Are You Fully Supporting Yourself?

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The Idea Behind Supporting Yourself

If you attend a party in the U.S., one of the first questions a stranger is likely to ask you is, “What do you do?” Their meaning in the question: What do you do for a living? The question is directly asking about your vocation, employment—how you earn money to financially support yourself and loved ones.

Savvy Conscious Creator business owners will immediately spot the faulty thinking underlying the idea that support only means money and the way many see their jobs or business as their ONLY source of supply (money, opportunity, resources, connections, expansion). The only thing more absurd is expecting action, alone, to be the way to improve our life experiences.

Both concepts are the equivalent of looking into a mirror and expecting your reflection to change before you do!

Quite an irony, when mirror work is a wonderful way to shift faulty thought patterns!

Louise Hay Opened My Eyes About Supporting Myself

Being a person who knows how to surround myself with positive materials, I often listen to uplifting audio books. Recently, I was re-listening to the late Louise Hay reading her classic book, You Can Heal Your Life, when I heard her say something remarkable: The conscious and loving way she supported herself when she first began speaking publicly.

Now, I’ve read this book several times and listened to this audio book many times over the years, but this time I really HEARD what she was saying.

Louise consciously chose to speak only lovingly and positively to herself immediately after she stepped off the podium from delivering her first speech, reminding herself that she would only get better with experience.

What an amazing example Louise gave of supporting herself as a developing public speaker! This example is quite opposite of what many people do: Immediately berate themselves and find fault with nearly every aspect of their developing skills. We don’t expect babies to walk across the room perfectly on their first try, yet somehow we expect ourselves to immediately learn and flawlessly execute new skills.

A few hours after she completed her first speech, she sat down to consider improvements she could make so the next talk would be even better. Her support of herself as a speaker didn’t stop with speaking positively to herself. It continued with making her future work more effective.

Through the vibrational field in which we operate, the Law of Attraction is always lining us up with similar vibrational energy. When we send the signal that we fully support ourselves, the people, resources, opportunities, clients that fully support us and our success will also show up.

Listening to Louise tell her story made me stop and question myself:

Am I as fully supportive of myself as I can be?

Truly, I can improve in this area. Most people I know could benefit from being more supportive of themselves, as an individual, on the mental, emotional, and physical levels. Perhaps you, too, are reading this and have a similar response or perhaps you are seeing ways you can begin supporting your business.

Fully Supporting Ourselves

Let’s consider the other ways in which we could begin, this moment, to be more fully supportive of ourselves (as humans) and our businesses.

• Start with your self-talk – Our self-talk reflects our deepest held beliefs about ourselves. Is your business self-talk awesome, but your personal self-talk not so great? If you’re a business owner, the energy of your business feeds off of who you are as the person who runs the business. Energy knows no boundaries between you and your business. Just like with affirmations, it helps to decide in advance (when you feel good about yourself and your business) how you would like to speak to yourself, give yourself some good examples (like Louise’s), and practice them. This way, you’ll gradually become more familiar with positive self-talk, and when you occasionally think negatively, you’ll be able to re-direct yourself.

• Mental, emotional, and physical – Begin noticing, in your day-to-day life, how you can think, feel, and be more supportive of yourself and your business. Do you speak kindly of yourself, your business, your clients, your vendors, your experiences? Do you feel and practice  gratitude and appreciation on a regular basis? Do you take actions that support yourself and your business on all levels? If not, where could you use some help? Where you see improvement needed, be kind: Acknowledge your awareness as the first step in the right direction. Ask for guidance how to be more supportive and let the solutions find you.

• Engage in mirror work – Louise Hay was a huge proponent of using mirror work to bring faulty thought / limiting belief patterns to the surface for healing. She strongly believed that the mirror is a valuable self-help tool for moving through our own blocks. When you stand in front of the mirror to speak your new (preferred) self-talk aloud while looking into your eyes, you’ll FEEL where you are blocked. Don’t ignore it. Notice it and ask what needs to be healed. You know you’re on the right track when positive statements that used to feel uncomfortable begin to feel much better.

Note: If you don’t feel any discomfort when you speak kindly to yourself or about your business while looking into the mirror, that’s great. Keep doing it! Mirror work reinforces the positive subconscious messaging.

• Affirm, Journal, Meditate, Visualize – There are many self-help tools available for affirming, writing, visualizing, and opening our mind to supporting ourselves and our businesses. If we’ve held a long pattern of negative self-talk or not supporting ourselves, it can feel awkward to begin doing so. Wrap yourself in the same LovingKindness you would if working with a small child. We all have issues to work on, and we all have to start somewhere. Be the supportive adult you wish you had in your life, and call upon your own self-compassion to write out, visualize, and mediate on what being more self-supportive would look like in your world.

• Give up the struggle – Whenever we learn a new skill, there are going to be moments when we falter. Those are the times to double up on self-love. Remember that when learning new patterns feels too hard, it’s a good time to give up the struggle. Release it to a Higher Power. Evoke Easy World. Go take a nap. Get out into nature. Spend time with loved ones. You can always give yourself a fresh start and begin again. You’re developing a new skill, and that can take practice, patience, and persistence.

The more frequently and regularly we send the signal to the universe that we support ourselves and our businesses on all levels, the more comfortable it will feel. Soon, you’ll wonder why you didn’t think this way all the time!

Are you fully supporting yourself, as a human being, and your creative or healing business? If so, share what works for you in the comments below.

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Tawatchai Khid-arn, subbotina, Teerawit Janpeng, and subbotinaaleq1463

 

 

Creating Your Spirit-Guided Business

spiritHave you ever wondered how Spirit can help you grow, nurture, and sustain your business?

If you’re caught up in the day-to-day process of identifying, connecting with, and serving clients, processing payments, managing projects and vendors, you might have lost track of the spiritual connection with your business. I get it. I’ve been there, too.

