Enjoying Your Ongoing Journey

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Whether you are new in business, or a veteran business owner with the stories to prove it, there is great benefit in recognizing the ongoing spiritual lessons that are part of the entrepreneurial journey.

The Ongoing Journey

In fact, the women business owners I serve who most-quickly accept and enjoy their entrepreneurial journey as a delightful adventure also tend to be most successful.

From an energetic, Law of Attraction point-of-view, it’s easy to see why these business owners are most successful: Their energy is lighter, more relaxed, and trusting that everything is all working out well. They carry a natural humbleness AND a great sense of humor. They can find the humor in almost every situation and laugh at themselves while learning new skills. The upswings in business do not disorient them or distract them from their core mission, and the downs become sacred opportunities to grow…the fertile ground for the next upswing.

Your business will show you where you (personally) can be more patient, more accepting, and more compassionate.

You will be confronted with any underlying money, health, and relationship issues you may have. If you thought you could avoid those personal downfalls by throwing yourself into your business, think again.

Your business will also show you when and how to set boundaries, and when to hold them firm. You’ll discover strengths you didn’t know you had, along with your weaknesses. You’ll quickly learn to  either overcome each weakness or hire others to handle those aspects of your business.

One of the first lessons that I learned was that no business is successful in a vacuum. As business owners we are dependent on the connections with our vendors as well as our clients and colleagues.

Connecting with other business owners via my local chamber and networking group not only kept me up-to-date on local business news but also put me in touch with potential clients and vendors. It also gave me a reason to set my work aside, get away from my office, and interact with other people.

When you love your business, especially if your business is mostly online and you are a solopreneur, you can forget the importance of socializing and connecting with others in-person!

The more I connected with others, helping others along the way, the more my business flourished. Still, I didn’t realize my business would lead me even further down a spiritual (not religious) path, and that it would benefit from ongoing conscious self-improvement.

It Gets Easier

If you are at the beginning of your business journey and feeling a little daunted by the emotional and spiritual demands of your business, know that it does get easier over time.

It’s like compound interest: What you learn about yourself this week, this month, this year, builds upon itself and will continue to serve you as you move forward.

Learning what spiritual tools work best for you, and practicing them like it matters, will not only make you happier in business but also enrich your ongoing journey. At this point in my journey, regular meditation, affirmations and visualization are all part of my processes. When I am emotionally drawn into a situation, I know it’s time for me to do my inner work.

As it turns out, your business is NOT just business, it’s personal!

 

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Deciding To Embrace Change

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[This article was previously published on AffirmingSpirit.com. It has been revised and updated for the enjoyment of blog-readers.]

Recently, I wrote an article about the incredible power of decision, about how just deciding what you want can create the opportunities for that creation to appear in your life. Our decisions, whether conscious or unconscious, align us with the vibrational equivalents for opportunities and actions. In this post, I’m inviting you to consider whether you’ve made, or are ready to make, the decision to change what isn’t working in your life.

To Decide or Not to Decide: Is CHANGE the Question?

A few months ago, during a coaching session, the client brought up three experiences that were upsetting her. To her, these experiences were unrelated, but they all frustrated her. As I listened, I could hear the common thread in what she was saying: All three of her experiences reflected that she felt unappreciated for her hard work, and in some cases, disrespected by people around her.

When I brought this to her attention, she was surprised as she had not seen the commonality in her experience until that moment. I told her the good news is that she could decide to change right there, right that minute while we were talking. All she had to do was embrace the decision to change. She could begin by creating positive self-talk affirmations such as

I am respected and appreciated by everyone around me, and I respect and appreciate myself!

I allow others to respect me, and show it in positive ways!

Everyone I interact with treats me with respect and appreciation!

It’s Easier to Change Than Remain Suffering

The gal I was coaching was ready to make a change. She had reached a point where she no longer wanted to experience those same frustrations, and she recognized a long-standing pattern in her life that needed to change if she was going to move forward.

