Another Take on Ho’oponopono

A year ago, I wrote a post about the ancient Hawaiian energy clearing practice known as Ho’oponopono. In that post, I shared my personal experiences, how I had heard about it, and a 90 minute interview with Dr. Hew Len (broken up into 9-10 min segments on YouTube).

Aunty Mahealani, Native Hawaiian Teacher

Several people have privately mentioned that they have a hard time with this practice, especially the part about asking for forgiveness.

The whole forgiveness conversation is complicated as, technically, you are asking yourself for forgiveness, not anyone else or anyone outside of you. I know that is a complicated concept for many of us, so I recommend watching the videos with Dr. Hew Len to help you understand the concept much better.

However, in response to the forgiveness comments, I have told others that I once followed Dr. Joe Vitale’s suggestion to walk around for a week silently saying to yourself, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” as a way to generally clear any blocks. Within just a few days of this practice, I started manifesting experiences where I needed to apologize!!! Yes, I consciously realized the connection when I found myself having to say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. ” YIKES!!! I stopped that practice pretty darn quick.

It also showed me how powerful our energy is in attracting what we speak and feel! These days, I might only say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me.” ONCE, and then focus all my attention on “I love you. Thank you.” I’d much rather be manifesting reasons to say THAT to others! 😉

Anyway, I just came across a video interview (below) where Aunty Mahealani explains the Aloha Spirit and her take on Ho’oponopono. I must say, I like what she is saying and it resonates for me on many levels. I invite you to watch this video and see if Aunty’s interpretation feels better for you, too.

After you watch this video, let me know what you think! Share your comments and questions below…

Exploring an Ancient Energy Clearing Modality: Ho’oponopono

Ho'oponopono

Click on the photo of Dr. Hew Len, above, to visit his website

I’ve been wanting to write about the Hawaiian energy clearing technique, Ho’oponopono (Ho – oh – po – no – po – no) for quite a long time. I’ve had amazing success with it, even though I didn’t really understand how it worked. That was, until I began learning about Quantum Physics and the work being done by HeartMath.

Wait, I’m getting ahead of myself.

It was Dr. Joe Vitale’s viral article that first taught me about Ho’oponopono in 2006. Upon reading the article, I thought it was interesting, but to say I was skeptical would be an understatement! In the article, Joe talks about understanding full responsibility in a profound new way after hearing about the simple way a native Hawaiian psychologist named Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len cured an entire prison of criminally insane patients without ever seeing the patients in person. At first blush, that sounds pretty wacky, doesn’t it?!? How could this be possible that anyone can heal themselves and others by silently saying a series of phrases? Dr. Hew Len healed himself by silently repeating…

“I’m sorry…

Please forgive me…

Thank you…

I love you”


While the article was intriguing, I had a hard time believing that saying such words to myself would have any impact.
A day or two after I read the article, I was in the car with my then-teenage son who was mad at me for pulling him away from Facebook on a perfectly beautiful sunny day, so we could take a hike in the hills and have lunch together. I know, what kind of mother asks her child to get away from the computer and out into fresh air and sunshine? Cruel and unusual punishment for a teenager, I’m sure.

Anyway, my son was ranting and screaming at me in the car because he wanted to be cooped up at home on Facebook. Initially, I began arguing with him, when I *remembered* this article and Ho’oponopono. At that point, I stopped arguing and began silently saying to myself, “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you…”  Now, from my son’s perspective, I had just stopped arguing and was *listening* because I was quiet. And I was. But we were both also feeling my shift in energy from defensiveness to inner peace. In addition, I also noticed that by saying those words to myself, I felt safe and protected even though he was screaming horrible things in my direction. I felt like I was in a protective bubble  and his words were heard, but not as hurtful as they would normally feel.

To my surprise, my son immediately began calming down. Then he said something that sounded like he felt hurt. Silently, I responded, “I’m sorry, Please forgive me”, and then resumed, “I love you, Thank you.” Within minutes, my son’s anger had completely de-escalated and he was speaking calmly to me. Moments later, as we were now driving up into the hills, he was enjoying the view of hawks and lizards out his window, and appreciating the changing landscape. His anger was gone and I was impressed. I didn’t know *how* this had worked, all I knew is that it did work!

A few days later,  I recounted this story to a friend and sent her the article. The next day a business conference call gave her the chance to try this technique. Her results were similar: An angry/ranting co-worker completely calmed down in minutes, then apologized to everyone for his rant. The remaining conversations during the conference call were very calm and productive. My friend was amazed because this angry co-worker usually tied up every conference call with 45 minutes worth of yelling…and after using Ho’oponopono, he stopped at 5 minutes and the rest of the call was easy!

