The Key to Better Decisions

decisionsMaking good decisions is a big part of being alive, and has an even bigger role for the self-employed. Wouldn’t you love to know that you can easily improve your decision making skills while also improving your health, reducing your stress, and having more fun?!?

Sounds amazing, right. It is!

Relax Into It

As I’ve written before, there is tremendous power in relaxing on a regular basis. Research is showing us that when we’re relaxed, we think clearer. Solutions come to us quicker when we’re not stressed. Our DNA relaxes, too, opening up access to receptors that allow us to heal our body. The list of  benefits goes on. Plus, we’re also a lot more fun to be around when we aren’t stressed out of our mind.

Decisions Come with Ease

Marc Allen is a successful composer and the multi-millionaire founder of publishing house, New World Library. (He originally founded Whatever Publishing with Shakti Gawain, which later became New World Library). In this wonderful 2011 interview with Lilou Mace, Marc candidly and humorously shares his personal journey to creating and sustaining his successful business.

If you haven’t watched this before, grab your favorite drink and enjoy this inspiring conversation. (Even if you have watched it before, it’s fun to watch each time.)

Marc has thrived the most when he made regular time for relaxation, with his attention on appreciation and his custom affirmations…and struggled when he forgot his practice. As a result, he’s learned to build some serious relaxation time into his business, beginning with his unique work schedule. Marc works Tuesday through Friday, after 1pm only, and part of Saturday. The rest of the time he reserves to ensure he has plenty of time to rest, relax, and watch clouds float by. His business flourishes when he makes time for this important practice.

His examples shows that you can start a great business with little money, and grow it successfully with ease. Here’s his favorite affirmation:

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After watching this video, and learning how relaxation, appreciation, and affirmations can improve your business decision-making, what are you inspired to do next? Please share your thoughts below in the comments.

Getting Into Agreement With Your Business

agreementWhat does the term “getting into agreement” make you think as a Conscious Creator of your business?

I must admit that when I first read that term, I got the impression of agreeing to disagree and forcing oneself to agree even when we don’t want to (or it doesn’t feel good). The idea, itself, was not appealing.

Getting into Agreement

Several days ago, I was looking in my library for a particular book that remained elusive as I came across Catherine Ponder’s classic Open Your Mind to Receive. Flipping it open, I came to the chapter entitled, “Your Gift of Agreement”, where the author references the ancient saying…

“When you agree with life, then life agrees with you. Always there is ground for agreement. Agree and withdraw in peace.”

Even that quote left me wondering if she intends for us to ‘stuff our feelings’ and go along to get along. If you don’t dig deeper, though, you could also be left with that incomplete impression.

Reading through a number of stories about how agreeing with their disagreeable circumstances allowed each person to succeed, I realized the connection between choosing to ‘agree’ and posts I’ve written about embracing every experience as a blessing, softening contrast, and being discerning about the labels we choose.

All of those posts were based on some profound personal and professional experiences that showed me how we *morph* the energy field around us in real-time as we shift our own energy and allow ourselves to see/feel good, no matter what is happening around us. I’ve literally experienced very dark experiences shift AS I made a conscious choice to see the good in the experience, then watched circumstances shift to reflect the good I was consciously choosing to see. Some would even call them miracles, although Conscious Creators would recognize Law of Attraction in action.

Agreement in Your Business

At some point in every business, you’ll have an experience with another person (vendor, employee, client, customer, etc.) or situation where this idea could not only make it much CPonder Agreement Quoteeasier to navigate, but allow the outcome to be pleasant for all involved.

Many who are not Conscious Creators are unaware of how the simple act of deciding we have a problem keeps the “problem” locked in place. The moment we begin to decide we are blessed, and that this situation is proof of such blessings, we’re opening the door to experience the blessings embedded in the problem—and to watch the solutions reveal themselves!

We have the power to free ourselves almost from the moment of acknowledging our belief that a problem exists.