So, she embraced these new affirmations immediately, saying them with conviction and belief that she was already creating what she wanted. Within 24 hours, she reported noticing respectful and appreciative behavior all around her…particularly from the people she previously felt were not behaving that way!

Her discovery? What she wanted was all around her as soon as she was open to seeing it. While she was convinced that others were disrespectful, that is how she perceived others’ behavior and that is what showed up for her. As soon as she changed her focus, what she perceived and experienced changed as well.

When we talked afterward, she shared that making this shift in perception helped her to appreciate life so much more than before she had reached out for help during coaching. That comment made it clear to me that choosing to make positive changes is far more rewarding than staying in suffering. Our egos will convince us that change is not possible…it’s too difficult…it can’t be done…it’s better to stay where you are. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Changing is really easier than most people think, and it starts by making the decision to change.

Are You Ready for Change?

In the above example, if she had not been ready to change, she wouldn’t have been able to do the affirmations with feeling and would not have seen any changes. She may even have found excuses why she didn’t have time or energy to say the affirmations…or kept forgetting to say them. This is just resistance to change. Most people think change will be too painful, but the truth is NOT changing is often more painful.

How do you know you are ready for change? You can feel it. You know you are ready when you realize what you are experiencing is not working for you, when you are open to suggestions for shifting (like saying affirmations), when you can feel your life could be better and you are no longer willing to repeat the same mistakes. You can feel it inside yourself that it’s time…and, if you aren’t sure you can do it by yourself, you begin considering reaching out for help.

Likewise, when you aren’t ready, you’ll find all kinds of excuses to not reach out for help. Suddenly, you’ll create tons of reasons that tell you, “now isn’t the right time”. Follow what feels best to you, and you will take action when it’s the right time for you.

This is Your Life: There’s No Wrong Answer

Keep in mind that there is no wrong answer when it comes to your life. If you are choosing to stay where you are, that is because it is right for what you need to experience in this moment. As soon as you are ready to embrace change, you will find the help you need and begin taking appropriate steps.

In the meantime, love and accept yourself for who you are and how wonderful your life really is!

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Believing in the Power of Possibilities

possibilities [This article was previously published on AffirmingSpirit.com. It has been revised and updated for the enjoyment of blog-readers.]

Possibilities for Improvement

Whenever someone wants to create change in their life, whether it be to their body, their home, their relationships, their career, their income, or all of the above, they first have to be able to develop a positive concept of “what is possible”. It is from that place of positive possibilities that they can determine what the next steps will be, for otherwise they would not know where to start.

What IS Possible?

The answer to that question depends entirely on who you ask! What’s interesting about ‘what is possible?’ is that the answer is not a one-size-fits-all solution as some experts would claim. It is really a range of answers, a realm if you will, from the easiest to more difficult, from the very small to the grandest of grand to that which has never been considered…and the answer is constantly changing as the universe evolves!

Every person’s realm of possibility is the unique intersection between what they have heard others accomplishing and what they can currently imagine is possible in their minds.

Why is this so important? People act on what they believe is possible for them. If they don’t believe they can do better, they rarely try. Plus, each person is going to have a realm of possibility that is slightly different from others, pre-set by what they learned was possible in their youth, and based on life experiences. Someone growing up poor being told ‘you can’t have what you want’ has a much different pre-set realm of possibility than one who grew up wealthy being told ‘you can have anything you desire, and you deserve the best that life has to offer’. Furthermore, if as an adult you’ve received additional feedback about ‘what is possible for you’, that also goes into the realm of possibilities.

Are you getting a picture of how complicated this can be?

Can you see that how you were raised may be slightly less important that the kinds of personalities support you as an adult?

Can you see how co-creation is more difficult between parties who have opposing realms of possibility?

