Managing Expectations

expectationsWe all can benefit from getting help with our businesses, but have you ever looked at your hiring expectations? It’s typical for business owners to reach out to others for assistance with issues we’re not sure how to resolve. We certainly cannot, and most of don’t want to, do it all.

However, when you feel that you’re incapable of solving a problem and you think hiring someone else is the ‘magic bullet’, it’s a clue that it’s time to examine your own (energetic) expectations. No journey that starts with anticipating problems will ever end with good results.

Expectations and Experience

The energy with which we hire others will be reflected in our experience, both of them and their work.

When we’re aligned with the expectation of difficulty, struggle, and irritation, it’s pretty likely that is also what we’ll attract in the support personnel and advisors we hire. The Universe is a BIG YES machine, mirroring back to us what we believe and expect.

This mirroring is also known as the Law of Attraction, which is working 24/7, whether you’re aware of it or not. Like energy is always aligning. That’s great news when your focus is positive and uplifting, but not so great when you’re entrenched in a gnarly problem.

How deeply you feel about a problem gives a clue to how emotionally attached you’ve become, and where it’s time to let go.

When I feel desperate to solve a problem, hiring others to help me is not the best action to take. The intense focus on the problem is, whether we like it or not, adding more energy to the problem that to a solution.

Instead, I’ve learned to manage my own energetic expectations, first. Until I shift out of my problem-focus, real solutions cannot present themselves. The energy of the problem and the solution(s) are at opposite ends of the spectrum. My job is to shift my expectations to the solutions end, open my mind to possibilities, and find better-feeling thoughts. As I do, the solutions become visible to me.

Get clear about the solution you’re seeking: How do you feel when you’ve discovered a solution? Happy? Relieved? Amazed? Appreciative? Satisfied? Whatever you feel, those will be awesome emotions for you to focus upon and pre-pave as you consider who to hire and the fabulous outcome of working with them!

Once you’re clear on how you want the solution to feel, open your mind to possible solutions you’ve never considered. None of us know *everything*, even when it feels like we’ve tried everything.

Hire your assistants and advisors from the place of knowing great solutions exist, how it is you want to feel when the work is completed, and how much you enjoy the working relationship(s). This is how you manage your own hiring expectations!

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Acting on Inspiration

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Although I’ve previously written about Intuition and Inspired Action, this post is really about the finer art of acting on inspiration.

Chances are, as a creative or healing entrepreneur, listening to your intuition is like second-nature to you. There’s no need to preach to the choir about the power of intuition.

Acting on Inspiration

Inspiration is defined as the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially to do something creative. Some thoughts are inspiring, others not so much and there’s a good reason for that.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: True inspiration comes with the energy to act upon it. In fact, it’s common for inspiration to be so moving, that it propels you forward into action before you’ve even realized it. So many times, I’ve realized I was inspired when the action itself is nearly complete. THAT is the incredible power of inspiration!

If you have a thought that doesn’t feel inspiring or come with the energy to complete the task, that emotional response is a sign for you to STOP.

Does this scenario sound familiar…

Just as you are winding down for the day, you get this GREAT IDEA that is so exciting you almost do not want to go to sleep…so you write it down to take action first thing in the morning. The next morning, you look at the idea again and it barely warrants a shrug. You wonder: What was I thinking when I bothered to write this down? Your excitement to take the action has transformed into doubt as to why you’d ever want to give that idea your energy.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. It’s not all bad news, either. Great ideas come to entrepreneurs ALL the time. Reminds me of the phrase, “Ideas are a dime a dozen.” But it’s not the idea’s fault or problem that it didn’t stir you the next day. Ideas, themselves, are neutral.

Let’s start with the REALLY GOOD news: Ideas are flowing to you. Celebrate that. Seriously! It’s a very good thing to have a consistent flow of ideas, especially as an entrepreneur.

The most successful entrepreneurs appreciate good ideas, even the ones they won’t be taking action on! James Altucher has written about his practice of generating 10 ideas a day for others, honing his skills for coming up with (hopefully some) good ideas for himself, as well.

However, having a steady flow of ideas doesn’t mean every idea is meant for you or your business. If the idea no longer appeals, it’s meant for someone else to take action. Let it go.

That late-night flash which felt so good at the time is still a great idea…but it’s not the great idea for you to act upon when the positive feeling is gone the next day. Don’t *diss* the idea, itself, just recognize that the lack of juice is showing you it’s not for you to take action upon.

Pet Peeve: Misleading “Massive Action”

There are many motivational speakers insisting everyone take “Massive Action” to attain success. People are told to take action, ANY action, and a LOT of it! This is a very masculine approach to life…Get out there…Assert yourself on everything and everyone…GO, GO, GO!!! If you snooze, you loose…

Even when it’s the wrong action for you or your business. Even if you’re flailing. Even if you’re burning yourself out. Even if you’re miserable and making everyone around you miserable. Even when the results are no where near what you desire. Just keep forcing yourself to do more, do it faster, and never stop.

