Source Energy, responds to our energy toward it.

It’s amazing how taking simple actions like the ones mentioned above can give us an energetic boost, lighten our mood, and open us up to new possibilities. Your turn: What are you inspired to clear energetically?

 

Top Image Credit: Gunnar Pippel

Voted 2014 Best LOA Blog!

Best-LOA-Blog-badge-2014-250sqBack in 2012, LOALeaders.com ((Law of Attraction leaders) voted me one of the top 5 Law of Attraction Coaches, and I just found out today that this blog has been voted one of the top blogs for 2014!

Thank you very much to everyone who voted for this blog, and thank you to the organizers of LOALeaders.com, Jeannette Maw and Lisa Marie Hayes!

Over the years, I’ve written hundreds of posts on this blog, on top of the many law of attraction articles, Co=Creation Cafe audios, and other free resources. It has been my intention to share thought-provoking and heart-opening content for a serious students and practitioners of the Law of Attraction. So, it is truly an honor for LOALeaders.com to recognize this blog and for AffirmingSpirit to be included with some really amazing people!

Thank you for being part of this journey with me!

Connecting to the Sun?

connecting to the sunOK, this is really fascinating…at least, I hope it is as fascinating to you as it is to me!

Many of us know that the Institute of HeartMath has discovered that the human heart is the largest generator of electro-magnetic fields in the body. The heart creates an EMF Vastly greater than the brain, which was previously thought to fully “control the body”.

Science also tells us that atoms can be changed either electrically and/or magnetically. This means that the human heart, through which we feel emotions every time we think a thought, is capable of changing the atoms around us. Quantum physics concurs with this and delves further into multiple dimensions and probabilities.

Furthermore, the Earth itself has it’s own electro-magnetic field which our heart-based EMFs tap into.

Add to this information, this astonishing video…

Pilots knew about this phenomenon, but they were afraid to share this information for fear it would put their mental fitness in question. Scientists admit they don’t understand the lightning that happens on the Earth, let alone what happens in the atmosphere. However, NASA has found there is an electro-magnetic connection between the Sun and the Earth. The clouds, it appears, act as a kind of circuit-breaker that protects the Earth from potentially catastrophic lighting in the ionisphere. Well, at least from the electrical effects…what about the magnetic affects?

Many indigenous cultures refer to Mother Earth and Father Sun, fully honoring and recognizing the conscious connection that exists between the two.

Law of Attraction is based on the idea that, in this vibrational universe, everything is energy and we are all connected. The fact that our emotions connect us to the Earth which is also connected to the Sun, it’s not hard to imagine that our Sun and entire solar system is connected energetically with the rest of the Universe and multiverses!

Those of us who are finding their sleep and rest cycles disturbed by the most active Solar Flares may not be surprised by this connection. In fact, it might be a relief to have a better idea how the Sun is affecting humans on Earth.

It fascinates me that Science is catching up with what the ancient and indigenous cultures have been saying for eons! In the past, we had to accept these concepts on faith alone. I LOVE that Science is helping us examine the nuts and bolts, rubber-meets-the-road understandings of the ancient wisdom!

What do you think about all this? Share your thoughts and comments below…

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Nancy Barry-Jansson is a Teacher and Mentor of energy-based techniques, as well as an illustrator and creator of AffirmingSpirit Affirmation Cards. A 33+ year student of metaphysical and energy studies, Nancy is also a faculty member at Good Vibe University. Contact her at her site or at about.me/affirmingspirit.

Can the New Brain Science Open the Door to Creating a New Reality?

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I am delighted to welcome LOA Brain Whisperer, Janette Dalgliesh, to the AffirmingSpirit blog with today’s post:

The underlying neuroscience premise

Although we are still exploring the brain, and there is much to be learned, the research of the past twenty years has been turning most of our old paradigms on their unsuspecting heads. And that means most of us over the age of 20 have been operating from a set of flawed premises.

I believe we have far more power when we understand how things work. And I believe we are not our brains – we are the USERS of our brains. 