Ponder encourages her readers to agree with the good in an adverse situation, even when it’s in the past: “When you agree with a situation by pronouncing it good—whether it seems to be good for you or not—you are agreeing with the unseen good in the situation. You are opening the way for it to appear.”

Your Business Is Listening

As you open the way for good to appear, you will notice opportunities, people, and solutions that elude those who are focused on the problem(s). This is the Law of Attraction revealing itself to us in every part of our life and business! Decide you have a problem, and you do.

The more you decide your problem cannot be solved, the less likely you’ll become aware of solutions. Decide that you are blessed, that there is good abounding in your situation(s), that everything and everyone is serving your highest good, and likewise you’ll be proven right!

Henry Ford was believed to have said, “Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right.”

Ponder shares a number of stories where people came together in agreement for the benefit of all involved, but she also reminds us that we can do this on our own by ‘speaking our agreement in our own heart’.

I’ve experienced this firsthand on many occasions. One time, I was dealing with a very difficult and abusive client. She was quarrelsome and constantly changing the specifications and scope, although she seemed unaware.

In the middle of her project, when I was not about to quit, this client called me and began insulting me over the phone. Instead of responding in kind (which anyone would have said I was justified in doing), I let her speak as I opened my mind to the idea that she was a blessing. I silently spoke Ho’oponopono to myself, and she began to calm down then excused herself from the call.

Although I was shaken from the experience, I also knew that if I didn’t clear my own energy, the difficult situation with this client would prevail. Then, completing the project would be even more difficult!

I stopped where I was in my office, put my hand on my heart, and took several deep breaths as though I was breathing through my heart. (This is the way HeartMath teaches first responders to calm themselves in the middle of crisis.)

From this centered place I thanked this woman for being a blessing in my life and business. I asked for white light and angels to support this woman in whatever crisis she was facing, and I gave thanks for the unseen support I was receiving. In just a few moments, I felt calm and clear, and ready to finish the project for this client.

From that point on, every time I dealt with this client she was congenial and easy going as if she was a different person! Yet…I had not said a word to her about her abusive behavior toward me. We had not experienced any of the drama that is normally involved in confrontations. The project was completed successfully, and everyone was happy.

Difficult clients can be declared a blessing, and frustrating business scenarios can be named a success. By opening the door to seeing our most difficult business issues as a blessing, we take our focus off problems and the universe responds. Even if you don’t know what the future holds for your business, you can start now by labeling your business a total success. Today, and every day.

Ponder also shares a story of a business woman who found herself in the presence of a man who talked lack, poverty, and limitation which left her feeling impoverished. This negative focus affected her own finances, and soon she was blaming this man for her failing business. Can you relate?

At some point, she remembered the power of agreement and chose to reverse her thinking, look past his negative attitude, and agree with the well-being in her situation.

She said to herself: “This man is in my life for my good and for my prosperity.”  Soon after, through this man, she received a lucrative business referral. Then, he faded out of her life by moving to a distant city. Nothing changed for her until she changed her own attitude, and declared the good in this man and her situation.

Recognizing our power to agree with the current circumstances, imagining it working for our benefit, we soon realize there is no such thing as failure. Even the most difficult experiences teach us something about ourselves and others.

Where can your business benefit from declaring success, and seeing the good?

Image credit: Composite created by Barry-Jansson & Associates
from images by Igor Goncharenko (sky) and rawpixel (people).

Charmed Business

charmedBusiness books and business schools teach, what they consider to be, practice how-to’s as if that is all a business owner needs to be successful. They completely leave out the discussion about energy except a perfunctory: Stay positive.

Which is practically meaningless unless we have been managing our vibration on a regular basis! Because the energy of our thoughts cascades down to our words, actions, and how others feel around us.

It’s easy to be positive when everything is going well in our business. If we only remember to manage our vibration when we are mired in difficulty, then it’s a lot harder than if we’ve been doing it all along.