Let’s not forget all the shaming of those who don’t feel inspired to take action.

By comparison, the intuitive entrepreneur can continue to generate a flow of ideas, while honing their ability to sense which ideas are theirs to act upon. Which ideas feel good and have a positive energy to them? Which ideas do you find yourself acting on with ease and joy? Which tasks have you almost completed while contemplating the idea?

This is a more feminine approach to life, but it also preserves our energy for important things (not just our business), and makes our work more enjoyable. Taking action in this way feels good, productive, positive, and meaningful. No flailing or burning out. Just ease, flow, and a deeper connection with our own sense of purpose which brings more energy back into our experience.

Allowing Inspiration Creates More Ease and Flow

For me, who tends toward overwork when I’m not consciously aware, I have noticed that really feeling into an idea helps me determine if it’s right for me. Blog posts area a great example, and a reason why I don’t post daily.

When the inspiration is real, it’s not just excitement I feel but also the powerful energy that comes with it. I’ve learned to let go of the interesting ideas that didn’t have that underlying positive energy, knowing they are meant for someone else.

For some of you, that underlying positive energy might be anger. When you have felt helpless and depressed for a while, anger is a step up the vibrational scale and feels like relief.

Multimillionaire author, musician, and founder of New World Library, Marc Allen, talks about not working on Sundays or Mondays (Moon Days). At all. Working only after 1pm Pacific Tuesday through Friday, and half-time on Saturday. Allowing himself to relax more, watching clouds go by. Great ideas come to Marc when he’s relaxed. (BTW, this is true for all of us.) Songs compose themselves. Book ideas float to top of mind. When it is time to take action, he feels more in the flow of life. In his Millionaire Course Workshop (3CD set), Marc gives further details on how entrepreneurs can support themselves in the process of growing their businesses.

Inspiration vs. Getting Stuff Done

Sure, Nancy, this all sounds great…but what about the stuff that just has to get done? I’m not inspired to sweep the floor and take the garbage out, but it’s gotta get done!

For the things that just have to get done, all entrepreneurs have the choice to do the work themselves, or hire someone else. Yes, there ARE people who find cleaning inspirational and offer those services. Yes, there are people inspired to do the work that does not inspire you!

When I first started my design business in 1994, I convinced myself I couldn’t afford an accountant. That was, until it took me 20 hrs to calculate my quarterly tax estimate and I still wasn’t sure which of the 3 numbers I came up with was correct! That experience left me stressed, tired, and frustrated.

I then hired an accountant who cost me one billable hour (19 less than I had spent, on my own) to come up with the correct number. That’s when I learned that it’s worth hiring others to get some things done. (She’s still my CPA and I rave about her!) Even if I don’t mind doing the work, like accounting, I’d rather pay my CPA to do it faster and better. Hiring others to complete work that is not inspiring to me frees me to focus on what matters in both my business and life.

There is ample ROI (Return on Investment) for hiring others to take your (uninspired) actions which need to get done so you have time and energy to act on your own inspirations.

What do you think? Share your thoughts, questions, and experiences in the comments below.

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Taking Full Responsibility for Your Energy

responsibilityIf you listen closely, you can hear the sound of humans all over the planet getting sucked into the negative energy vortex created by those who are not taking responsibility for their own energy. If you doubt me, just check our our media. Examples of this phenomena are ever-present.

But they don’t have to be. We have the power within us to change the dynamic.

Responsibility is Owning Our Own Power

Whether you live or work with someone who is continually contentious and angry, or routinely playing the victim role, we have a choice in our response. While we are not responsible for other’s energy choices or how they perceive us, we are always responsible for our own energy, and therefore, our response.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor spoke in her TEDx talk and book, My Stroke of Insight, about her experience feeling the energy of every person who entered her room while she was recovering from a stroke at the age of 37. Even if people tried to hide their emotions, she could still feel it, and she wished there was a sign on the door asking people to take responsibility for their energy before entering the room.

responsibilityImagine if we all saw this sign, and remembered to take responsibility for our own energy?!?

When we’re paying attention, all of us can feel the energy of others, although empaths and those in physical recovery may feel it even more deeply. If you’re unconscious about your own energy, then you’ll likely also be unconscious of the influence of other’s energy.

The question is whether you will maintain control of your own energy, or allow other’s energy momentum to overpower you?

To me, this is among the most important energy work we do as humans, let alone as business owners. Refusing to take responsibility for your responses means you are more likely to be sucked into other people’s negativity and get stuck in what I call The Drama Trap.

Other people may not choose to take responsibility, and that’s their business, anyway. But that doesn’t stop *you* from taking responsibility for yourself. All peace, inner and outer, starts within as each of us chooses to take responsibility for our own energy and behavior.