Even with the most spiritual business there are still physical logistics and details that must be organized, managed, and overseen. How do we handle those when we’re not sure which decision is best?

Let Spirit Guide Your Business

When growing and running your business begins to feel like a never-ending chore, it can be the perfect time to step back and tap into Divine energy. Regardless of religious or spiritual beliefs, or the terms we use, most of us can agree there is One Energy Source from which is created All That Is.

That energy source can be a integral part of our business and all its components. As human beings, especially the founders of businesses, we can get stuck thinking we must know it all and have all the answers all the time. Yet the omnipresent and omnipotent Source / Spirit actually DOES know it all and have all the answers! Answers and perspectives we cannot not possibly know from our vantage point. Nor can we access it from a state of frustration or fear.

In his classic book, The Abundance Book, one of the most important premises that John Randolph Price wrote was the concept that no person, place, or condition is our supply:
spiritEmbracing the expansive consciousness that Spirit is our Supply—not our business or our customers/clients, is an important part of allowing Spirit to support, nurture, and sustain our growing businesses.

When we recognize that everything comes from One Source, and that One Source is our ultimate Supply, it changes how we view business situations, climate, interactions, transactions, and outcomes. Our own energy about our business changes. Clients/Customers as well as vendors and support members come and go as part of a positive energy alignment process. Everyone in the process is served well. Where a vacuum is created, something even better will take it’s place. Overall, it becomes increasingly easier to trust that Spirit’s wider perspective is helping us in ways we might not be able to foresee. As a result, we develop a deeper faith in our business success.

How to Invite Spirit Into Your Business

It’s easier to invite Spirit in than you might think, but first there are a few things to release:

A. Start by letting your ego take a backseat. By admitting that you cannot have the full perspective that Spirit has, you can let your ego off-the-hook for ‘being in control’, ‘knowing it all’, and ‘having all the answers’. Actually, it feels wonderful!

B. Cultivate a Willingness to Be Guided. To an outsider, this might look a little like giving up, but the energy is very different. Giving up can come from frustration and feeling like a failure, whereas a willingness to be guided is energetically opening up to guidance and wisdom to which you currently do not have access. You can do this by:
– Silently offering your questions to Spirit and asking for guidance
– Journaling your questions to Spirit, writing down what comes to you in response
– Affirmatively praying appreciation for Spirit’s presence, and for all wisdom coming forward on this subject
– Lighting a candle, or holding a crystal, as you cultivate the feeling of already receiving Spirit’s guidance and give thanks
– Use Abraham-Hick’s Placemat Process to write down what you need the Universe to help you accomplish (and be willing to let it go, knowing it’s taken care of)
– Starting and ending your business day with a 10-minute meditation to align yourself with Spirit’s guidance and involvement in your business decisions

C. Appreciate when Answers, Solutions, and Opportunities Arise. Mindfully appreciate the support that is coming through. Some of us might not notice it *in the moment*, but when it comes into our awareness we say, “Thank you, Spirit!” Give thanks in advance, as well. Regularly AFFIRM your receipt and appreciation for all the insight Spirit sends your way. The more you acknowledge the support you are receiving, the more Law of Attraction brings additional support into your awareness.

D. Do not Argue With / Resist What You Don’t Like. When answers, solutions, and opportunities show up like losing a big client or seeing a door close, do your best not to argue with or resist what shows up. Instead, ask “Spirit, how is this a blessing for my business?” and notice what comes up. If you get stuck energetically in resisting what shows up, you might miss the blessing that is coming right behind! When a big client goes away, a bigger and better one often shows up. When a door closes, something better is about to enter. Be ready, energetically, to receive!

E. Keep Spirit in the Loop. Many business owners begin inviting Spirit in when our business is struggling. When things start going really good with our business, it can be easy to forget this process and stop inviting Spirit to join you. However, when things start to spiral downward, you’ll be reminded why this is a process to continue for the entire life of your business. Keep it going, even when it doesn’t look like your business could get any better than it already is!

Now, I want to know: Do you let Spirit guide your business? If not, are you ready to start?

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WITH images from rangizzz and AFFIRMINGSPIRIT.COM.


Nancy Barry-JanssonNancy Barry-Jansson is a Metaphysical Teacher / Mentor who specializes in helping creative and healing women entrepreneurs grow and prosper through their businesses. She has spent more than 33+ years with metaphysical studies and been running her own creative business for more than 23 years. Learn more at AffirmingSpirit.com.

Making It Easier

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Ahhh…do you feel the ease in that statement? I realize “easier” is not the message most of us are accustomed to hearing, when it comes to our businesses, but bear with me. Starting and building your business can be easier and more fun than you have been taught or might have imagined.

If you’ve been struggling to start or build your business, it’s possible that you have been reading and listening to experts who make it seem difficult and complicated. Without knowing what step to take next, the whole process can feel overwhelming. Most of the business experts, themselves, share and compare business hardship stories as if that is the only way successful businesses function.

Emphasis on ‘Easier’

Businesses have their trajectories, which are a reflection of the owner/leader’s energy. The focus of this post is on EASE: There are many tips and tools that we can combine to make the process of starting and running a business easier.

If you’ve grown up hearing other ‘grown ups’ talk about business, likely they were talking about how hard it was to find clients, get paid, grow their business. What they affirmed (hardship) was confirmed to them, so in their minds, they were right.

Self Check-In:
What are you affirming / confirming about your business with your words, thoughts, feelings, and actions?

The energy generated from your words, thoughts, and feelings drive your actions, and the resulting outcome. The one(s) who line up energetically, SEE, FEEL, and KNOW themselves as successful before they take any actions toward their business are more likely to experience successful outcomes.

This is why two people can start the same business in the same city, but one succeeds while the other fails before they even open their doors. What you hold to be true about your business in your words, thoughts, and feelings establishes how you will experience your business.