Since the human brain is the single most sophisticated invention on the planet – by a very long way – it makes sense to get our hands on its user manual, don’t you think?

So let’s pretend this post is the preamble you’d get at the beginning – the User Quick Start Guide, if you like. In subsequent, I’ll share some specifics about how story and language work, because that’s where we’ll find out why the kind of personalized approach Nancy here at AffirmingSpirit recommends is so powerful.Click for free ebook during April 2014

But first, I want to set out what we know about the brain and peek behind the curtain of your ability to create miracles and change your reality.

Every aspect of our conscious experience of reality is delivered to us by the brain, from the pain of a paper cut to the emotional turmoil of a stressful day to the satisfaction of solving a complex puzzle. We have a vast and complex nervous system, continuously in dialogue within itself, and with the brain. But we don’t become aware of its messages until the brain decides to deliver them to us.

In order to manage and filter this vast array of data into something we can handle, the brain uses context, memory and selective focus to give us its “best guess” at what’s actually going on. Reality, we might say, is an opinion framed on what our brain already “knows” to be true.

In fact, what we call reality is nothing more than our own subjective representation, our own personal story put together by our brain. In effect, there is no such thing as an “out there” public version of reality that we all share. This is one reason why siblings can have radically different memories of shared childhood events.

The brain relies on memory to predict what’s possible in the future. But memory is highly fluid – the brain does not simply gather and stockpile information as a computer’s hard drive does. Every time we recall a memory, our brain writes it down again, and during this re-storage, it is also reprocessed and – depending on how we’ve retold the story (inside our heads or to another) – it gets distorted. But it feels utterly “real” because it’s now forming part of that opinion delivered by our brain. This is another reason for those sibling disagreements about who did what and to whom!

But we are not the victims of this default opinion of our brains. Because the brain can change – literally and physically – as a direct result of our thoughts and behaviour. In fact, it’s now known that the brain is DESIGNED for change, more than any other organ in the body.

And the more self-aware we become, the more choice we have about how our brain responds and, consequently, the reality it delivers. Therefore, from a place of self-awareness, we can begin to choose our thoughts. And, as the mystics have said, thoughts become things.

And, of course, physics has established via theory and experiment that “reality” changes at the quantum, sub-atomic level when human consciousness is watching. In other words, reality is a two-way relationship – both internally and externally.

Are you beginning to feel the wiggle room, the sense that reality is highly fluid, and you are the owner of a superpower? The power to change it? I hope so!

If you’re intrigued about Janette’s ideas about the brain science, you can click this link to get her new book Mastering Your Everyday Superpower as a free PDF during April 2014.

The stories we tell

Now let’s dive in a little more to the power of story and narrative, and why they work to change the brain. We are sense-making creatures. We want things to ‘hang together’ in a plausible, coherent way.

We require narrative not because it provides accuracy, but to provide coherence so we can assign meaning

And we tend to confabulate – to fill in the gaps of memory with plausible inventions that preserve narrative continuity. This is most pronounced in patients with significant memory loss, or in laboratory tests with participants who have had the connection cut between the left and right hemispheres of their brain (a procedure that, surprisingly enough, rarely results in death or significant impairment of function). 

Michael Gazzaniga, a cognitive neuroscientist, has performed countless experiments with split-brain participants. They have revealed a function of the left hemisphere he calls ‘the Interpreter,’ which jumps in to make sense of memories, when it has no direct access to those memories or the context in which they were made.  Gazzaniga suspects that narrative coherence helps us to navigate the world – to know where we’re coming from and where we’re headed. 

JanetteDalglieshIt tells us where to place our trust and why. That sense of security – that coherent sense of self – is essential to our survival. 

So we cannot help but try and fill in the gaps in our knowledge to create a coherent story about the things we see going on around us.  The problem comes when we unwittingly create a story about the bits we can’t know (what our boss really thinks of us; why our date didn’t show up; what happened to a lost airplane) – and that becomes a memory on which we rely for our sense of what’s real.