Responsibility Starts with Awareness

Awareness of your own triggers is the first step in healing them. Taking full responsibility for your energy doesn’t mean condoning other people’s inappropriate behaviors. It DOES mean doing your own inner work: Connect to the energy inside of you, get clear on who you really are, become aware of your triggers, and cleaning up that energy so you are no longer so easily triggered.

responsibilityThe fact is, if someone said you had blue hair, you’d laugh it off because you know it’s ridiculous. But, when someone says something you might internally question or doubt or fear, that is how you get triggered. It’s much easier to take responsibility and stay out of the negativity than it is once you’ve been sucked into the trap.

The best news about becoming aware of triggers and traps, is that now they can be healed. Appreciate your powerful and transformative ability to use the awareness for your own inner growth!!! Remember that without the awareness, healing could not take place.

When I recognize my own triggers, I’ve learned to BLESS the trigger, and the ones who trigger me, then do my inner work to clear the underlying story(ies) that keep(s) the trigger alive. Awareness itself is a powerful healer, and blessing the trigger begins the process of releasing the underlying story.

OK, now it’s your turn…How do you take responsibility for your own energy? Click comment and share below what you’ve learned from this process.

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Catching a Break

breakLast month, I did something very important, which I highly recommend for your well-being and entrepreneurial success: I took a break from posting a blog!

While I had a few ideas rolling around, none of the ideas inspired me enough to move forward. I took notes, mulled over the ideas, and ultimately…realized it was simply time to give myself a well-deserved break!

As I wrote in a FB post last month, I have been publishing this blog for ten years, and I learned early on to only publish what inspires me and feels important to share. Which is why it was easy for me to give myself a break last month  and why that lesson is part of the message this month. I know from past experience that when nothing feels inspiring, I will come back with inspiration after some time to relax and recharge.

Giving Yourself a Break

More and more, psychologists, brain researchers, and successful entrepreneurs are discovering how much more productive and healthy (and successful) we are when we experience regular rest, relaxation, and fun!

It makes sense, too, because we now know that the brain begins to lose clarity and become less effective when it is tired or stressed. If productivity and creativity matter, then giving yourself a break is essential.

You may even have experienced being overwhelmed and stressed, then notice that you feel so much better after a few minutes laughing with colleagues and friends, spending time with loved ones, getting some fresh air while watching clouds go by, or taking a drive in your car. These are just a few ways we can ‘catch a break’!

I don’t know anyone, employed or self-employed, who isn’t working long hours and juggling their personal and professional lives. The human body is not meant to work 18 hour days on an ongoing basis.The importance of building in some time to relax, mentally unwind, rest if needed, and find some joy in life cannot be over-stated.

Catch A Break Every Day

breakYou might be thinking: WHEN am I going to find time to take a break? Here’s the ‘catch’: We don’t need to take a month away from our work to benefit from a break! In addition our regular vacation time, we can easily build ‘break’ time into every day life.

In fact, developing a regular wellness habit of resting, relaxing, and having fun every day will make you less likely to need long vacations.

Below are ways you can develop a regular wellness habit:

• Set boundaries and Honor Them – If you’re not used to doing this, give yourself 30 days to commit to setting boundaries around your work and personal life, and the demands put upon you by other or yourself. Know what works for you, and make the boundaries clear to yourself so there’s less blur and more clarity!

• Meditation and Mindfulness – Both meditation and mindfulness provide important rest to the mind, body, and spirit. If you already have a meditation practice you love, that’s great. If you’re still working on one, consider Intentional Resting or even just taking time out to watch clouds or the wind in the trees. Nature provides endless ways to stop, notice, and watch (plants, animals, birds, bugs, wind, clouds, etc.).

• Exercise – Whether it’s full-on time at the gym, a walk around the ‘hood, or 15 minutes dancing in your livingroom, exercise helps us release built-up stress and is it’s own form of relaxation. Whatever form of exercise you choose, it’s suggested that we ‘break a sweat’, the body’s way of letting go of emotions and toxins (along with deep breathing)!

• Laughter, Joy, and Appreciation – For me laughter tends to be spontaneous, and my kitty is often the source of laughter, great joy, and deep appreciation. Find some sources of laughter, joy, and appreciation you can seek out every day. It might be a certain YouTube channel, or a favorite book or movie series. A gratitude journal lets you milk the joy and appreciation even more.

• Wind Down – I started doing this a few years ago, and find it contributes to sleeping very well at night. I set a time, at least a half hour before bedtime, to turn off all screens and (if possible) all lights. Backlighting on electronic screens send a signal to the brain that it’s *daytime*, which keeps us awake and unable to wind down before bedtime. Turn off all screens, and give yourself a good 30 minutes to be…mindful, meditative, or just deep breath while snuggling with your pet(s) or family. You’ll be amazed how much better you sleep!

The added benefit of developing a habit of ‘catching a break’, is that you’re energetic sending a signal to the Universe that you value your time, that you enjoy the journey, and that you are ready for more ways to experience value and enjoyment. Imagine what wonderful experiences you’ll bring into your life!