First, Alignment!

Before you take another action toward your business, get into alignment with your success:

• SEEING: In your mind’s eye, your imagination, practice seeing yourself successful. Imagine you are in your place of business, or at a networking event meeting new clients. See your schedule filling up with a list of great clients. If this feels awkward, keep doing it until it feels natural.

• FEELING: Notice how you feel when you’re imagining your successful and thriving business. How do you feel when you’re working, when you’re reviewing your financials, when you’re paying bills, dealing with vendors and clients/customers? What do your successful business days feel like, and what do you feel at night as you’re drifting off to sleep?

• KNOWING: As you practice seeing and feeling your success, and the idea of success and the feeling of success will become second-nature to you. This is when you are ready to begin knowing within yourself that even if you don’t know everything about your business…you are capable of learning, growing, and guiding your business. Knowing may initially come to you in flickers and hope-filled thoughts. That’s good! Nurture those until the knowing grows within you.

Pre-Pave Your Success

Abraham-Hicks talks about Segment-Intending as a way of pre-paving future events so they will transpire easily and joyfully. You can also use the basic concept of segment-intending to pre-pave your business success:

• Start by making a list of all the steps you know you’ll need to take with your business
– Setting up your business structure, business location
– Setting up promotional materials: website, business cards, stationery/envelopes, brochures (if any)
– Identifying potential clients and letting them know about your products / services
– Networking to meet potential clients / customers
– Speaking / Writing to increase awareness of your products / services

SEE, FEEL, and KNOW yourself taking the appropriate action in each list with ease, and with a highly successful result. In our imagination, we can ‘take the journey’ first, energetically. If it feels awkward, we’re not yet in alignment. Keep going until it feels natural, and the positive outcome feels obvious to you. Clarity and confidence will fill your being. This is on-going practice for the successful business owner.

Actions you take after getting into alignment and pre-paving will have a much better outcome and likely to feel easier, than if you are taking the same actions from fearful or frustrated energy. The feeling of the journey has a direct effect on the outcome.

Address Your Fears

When I first started my illustration and design business, I realized that I was literally afraid to ‘sell’ my services. Selling would be important to my business success, so I had to address it if I was going to move forward.

Fortunately, before I started my business, I had (even before knowing about these processes) FELT myself highly successful. I didn’t know HOW, I just felt that I would be and I milked that feeling long before I took action. So, when I realized my fear around selling I immediately sought resources that could help me. A book on marketing one’s services gave me the tools I needed and my confidence began to build. I saw myself successfully identifying possible clients, educating them about my services and how to reach me, and then letting those businesses decide if they would like to hire me. My job was to market / educate. This took the ‘sales’ pressure off, and I felt ready to move forward.

Within a few days, I was making cold-calls to area businesses who might need my services. Of my total list of 50 potential clients, 2 of them called me back to hire me then, and for years afterward. None of that would have happened had I not addressed what I feared, and pre-paved a positive outcome!

Know that you can make starting and growing your business easier using the tools I’ve shared here. You ARE capable of starting, running, and thriving with your business!


For the past decade I have specialized in working with female healing and creative solo- and entrepreneurs in various stages of starting or growing their businesses. If you’ve been struggling to start or build your creative or healing business, it doesn’t have to be that way. You always have the choice, and help is available when you are ready for it.

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with a photo by maridav

 

 

 

Cultivating Faith In Your Business

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As the holidays roll around at the end of every year, it’s a wonderful time for savvy, successful conscious creators and business owners to consciously engage this power in their business. Although many associate this power with religion, you don’t have to be religious to harness this power every day of the year. It helps, though, to feel an energetic connection to life.

Fortunately, the creative and healing business women who I serve have a great advantage because they use this power every day in their businesses. They pull upon the energetic connection to life for inspiration and as a tool in serving others. Some use this power so often, they have had life-changing experiences with it and it has turned them into mystics.

FAITH: INNER ENGINE OF YOUR BUSINESS SUCCESS

I’m talking about harnessing the power of faith ~ our ability to know and trust that, no matter what is happening, All is Well with our business, that we’re being positively guided in all decisions and actions, and that all is conspiring for our well-being and success.

Most business schools don’t teach students to cultivate their inner faith. It’s not considered standard business advice. Yet, the most successful business people have made this an ingrained habit! It makes sense, too, because by the Law of Attraction, the energy of faith is uplifting and aligns us with uplifting outcomes. Instead of a perfunctory, “stay positive” or “keep your chin up”, wouldn’t it be great if more business owners heard the message: Cultivate faith in your business!

Faith keeps us moving forward, even when there is no proof (yet) that we’re on the right track. Even when a course-correction is needed, faith fills us with the courage and inner strength to make good decisions and take effective actions.

Throughout history, much has been said about faith. Saint Augustine described faith as believing what you do not (yet) see. The reward, he says, is that doing so eventually allows you to see what you believe. Although not using the exact phrase, he’s speaking of the effect the Law of Attraction: Hold your focus on what you desire, even if you see no proof of it in your midst, and soon you will see it in your world.

St. Augustine

Helen Keller reminded us that faith is a strength, powerful enough to lift a shattered world into enlightenment:

Helen Keller

And Martin Luther King, Jr. continues to motivate generations with his famous quote, “Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.For you, as a conscious creator business owner, faith may be a willingness to see your business thriving, workshops selling out, and new clients seeking you from many sources. Faith could be choosing to know that you’ll make twice as much money this quarter, even when you don’t know exactly how that will happen. Faith might be trusting that your ideal business support team is in the process of forming, taking steps to ensure they are welcomed when they arrive. Or that the best vendors in your area are now seeking you and being sure you’re ready for them.

However you define faith, you can actively and consciously harness this power to grow and improve your business. There is no limit to how faith can support your business.