Charmed

Recently, I was reminded of this quote by Abraham about living a charmed life:

You would walk around, and you would be saying, whether you say it out loud or you say it to yourself, “I am a wonderful Being. There is nothing that I cannot achieve. The world addresses itself to me always in positive ways. Everything always works out magnificently for me. I live a charmed life. Things are supposed to (and always do) go well for me. Seas part for me. I have the resources of the Universe at my disposal. I live in an environment where I am inspired to a new thought. And as soon as I give birth to it, things align in order to bring me the actualization or the manifestation of it. I am an extension of Source Energy. I am God in a physical body and I am good. And because I am good, good things come to me.
—Abraham-Hicks, Washington, D.C., 10/15/05

Reading it again got me thinking about running a charmed business – one in which all the resources arrive as needed, as if magically called. Engaging the Universal forces to assist you in everything from creating your products and services, developing your marketing and sales processes, attracting ideal clients/customers, and getting the word out about your business.

Think this is far-fetched?

In her book, Hiring the Heavens, author Jean Slatter called on non-physical forces for assistance with writing the book, editing it, and finding the ideal publisher. Slatter specifically asked her dream angelic support team to identify the best publisher for her. Soon, she received guidance to check out New World Library in California. As soon as she did, she knew this was going to be her publisher.

Contrary to what most writing experts would suggest, Slatter sent the manuscript directly to New World Library and they accepted her manuscript and published the book, despite having a policy of only working with agents. They FELT her energy and responded to it!

Our business is an energy stream that is continually responding to how we feel, think and talk about it (to others and ourselves). It is mirroring back to us the energy of our actions, just as our relationships, health, and money are mirrors.

If we’re feeling optimistic and excited, even if we don’t know exactly HOW to take action, we’re more likely to have an outcome that reinforces the vibration of “optimism and excited”.

Likewise if we’re feeling defeated, overwhelmed, and frustrated.

It’s up to us. We must DECIDE how we are going to feel in our business, minute-to-minute, day-to-day…and how others receive the results of our efforts.

That time that my client’s feedback contained exactly the words and phrases I was thinking while working on their project taught me this, too. Other people FEEL the energy with which we create or serve, even if they are not consciously aware of it.

As soon as I realized this, I became more conscious about my own energy while taking actions in my business. I asked for guidance to meet or exceed my client’s expectations…even expectations the client wasn’t even aware of having! I received and took action on the guidance, and clients raved!

Sure, there could be days when we have to consciously remind ourselves, or even cut ourselves some slack. But, the tumultuous waves of those difficult days are a lot easier to surf if we’ve been practicing vibration management every day.

We Are the Ones

It’s up to us to start seeing/feeling/knowing our business as charmed, magical, thriving entity with every resource available at its disposal. When vendors are needed, they reveal themselves. When additional funding or business loans are needed, we identify an ideal source. When we are ready for more clients/customers, they hear our energetic call. When we know our business is providing a needed product or service while making the world a better place, we will see that ‘reality’ mirrored back to us.

Imagine how your business would respond if this was how you thought and felt about it…
“My business is magical, and everything we do makes the world a better place! The world addresses itself to my business always in positive ways. Everything always works out magnificently for my clients, my vendors, and my business, creating fabulous and fun win-win-win experiences for all involved!

I run a charmed business! Day-to-day business details are supposed to (and always do) go well. Seas part for my business success. My magical business has the resources of the Universe at its disposal. As soon as I encounter inspired thoughts and feelings about my business, things align in order to actualize or the manifest it in my magical business. My business is inspiring, uplifting, and connecting me moment-to-moment with the inspiration and resources of Source Energy. I love my charmed business!”

What I’d love to know is…how are you choosing to see the magic in your business?

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Manifesting Moods

Manifesting Moods

What do you think about when you think about ‘moods’? When I think of that word, I usually think about the negative ones, but in The Law and the Promise, mid-20th Century author and speaker Neville Goddard wrote eloquently about consciously using POSITIVE MOODS to actually *invite* positive outcomes.

