Crafting Your JOY List

So…you’ve decided what you truly desire. With your clear vision, you’ve set your intent, connected your mental image with the related heart-felt emotion, and can feel that your request has been granted.

Now what?

Well, now it’s up to the Universe to deliver it to you. The trouble is, often whether or not you have wanted something (person, thing, or experience) for a long time, or you really-reeeaaallly-REEEAAALLY NEEEED it as soon as possible, there is often such a strong emotional charge to receiving that we are actually unconsciously blocking the very thing we say we want.

That emotional charge is sometimes referred to as resistance. It comes in a variety of flavors, including but not limited to: neediness, anxiety, worry, frustration, irritation, and flat-out desperation. At worst, you begin immediately assuming that what you want is impossible, which triggers a feeling of heartache.

Buddhists suggest that you ‘let go of the attachment to the desire’. While I understand the concept they are advocating, I personally find it *very difficult* to suddenly stop wanting the very thing that I really-reeeaaallly-REEEAAALLY believe I want or need. To me, it’s like saying, you know that itch that’s driving you crazy~the one that is driving you WILD right now? Don’t scratch it. Whatever you do, DON’T scratch that itch!

Being OK with NOT getting something you really want, or worse, are in dire NEED of, is a huge mental shift. While I do believe it’s doable, I leave that particular technique to those more evolved souls who rival Christ Jesus and Buddha.

In my experience, at my level of consciousness, it’s a WHOLE lot easier and more efficient to just go do something FUN! Seriously. When you are doing something fun, you are usually more relaxed, breathing deeper, maybe even smiling or laughing, and you almost always are thinking about something else besides your worries and fears. As you relax, breathe, smile and laugh, you are also raising your vibration…all of which contribute to manifesting faster!

As I explained in my article, Getting Out of the How Business, I needed the help of my kitty cat to shift my energy into a better feeling place. It was worth that shift: Hours later, my desire showed up. We often need help to step into a better feeling place, and if you know this, you’ll feel better about seeking that help.

To facilitate this, I have created my own JOY LIST~ my ever-evolving go-to list of experiences that I know always lift me up when I need a little help in feeling better.

My list looks like this:
> Hang out with my kitty cats (any beloved pet will do nicely)

A friends puppy with the stuff toy I bought for him.

A friend’s puppy with the little stuffed hedgehog toy I bought for him.

> Spend time with children or loved ones (who are in a good mood and won’t discuss my creation process)

> Doing something with friends, like go for a drive or watch a movie (making a point not to discuss my creation process)

> Get out into nature (go for a walk or hike, picnic in a nearby park)

> Certain music (including *singing* certain songs like Zippity-Doo-Dah or I Can See Clearly Now)

> Exercise (moving my body’s energy)

> Other creative endeavors I enjoy: painting, drawing, baking, etc.

Don’t have a pet? Visit sites like Catster.com & Dogster.com for a quick pet-video fix.

These are in no particular order, although I find hanging out with my pets to be very effective mood shifter. It’s important to remember you are getting your mind off your desire, as you would if you *knew* what you wanted was already a done deal. I don’t have to do all of the things on the list at the same time. Each one of them does the job, depending on how I am feeling.

Once I’ve relaxed and feel better, and depending on the day or time, I often get inspired ideas to take action. Sometimes that means taking a nap (how’s THAT for inspired action!?!). It’s amazing how many times I have woken up from a nap to discover that what I wanted had manifested perfectly while I was napping!

Have you crafted a JOY LIST? If not, write one out and put it near your computer or bathroom mirror so you’ll know where to find it when you need it.

Already have a list? What’s on your JOY LIST? It’s your turn to share your stories and comments below

Effective Solopreneur: The Power of Taking Breaks

“Problems cannot be solved at the same level
of awareness that created them.” -Albert Einstein

I see it way too often: Solo business owners, accustomed to wearing many hats, working too long, often without breaks, and so overwhelmed that they haven’t noticed how ineffective they’ve become.

Ineffectiveness is the grim reaper for a solopreneur. Previously, I blogged about the paradigm shift toward more conscious business ownership and stewardship.

In the outdated business models, the route to success is paved only with hard work, struggle, sacrifice, and more hard work. Action, any action, no matter how off-base or  inappropriate was better than no action at all. If you just kept taking action, at some point you’d have success, and course-correction was a necessary daily ritual.

The above description is nothing new to anyone who worked for a high-tech company during the last 20 years~the experience is like non-stop unproductive chaos. It always amazed me when any of those tech companies made money, since it seemed to happen entirely *in spite* of the lack of focus or productivity!

In the new paradigm for conscious businesses, the route that brings the fastest and most effective results is driven by inspired action. Chaos is replaced with calm knowing. The outcome is always kept in mind, and course-correction is rarely necessary.

Inspiration, however, comes to those who are centered and have enough quiet time in their day to hear their intuitive guidance. To receive the guidance for inspired action, successful solo business owners *make* time for regular respits from their work.

Every successful business person, especially solopreneurs, has had to learn to create a regular schedule of quiet time. Thomas Edison was known for taking naps during the day.  Others employed various forms of meditation, including mindful moving meditations or walks in nature.

Regardless of the method you use to get *quiet* time away from your work, it is important to schedule these breaks even when you think you’re too busy to take time away from work. In fact, it’s usually THEN that you need that quiet break the most!

The benefits of regular breaks from your business, whether 10 minutes or 10 week sabbatical, go beyond the obvious: When we are too close to the problems in our business, we can’t see beyond them to the potential solutions. Trying to force a solution under those stressful circumstances actually keeps us stuck longer.

When we step away from problems, we shift our vibration enough to be out of the energy of the problem, and closer to the energy of a solution. Sudden flashes of insight and inspiration are more likely to happen when we are relaxing, and breathing deeply, than when we are under stress and breathing shallowly. Taking breaks improves your energy vibration and the oxygen flow to your BodyMind (the intelligence that functions in every cell in your body).

If you are small business owner or solopreneur who hasn’t been taking breaks, start scheduling regular breaks away from your work area.

If you are a business owner who has been taking regular breaks, drop us a comment below to share what works for you and the benefits you’ve experienced as a result.

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