CULTIVATING FAITH

In my experience, faith comes after a regular-no-matter-what practice of conscious cultivation. The kind of cultivation that is on auto-pilot because you’ve done it so consistently, long enough that your subconscious mind has taken the idea and run with it.

Please note: If you’re standing in the middle of red-hot-contrast right now, unable to find a whiff of faith, this message may be hard to receive. In fact, vibrationally this might not be the blog post for you to be reading right now. (Instead, take some deep breaths, relax, and reach for some better feeling thoughts. Come back to this when you’re ready to feel hopeful.)

The point is: Start cultivating faith when it feels good to do so. Then, when you need faith, it will be easier for you to harness it. Don’t wait until you’re in the middle of high contrast to begin your practice of cultivating faith!

Below are ways you can begin cultivating faith in your business:

• AFFIRM YOUR FAITH – speak, write, and think about what you trust and know to be true, even if the proof has not yet manifested. Remind yourself frequently that ‘Everything is always working out well for me!’

• VISUALIZE YOUR FAITH – in your minds eye, remind yourself frequently who you are when you are tapped into strong faith. See yourself acting with faith, feeling the trust inherent in faith in your whole being. See yourself making great decisions with the feeling of faith welling up inside of you. See yourself reaping the reward of having the inner vision.

• MEDITATE ON FAITH – when you feel a strong sense of faith, milk it by meditating on that feeling. Sit quietly with that feeling, and let it soak into your whole being so that the feeling can be called upon at any time.

• WHEN IN DOUBT, CHOOSE FAITH – if doubt begins to creep into your thoughts, or the words of people around you, stop to consciously remind yourself what you’re creating: You’re cultivating faith, choosing to know everything is always working out well for you. Remind yourself how you choose to feel, and then affirm that choice.

• OUTSOURCE FAITH – If choosing faith doesn’t seem doable, ask your Higher Self, Angels, Guides, Divine Love, or the Universal Manager (whatever you consider a higher power) to take this issue off your mind, and fill your heart with faith and knowing that All is Well. Once you do this, it’s important to go relax and not let worry overtake your thoughts.

• PRACTICE FAITH – Affirm, visualize, meditate, choose, and outstource faith every chance you get. Do it so much, and so often, that it becomes a habit, your automatic Modus Operandi.

Before long, this habit will begin to reward you with manifestations that bring life to your (inner) faith. First, they might show up in the world around you or something a colleague manifests. Consider that a win ~ you’re energetically moving in the right direction! Keep the practice going. You will begin experiencing synchronicities, solutions will present themselves, new clients and customers will seem to come out of thin air, scenarios that were previously only in your thoughts will begin showing up in your life.

I’ve written a number of blog posts with stories about myself and others who have benefited from cultivating and nurturing faith in themselves, their businesses, and their projects. Immerse yourself in stories about successful business people, and begin to notice how many had little more than faith as their foundation for big decisions that propelled their business forward.

Now it’s your turn! When has having faith made a huge difference for your business? What are your favorite ways to cultivate faith? Share your comments below.

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w/background images via N. Barry-Jansson,
SUBBOTINA, rangizz, and Olga Khoroshunova

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Thanksgiving Tale of Two Business Partners

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This Thanksgiving, I have been contemplating my observations of two business partners. Neither of them are my clients, so I am not at liberty to guide or help either one of them. But, I can (anonymously) share with you my findings and you can benefit.

Thanksgiving: What’s Business Got to Do with It?

Both partners share and operate a business together, and both of them have separate business interests outside of the partnership.

One business owner has a mantra that goes like this: I can’t afford that! That’s too much money! I just can’t do it! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

The other business owner has a mantra that goes like this: This is fun! I enjoy this! Everything is working out great! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

I’m betting that even brand new students of Law of Attraction can easily guess what happens next with these business partners.

No matter how often the first business owner makes more money, in his mind he never has enough. He cuts costs and corners at every opportunity, and even disregards his business agreements, creating disharmony and struggle every where he goes, in pursuit of the elusive *more*. However, because his mantra is on auto-pilot (literally and virtually), he doesn’t even consciously notice the flow of money coming into him…nor does he appreciate it. What he fails to appreciate, depreciates.

Appreciation Appreciates

That’s true for all of us, actually. The more we appreciate and see the blessings in every experience, including our business transactions, the more open our conscious and subconscious mind brings the opportunities to our attention.

When we’re either observing shortfalls, and constantly reliving them in our mind, or imagining pending doom and hardship before it’s happened, we’re not focusing on appreciation. We can’t complain and appreciate at the same time. We all must choose one master to serve.

I bet you’ve already guessed what is happening with the second business partner. Yep: Outsiders are convinced he’s got the midas touch. His expenses are often much higher than the first business owner, yet in his mind he’s always got plenty, he’s having fun, enjoying the process, and everything seems to work out well for him. When things don’t work out as he’d hoped, he looks for opportunities in the situation.

The second business owner is upbeat, happy, and appreciative. His appreciation for the employees, contractors, customers, and others involved with the business is obvious. The more he appreciates, the more his investment in the business appreciates.

Same business, two very different experiences. One partner never has enough and gets little value from his involvement in the business. The other partner is having fun, enjoying the process, and reaping the rewards. Their mantras explain the difference.

This Thanksgiving, I ask you to consider…if this was your business, which business partner would you be? Is it the business person you would choose to be?

Happy Thanksgiving!

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Barry-Jansson & Associates

with primary image from Gajus

Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

unsolvableDo you feel your creative or healing business has unsolvable problems…the kind that seem to keep your mind going in circles?

You’d like to make more money, but you don’t feel you can raise your rates or attract more customers / clients.

You need to find better vendors to support you, but seem to have exhausted all resources in your area.

You know your business offers great value to potential clients, yet every attempt to reach them seems to fail.