This means every time you retell a story in your head, or to your coach or your BFF or your lawyer, you’re reprocessing it AND you’re potentially bringing in “made up” facts about what’s going on. If it’s a painful story, you’re potentially making it worse and worse. But if it’s a story about how fabulous everything is, you can make it better and better.

And since your brain is relying on this story to predict your future, it’s unlikely to show you other realities.

And because you’re INSIDE that reality, being delivered by your brain, it FEELS like a true story.

You’ll often hear Abraham mocking our tendency to say things like “but it’s TRUUUUUUUUUE!” about the “what is” that doesn’t feel good. 

If you’ve battled with a story that feels solid, true and unshakable, just know that your brain has you fooled for the time being. It may have rewritten it in a slightly distorted way every time you’ve retold it; and it will have filled in gaps in your knowledge, such as other people’s motivations or actions.

This is all really good news, because it means you can begin to let go of any aspect of reality you don’t currently like! AND it means you can step into self-awareness and power, by choosing a better-feeling story to tell

I’m guessing you can already begin to see what affirmations are doing inside your brain, and why a good affirmation, correctly applied, has the power to change reality. In my next post, I’ll talk a little more about what gives an affirmation that quality.

If you enjoy learning how brain science ties in with affirmations and the Law of Attraction, you’ll want to sign up for Janette’s free webinar: If you’d like to hear Janette present in more detail exactly how story works in the brain (how it can trick us, and how we can use story to change everything) you’ll want to sign up for her FREE WEBINAR (23rd April /USA): Switch the Story, Change the Reality

 

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Janette Dalgliesh is the LOA Brain Whisperer, also knows as the Sweet Relief Coach. She’s a Law of Attraction coach and author, but also a self-confessed science geek who is especially lit up about the brain science because she believes it’s the biological mechanism by which we can consciously create the reality we want. Her books in the “Your Everyday Superpower” series ask the question “can the new brain science open the door to creating a new reality?” – and they answer a resounding YES.

 

Your Beautiful Power

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Have you seen this video by Dove?

Showing us in sequence just exactly how powerful our beliefs are in affecting our perceptions, researchers asked women to apply a “Beauty Patch”. They told them what to expect, and asked them to wear the patch as well as keep a video journal. Watch what happened next…

If you are a frequent visitor to this blog, you are probably smiling and nodding your head. The Placebo Effect exhibited in this video is just one of the well-documented examples of how our beliefs can literally change our life experience. Many of us have wondered (more than just out loud), if the Placebo Effect is so effective (at least 30% of all placebos work better than the actual drug being tested), why aren’t we harnessing the power of the placebo with no side effects to heal versus harmful medications? Well, we know the answer from the past…we get to decide the answer for the future. 😉

Actually, many doctors hate the Placebo Effect and think it’s a hindrance drug testing. In fact, the Placebo Effect is so maligned in the medical community that most doctors want to figure out how to ELIMINATE it completely, rather than figure out how to make it work for us so we can take less medications. Imagine how much nations could save in national medical costs if we worked with placebos instead of eliminate them. 😉

Each of these women started the study feeling they needed something outside of them to make them more beautiful, and ended up discovering the deepest truth of life: life is an inside job. What a powerful and beautiful lesson that is!

Now there’s also brain science that can explain how this works. Janette Dalgliesh, the LOA Brain Whisperer, states in her new book, Mastering Your Everyday Superpower:

For me, these concepts lead to one inescapable conclusion: that my reality is unique to me, not just in the sense that it’s my own perception, but in the sense that as I interact with it, there is a two-way flow. I create it through my brain. Sometimes I do that in a self-aware, conscious way, and sometimes I do it in a default, unaware way.

So do you. And so does every human being on the planet.

Amazing, isn’t it? Here’s something else amazing: Mastering Your Everyday Superpower is currently free on Amazon! You want to get your own copy and learn how you can master your own beautiful power.

