Making It Easier

easierMaking It Easier

Ahhh…do you feel the ease in that statement? I realize “easier” is not the message most of us are accustomed to hearing, when it comes to our businesses, but bear with me. Starting and building your business can be easier and more fun than you have been taught or might have imagined.

If you’ve been struggling to start or build your business, it’s possible that you have been reading and listening to experts who make it seem difficult and complicated. Without knowing what step to take next, the whole process can feel overwhelming. Most of the business experts, themselves, share and compare business hardship stories as if that is the only way successful businesses function.

Emphasis on ‘Easier’

Businesses have their trajectories, which are a reflection of the owner/leader’s energy. The focus of this post is on EASE: There are many tips and tools that we can combine to make the process of starting and running a business easier.

If you’ve grown up hearing other ‘grown ups’ talk about business, likely they were talking about how hard it was to find clients, get paid, grow their business. What they affirmed (hardship) was confirmed to them, so in their minds, they were right.

Self Check-In:
What are you affirming / confirming about your business with your words, thoughts, feelings, and actions?

The energy generated from your words, thoughts, and feelings drive your actions, and the resulting outcome. The one(s) who line up energetically, SEE, FEEL, and KNOW themselves as successful before they take any actions toward their business are more likely to experience successful outcomes.

This is why two people can start the same business in the same city, but one succeeds while the other fails before they even open their doors. What you hold to be true about your business in your words, thoughts, and feelings establishes how you will experience your business.

First, Alignment!

Before you take another action toward your business, get into alignment with your success:

• SEEING: In your mind’s eye, your imagination, practice seeing yourself successful. Imagine you are in your place of business, or at a networking event meeting new clients. See your schedule filling up with a list of great clients. If this feels awkward, keep doing it until it feels natural.

• FEELING: Notice how you feel when you’re imagining your successful and thriving business. How do you feel when you’re working, when you’re reviewing your financials, when you’re paying bills, dealing with vendors and clients/customers? What do your successful business days feel like, and what do you feel at night as you’re drifting off to sleep?

• KNOWING: As you practice seeing and feeling your success, and the idea of success and the feeling of success will become second-nature to you. This is when you are ready to begin knowing within yourself that even if you don’t know everything about your business…you are capable of learning, growing, and guiding your business. Knowing may initially come to you in flickers and hope-filled thoughts. That’s good! Nurture those until the knowing grows within you.

Pre-Pave Your Success

Abraham-Hicks talks about Segment-Intending as a way of pre-paving future events so they will transpire easily and joyfully. You can also use the basic concept of segment-intending to pre-pave your business success:

• Start by making a list of all the steps you know you’ll need to take with your business
– Setting up your business structure, business location
– Setting up promotional materials: website, business cards, stationery/envelopes, brochures (if any)
– Identifying potential clients and letting them know about your products / services
– Networking to meet potential clients / customers
– Speaking / Writing to increase awareness of your products / services

SEE, FEEL, and KNOW yourself taking the appropriate action in each list with ease, and with a highly successful result. In our imagination, we can ‘take the journey’ first, energetically. If it feels awkward, we’re not yet in alignment. Keep going until it feels natural, and the positive outcome feels obvious to you. Clarity and confidence will fill your being. This is on-going practice for the successful business owner.

Actions you take after getting into alignment and pre-paving will have a much better outcome and likely to feel easier, than if you are taking the same actions from fearful or frustrated energy. The feeling of the journey has a direct effect on the outcome.

Address Your Fears

When I first started my illustration and design business, I realized that I was literally afraid to ‘sell’ my services. Selling would be important to my business success, so I had to address it if I was going to move forward.

Fortunately, before I started my business, I had (even before knowing about these processes) FELT myself highly successful. I didn’t know HOW, I just felt that I would be and I milked that feeling long before I took action. So, when I realized my fear around selling I immediately sought resources that could help me. A book on marketing one’s services gave me the tools I needed and my confidence began to build. I saw myself successfully identifying possible clients, educating them about my services and how to reach me, and then letting those businesses decide if they would like to hire me. My job was to market / educate. This took the ‘sales’ pressure off, and I felt ready to move forward.

Within a few days, I was making cold-calls to area businesses who might need my services. Of my total list of 50 potential clients, 2 of them called me back to hire me then, and for years afterward. None of that would have happened had I not addressed what I feared, and pre-paved a positive outcome!