How do you catch a break every day? Share your experiences in the comments section, below…

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Nancy Barry-JanssonNancy Barry-Jansson is a Metaphysical Teacher / Mentor who specializes in helping creative and healing women entrepreneurs grow and prosper through their businesses. She has spent more than 33+ years with metaphysical studies and been running her own creative business for more than 23 years. Learn more at AffirmingSpirit.com.

Are You Fully Supporting Yourself?

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The Idea Behind Supporting Yourself

If you attend a party in the U.S., one of the first questions a stranger is likely to ask you is, “What do you do?” Their meaning in the question: What do you do for a living? The question is directly asking about your vocation, employment—how you earn money to financially support yourself and loved ones.

Savvy Conscious Creator business owners will immediately spot the faulty thinking underlying the idea that support only means money and the way many see their jobs or business as their ONLY source of supply (money, opportunity, resources, connections, expansion). The only thing more absurd is expecting action, alone, to be the way to improve our life experiences.

Both concepts are the equivalent of looking into a mirror and expecting your reflection to change before you do!

Quite an irony, when mirror work is a wonderful way to shift faulty thought patterns!

Louise Hay Opened My Eyes About Supporting Myself

Being a person who knows how to surround myself with positive materials, I often listen to uplifting audio books. Recently, I was re-listening to the late Louise Hay reading her classic book, You Can Heal Your Life, when I heard her say something remarkable: The conscious and loving way she supported herself when she first began speaking publicly.

Now, I’ve read this book several times and listened to this audio book many times over the years, but this time I really HEARD what she was saying.

Louise consciously chose to speak only lovingly and positively to herself immediately after she stepped off the podium from delivering her first speech, reminding herself that she would only get better with experience.

What an amazing example Louise gave of supporting herself as a developing public speaker! This example is quite opposite of what many people do: Immediately berate themselves and find fault with nearly every aspect of their developing skills. We don’t expect babies to walk across the room perfectly on their first try, yet somehow we expect ourselves to immediately learn and flawlessly execute new skills.

A few hours after she completed her first speech, she sat down to consider improvements she could make so the next talk would be even better. Her support of herself as a speaker didn’t stop with speaking positively to herself. It continued with making her future work more effective.

Through the vibrational field in which we operate, the Law of Attraction is always lining us up with similar vibrational energy. When we send the signal that we fully support ourselves, the people, resources, opportunities, clients that fully support us and our success will also show up.

Listening to Louise tell her story made me stop and question myself:

Am I as fully supportive of myself as I can be?

Truly, I can improve in this area. Most people I know could benefit from being more supportive of themselves, as an individual, on the mental, emotional, and physical levels. Perhaps you, too, are reading this and have a similar response or perhaps you are seeing ways you can begin supporting your business.

Fully Supporting Ourselves

Let’s consider the other ways in which we could begin, this moment, to be more fully supportive of ourselves (as humans) and our businesses.

• Start with your self-talk – Our self-talk reflects our deepest held beliefs about ourselves. Is your business self-talk awesome, but your personal self-talk not so great? If you’re a business owner, the energy of your business feeds off of who you are as the person who runs the business. Energy knows no boundaries between you and your business. Just like with affirmations, it helps to decide in advance (when you feel good about yourself and your business) how you would like to speak to yourself, give yourself some good examples (like Louise’s), and practice them. This way, you’ll gradually become more familiar with positive self-talk, and when you occasionally think negatively, you’ll be able to re-direct yourself.

• Mental, emotional, and physical – Begin noticing, in your day-to-day life, how you can think, feel, and be more supportive of yourself and your business. Do you speak kindly of yourself, your business, your clients, your vendors, your experiences? Do you feel and practice  gratitude and appreciation on a regular basis? Do you take actions that support yourself and your business on all levels? If not, where could you use some help? Where you see improvement needed, be kind: Acknowledge your awareness as the first step in the right direction. Ask for guidance how to be more supportive and let the solutions find you.

• Engage in mirror work – Louise Hay was a huge proponent of using mirror work to bring faulty thought / limiting belief patterns to the surface for healing. She strongly believed that the mirror is a valuable self-help tool for moving through our own blocks. When you stand in front of the mirror to speak your new (preferred) self-talk aloud while looking into your eyes, you’ll FEEL where you are blocked. Don’t ignore it. Notice it and ask what needs to be healed. You know you’re on the right track when positive statements that used to feel uncomfortable begin to feel much better.

Note: If you don’t feel any discomfort when you speak kindly to yourself or about your business while looking into the mirror, that’s great. Keep doing it! Mirror work reinforces the positive subconscious messaging.

• Affirm, Journal, Meditate, Visualize – There are many self-help tools available for affirming, writing, visualizing, and opening our mind to supporting ourselves and our businesses. If we’ve held a long pattern of negative self-talk or not supporting ourselves, it can feel awkward to begin doing so. Wrap yourself in the same LovingKindness you would if working with a small child. We all have issues to work on, and we all have to start somewhere. Be the supportive adult you wish you had in your life, and call upon your own self-compassion to write out, visualize, and mediate on what being more self-supportive would look like in your world.