In chapter 7, Neville writes…

Men regard their moods far too much as effects and not sufficiently as causes.

Moods are imaginal activities without which no creation is possible.

We say that we are happy because we have achieved our goal; we do not realize that the process works equally well in the reverse direction — that we shall achieve our goal because we have assumed the happy feeling of the wish fulfilled.

Think about that for a moment: by consciously choosing to feel GOOD, you are activating your imagination to create positive shifts. LOA enthusiasts will immediately recognize this truth, but how many of us have understood it from the term “moods”? You may recognize the term “wish fulfilled” from one of Wayne Dyer’s recent books. Dr. Dyer was reinterpreting Neville’s teachings.

If you have ever watched The Dog Whisperer or Leader of the Pack with Cesar Milan, you’ve seen him INDUCE a positive mental attitude in dogs simply by changing the dog’s physical position. By forcing a dog to lay down, the dog’s body begins to naturally relax and as the body relaxes, so does the mind. By experiencing a different physical posture, the dog is able to find peace of mind.

The principal which Neville writes about is very similar concept, but using imaginal moods ~ moods conjured in the imagination ~ versus physical postures.

In The Law and The Promise, Neville shares this inspiring story which is well worth repeating. Read it and see where you might apply this suggestion in your life:

The lady in the following story so successfully felt the feeling of her wish fulfilled, she made her mood the character of the night — frozen in a delightful dream.

“Most of us read and love fairy stories, but we all know that stories of improbable riches and good fortune are for the delight of the very young. But are they? I want to tell you of something unbelievably wonderful that happened to me through the power of my imagination — and I am not ‘young’ in years.

We live in an age which believes in neither fable nor magic, and yet everything I could possibly want in my wildest day-dreams was given to me by the simple use of what you teach — that ‘imagining creates reality’ and that ‘feeling’ is the secret of imagining.

“At the time this wonderful thing happened to me I was out of a job and had no family to fall back upon for support. I needed just about everything. To find a decent job I needed a car to look for it, and though I had a car, it was so worn out it was ready to fall apart. I was behind in my rent; I had no proper clothes to seek a job; and today it’s no fun for a woman of fifty-five to apply for a job of any kind. My bank account was almost depleted and there was no friend to whom I could turn.

“But I had been attending your lectures for almost a year and my desperation forced me to put my imagination to the test. Indeed, I had nothing to lose. It was natural for me, I suppose, to begin by imagining myself having everything I needed. But I needed so many things and in such short order that I found myself exhausted when I finally got through the list, and by that time I was so nervous I could not sleep. One lecture night I heard you tell of an artist who captured the ‘feeling’, or ‘word’, as you called it, of ‘isn’t it wonderful!’ in his personal experience.

“I began to apply this idea to my case. Instead of thinking of and imagining every article I needed, I tried to capture the ‘feeling’ that something wonderful was happening to me — not tomorrow, not next week — but right now.

I would say over and over to myself as I fell asleep, ‘Isn’t it wonderful! Something marvelous is happening to me now!’ And as I fell asleep I would feel the way I would expect to feel under such circumstances.

“I repeated that imaginary action and feeling for two months, night after night, and one day in early October I met a casual friend I hadn’t seen for months who informed me he was about to leave on a trip to New York. I had lived in New York many years ago and we talked of the city a few moments and then parted. I completely forgot the incident. One month later, to the day, this man called at my apartment and simply handed me a Certified Check in my name for twenty-five hundred dollars. After I got over the initial shock of seeing my name on a check for so much money, the story that unfolded seemed to me like a dream. It concerned a friend I had not seen nor heard from in more than twenty-five years. This friend of my past, I now learned, had become extremely wealthy in those twenty-five years. Our mutual acquaintance who had brought the check to me had met him quite by accident during the trip to New York last month. During their conversation they spoke of me, and for reasons I was not to know (for to this day I have not heard from him personally and have never attempted to contact him) this old friend decided to share a portion of his great wealth with me.