Know that you can make starting and growing your business easier using the tools I’ve shared here. You ARE capable of starting, running, and thriving with your business!


For the past decade I have specialized in working with female healing and creative solo- and entrepreneurs in various stages of starting or growing their businesses. If you’ve been struggling to start or build your creative or healing business, it doesn’t have to be that way. You always have the choice, and help is available when you are ready for it.

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with a photo by maridav

 

 

 

Managing the Naysayers

Managing the NaysayersHas this happened to you: Feeling good, joyfully setting and working toward goals that delight you when, seemingly out of nowhere, appear the naysayers discouraging your efforts.

Naysayers are the people in our lives finding fault with our decisions, questioning our ideas, and unable to believe in new possibilities.

You can tell a naysayer because they limited the possibilities in their own minds, and are convinced what is true for them is also true for others. They are known for generalized statements such as:

The field is over-saturated.

It’s impossible to succeed.

No one makes money doing that.

You’re going to fail.

I wouldn’t bother, if I was you.

You can’t afford that…

Sound familiar?

Naysayers

Those comments, by the way, are a sampling of what I was told after starting my presentation design business in the 1990s.

It was easy for me to dismiss them because I could really feel in my heart that this was the way to go…and the right time to do it.

Turns out, there was a great need for the services I was providing, and clients sought me out. The first year I replaced my corporate income and the second year I was earning six figures.

I remembered this 18 months later when I envisioned myself buying a new home and found that my real estate agent was, in fact, a naysayer. She didn’t believe in my ability, as a self-employed single parent, to afford a home of my own. Rather than help me find something in my budget, she gave me a map highlighting to the worst part of town (with houses ready to be demolished).

The Blessing in Naysayers

As with all contrast, there is a blessing in having naysayers in our life. They show us what *we* believe. If we are discouraged by naysayers, that reveals how we are not believing in ourselves. Even an inkling of worry or doubt in us will become triggered by the naysayers.

However, if we truly believe in what we are doing, then we cannot be dissuaded no matter what anyone else says or does. Naysayer comments will seem empty or almost comical because we know what we want, and we already feel the strong momentum of our success is underway. Like someone telling a builder it’s impossible to build a building when it’s already framed up and ready to finish.

If we recognize the naysayer for who they are, a person projecting their own fears, doubts, and limited beliefs, then it is easier to forgive them and move past their comments. This is what I did with my naysayer real estate agent.

Rather than argue with her or try to convince her that she was wrong, I recognized that she was just not with the program I had embarked upon. She didn’t see or understand the magic that I was already creating in my life. I mentally patted her on the top of her head, forgave her for not seeing the magic, and went around her to get approved by a mortgage lender and find the property I wanted to purchase. Then, I contacted her again to finalize the purchase.

Some people might have skipped that last step, and found a new agent who believed in them. Because I knew this agent personally, and knew she needed the sale (naysayers often live a difficult life), I wanted to help her out. I also wanted to share the magic I was creating, so she could open her eyes to new possibilities.

Tips for Managing Naysayers

  1. As always, it starts with you: Get clear on your decisions before you discuss them with others. When you are solid in your knowing, clear on what feels best to you, comments from naysayers will not bother you. In some cases, they might even amuse you.
  2. Be choosy. Chances are, you are aware of some naysayers in your life right now. Unless you enjoy conflict, be choosy about who has the privilege of discussing your business decisions with you. Not everyone in your life needs to know every business decision you have made.
  3. Naysayers who are closer to you: Significant other or a business partner, and/or both, who are naysayers really challenge our commitment to our choices. Managing naysayers who live and/or work with us requires us to really be in touch with how we feel, and be willing to own our power to make our own choices. When you know what is important and which decision feels best to you, you’ll be better able to detach yourself from their comments.If your business partner is constantly naysaying, despite your business decisions always working out well, it might be a good idea to renegotiate how you interact. Perhaps you can agree to each make certain decisions without each others approval. Or you might want to find a new business partner.
  4. When you are your own naysayer it is time to go within and figure out what’s going on. If you cannot trust your own ideas and decisions, it’s time to work on your self-love and self-esteem. There is no room for success and well-being when we lack trust in ourselves.
  5. Use the naysayer triggers to look at your own doubts and fears. When someone elses naysaying bothers you, it’s a good indication that you harbor some of those same feelings. Otherwise, their comments wouldn’t trigger you.
  6. Bless the naysayers. Yeah, you read that right: Mentally thank and appreciate the naysayers for either showing you your own doubts and fears, or for revealing how solid you feel on the topic. Either way, they are providing a valuable service, and that deserves some appreciation!