• Give up the struggle – Whenever we learn a new skill, there are going to be moments when we falter. Those are the times to double up on self-love. Remember that when learning new patterns feels too hard, it’s a good time to give up the struggle. Release it to a Higher Power. Evoke Easy World. Go take a nap. Get out into nature. Spend time with loved ones. You can always give yourself a fresh start and begin again. You’re developing a new skill, and that can take practice, patience, and persistence.

The more frequently and regularly we send the signal to the universe that we support ourselves and our businesses on all levels, the more comfortable it will feel. Soon, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think this way all the time!

Are you fully supporting yourself, as a human being, and your creative or healing business? If so, share what works for you in the comments below.

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Making It Easier

easierMaking It Easier

Ahhh…do you feel the ease in that statement? I realize “easier” is not the message most of us are accustomed to hearing, when it comes to our businesses, but bear with me. Starting and building your business can be easier and more fun than you have been taught or might have imagined.

If you’ve been struggling to start or build your business, it’s possible that you have been reading and listening to experts who make it seem difficult and complicated. Without knowing what step to take next, the whole process can feel overwhelming. Most of the business experts, themselves, share and compare business hardship stories as if that is the only way successful businesses function.

Emphasis on ‘Easier’

Businesses have their trajectories, which are a reflection of the owner/leader’s energy. The focus of this post is on EASE: There are many tips and tools that we can combine to make the process of starting and running a business easier.

If you’ve grown up hearing other ‘grown ups’ talk about business, likely they were talking about how hard it was to find clients, get paid, grow their business. What they affirmed (hardship) was confirmed to them, so in their minds, they were right.

Self Check-In:
What are you affirming / confirming about your business with your words, thoughts, feelings, and actions?

The energy generated from your words, thoughts, and feelings drive your actions, and the resulting outcome. The one(s) who line up energetically, SEE, FEEL, and KNOW themselves as successful before they take any actions toward their business are more likely to experience successful outcomes.

This is why two people can start the same business in the same city, but one succeeds while the other fails before they even open their doors. What you hold to be true about your business in your words, thoughts, and feelings establishes how you will experience your business.

First, Alignment!

Before you take another action toward your business, get into alignment with your success:

• SEEING: In your mind’s eye, your imagination, practice seeing yourself successful. Imagine you are in your place of business, or at a networking event meeting new clients. See your schedule filling up with a list of great clients. If this feels awkward, keep doing it until it feels natural.

• FEELING: Notice how you feel when you’re imagining your successful and thriving business. How do you feel when you’re working, when you’re reviewing your financials, when you’re paying bills, dealing with vendors and clients/customers? What do your successful business days feel like, and what do you feel at night as you’re drifting off to sleep?

• KNOWING: As you practice seeing and feeling your success, and the idea of success and the feeling of success will become second-nature to you. This is when you are ready to begin knowing within yourself that even if you don’t know everything about your business…you are capable of learning, growing, and guiding your business. Knowing may initially come to you in flickers and hope-filled thoughts. That’s good! Nurture those until the knowing grows within you.

Pre-Pave Your Success

Abraham-Hicks talks about Segment-Intending as a way of pre-paving future events so they will transpire easily and joyfully. You can also use the basic concept of segment-intending to pre-pave your business success:

• Start by making a list of all the steps you know you’ll need to take with your business
– Setting up your business structure, business location
– Setting up promotional materials: website, business cards, stationery/envelopes, brochures (if any)
– Identifying potential clients and letting them know about your products / services
– Networking to meet potential clients / customers
– Speaking / Writing to increase awareness of your products / services

SEE, FEEL, and KNOW yourself taking the appropriate action in each list with ease, and with a highly successful result. In our imagination, we can ‘take the journey’ first, energetically. If it feels awkward, we’re not yet in alignment. Keep going until it feels natural, and the positive outcome feels obvious to you. Clarity and confidence will fill your being. This is on-going practice for the successful business owner.

Actions you take after getting into alignment and pre-paving will have a much better outcome and likely to feel easier, than if you are taking the same actions from fearful or frustrated energy. The feeling of the journey has a direct effect on the outcome.

Address Your Fears

When I first started my illustration and design business, I realized that I was literally afraid to ‘sell’ my services. Selling would be important to my business success, so I had to address it if I was going to move forward.

Fortunately, before I started my business, I had (even before knowing about these processes) FELT myself highly successful. I didn’t know HOW, I just felt that I would be and I milked that feeling long before I took action. So, when I realized my fear around selling I immediately sought resources that could help me. A book on marketing one’s services gave me the tools I needed and my confidence began to build. I saw myself successfully identifying possible clients, educating them about my services and how to reach me, and then letting those businesses decide if they would like to hire me. My job was to market / educate. This took the ‘sales’ pressure off, and I felt ready to move forward.

