Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

unsolvableDo you feel your creative or healing business has unsolvable problems…the kind that seem to keep your mind going in circles?

You’d like to make more money, but you don’t feel you can raise your rates or attract more customers / clients.

You need to find better vendors to support you, but seem to have exhausted all resources in your area.

You know your business offers great value to potential clients, yet every attempt to reach them seems to fail.

The circular thinking keeps us energetically stuck, and our business doesn’t move forward. What’s really going on here? Are the problems truly ‘unsolvable; or is there a way out of the cycle of problems?

Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) tells us that there is really only ONE problem, and all our problems are outcroppings of this one belief: We believe we are separate from Source Energy / God / All That Is. In our forgetting our connection with the Infinite Divine, we allow ourselves to believe we have unsolvable problems.

Actually, ACIM says it’s our mind ~ our ego, specifically ~ that manufactures unsolvable problems to keep us preoccupied and distracted from our connection to Source. In that respect, the ego often succeeds until we become consciously aware.

When I first heard this, it didn’t make sense to me. But then, I started noticing the steady stream of seemingly unsolvable issues that began cropping up for me in my business. When one problem was somehow miraculously solved, another one was soon making an appearance. I realized that this is exactly what ACIM is saying!

Once I reconnected with Source, I noticed that both my labeling any situation a ‘problem’, and the conviction that I was right (and the need for vindication) about how difficult the situation had become were keeping me stuck and unable to find viable solutions.

As long as our attention is on the struggle, we are not energetically aligned with any solutions.

(I keep typing ‘soulution’, and then correcting the typo, but I’m sure that’s not a coincidence!)

As long as we believe any solution is *outside of us*…something we have to seek, then we fail to recognize our innate power: To connect with Infinite Divine and receive the answers internally.

Just because we’re in business for ourselves doesn’t mean that our connection to the Divine ends at the start of business hours. If you’re in a cycle with your business of unsolvable problems, know the ego is involved.

Spiritual teacher Adyashanti has said that the ego is addicted to identification (labeling), to thinking (using only the mind to solve problems), and attachment to thought/thinking (needing know and to be right). He said, “this is a fiction created by circular thoughts and beliefs, what ACIM calls the ‘unsolvable problems’.

Thoughts and thinking have their place, but the unsolvable problems find resolution when we reconnect with Source. In doing so, the brain relaxes, the solutions present themselves, and we remember it’s not up to us to ‘figure it all out’.

Emotional Guidance Scale

The way out is first to become consciously aware of the cycle of problems, and then use the awareness to connect you with your emotions.

Emotions are always communicating with us, letting us know where we are energetically. When we feel good, those emotions are telling us that we are in alignment with Source Energy. Solutions are easier for us to see and identify, and all organs of our body are functioning optimally, when are energetically in a good feeling place.

Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale is a tool that reminds us that when we’re feeling lower on the vibrational scale, we’re still aligned with the problem(s) and our brain is not functioning at it’s optimal. We cannot see the vast array of solutions Source has available for us.

When I say ‘feeling good’, I am talking about a sustained feeling of lightness and appreciation. If you feel good for just a few minutes, then feel bad again, such as when you feel like taking revenge, it’s a sign that you’re still at the lower end of the vibrational scale.

If you’ve been at the lower end of that scale for a while, you may need to give your self a break from the subject—take a walk in nature, cuddle with your beloved pet, take a nap, listen to a guided meditation—and come back to it when you’re feeling better.

Invoke Easy World, and take a mental break. Give yourself a weekend or a week off of worrying and mentally spinning.

ACIM instructs us to give the question to Source / God / All That Is by saying, out loud or silently:

Take this thought and judge it for me, return to me thoughts of peace and well-being.

Or tell yourself quickly:

Let me recognize this problem so it can be solved.

Then try to suspend all judgment about what the problem is. If possible, close your eyes for a moment and ask what it is. You will be heard and you will be answered.

When we stop trying to ‘think’ the solutions into being, we’ll feel better, our mind will be more relaxed, and we’ll move into energetic alignment with the solutions of Source.

The good news about energy is that it can always shift. Nothing is set in stone— unless we believe it is. We can always work our way back up the vibrational scale and revisit any subject from a higher energy vantage point. When you do, you’ll understand the power of positive energy.

How have you handled your ‘unsolvable’ problems? Share your experiences and suggestions below for others to benefit.

 

Image credit: Barry-Jansson & Associates
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Watch Those Labels!

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Do you find yourself observing life and labeling what you see as good, bad, or otherwise?

When most people think of affirmations, they think of POSITIVE affirmations. However, we can affirm a negative as easily as a positive. Whatever we focus upon and tell ourselves, or others, is a form of affirmation. How we FEEL inside when we say an affirmation gives us a clue whether it was a positive or a negative affirmation.

If a statement feels light and good to say, it qualifies as a positive affirmation. If a statement feels heavy and low vibration, then that would be a negative affirmation.

In fact, if you are often depressed or struggling to think positive, it is very likely you affirm more negatives than positives. Try reminding yourself to state more positives than negatives, and you will find yourself feeling better. Positive psychology research shows that a 3 to 1 positive to negative ratio is the tipping point for feeling happier¹.

We also affirm, either negatively or positively, when we apply labels to our situation.
This matters because our sub-conscious is ALWAYS listening and acting on what we are saying (aloud or to ourselves). The good news is that we can change what we affirm and change the outcome!