The circular thinking keeps us energetically stuck, and our business doesn’t move forward. What’s really going on here? Are the problems truly ‘unsolvable; or is there a way out of the cycle of problems?

Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) tells us that there is really only ONE problem, and all our problems are outcroppings of this one belief: We believe we are separate from Source Energy / God / All That Is. In our forgetting our connection with the Infinite Divine, we allow ourselves to believe we have unsolvable problems.

Actually, ACIM says it’s our mind ~ our ego, specifically ~ that manufactures unsolvable problems to keep us preoccupied and distracted from our connection to Source. In that respect, the ego often succeeds until we become consciously aware.

When I first heard this, it didn’t make sense to me. But then, I started noticing the steady stream of seemingly unsolvable issues that began cropping up for me in my business. When one problem was somehow miraculously solved, another one was soon making an appearance. I realized that this is exactly what ACIM is saying!

Once I reconnected with Source, I noticed that both my labeling any situation a ‘problem’, and the conviction that I was right (and the need for vindication) about how difficult the situation had become were keeping me stuck and unable to find viable solutions.

As long as our attention is on the struggle, we are not energetically aligned with any solutions.

(I keep typing ‘soulution’, and then correcting the typo, but I’m sure that’s not a coincidence!)

As long as we believe any solution is *outside of us*…something we have to seek, then we fail to recognize our innate power: To connect with Infinite Divine and receive the answers internally.

Just because we’re in business for ourselves doesn’t mean that our connection to the Divine ends at the start of business hours. If you’re in a cycle with your business of unsolvable problems, know the ego is involved.

Spiritual teacher Adyashanti has said that the ego is addicted to identification (labeling), to thinking (using only the mind to solve problems), and attachment to thought/thinking (needing know and to be right). He said, “this is a fiction created by circular thoughts and beliefs, what ACIM calls the ‘unsolvable problems’.

Thoughts and thinking have their place, but the unsolvable problems find resolution when we reconnect with Source. In doing so, the brain relaxes, the solutions present themselves, and we remember it’s not up to us to ‘figure it all out’.

Emotional Guidance Scale

The way out is first to become consciously aware of the cycle of problems, and then use the awareness to connect you with your emotions.

Emotions are always communicating with us, letting us know where we are energetically. When we feel good, those emotions are telling us that we are in alignment with Source Energy. Solutions are easier for us to see and identify, and all organs of our body are functioning optimally, when are energetically in a good feeling place.

Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale is a tool that reminds us that when we’re feeling lower on the vibrational scale, we’re still aligned with the problem(s) and our brain is not functioning at it’s optimal. We cannot see the vast array of solutions Source has available for us.

When I say ‘feeling good’, I am talking about a sustained feeling of lightness and appreciation. If you feel good for just a few minutes, then feel bad again, such as when you feel like taking revenge, it’s a sign that you’re still at the lower end of the vibrational scale.

If you’ve been at the lower end of that scale for a while, you may need to give your self a break from the subject—take a walk in nature, cuddle with your beloved pet, take a nap, listen to a guided meditation—and come back to it when you’re feeling better.

Invoke Easy World, and take a mental break. Give yourself a weekend or a week off of worrying and mentally spinning.

ACIM instructs us to give the question to Source / God / All That Is by saying, out loud or silently:

Take this thought and judge it for me, return to me thoughts of peace and well-being.

Or tell yourself quickly:

Let me recognize this problem so it can be solved.

Then try to suspend all judgment about what the problem is. If possible, close your eyes for a moment and ask what it is. You will be heard and you will be answered.

When we stop trying to ‘think’ the solutions into being, we’ll feel better, our mind will be more relaxed, and we’ll move into energetic alignment with the solutions of Source.

The good news about energy is that it can always shift. Nothing is set in stone— unless we believe it is. We can always work our way back up the vibrational scale and revisit any subject from a higher energy vantage point. When you do, you’ll understand the power of positive energy.

How have you handled your ‘unsolvable’ problems? Share your experiences and suggestions below for others to benefit.

 

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Becoming a Magnet for Your Ideal Clients

magnetWouldn’t you LOVE to be a magnet for your most ideal clients? Last February, I led a Rock Your Business the LOA Way call at Good Vibe University to teach people how to do just that. The topic of the call was creating Strategic Action Plans that Work for You!

If you aren’t familiar with Strategic Action Plans, they are the subject of the book Attracting Perfect Customers: The Power of Strategic Synchronicity by Stacey Hall and Jan Brogniez (2001, Berrett-Koehler Publishers). You can find this book and others that I recommend on my Recommended Reading page.

These do-it-yourself plans are an excellent tool for anyone, especially the LOA savvy self-employed who want to regularly zero in energetically on their desired outcome(s).

You can think of a Strategic Action Plan as a combination of a Pray Rain ideal client / project list and an affirmative list of positive aspects on a single piece of paper you can carry around. It’s a tool to keep you grounded in what’s important for you and where you have decided to focus your attention.

Bring Out the Magnet!

Since everything is energy, we naturally expand energetically where we focus our attention. The more we do, the more we become like a magnet to the experiences and object(s) of our attention. I’m sure you can think of many positive ways you might want to focus on growing and sustaining your business.

To learn how to make your own Strategic Action Plan, download my call notes (right-click the images below):

For more in-depth material, you’ll want to invest in the book (linked above).

As you develop your own Strategic Actions Plan(s), they will continually change as you grow in consciousness and develop new preferences. I find myself editing the list almost daily, and by the end of two weeks, I use the new information to create a fresh new Strategic Action Plan to work from.

Keep in mind that you are not limited to just one Strategic Action Plan…you can make as many as you’d like, for any aspect of your business and/or your life. Play with them, see what works best for you and have fun with them!