How have you dealt with naysayers? It’s your turn to share how you’ve dealt with the naysayers in your life…comment below so we can all benefit.

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The Power of Declaration

One of the most valuable lessons I learned about the Law of Attraction (LOA), and the one I hear talked about least, is the importance of letting go of the doubt and questioning, and replacing it with intent and declaration. You don’t have to completely work through the doubt, just be willing to set it aside and choose to speak with positive intent.

I talk to people who say they know all about LOA, have been practicing it for 10-20 years, who seem to be completely unaware of this truth or it’s power to create change. They talk about themselves, their life, and their services in a series of doubts and questions:

I’m trying something new, so I guess we’ll see…

I don’t know what I’m going to do…how do I get more traffic on my website?

I’m wondering WHAT I am doing that’s creating all these problems?

I have no idea where my next client is coming from…

It will be interesting to find out if this marketing is ever going to work…

Oh, my schedule is so crazy, I have no idea if I’ll have time for that [fill in the blank] next week. I really want to do it, but I don’t…

OK, I could go on, but I think you get the picture. In fact, you may recognize some of these statements in your own experience. If you want to create something new, you have to speak positively of its possibility, not the lack or doubt of it.

Let’s step back for a moment and review some fundamentals of the Law of Attraction: Your thoughts attract experiences that match in tone and vibration. Therefore, you get what you think about, whether you want it or not. Since you are almost always thinking during your waking hours, how you think/feel affects every aspect of your life.

Everyone who understands LOA will agree with the above, although the mechanics of it are a bit more complicated*. Mechanics aside, many LOA practitioners forget that you are creating through thoughts and feelings even when you are complaining, worrying, or saying that ‘nothing is working’. When you are making statements about your doubt, your fears, your worries, your concerns, you are still creating MORE of those doubtful, fearsome, or worrisome experiences.

Whatever you give your attention to, even if it is the LACK of something, you are also giving energy to it, and therefore, it is growing in response to your attention. You are literally creating the possibility when you give it attention, which means life is always making you right~everything you speak is an affirmation of something!

If you believe you are being disrespected, you’ll suddenly see evidence of this all around you.

If you are focusing mostly on where you are failing, or unsure, you are creating more experiences to feel like you are failing or unsure.

If you are focusing on a lack of clients or marketing success, you are creating more experiences that will point out the lack of clients or marketing success.

If you are doubting your abilities, LOA will line you up with proof to support your doubt.

If you are constantly asking questioning yourself, you will be shown more reasons to question yourself.

What’s equally true is this: When you get very clear about what you want (respect, success, clarity, clients, confidence, and self-esteem), and begin *intending* to experience these qualities, you will ALSO be shown proof of them!

Even if you don’t know how to accomplish your goal, if you remember that you are a creative being and what you state is possible to create, you can begin making powerful statements of intent.  By shifting your questions into declarations of what you desire to experience, you can begin to shift your experiences. That’s powerful and deliberate creation! When you open up to the possibility of change, even when you have no clue how to change, repeated declarations of intent will draw to you the people, resources, and opportunities to experience what you declared.

Don’t take my word for it, though…try it out for yourself. Stop doubting, start declaring. Notice where you have introduced doubt and confusion into your thoughts, and choose instead to declare what you prefer to experience. Then, share what you notice in the comments below…we can all learn from each other!

Remember to allow yourself to notice any emotions and thoughts come up when you try to shift your questions to declarations. Feel those emotions and give them your loving attention until they pass. They are important clues to any subconscious blocks that may be preventing you from moving forward. However, if you feel stuck in negative emotions, find a coach or therapist who will help you move through them.

*Your heart is 100 times more powerful electrically, and up to 5,000 times more powerful magnetically, than your brain. So, the electro-magnetic field generated by emotions, felt by your heart, is very powerful and connected to the Quantum Field of Possibilities! Research has shown that atoms are changed either electrically or magnetically, so our hearts have the capacity to change the atoms around us. If you’d like to know more, visit Gregg Braden and Dr. Bruce Lipton‘s sites, and search YouTube for some of their informative videos.

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