“For the next two years, from the office of his attorney, I received monthly checks so generous in amount they not only covered every necessary requirement of daily living, but left much over for all the lovely things of life: a car, clothes, a spacious apartment — and best of all, no need to earn my daily bread.

“This past month I received a letter and some legal papers to be signed which provide the continuation of this monthly income for the rest of my natural life!” …T.K.

How have you consciously used your moods to materialize positive change in your life? Share your comments and stories below!

 

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How to Soften Contrast

Abe Rampage

At some point in the process of honing Deliberate Creation skills, someone will get mired in their contrast and ask “how do I get rid of contrast?”. Contrast is part of the experience of living in duality. So until you move on to another dimension without duality, Deliberate Creators are called to use their skills deliberately.

While I have broached the subject that ‘everything is a blessing’ many times, now more than ever this message is important to truly embody. The time for philosophizing is over. Now it’s time to LIVE what you have learned and continue to learn.

I was watching this video the other day, of Abraham (channeled by Esther Hicks) speaking to a group in California in February 2013, making this point beautifully (as usual). If you feel inspired to watch this video a few times or meditate to it in order to “feel the truth of it”, then do so. Follow what feels good to you as you watch this…

We are all connected energetically to each other through Source. When we make an enemy of any person or experience, we are also making an enemy of ourselves which creates a no-win situation.

Instead, BLESS the people or situations for what they are showing you…and while understanding they are helping you get clear about what matters to you, soften your attitude toward contrast. The contrast is less of an issue than your response to it, as your response has the power to hold you in that contrast.

When you bless the contrast, it will not only help you move through the contrast more quickly and smoothly, it is also a form of self-love. You are consciously acknowledging and finding value in another aspect of yourself. As you stop resisting what you don’t like, but rather use the information it provides to focus on what your preferences, then by the Law of Attraction the contrast must shift vibrationally.

You are the tuning fork to which the Universe is responding. What vibration are you transmitting? Soften your response to contrast, shift your vibrational tune, and the response from the Universe must shift as well.

In this video, Abraham rampages appreciation for life. From this rampage of appreciation emerges many positive affirmations in the video, including this one:

Everything affirmation

What other affirmations or insights do you get from this video? Share your thoughts about the blessing of contrast below…

Watch Out, Kinked-up Vibes!

This (Vibe) Doctor is IN!

It’s Official: I am now one of the Vibe Doctors as a Small Business and Vibe Shift Expert! It is truly an honor for me to work beside the fellow Vibe Doctors to help straighten out the vibes globally.

If you have been wanting a chance to work with me, this is a great opportunity. For the fraction of the cost of individual coaching, you can now get a customized vibe prescription on one specific issue to help you move forward for just $47USD. Full-time individual coaching clients pay $997USD to work with me, so getting a vibe prescription is a great value!

Who are the Vibe Doctors? Quoting the site directly…

Your “Vibe Doctor” is a highly skilled and trained expert in energy, vibration and how to best manage it.  All the professionals writing your prescriptions are “Good Vibe Certified” and gifted at quickly spotting and resolving energetic misalignments.  You can choose to have your prescription filled by any of the following “doctors” currently on staff (each of them has a particular specialty near and dear to their heart), or just let the first available respond to your request.

TheVibeDoctor.comFor TheVibeDoctor.com, I am specializing in helping small business owners and everyone who wants help shifting their vibe to a higher level.

Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach and founder of Good Vibe University created TheVibeDoctor.com to bring together vibe-lifting experts with people who want a quick, fun, and easy way to shift their biggest concerns.

Abraham-Hicks is always reminding us that our vibration is affecting everything we attract and experience, including our perspective. If you’ve been limping around with a kinky vibe, let a Vibe Doctor write you a prescription today. It’s one of the most important act of self-care and self-love that you may every take!

I am personally thrilled to be part of this site and be able to offer assistance at a more affordable level. It is an honor to work beside Jeannette and fellow Vibe Doctors.