I’ve even used this with strangers around me! Whenever I am around people in public who are arguing or being mean to each other, I silently say the words to myself. I don’t even need to be looking at them. Invariably, they stop arguing and start getting along…and I continue on my way with a smile on my face.

By the way, we are not saying these words to the other person(s) around us, we are saying them *to ourselves*. I recommend you read more about this, including the article link above, and/or click on Dr. Len’s photo to read articles about this on his site. The videos below will also explain it in greater detail. When we say these phrases to ourselves, people around us hear nothing, but they have the sense of being heard, even if we are not looking at them. Dr. Hew Len says that we are cleaning the data in our own subconscious, and that causes an effect in our experience.

But don’t take my word or others for it…try this out yourself and see what you discover. You’ll learn far more by trying it yourself than just reading about it. All of us have responsibility for how we feel, and to notice what feels best for us, and there is no such thing as a one-size-fits-all solution. If you understand Quantum Physics, then you’ll understand more how when we shift our energy we shift the energy of everything around us. Until you experience it personally, though, it remains a theory.

For those who would like to know more, below are some videos of Dr. Hew Len speaking directly about how and why he uses Ho’oponopono to clean the data in his subconsious. I recommend that you check in personally on what he says in these videos (a total of 9 in a playlist) to determine if his words resonate for you and if you really want them to be part of your belief system:

Direct links to the separate sections: Video 1 of 9 | Video 2 of 9 | Video 3 of 9 | Video 4 of 9 | Video 5 of 9 | Video 6 of 9 | Video 7 of 9 | Video 8 of 9 | Video 9 of 9

Do you have personal stories of Ho’oponopono working for you? Please share it in the comments below so we can all benefit!

New Year’s Wish and Challenge: Take Total Responsibility

As 2008 falls away, and 2009 opens up before us, I am thinking about the examples of personal responsibility (or lack thereof) that manifested these past few months. As we become more aware of the power of our consciousness to create everything we experience, it is clear to me that the days of pointing fingers and laying blame are dwindling.

Conscious creators know that they created everything that is showing up in their life, good or otherwise. If what shows up is not to their liking, they realize it is up to them to choose something different to create. Choose different thoughts. Choose different feelings. In that way, then, each of us is responsible for what is showing up, and it only takes minutes to correct your course. No amount of blaming or demanding restitution or expecting other people to change will alter what we are experiencing. Positive change only comes when WE consciously decide that WE are going to choose thoughts and feelings that align with our preferences. It sounds easy, and with some conscious practice, it does become easier. Not only easier, but well worth the effort!!!

image courtesy of Wikipedia.org

Dr. Joe Vitale wrote an article explaining Ho’oponopono, an ancient Hawaiian healing process that also points to this concept of total responsibility. Ancients knew of this. Buddha taught it. Jesus taught it. The idea of total responsibility means that any experience that shows up in your life—the life you created yourself—is your responsibility to heal. In fact, it may never heal until you take responsibility.

But wait…if you think this sounds hard, or impossible, to take full responsibility for healing everything that shows up in your life, I invite you to employ Ho’oponopono for a week. Try it for 7 days. Set aside your left-brain arguments, and just TRY it. Chances are, by the end of Day One you will be amazed how something so simple can make your life so much more enjoyable! The effort, while it exists, feels negligible compared to the results. At the end of 7 days, you’ll likely also be a convert who is happy to do this for the rest of your life!

As you take responsibility to change and heal your own consciousness, the world around you will morph in response. Sounds crazy…until you try it, and awaken to the amazing power of consciousness.

Today, I was chatting with Melissa Quiter as we planned for our next Co=Creation Cafe call this Saturday, January 3, 2009. Melissa’s favorite flower is the sunflower. It’s her favorite not only because it stands tall, but in the bud stage it exhibits heliotropism (the flower head tracks the suns movement across the sky). As she explained this with sheer joy, she said, “It doesn’t just sit there waiting and hoping and wondering if the sun will cross it’s path, it actually keeps turning it’s head to face the sun!”

I smiled, and said, “Wow…another great example of total responsibility!!!”

May we all stand tall and joyously take responsibility for the life we are living!

I wish you the most wonderful New Years Eve followed by an incredibly joyous, abundant, and successful 2009!

Many blessings for 2009 from AffirmingSpirit.com!

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