Disclosure: Because I know Janette Dalgliesh’s work in this area, and believe in the importance of getting this information out to the world, I have chosen to become one of her affiliates. When you make a purchase of Janette’s offerings, you not only benefit from the experience but I am also compensated for sharing this material with you.

What is Stress Doing to You?

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If you’ve been paying attention to health media over the past 20 years, no doubt you’ve heard the message that “Stress Kills” – it weakens the immune system and is the common denominator in all disease. Lots is being done to help us relieve stress, but here’s a solution you probably never considered…

Wait, I’m getting ahead of myself.

Last week, I had the pleasure of hearing Shawn Achor of GoodThinkInc.com speaking about The Happiness Advantage. If you haven’t seen Shawn’s hilarious TEDx talk from 2011, take a few minutes to watch it…you’ll laugh and likely relieve some stress, too:

When we choose to feel happier, there are many beneficial results: Our brains are flooded with happiness hormones (like Dopamine and Serotonin, and the hormones they control), we are more relaxed, and more likely to make better decisions.

What does this have to do with stress? Visiting Achor’s site after the webinar, I stumbled across a mention of a study that showed when people were taught to view stress as a “good thing”, it changed how their bodies responded to stress! Yes, something as simple as reframing ‘stress’ into a positive experience, one we would want to look for and appreciate, was enough to cause some people to truly thrive.

In perfect timing, psychologist Kelly McGonigal had more to say about this phenomenon recently, also via TED:

So, it turns out that what stress is doing to you has more to do with how you VIEW stress than the actual source or experience of stress! If you look for ways to find that stress is beneficial and helpful in your life, then you will become more resilient and better able to manage stress. Does this finding surprise you?

From a Law of Attraction point of view, your beliefs control how you experience the world—or more accurately, how the world is mirrored back to you to support your existing beliefs about the world.

Take a moment to ask yourself how you might be able to view stress differently, and share your thoughts below.

Voted Top 5 Best LOA Coach 2012

LOA Leaders Coach medToday, I was notified that AffirmingSpirit was nominated and voted Top 5 Best LOA Coach for 2012 by LOAleaders.com sponsored by Good Vibe Coach Academy.

While I am honored to be included with the amazing list of Law of Attraction (LOA) teachers, coaches, and speakers, there really is only one person who is worthy of this award: Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach.

If you are a serious student of LOA, you’ve likely come across Jeannette’s powerhouse blog, GoodVibeBlog.com or had the pleasure of connecting with amazingly supportive and like-minded Deliberate Creators at GoodVibeUniversity.com. Jeannette has gathered an amazing global tribe that surpasses any I have experienced before. It’s clear that Jeannette’s energy has drawn all of us together.

It is the honest truth that I could not even have been nominated for this award, let alone made the top 5, if it hadn’t been for the incredible platform that Jeannette Maw created and nurtures!!!

If you have been wanting to learn more about Law of Attraction from people who know what they are talking about and share openly, go sign up for Good Vibe University. You’ll get more real-world ideas and learn more in a few months at GVU than you ever will from just reading books on the subject. So many of the existing members came to “check out” GVU and found it so refreshingly supportive and positive that they are still raving fans years later!

This is almost unheard of in the LOA world, let alone in membership sites where egos usually rule. When folks have been away from GVU for a little while, they inevitably return to say, “Wow, I missed this place and am so glad to be back!” 

In the spirit of full disclosure: yes, I was invited to become a faculty member at GoodVibeUniversity in January 2010, and have been active ever since. While I am faculty, I am ALSO a participant who benefits from the positive energy and uplifting sharing, too. I know GoodVibeUniversity.com from both sides (faculty and participant), and having been part of other LOA communities, I know this one is a true gem that far exceeds expectations!

So, Thank You Good Vibe Coach Academy and LOALeaders.com for this award. I humbly accept this award on behalf of Jeannette Maw who is the one who TRULY deserves it!

Many blessings,

 

 

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