Have you worked with Strategic Action Plans before? If so, share your experiences in the comments below. If you haven’t, download the instructions and give them a try.

 

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Connecting the Spiritual Dots with Your Business

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Connecting the spiritual dots with your business is essential, but many business owners are oblivious to its power. Does this sound familiar to you…

You understand the Law of Attraction, but have never made the leap to manifesting your desires with your businesses or career.

How can this be? The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working. Always. No exception. So, how is it that you “understand” the Law of Attraction but are not reaping the benefits?

The answer is that you already ARE reaping benefits!

You are reaping the benefit of continously energetically de-cohering with (repelling) your desire(s). Nothing seems to improve in your business or career because you are reaping the same benefits over and over, and they are not the benefits you say you prefer.

Just a side note about saying we want something and then refusing to shift our energy in the direction of our desires. I’ve done this, and I bet most people have at one time or another, so I’m stating this from personal observation.

To me, this behavior shows that the person is not (at that red-hot moment) truly ready to make the energetic shift. Sometimes humans have to wait for problems to get so bad that they can no longer endure them before they will do the inner work.

 

Of course, you can always consciously choose to opt out of things getting really bad before you begin making energetic changes.

 

One of the benefits of contrast is that is often pushes people to go within and deal with long-standing issues they might otherwise have ignored.

 

So, if you find yourself in this category, just be aware of it. Release self-judgment and embrace your curiosity. Awareness and curiosity have tremendous power for helping us release what’s not working and move forward.

 

Connecting The Spiritual Dots

In order to align with our desires, we have to be willing and ready to start connecting the spiritual dots, and doing it the sustainable way takes some time and retraining of the bodymind (mind and emotions).

In physics-speak, the Law of Attraction means like vibrations cohere and unlike vibrations de-cohere. That is, we draw to us what we’re aligned with vibrationally (energetically), and repel what we are not or no longer aligned with vibrationally.

Change begins happening quite quickly when we finally connect those energetic dots and shift our own energy. It’s never too late to start (unless you’ve already decided it’s too late for you). Having a great mentor or counselor can help people see where they’ve been blocking themselves.

Here’s the most important part to understand: Connecting the Spiritual Dots requires an INTERNAL SHIFT. Nothing changes in your external world until you shift internally, both mentally and emotionally!

Source Leads the Way

In their many books, videos, and workshops, Abraham has repeatedly said that the moment consciousness comes to a new perspective, a new preference, Source immediately BECOMES the new preference.

Whether consciousness is a one-celled amoeba in the ocean, cells in your body, or a thought about your business, Source is immediately responding and calling you vibrationally toward your new preference(s). We feel bad when we do not answer that energetic call from Source.

The angst we feel is when we resist the calling of Source.

We feel angst when we argue for why we can’t get what we prefer.

We feel bad when we’re constantly telling the opposite story of our preference(s) and wondering why our preference hasn’t shown up.

We feel frustration when we focus more on ‘what is wrong now’ versus our new preference.

We feel uneasy at best, worried and fearful at worst, when we try to figure out HOW to accomplish our new preference before we are energetically aligned with our preference. We’ve put the energetic carriage before the horse: Get into alignment FIRST.

Can you relate?

Alignment Connects the Dots

Part of connecting the dots is getting into agreement with your preference. We call this aligning or alignment. The process of aligning may require retraining our bodymind, patience, and consistent decisions to stay focused on our new preference(s).

Here are a few practices to begin the process of making the internal shift by getting into alignment with your preferences:

• Practice Being Quiet – Whether you meditate on your breath, watch the clouds float by, or get into a deep state of Pure Awareness, the regular practice of being quiet rewires the brain and allows us to better hear our own inner guidance. Think of this as the gardener prepping the landscape for the new seeds.

• Practice Noticing Your Responses – Use your natural ability to observe to become aware of your response to your new preference(s). No judgement or correction, just notice them. For instance, consider something you’ve been wanting to improve in your business for quite a while…notice your response to the idea that you can begin experiencing this improvement today or tomorrow, or next week. Your response lets you know how you really feel at a deeper level.

Once you have become aware of your responses, you can always choose a new response. The timing is up to you. Think of this as the gardener pulling the weeds so the seeds can grow better.

• Practice Noticing Your Counter Intentions – This is a big one! At least it has been for me. For instance, you say you want more clients, but you find yourself not wanting to work with the potential clients who show up. What’s really going on here? A counter intention (maybe more than one!) is splitting your energy by pulling you in the opposite direction of your preference. The result is getting nowhere, fast. Think of this as the gardener extracting the whole root on those really deep-rooted weeds, so they don’t come back.

Notice and clear your counter intentions, and watch your world shift!

• Practice Working with the Four Mighty Ones – Neville Goddard wrote about the Four Mighty Ones of the Imagination in his book, Seedtime and Harvest. They are the producer, the author, the director and the actor in the drama of your life. Practice each of those roles in relation to your preferences. (Click the link above to learn more.)

Think of this practice as the gardener planting seeds with the really powerful organic fertilizers.

• Practice Believing in the Possibilities – Take a few minutes every day, first thing in the morning or just before bedtime, to write down your preferences, why you believe you can have / experience what you prefer, and ways in which you might be seeing glimpses of it already. Some people prefer to have a separate journal for this, but pieces of paper placed in a binder can work just as well. Don’t be surprised if one day, you no longer feel the need to write it down because it’s so *obviously possible* to you!

Think of this as the gardener watering and lovingly nurturing the plants.

• Practice Affirming Your Preferences – Think and speak in ways that affirm what you prefer. Create your own powerful customized affirmations that speak directly to your unique preference(s). Write them on beautiful cards you place around your home, car, office and purse / briefcase to remind, uplift, and inspire you.

When you think and speak affirmatively toward your preferences, it’s like the gardener creating the ideal environment for the best possible crop!

