Are You Fully Supporting Yourself?

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The Idea Behind Supporting Yourself

If you attend a party in the U.S., one of the first questions a stranger is likely to ask you is, “What do you do?” Their meaning in the question: What do you do for a living? The question is directly asking about your vocation, employment—how you earn money to financially support yourself and loved ones.

Savvy Conscious Creator business owners will immediately spot the faulty thinking underlying the idea that support only means money and the way many see their jobs or business as their ONLY source of supply (money, opportunity, resources, connections, expansion). The only thing more absurd is expecting action, alone, to be the way to improve our life experiences.

Both concepts are the equivalent of looking into a mirror and expecting your reflection to change before you do!

Quite an irony, when mirror work is a wonderful way to shift faulty thought patterns!

Louise Hay Opened My Eyes About Supporting Myself

Being a person who knows how to surround myself with positive materials, I often listen to uplifting audio books. Recently, I was re-listening to the late Louise Hay reading her classic book, You Can Heal Your Life, when I heard her say something remarkable: The conscious and loving way she supported herself when she first began speaking publicly.

Now, I’ve read this book several times and listened to this audio book many times over the years, but this time I really HEARD what she was saying.

Louise consciously chose to speak only lovingly and positively to herself immediately after she stepped off the podium from delivering her first speech, reminding herself that she would only get better with experience.

What an amazing example Louise gave of supporting herself as a developing public speaker! This example is quite opposite of what many people do: Immediately berate themselves and find fault with nearly every aspect of their developing skills. We don’t expect babies to walk across the room perfectly on their first try, yet somehow we expect ourselves to immediately learn and flawlessly execute new skills.

A few hours after she completed her first speech, she sat down to consider improvements she could make so the next talk would be even better. Her support of herself as a speaker didn’t stop with speaking positively to herself. It continued with making her future work more effective.

Through the vibrational field in which we operate, the Law of Attraction is always lining us up with similar vibrational energy. When we send the signal that we fully support ourselves, the people, resources, opportunities, clients that fully support us and our success will also show up.

Listening to Louise tell her story made me stop and question myself:

Am I as fully supportive of myself as I can be?

Truly, I can improve in this area. Most people I know could benefit from being more supportive of themselves, as an individual, on the mental, emotional, and physical levels. Perhaps you, too, are reading this and have a similar response or perhaps you are seeing ways you can begin supporting your business.

Fully Supporting Ourselves

Let’s consider the other ways in which we could begin, this moment, to be more fully supportive of ourselves (as humans) and our businesses.

• Start with your self-talk – Our self-talk reflects our deepest held beliefs about ourselves. Is your business self-talk awesome, but your personal self-talk not so great? If you’re a business owner, the energy of your business feeds off of who you are as the person who runs the business. Energy knows no boundaries between you and your business. Just like with affirmations, it helps to decide in advance (when you feel good about yourself and your business) how you would like to speak to yourself, give yourself some good examples (like Louise’s), and practice them. This way, you’ll gradually become more familiar with positive self-talk, and when you occasionally think negatively, you’ll be able to re-direct yourself.

• Mental, emotional, and physical – Begin noticing, in your day-to-day life, how you can think, feel, and be more supportive of yourself and your business. Do you speak kindly of yourself, your business, your clients, your vendors, your experiences? Do you feel and practice  gratitude and appreciation on a regular basis? Do you take actions that support yourself and your business on all levels? If not, where could you use some help? Where you see improvement needed, be kind: Acknowledge your awareness as the first step in the right direction. Ask for guidance how to be more supportive and let the solutions find you.

• Engage in mirror work – Louise Hay was a huge proponent of using mirror work to bring faulty thought / limiting belief patterns to the surface for healing. She strongly believed that the mirror is a valuable self-help tool for moving through our own blocks. When you stand in front of the mirror to speak your new (preferred) self-talk aloud while looking into your eyes, you’ll FEEL where you are blocked. Don’t ignore it. Notice it and ask what needs to be healed. You know you’re on the right track when positive statements that used to feel uncomfortable begin to feel much better.

Note: If you don’t feel any discomfort when you speak kindly to yourself or about your business while looking into the mirror, that’s great. Keep doing it! Mirror work reinforces the positive subconscious messaging.

• Affirm, Journal, Meditate, Visualize – There are many self-help tools available for affirming, writing, visualizing, and opening our mind to supporting ourselves and our businesses. If we’ve held a long pattern of negative self-talk or not supporting ourselves, it can feel awkward to begin doing so. Wrap yourself in the same LovingKindness you would if working with a small child. We all have issues to work on, and we all have to start somewhere. Be the supportive adult you wish you had in your life, and call upon your own self-compassion to write out, visualize, and mediate on what being more self-supportive would look like in your world.