For instance, recently I arranged for a friend to take me to the airport so I could attend my mother’s funeral back East. I scheduled him to pick me up so we would arrive at the airport 90 minutes before takeoff, and I set my alarm 3.25 hrs before the pickup time.  Through a series of events about which I will not elaborate (I’ve learned not to expound on the frustrating stories), I managed to oversleep my alarm AND not hear the phone calls my friend repeatedly made when he came to pick me up. With the time to leave for the airport passing, I suddenly heard my phone ringing downstairs and it finally woke me up.

As you can imagine, I was in a state of panic and very vulnerable to labeling this situation a disaster when I realized I had overslept by 3 hours and could miss the plane if we didn’t leave as soon as possible. My friend is a Veteran, so his military training kicked in when he finally got me on the phone and realized I had only just woken up. To the degree that I was losing it, he was calm and collected.

He quickly parked his car in the culd-a-sac, and reassured me over the phone that we would take it one step at a time. My friend came in to help me take out the garbage, and lock up the suitcase before taking it out to the car. In my panic, shoving things in the suitcase, he suggested I postpone all non-essential actions, and put on my makeup while he drove to the airport.

When he took my suitcase out to his car, the local police were giving him a ticket for his back tire being more than 18 inches from the curved curb of the culd-a-sac (it didn’t look that far away, but I was still freaking out, in a hurry to get to the airport). This was just an unbelievable series of setbacks. My friend wouldn’t even had to park if I had been on time, so I made sure I gave him the money for the ticket.

Between my lateness and my friend dealing with the police, we were running 35 minutes behind getting to the airport.

As a side note, I am so *blessed* that I had opted for my friend to pick me up rather than a commercial car service! The latter would have called me once and left when I didn’t answer the phone the first time. My friend had patiently and repeatedly called and emailed over a 20 minute period. He even tried contacting me through Facebook, hoping to reach me. So, my best decision by far, in this scenario, was having the forethought to ask my friend if I could pay him (a single Dad) to take me there.

I hope you can imagine how frantic I was feeling, knowing how important it was for me to catch this flight. Fortunately, my friend was newly introduced to the teachings of Abraham. So, as we drove off toward the airport, he picked up on my efforts to positively label and affirm the situation.

Our conversation went something like this:

Me:(as my friend hands me the keys to my locked suitcase and starts his car) OK, we are going to get to the airport on time! (positive affirmation)

Friend: We’ll make it. (positive affirmation) Good thing you had mostly everything pre-packed. (supportive positive affirmation)

Me: Yeah, I did everything I could do in advance last night. Of course, I expected to have 3 hours to leisurely take care of the rest this morning. (based on the emotion I was feeling while saying this, it qualifies as a negative affirmation…this would have been better left unsaid)

Me: Time is malleable…it changes according to our beliefs about it. (determined positive affirmation reminding me why this was going to work out)

Friend: That’s right, it is! (supportive affirmation)

Me: I’m going to make this flight! (positive affirmation)

Friend: When is it your plane is taking off?

Me: 90 minutes from now.

Friend: Oh, then we’ll be fine! (positive affirmation) I’ve caught flights before with only 30 minutes to takeoff! (supportive affirmation)

Me: You have?!? Wow…ok, then I can relax! (supportive positive affirmation)

I must admit that as soon as he affirmed that he’d made flights with less time, I immediately felt the relief…and regained my ability to breathe normal.

And, indeed, I did get to the airport in time!

As I checked my bag, Security was to the left and past that, my gate was the first one on the right…and they were already boarding. I caught the flight, despite waking up so late, and I know that our positive focus is part of the reason why.

In my panic at the realization of how late I was, my brain wanted to label this a hopelessly BAD disaster. I was very vulnerable to falling into a trap of believing that all hope was lost, and letting my ‘label’ override other thoughts and drive other actions. It would have been easy to agree with ‘what is’after all, I *did* woke up 3.25 hours late.

But I am savvy enough to know the power of labels and affirming what I prefer rather than what is. I know that situations morph in seconds when we affirm with true feeling and conviction, and hold that truth in our hearts even when ‘what is’ is contradicting.

Keep in mind that I didn’t develop this skill overnight…I’ve been practicing affirming new stories for decades, and I’ve had many experiences where the seemingly *impossible* came together for me after I committed to affirming my preference.

Since our labels become affirmations for our life experiences, it’s good to pay attention to what you have been labeling good, bad, right, wrong, solution or problem in your life. There’s good news here, as labels and affirmations are not set in stone.

If you notice where your labeling has been holding you back, make the decision to change the label and begin affirming your preference over the appearance of “what is”. You’ll be amazed how quickly things morph when you recognize the need for a label change and consciously choose to affirm what feels better to you!

Do you have stories of where you changed your label of a situation, and things worked out well? I’d love it if you shared it below for others to enjoy.

P.S. While I was on the trip, I found myself telling the *story* of what went wrong with oversleeping and the police. After feeling the negative energy of that, I made the decision to drop the ‘what is’ negative story and refocus my attention on what went right.

When I returned from the trip, my friend confided that he really thought I had missed the flight, but he didn’t want to say that to me. Despite his *doubts*, he was willing to play along with my positive affirmations and even added comments that brought relief. I didn’t know he had doubts, though, so his support bolstered my own belief and alignment. Just goes to show, only one person really has to *believe* it’s possible!

 

Footnote:
¹Barbara Frederickson, PhD. coined this the Positivity Ratio. Learn more at http://www.positivityratio.com/

 

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