What has helped you connect your spiritual dots and shift from just ‘understanding’ the Law of Attraction to experiencing regular manifestations? Share your experiences below in the comments below…

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Enjoying Your Ongoing Journey

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Whether you are new in business, or a veteran business owner with the stories to prove it, there is great benefit in recognizing the ongoing spiritual lessons that are part of the entrepreneurial journey.

The Ongoing Journey

In fact, the women business owners I serve who most-quickly accept and enjoy their entrepreneurial journey as a delightful adventure also tend to be most successful.

From an energetic, Law of Attraction point-of-view, it’s easy to see why these business owners are most successful: Their energy is lighter, more relaxed, and trusting that everything is all working out well. They carry a natural humbleness AND a great sense of humor. They can find the humor in almost every situation and laugh at themselves while learning new skills. The upswings in business do not disorient them or distract them from their core mission, and the downs become sacred opportunities to grow…the fertile ground for the next upswing.

Your business will show you where you (personally) can be more patient, more accepting, and more compassionate.

You will be confronted with any underlying money, health, and relationship issues you may have. If you thought you could avoid those personal downfalls by throwing yourself into your business, think again.

Your business will also show you when and how to set boundaries, and when to hold them firm. You’ll discover strengths you didn’t know you had, along with your weaknesses. You’ll quickly learn to  either overcome each weakness or hire others to handle those aspects of your business.

One of the first lessons that I learned was that no business is successful in a vacuum. As business owners we are dependent on the connections with our vendors as well as our clients and colleagues.

Connecting with other business owners via my local chamber and networking group not only kept me up-to-date on local business news but also put me in touch with potential clients and vendors. It also gave me a reason to set my work aside, get away from my office, and interact with other people.

When you love your business, especially if your business is mostly online and you are a solopreneur, you can forget the importance of socializing and connecting with others in-person!

The more I connected with others, helping others along the way, the more my business flourished. Still, I didn’t realize my business would lead me even further down a spiritual (not religious) path, and that it would benefit from ongoing conscious self-improvement.

It Gets Easier

If you are at the beginning of your business journey and feeling a little daunted by the emotional and spiritual demands of your business, know that it does get easier over time.

It’s like compound interest: What you learn about yourself this week, this month, this year, builds upon itself and will continue to serve you as you move forward.

Learning what spiritual tools work best for you, and practicing them like it matters, will not only make you happier in business but also enrich your ongoing journey. At this point in my journey, regular meditation, affirmations and visualization are all part of my processes. When I am emotionally drawn into a situation, I know it’s time for me to do my inner work.

As it turns out, your business is NOT just business, it’s personal!

 

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The Magical Power of Anger

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The magical power of anger

That’s right: magical! There’s magic in our ability to transmute our anger, not just for our business but for all aspects of our lives.

Personally, I don’t know any business owner who doesn’t, at least occasionally, experience anger in running their business. One of the hot spots are tricky experiences with vendors.

Ideally, vendors support you in your business so you can fully support your clients and customers with ease. You rely on your vendors, and they become part of what makes you and your business successful.

In worst case scenarios, though, difficult vendor experiences can actually harm or derail your businesses. I don’t need to list the potential difficulties for you…and we don’t need to dwell there, either.

In your anger and frustration with the situation, your instincts might have you making rash decisions you’ll regret and send you scrambling to find alternative providers.

LOA savvy business owners know that is a trap: ‘what we resist, persists’.

Any action you take will reflect the energy with which it was taken. The angry journey reveals an angry result.

If you don’t clean up the anger with one vendor, you’ll just experience similar energy with the next, and the next, and the next. Worse case, that anger will seep into other aspects of your business and cultivate more resentment.

However, when you embrace the magical power within your emotions, you’ll gain understanding of your limiting beliefs, and get clues to resolving not only the current issue, but any future issue, as well!

Navigate tricky vendor relations

The most reliable, and sustainable way, to manage difficult vendor relations is by understanding the energy of your emotions and the magic that is within.

This past week, I was pondering various topics to write for my next blog post, and then I received a gift of an intensely frustrating vendor experience. Don’t you just love when your real-life business hands you such opportunities?

OK, for some of you, that sounds like a ‘trick question’. It’s really not! Aware and savvy business owners learn how to manage their energy and transmute the difficult experiences into growth opportunities.

Now, I don’t go out of my way to seek anger, but over the years I’ve learned that it’s worth my energy and attention to transmute the anger, first, before taking any actions. Below is yesterday’s story broken down into the steps that helped me do exactly that: Transmute the anger into magic!

The time it takes to work through these steps will depend on your situation, and how long you’ve been practicing these skills.

STEP ONE: FEEL IT, FULLY

When you notice you are angry, give yourself a moment to really feel it in your body. This serves three purposes: 1.) Increases your awareness of your own emotions, 2.) Allows the limiting beliefs and stories (which hold the emotion in place) to surface, and 3.) This is the starting place for transmuting the emotion.

Feel the emotion doesn’t mean dwell there. Or stop there. Or let it derail you. It means allow yourself to feel what you really feel, including all levels of anger and sadness, before you continue with your inner work. Without giving yourself a few minutes to really feel your emotions, you might stuff them and the magical transmutation never has a chance to start.

So, here’s how I applied this step. Late on Monday, I became aware that a vendor had charged me for services I never requested for the second month in a row….and was only just finding out about it. It was too late in the evening to do anything, so I decided to deal with it on Tuesday.

I was so angry about it that when Tuesday morning rolled around, I was ready to fire them on the spot, and see if they had broken industry regulations by not notifying me sooner. The anger in me was so intense that I felt vengeful. I kept wanting to pick up the phone to chew someone’s face off. But each time I started to dial the number, I realized my energy was too intense and I needed to step back before going any further.