• Give up the struggle – Whenever we learn a new skill, there are going to be moments when we falter. Those are the times to double up on self-love. Remember that when learning new patterns feels too hard, it’s a good time to give up the struggle. Release it to a Higher Power. Evoke Easy World. Go take a nap. Get out into nature. Spend time with loved ones. You can always give yourself a fresh start and begin again. You’re developing a new skill, and that can take practice, patience, and persistence.

The more frequently and regularly we send the signal to the universe that we support ourselves and our businesses on all levels, the more comfortable it will feel. Soon, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think this way all the time!

Are you fully supporting yourself, as a human being, and your creative or healing business? If so, share what works for you in the comments below.

Image Credit: Barry-Jansson & Associates with images from
Tawatchai Khid-arn, subbotina, Teerawit Janpeng, and subbotinaaleq1463

 

 

Everything You Experience…Is a Blessing!

If the title of this post seems shocking or incorrect to you, then you are exactly the person who needs to read this entire post. Keep reading…

In western cultures, many are taught to believe that if anything happens to you that can be categorized as “bad”, it sucks and you rarely can do anything about it so it should be avoided at all costs. People struck by fear of such experiences buy insurance to protect themselves.

In eastern cultures, many are taught to believe that every life is destined for hardships, that they are unavoidable…that the noble seek them out, dwell in and suffer through them in order to grow in character. People struck by fear of such experiences perform rituals and buy objects to protect themselves despite the inevitability.

What if there is another reality…a greater truth?

What if the truth is: Everything you experience, regardless of how it is categorized (good, bad, happy, sad, miracle, or tragedy), is actually a blessing that will improve your life in unforeseen ways?

Think about the current struggles in your life. How would you live your life differently if you began making the assumption that each struggle is actually a great blessing for which you are grateful?

We know that what we think about, comes about. That where attention goes, energy flows. What does your future hold for you if you are always fearful, angry, frustrated, and worried? In contrast, what future experiences are you attracting if you are happy, grateful, and appreciative?

How would you live your life differently if you knew that a dire medical diagnosis would teach you to value life, help you overcome phobias, live more fully, learn about your body, and make great new friends? That’s what happened to my friend who was diagnosed with a life-threatening blood disease for which there is no known cure. She embraced a positive attitude and asked family, friends, and church members to pray for her. All those positive thoughts focused on her well-being: Her disease is now in remission, which her doctor previously didn’t think was possible! Without the initial diagnosis she would not have lived through such a rich and rewarding experience, nor experienced the miracle of others focusing positive thoughts on her (prayer).

How would you live your life differently if you knew the financial nightmare you are experiencing would actually teach you how to ask for help (and get it), teach you how to receive, and allow others the experience of being your angel? That’s what happened to someone dear to me…always the giver, it took a difficult experience for her to allow others to help. In realizing that she and others were benefiting from this ‘struggle’, realizing the blessing and becoming truly GRATEFUL for it, her financial situation turned around almost overnight!

How would you live your life differently if you knew that a sudden job loss actually allowed you to refocus your career on what you’d rather be doing, gives you time to decompress before starting anew, and puts you on the road to a better career with higher income and better quality of life? This is what happened to me…TWICE! The first time, I started a new job (at a temp agency) the next business day making 50% more than I was before, and jump-started an entirely new career. The second time, the severance package allowed me to start a new business with greater earning potential, and flexibility to work from home as I raised my son. That was more than 14 years ago! Now when I hear someone has been laid off, I call them and congratulate them on this wonderful new opportunity in their life.

Still not sure you can view your hardship as a blessing?
Then you need to watch this video about Baby Eliot, whose parents made a bold choice: To view their son’s genetics as an opportunity, not a tragedy. Regardless of your views (pro-choice or pro-life), it cannot be denied that we all have a choice how we view our life experiences. You can dwell on the anguish or you can make another decision, and experience the BLESSING in doing so…



If nothing else, I hope you will pause to rethink how you feel about your life and your experiences. I know this to be true: From the moment you begin to see each life experience as a blessing, an opportunity to grow and be blessed, it will begin to morph into exactly that…thrilling you in ways you may never have previously expected!

Nearly two years ago, I was struck by this epiphany and it has changed my life completely! Everything I experience is now a blessing…either obviously so, or in choosing to find the abundant blessings and silver linings.

Is there an experience in your life that you can begin to see as a blessing? Please take a moment to share it with us below.

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