Within a few days, I was making cold-calls to area businesses who might need my services. Of my total list of 50 potential clients, 2 of them called me back to hire me then, and for years afterward. None of that would have happened had I not addressed what I feared, and pre-paved a positive outcome!

Know that you can make starting and growing your business easier using the tools I’ve shared here. You ARE capable of starting, running, and thriving with your business!


For the past decade I have specialized in working with female healing and creative solo- and entrepreneurs in various stages of starting or growing their businesses. If you’ve been struggling to start or build your creative or healing business, it doesn’t have to be that way. You always have the choice, and help is available when you are ready for it.

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Are You Functioning Optimally?

functioningAre You Functioning At Your Best?

How you feel physically affects how you feel emotionally, and how you feel both physically and emotionally has a trickle-down effect on how you experience life and running your own business.

This is particularly problematic for solopreneurs and freelancers who are the primary ‘workers’ in their own businesses. If you don’t do the work, take the actions, then your business will falter.

If your mind is frequently clouded, or you don’t have the energy to take inspired action, it could be that your body is not functioning optimally and that includes your brain. When the body is not getting what it needs, neither is the brain!

Functioning Optimally

Starting today, practicing Functional Medicine physician and 10X New York Times best-selling author, Mark Hyman, MD, is releasing the first of 8 videos inoptimally his docuseries, Broken Brain. (You can sign up for this free online series at BrokenBrain.com or by clicking the white logo.) The series addresses the simple, easy, and inexpensive choices we can make every day to feel better and function optimally. I am not an affiliate and I get nothing for sharing this with you other than knowing that this important information is getting out.

As a Deliberate Creator, I don’t care for the title of this series because it implies that a part of us is broken, which I don’t believe is actually possible. There’s too much perfection built into the human body system for it to be permanently ‘broken’. Ultimately, that’s exactly what Dr. Hyman and the other experts in this series are illustrating: When the body gets the simple things it needs, it functions optimally!

When I watched the first episode of this series, it was clear to me that Dr. Hyman is referring to how the medical establishment sees the related problems of Alzheimer’s, Dementia, ADHD, Autism, Depression, Anxiety, and Brain Fog. Traditional medicine treats ALL of those issues as if it is solely the problem of the body part, the brain. Functional Medicine, which is featured in this series, views the entire system of the body and recognizes how the brain can be effected when the rest of the system is out of balance.

Click the graphic below to watch the highlight reel from this series:
DID YOU KNOW?
When you feel anxious, it might be due to having low blood sugar? Try first eating protein and fats. If you have low blood sugar, you will immediately calm your anxiety.

I’m sharing this series with you because I know first-hand the importance of what Dr. Hyman is sharing. In 2012, I personally healed myself of brain fog, increase my energy exponentially, easily (effortlessly) lost weight, and returned my body to functioning optimally using many of the techniques he speaks of in this series. It was like a heavy veil had been lifted from me. When you have that kind of life-changing experience, you want to share it with others!

You can sign up for the free series now, where the videos are each available for 24hrs after release, and (if you haven’t already) watch the highlight reel while you wait for the next video.

I am not an affiliate of Dr. Hymans and I get nothing from sharing this information with you other than making sure this important information gets out to the world. (This is also how the U.S. could begin saving TONS of money by overhauling it’s outdated and non-functional medical system.)

Have you had similar experiences to mine and what Dr. Hyman speaks of? Share your experiences below in the comments…

Image credit: Dr. Mark Hyman, MD
and BrokenBrain.com

Thanksgiving Tale of Two Business Partners

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This Thanksgiving, I have been contemplating my observations of two business partners. Neither of them are my clients, so I am not at liberty to guide or help either one of them. But, I can (anonymously) share with you my findings and you can benefit.

Thanksgiving: What’s Business Got to Do with It?

Both partners share and operate a business together, and both of them have separate business interests outside of the partnership.

One business owner has a mantra that goes like this: I can’t afford that! That’s too much money! I just can’t do it! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

The other business owner has a mantra that goes like this: This is fun! I enjoy this! Everything is working out great! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

I’m betting that even brand new students of Law of Attraction can easily guess what happens next with these business partners.

No matter how often the first business owner makes more money, in his mind he never has enough. He cuts costs and corners at every opportunity, and even disregards his business agreements, creating disharmony and struggle every where he goes, in pursuit of the elusive *more*. However, because his mantra is on auto-pilot (literally and virtually), he doesn’t even consciously notice the flow of money coming into him…nor does he appreciate it. What he fails to appreciate, depreciates.

Appreciation Appreciates

That’s true for all of us, actually. The more we appreciate and see the blessings in every experience, including our business transactions, the more open our conscious and subconscious mind brings the opportunities to our attention.