Check out TheVibeDoctor.com and share your comments below!

Use the Holidays to Lift Your Vibe!

Whether you are feeling down this holiday season and need a quick lift, or you find yourself mired in negativity on occasion, having some positive resources to turn to is vital to keeping your energy positively focused. Here are some quick resources to have ready when you are looking to be uplifted or maintain your positive energy.

It’s as easy as 1-2-3…

I have been recommending for a long time to create your own JOY list. No one knows what makes you feel good and lifts your spirit better than you! So, get started on one or update the one you have and put it out where you will see it daily and remember to refer to it.

Check out my updated VibeLifters page with even more vibelifting goodies…free or for a fee, but all highly recommended! There are podcasts, books, audios, videos, and more! This list is constantly being updated, so bookmark it, share it, and check back often.

Watch something eye-opening and inspiring right now…Don’t have something inspiring to watch? Below is an interview Lilou Mace did with the co-founder of New World Library, From Drop-out to Multimillionaire. His story is eye-opening and inspiring on many levels. Grab a cuppa your favorite and treat yourself to something amazing:

How do you life your vibe during the holidays? Share your thoughts below…

Choice Versus Money: A Powerful Lesson

Rikka ZimmermanEarlier today, I was listening to Rikka Zimmerman’s interview about the Access Consciousness process ~ a process that includes asking a series of questions to unlock the mind and also a clearing statement to remove limiting beliefs.

As I listened to this today, one of the most powerful things Rikka discusses is not putting “money before CHOICE”. What does that mean?

Putting money before choice is when…
You really want something with all your heart, whether an object or an experience, but before you allow yourself to entertain the idea of having or experiencing, you shut it down with negative thoughts like:

  • I (We) can’t afford it
  • That will never happen
  • There’s no way I’d be able to do that
  • I never get what I want, anyway
  • Everyone else’s needs come before mine
  • Fill in the blank…the excuse doesn’t matter because they all have the same affect of shutting down the possibility

How often do you put money before choice, or before what really makes your heart sing?

People who have continually have money make choices based on the outcome they prefer (choice), not the presence or availability of money, itself. In fact, many wealthy people will happily go into debt temporarily, using other people’s money in return for interest, in order to make even more money. That’s called investing.

The interesting thing about whether you can ‘afford’ an experience is that we can always AFFORD what we believe is possible. There is no shortage of money when we believe in the possibility of having or experiencing something we truly desire.

People who attract and always have a flow of money coming in not only know how to steward that money, how to invest it to make it grow, but they know that CHOICE always takes priority over money.

To be very clear: I’m not telling you to whip out your credit card and head to the nearest mall. Far from it.

What I am suggesting is that you first become fully conscious of how you feel and never put money before something you truly desire to experience. I am asking you to shift your focus from what you don’t have to what lights you up!

When you focus your attention FIRST on what lights up your heart…the Universe gets that signal and will knock itself out to bring you the experience or the money to purchase the experience! Either someone will offer the experience to you, or will hire you in a way that provides the money for the experience, or the money will make it’s way into your account.

The first time I realized this powerful truth, I really wanted to have solar panels installed on my home so that I would be generating electricity all year round. When I thought about the cost of the solar panels, I could feel the wind being sucked out of my lungs. I didn’t have any extra money for anything other than paying my bills. Just the thought of how much it cost made me want to forget about it all together!

However, the Abraham materials have taught me that emotions are important indicators of where we are vibrationally. When something feels good to think about, it means those thoughts are in alignment with what Source, or the greater part of you, feels about the same subject.

When I thought about having solar panels on the roof of my home, always generating electricity, it just lit me up inside. The feeling was infectious, expansive, delightful – it just felt really, really GOOD!

So, I stopped thinking about the cost, and focused my imagination on *seeing* those solar panels installed on my roof and knowing that they were always generating electricity for my home. Within 7 months I had the cash to pay for those solar panels in full. Every day, I am thrilled to know the solar panels are on my roof generating electricity and I am so happy that I put my choice above the money.