STEP TWO: NOTICE THE ‘STORY’

When we’re angry, odds are pretty high that we have a ‘story’ in place that made us angry and keeps us stuck there. In some cases, it’s not just one story, but several ‘stories’…past, present, and even future ones!

Once you’ve properly given yourself some time to feel the feeling, start noticing what story is playing in your head about this situation.

Admittedly, I was so angry yesterday, that I wasn’t able to do this immediately after I became aware of my feelings. In fact, it wasn’t until after I ordered myself to calm down, that I eventually heard myself rehashing the ‘stories’ I had going on: They are really pissing me off! This is so wrong—I won’t let them get away with it! What makes them think they can take advantage of me? I’ve been a good client for them for years, I don’t deserve this! This cannot be legal…I should report them! What kind of slimy business are they running? How many other people are they abusing?

Spot the stories? I had already concluded that they had willingly wronged me and were doing it to others. Feeling victimized, and stoking the stories that kept me a victim. Ready to get revenge! They were running a slimy operation and needed to be stopped!

Yeah, it was the last one that got my attention. Extremes often show up in ‘stories’ that keep us stuck in anger and vicitimhood. In the past, I would have sat down and made a list of these crazy stories so I could address them, one-by-one, but having done this so often…I took mental note and quickly moved to step three.

STEP THREE: QUESTION THE ‘STORY’

Or (multiple) stories. Question them. In my case, I did The Work: Is this really true? Can I absolutely be sure this is true? How do I feel when I think this thought? How would I feel if I didn’t have this story? Turn it around.

For me, the first story being questioned looked like this:
They are really pissing me off!

Is this really true? YES!

Can I absolutely be sure this is true? YES!

How do I feel when I think this thought? UGH! It makes me even angrier!

How would I feel if I didn’t have this thought? I might not be so angry, or I might not be angry at all. I might be calmer and thinking more clearly.

Turn it around: I am pissing them off!; I am pissing myself off!

Oh, yeah…there it is! Truth prevails.

As soon as I stated the second ‘turn around’, I immediately saw how I was the one who was creating my anger and I was blaming them for making me feel angry. No one can make me, or any of us, feel anything unless I/we give them the power to do so.

Just questioning the first story made it easier for me to de-escalate, and calm down. I started laughing at how I had frothed myself up in anger without having all the details or information. I was already feeling better as I sailed through questioning the other stories that propped up my anger.

STEP FOUR: LET AWARENESS BRING CLARITY

The transmutation was in process! Once I had calmed down, gained awareness by questioning my stories, it became really clear to me: When it came down to it, I didn’t have the full story. I was only seeing ‘my side’ and needed to communicate with the vendor to get the full story.

All I had was a statement showing that they had billed me for non-requested (and un-received) services, and I had allowed myself to stir up my own feelings of anger.

What do I really want to experience? I wanted to speak to the vendor to get the full story, to have my account corrected, and monies refunded.

I grabbed the statement and a piece of paper. At the top of the paper, I wrote the date, the vendor’s name and phone number. Under that, I wrote 3 words to describe how I wanted the situation to unfold:

Calm, Smooth, Easy.

Then, I wrote my objectives:

  • Ask about the statement.
  • Get the account corrected.
  • Get any refund, if applicable.

The magic was activated and ready to launch!

STEP FIVE: TAKE ACTION WITH CLEAN ENERGY

By now, I’ve felt my full emotion, noticed the stories, questioned them, and gotten clear on what I want to transpire and set my intentions. I felt so much calmer, relaxed, and at ease. Knowing that this was all going to work out, I picked up the phone and dialed the number. While it rang, I reminded myself: Calm. Smooth. Easy.

The first person I spoke to couldn’t answer any question and seemed confused. He was reflecting some of my earlier wonky energy. I knew it was time to get my energy clear: I silently re-affirmed Calm, Smooth, and Easy.

As soon as I did this, he transferred me to a second person. I re-explained the problem, and this second guy had answers for ALL my questions! His voice was pleasant and helpful as he pulled up my statement on his computer, saw the charges, then researched the requests which triggered the charges. In a calm and helpful tone, he saw the error (another client’s charges were showing up on my statement), and began apologizing.

“Let me fix this immediately. I am so sorry for this mix-up, and so glad you called!”

A computer error — that explained a lot! Immediately, in just a few minutes, he fixed the error, refunded monies automatically charged, corrected my balance due, asked if he could do anything more, and cheerfully wished me a good day.

Talk about a magical experience! I never had to raise my voice, and was easily able to remain calm during the entire encounter. The experience was smooth and easy, just as I had written down while I was getting clear on my preferred outcome. Doubt that would have been the case had I called earlier in the day when I was so angry!

STEP SIX: REST AND REVIEW

I was smiling when I got off the phone. I had been on quite the magical ’emotional journey’, going from vengeful white-hot angry to calm and satisfied, in just a few hours.

After taking a break, I came back to my office and took stock of what happened. (That’s when it became obvious that writing this post was the next step.) Take the time to learn from your experiences. If you could have done better, take note. If you did a good job, acknowledge yourself.

Without a doubt, I did a REEEAAAAALLLLY good job of feeling my feelings fully. (giggle) Although, it might have served me to notice the stories sooner. Giving myself some ‘space’ so I could, finally, notice the stories…essential to this whole process! So glad I didn’t take action when I was really angry. Very happy that I questioned the stories, and was able to laugh, before getting clear on what I really wanted. Making the call with clear energy and intentions completed the anger-to-magic transmutation.

Come to think of it, if this vendor hadn’t made the mistake to begin with, I wouldn’t have gone on this emotional journey or learned so much about myself in the process…let alone, been able to share it with you. For that, I am very appreciative of that vendor and their mistake. Bless them!

Did this post give you some insights into transmuting your own anger? Or how to work through a sticky vendor, client, or employee situation? If so, share your insights below.

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