When we’re either observing shortfalls, and constantly reliving them in our mind, or imagining pending doom and hardship before it’s happened, we’re not focusing on appreciation. We can’t complain and appreciate at the same time. We all must choose one master to serve.

I bet you’ve already guessed what is happening with the second business partner. Yep: Outsiders are convinced he’s got the midas touch. His expenses are often much higher than the first business owner, yet in his mind he’s always got plenty, he’s having fun, enjoying the process, and everything seems to work out well for him. When things don’t work out as he’d hoped, he looks for opportunities in the situation.

The second business owner is upbeat, happy, and appreciative. His appreciation for the employees, contractors, customers, and others involved with the business is obvious. The more he appreciates, the more his investment in the business appreciates.

Same business, two very different experiences. One partner never has enough and gets little value from his involvement in the business. The other partner is having fun, enjoying the process, and reaping the rewards. Their mantras explain the difference.

This Thanksgiving, I ask you to consider…if this was your business, which business partner would you be? Is it the business person you would choose to be?

Happy Thanksgiving!

Image credit:
Barry-Jansson & Associates

with primary image from Gajus

Subconscious Mind Patterns

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Have you noticed the same situations happening again and again with your business?
Do you wonder why you are having similar issues recur with clients or vendors?
When was the last time you asked, “Why does this keep happening?

Brain research estimates that our conscious mind is only aware of about 10% of what happens around us and in our thoughts. The vast majority, 50-60% it is estimated, takes place below the conscious level in the subconscious mind.

Bringing the Subconscious Mind to the Light

The 50-60% of our mind that is subconscious is running mental programming 24/7. This part of our mind uses our memory, knowledge, and experiences to make decisions for us. By bringing subconscious beliefs to our conscious attention, we can decide what to keep and what to transmute.

Not all subconscious beliefs need to be transmuted, as helpful beliefs support us in moving through the world without having to consciously address everything. However, most of us through the process of living have some unhelpful subconscious programming that could use some conscious transmutation.

This is because when we were younger, and before we could speak or advocate for ourselves, we made decisions and developed beliefs that became part of our unhelpful subconscious mind programming.

For instance, a child who felt fearful and began crying may have been admonished by the parents for making noise (crying). The parent’s objection may have been to the noise of the crying child, but the child perceived the admonishment as disapproval, which formed a belief that they cannot freely express their fears or cry. As the child matures into an adult, an unhelpful subconscious program based on this belief continually steers them toward not expressing fear or crying.

As an adult, the ability to express our emotions is vitally important, so having a subconscious program running that is counter to our health and well-being would be helpful to uncover and transmute.

Uncovering Versus Looking For Unconscious Beliefs

It’s important for me to point out the difference between uncovering unconscious beliefs for conscious transmutation versus actively looking for unconscious beliefs. The first recognizes that our experiences have always been lovingly pointing to the answers we seek, and that we can raise our energy by being conscious of what we are shown.

The latter approach comes from a dis-empowering energy that there is something wrong with us that needs to be fixed or eradicated. That approach leads us to feel that nothing is good about us, our business, or what we offer. It might even lead us to imagining, manufacturing, and eventually manifesting, more unhelpful unconscious beliefs.

This post is about the former approach—gently and lovingly uncovering what’s already before us. Using our conscious awareness to understand the lesson, and then consciously choosing a new story, a new attitude, a new belief that better supports us and our business.

Subconscious Patterns

subconsciousHave you ever considered ways that unhelpful subconscious mind patterns are working 24/7 in your business?

Bringing subconscious mind patterns to light so we can consciously choose to transmute them is a powerful way for business owners to shift their energy and succeed.

In his 3CD Workshop entitled, The Millionaire Course: A Visionary Plan for Creating the Life of Your Dreams, the author shares examples of how his poverty thinking had been running a program in his subconscious for decades. (If you missed my post with Marc Allen’s interview, you can watch it here.)

Now a mult-millionaire, Marc Allen, author, musician, and founder of New World Library is happy to teach others how to bring their subconscious core beliefs into the light for conscious re-consideration.

Addressing Your Core Beliefs Process

In his workshop, Allen shares a process for shedding light on the subconscious programming that is running in the background of our consciousness. I recommend this process for all business owners as an empowering way to bring unconscious programming to conscious light.

I also recommend that this tool be used on a frequent basis—quarterly, at a minimum. Make the experience enjoyable by setting some quiet time aside, turn on some music, grab a cuppa something you enjoy, then have a nice journal or a new pen handy to write out your answers. The more you do this process, the more you’ll easily see what unhelpful subconscious programming has been working on your business with you.

Don’t be surprised if something you wish you’d known about before emerges after a while of using this process. When you’re ready to release the programming that is no longer serving you, those thoughts/beliefs will appear and become obvious to you. You will know immediately that it’s time to let them go and be ready to do so.

Personally, it has helped me be a more conscious business owner, develop better relationships with clients and vendors, nip problems earlier rather than later, make decisions from an energetically clearer place, and tell a better story about my business.