Money will come from wherever it is to wherever you want it, as long as you don’t put it before what lights you up and fills you with joy. Money is energy that is meant to serve you, not for you to become a slave to it. Putting your choice before money sends a signal to the Universe/Quantum Field about what makes you truly happy. The signals we send out are always answered. Life mirrors back to us what we think is possible based on where we are focusing our attention.

Now it’s your turn – I want to hear from you. Share your experiences putting choice before money below…

Turning My Thoughts Around

You’ve probably heard it before, and know from your own experience: It’s easy to be calm and positively focused when all is going well. The REAL TEST is how you handle life in the face of major emotional upheavals.

Abraham uses the term “contrast” for any experience that is different from what we would choose to experience. Like an artist placing a dark color next to a lighter color creates visual contrast, the difference between experiences we want and those we don’t want creates emotional contrast. This past week, I had some major emotional contrast that gave me an opportunity to learn and grow.

Last Sunday night, I was in my home office working when I heard blood-curdling howling from my sweet kitty, Thelma. I raced to find her in my son’s room (she never goes in there), behind the door, her body shaking and unable to move or stand. As soon as I saw her, I realized that my darling Thelma – the caregiver kitty and loveball extraordinaire – was preparing to transition into non-physical energy. (That’s metaphysical-speak …Abraham just calls it “croaking” because they say there is no death, only energetic transformation.)

Everyone who knows me, knows that I truly adore kitties, and especially the bonded pair I adopted in early 2008 (Thelma and Louise). Thelma had become my personal shadow and furry office receptionist. She rarely left my side, showing such unconditional love and devotion that I sometimes wondered if she thought she was human!

So, when I saw her Sunday night, I realized just how much I was NOT ready to see her leave physical form!!! Seeing her like this was heartbreaking. I was crying and had to keep reminding myself: This was HER process, not mine. My job was to love her and honor her through that process.

The next morning, I made preparations to take Thelma to the Humane Society. Once I had her loaded in her carrier, sitting safely in the back seat, I began the drive to the new facility on the other side of South Bay.

What happened next really surprised me: As I drove, one negative thought after another piled into my mind. This is not normal for me. Usually, when a thought arises that fills me with negative emotion, I know it is an indicator to shift my thinking and get clear about what I really want. Once I do, I milk those better-feeling thoughts until they quickly multiply and I am feeling much better.

Monday was different. Instead of milking positive thoughts, I had been unconsciously milking NEGATIVE THOUGHTS about losing this precious kitty. I dearly wanted Thelma to LIVE, without pain or discomfort, but that option was not present. Every stop light, I had to remind myself that this was HER process – and if she was ready to go – it was not my place to keep her stuck in her painful, paralyzed body.

No matter how I looked at it, this was MAJOR CONTRAST for me:

Seeing Thelma immobilized and in pain = CONTRAST

Thinking of losing Thelma = CONTRAST

 

As I drove my precious Thelma to the Humane Society on Monday, my dominant thoughts were about losing her, and not having her soft, furry body cuddled up with me, purring and happy to be with me. The more I milked these thoughts, the harder I cried and the worse I felt. At times, I could barely see the road in front of me because of the tears.

Then I realized: In my deep sadness and milking negative thoughts, I had taken a wrong turn and was heading in the wrong direction. Both literally…and emotionally!

This sudden realization snapped me out of my cycle of negative thinking. I realized I had to quickly compose myself and get going in the right direction. But, when you are that far down the negative rabbit hole, how do you quickly excavate yourself and start feeling better? That’s when my coaching skills kicked in. I remembered that I do have control over the thoughts I choose to think. For me the key was…

 

Get back in the present moment by Focusing ONLY on what I know is true *right now*!

Moment-by-moment, I shifted my focus only to what I knew to be true….

I am driving in the wrong direction and need to turn around.

I hear Thelma is meowing in her carrier.

I am turning the car around.

I am now driving in the right direction.

I am not sure where I am, so I will ask directions.

(Stopped and got directions.)

I am going in the right direction now.

I am at the Humane Society’s parking lot wondering which entrance to use.

I see a vet tech and ask about the entrances, and go in the one she recommends.

I am carrying Thelma inside.

I am speaking with the staff and carrying Thelma down the hall…

 

As I focused only on the present, my energy shifted immediately and I was able to compose myself. I was calm and focused, able to give my full attention to each task. I still cried, but I wasn’t feeling overwhelmed.

Thelma passed peacefully of natural causes just after being given the anesthesia. It was her time to go. This was her process and her timing, and I was at peace being present with her at that sacred moment of transition.

Focusing only on the present moment, second to second, helped me quickly shift out of the negative cycling and remain calm and present when it really mattered.

As I drove home, I realized that thinking about losing a beloved pet is just one sad thought. If I had allowed myself to be present with that one thought, it would have been enough. That sad thought didn’t need my unconscious help to become 10 – 15 – or 20 sad thoughts all at one time. I came away from this experience realizing that I have the power to remain calm and focused in the midst of major contrast – and all I have to do is DECIDE to be fully present and focus only on what I know to be true.

Have you had an experience like this? How do you turn your thoughts around in the red-hot moment of contrast?

Showing Up for *FUN* (instead of work)

View this photographer's pageWhen you think or hear the word “work“, what goes through your mind? Do you automatically think hardship, difficulty, frustration, irritation?

What do you feel in your body? Do you feel angst and tension in your body? Maybe a feeling of dread?

When you think a thought often enough, it becomes a belief. When you hold a belief long enough, it becomes ingrained in the cells and tissues of your body. This is nature coding and preparing your body so you can act quickly in the face of potential danger. Instead of lions and tigers (OH MY!), these days most folks are facing stress and perceived danger from their health, relationships, and yes…their work.

Most of what we believe about work is what we were taught by the adults in our life when we were young. Most of us were taught that no one would pay you to do something fun. We were taught the big money comes from doing the hard, frustrating, dirty, and difficult jobs. Now that you are an adult, you get to ask yourself: Is what I have been taught about work REALLY true? Is there a different way to view work?

If you doubt there is a different way to look at work, remember how you felt about work when you had been out of work for a while.

Is it possible to show up for FUN (instead of work)?

Well, I not only think we can…I *KNOW* we can! But, first, showing up for fun (instead of work) starts with reprogramming our mind and body to view the work we do for a living in a different way. Chances are, you’ve been affirming (every day for many years) a lot of negative ideas about work.

There are lots of people every day who make good money doing work they enjoy and having fun along the way. In fact, the people who make really big money are often the ones having the most fun and saying things like, “I’d still do this work even if they didn’t pay me!” Who says you have to suffer and dislike your work experience? (Where you got the message that work had to be so unpleasant is much less important than making the decision NOW to experience more FUN, instead of work!)

To experience something different, it’s time to start affirming something different…something aligned with all the fun you ALREADY experience in your work! Put the spotlight on the fun you experience at work, for a change. Keep affirming the fun, and the universe will pick up on your new signal and begin mirroring it back to you!

Try this exercise:

• Write down all the ways in which you have fun in your current work

• Remember to include the social relationships and connections you have because you work

• Include the things about work you often laugh and joke about

• Post the list somewhere you can see it every day when getting ready for ‘work’ fun

• The next time the subject of work comes up in your mind or conversations, recall the list you’ve compiled

When you begin focusing on the FUN you have at work, you’ll start remembering it more, and attracting more FUN into your job every day. The more fun you attract and acknowledge, the more you’ll prepave FUN into your day! Give it a try.

NLP Practitioners tell us it takes at least 21 days of regularly repeating a new habit to create a new neural pathway in our brain. So, once you have your list, keep it handy and give it some attention every day for a good 30 days or more.

I’d love to read your stories about showing up for FUN instead of work? Share them below in the comments…

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