Here is the process Marc Allen offers in his workshop:

  1. Describe the ‘problem’ as you perceive it to be at the present moment?
  2. What (specific) emotions are you feeling at the present moment?
  3. What specific physical sensations are you feeling in your body?
  4. What are you thinking about right now? (What is your current self-talk?)
  5. What’s the worst that can happen? Then, the next worst that can happen? and the next worst?
  6. What’s the best that can happen? The next best thing that can happen? and the next best?
  7. What fears and limiting beliefs have been revealed in the answers above?
  8. Create an affirmation to refocus each fear and limiting belief.

I recommend creating as many affirmations as you feel comfortable working with at a given point. Personally, I often choose 3 – 5 at a time, so that when I say the affirmations in succession I can feel the powerful *new story* emerging within me. Since we are ALWAYS affirming something, being conscious about what you are saying and thinking is very empowering.

As business owners tell a new story, and consciously shift our thinking from the unhelpful to the helpful, we begin to feel an energetic shift that is reflected in our business experiences.

Are you willing to give this a try, or have you done something similar? Share your thoughts below in the comments.

Image Credit: Montage by Barry-Jansson & Associates
with images from Artem SVYSTUN, ALEQ1463, + Bruce RoLFF


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Letting Meaning Find You

meaningMeaning. Fulfillment. Purpose.

We’ve all heard those buzzwords for career and business.

They are used so often it makes us wonder if our career or business is only valid if it involves experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose.

So many people spend their time continually ‘chasing’ these experiences, never quite finding them, stuck in the cycle of flailing action, constantly wondering what they have to do next in order to actually experience them.

It’s exhausting to think what some people do to feel…meaning…fulfillment…and purpose in their career and business. It begs the question, what part of our mind decides that we’re experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose? Or not experiencing them?

Lately, I’ve been noticing people who are doing amazingly good, powerful, impactful work in the world…work that is really making a difference…and the common thread: All of them came to this work (career or business) through contrast.

Rather than consciously ‘deciding’ to do this work, the work itself pulled them forward into the next necessary step in their career.

The Pull Toward Success

For instance, Barry Kibrick, the host of the book-reviewing series, Between the Lines with Barry on PBS (in the U.S.), recently admitted that the only reason his author interview show began was because of a previous failed business deal. Out of failure came a new career that has given him greater visibility and helping authors as well as readers.

Another example: Suzanne Somers, who found herself the most popular character on the most post popular TV show in the 1970s being let go at the time of her contract renewal. This career bump could have derailed her, but instead she began following her own interest in health and well-being, researching topics of personal interest that later became resources for her best-selling books. Now she’s considered very knowledgeable on the topic of nutrition, health, and wellness. Twenty six books, fourteen of which have been NYT best-sellers. In addition, she now sells a wide range of products that support what she has learned and shared in her books, and she has a secondary career as a lecturer.

Suzanne Somers is heads a business empire that wouldn’t have been created if her TV career had continued on its original trajectory.

How about Leah Remini!?! After a mildly successful acting career, Leah has finally hit a home run after she began transmuting her pain of abruptly leaving Scientology (having been raised as and living as a devout member for about 34 years) into an opportunity to help others leave or better yet, never enter this organization (what many are calling a cult). She wrote a book about her experience, entitled Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology, and publicly supported the HBO Documentary Going Clear.

Then, she created the powerful A&E show, Leah Remini: Scientology and The Aftermath, now in it’s second season and recipient of a well-earned 2017 Emmy Award winner for Outstanding Informational Series or Special. Leah and her team has created one of the most powerful, impactful and important TV series I have ever witnessed*.

*Please Note: I was not raised in a cult, so I personally find the series extremely empowering, literally watching people take back their power and regain their voices!!! If you were raised in a cult, though, you might find that it triggers deep negative emotions. Your mileage may vary.

Ms. Remini has transmuted her own pain while also educating the rest of the population about how Scientology works, and what to expect if they went down that road. This not only helps us understand the issues, but develops compassion for the people who have been victimized and rebuilding their lives after leaving this organization. Remini’s new ‘work’ is educating the masses while giving former Scientologists a voice and emotional support. I feel like CHEERING during and after every episode I watch! I can see this getting better and better as time goes on.

Meaning, Fulfillment and Purpose Found Them!

None of these great examples made a conscious decision to get into their existing fields. Meaning, fulfillment and purpose found them! As a result, they are all having much greater impact on the world than if their original careers had worked out as planned.

If you’ve been derailed, deflated, frustrated or exhausted trying to ‘make’ your current career or business thrive, take heart. These examples show you that something even better may be just around the corner.

Perhaps the key to really finding meaning, fulfillment, and purpose is: Don’t chase meaning, fulfillment, or purpose. Let it FIND you!

Image credits: Bruce Rolff,
Barry Kibrick, Organic Authority,
and A&E Telelvision.

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