Many people, if they haven’t heard of others doing something will conclude that it simply cannot be done (which is rarely true) and will not even try. If they are surrounded by people who do not support their desires to be better and do better, they might give up. However, if they have the support of those around them and a creative sense or internal vision of the possibility, they will make an effort…some even feel compelled to try. This is how inventors come up with stuff the rest of us say, “Brilliant idea…why didn’t I think of that?” Engineers who find break-through solutions have done so from an expanded viewpoint of what’s possible. Inventors are willing to open their minds to a greater realm of ‘what is possible?’. Scientists who make great breakthroughs, artists who create new mediums, all of the people who go beyond the barrier of ‘what is possible’ have the same thing in common: A willingness to challenge preconceived ideas and allow themselves to imagine a better way.

Extreme Makeovers: Who Holds the Vision for Improvement?

Extreme makeovers on TV are very popular. Unless you have permanently unplugged your TV, or never owned one, you have likely seen one of the many makeover shows on TV. There have been makeover shows on virtually every theme possible: losing weight, improving wardrobes, decorating or renovating new rooms and/or entire homes, improving physical features or looks…you name it.

I often wonder: What happens to the ‘made over’ after the cameras are gone? How does someone, who has a low opinion of themselves, move forward when others have shown them the possibilities to do and be better? Some follow-up shows have revealed that the inner work needed for change was lacking in these shows, so the recipients went right back to their old way of being. The way of being they knew and were comfortable with experiencing.

A while back, I saw a makeover show on Food Network where an award-winning chef and interior designer came into a run-down restaurant to help the owner improve their business by making over the entire restaurant. New menu and new restaurant decor. The restaurant had been successful once, but started going downhill and never recovered.

Apparently, anyone walking into the restaurant could see (and smell, according to the chef) and probably taste, too, why the restaurant was suffering…anyone, that is, except the owner and his family. They were used to the sights and smells, and had developed a mind-set that it was too hard to change. They no longer saw the possibilities for improvement. They needed outside help to change.

It was also very clear to see that the award-winning experts had a much grander vision of what was possible than the failing restaurant owner. The owner was so stuck in the negativity surrounding the failing of his business that he had a hard time accepting the suggestions of the chef and interior designer. He had not been able (or willing) to see their vision and was highly critical of their efforts until the restaurant makeover was complete. Once he actually stepped into the new vision for his restaurant, and sat down to taste the new menu items, then he was able to grasp what was possible. As a result, he’s kept up with the improvements, and the restaurant is now much more successful than ever before.

That episode of Restaurant Makeover illustrates why so many people stay stuck when they are spirally downward, unable to correct the problems and change course. On one level, they do want improvements, to change their course, shift their experience—but they are so mired in the “what is” that they are unable to envision something greater, something better, something beyond. They absolutely need someone who can see more options, who isn’t mired in “what is”, and can create the space for greater possibility where none existed before. And they must be able to listen without judgement to suggestions that are offered. For many people, that is really hard to do! But, it’s not impossible.

Making Big Changes
So, what do you do when you know big changes need to happen, but you aren’t quite sure change is possible? Here are some suggestions that have worked for me:

Step 1: Decide It starts with deciding that you are ready and want to make big changes. Whatever change you are envisioning will require stepping outside of your comfort zone, and believing something greater is possible. It absolutely cannot be done unless you are committed to the process.

Now, deciding doesn’t guarantee you will know HOW, in that moment, to proceed. However, the power of deciding will set you on the journey of discovering how.

Step 2: Seek help Can you do this on your own? Most people cannot make big changes without the assistance of someone else. We need someone who isn’t emotionally involved in our life to show us other possibilities. Seek an advisor, mentor, coach or counselor who will hold you accountable and help you shift out of your pre-set preconceptions about what is possible for you. Most people choose a coach or counselor because they are readily available, ready to start immediately, and already experienced in helping others.

Step 3: Raise your vibration Allow your subconscious to connect the dots for you. Meanwhile, go do some fun things…go for a walk in the sunshine, play with your pets, visit friends, spend time with loved-ones, meditate, journal, watch an uplifting movie, or whatever you identify as fun for you. Use this time to life yourself vibrationally, and refresh yourself mentally and emotionally.

If you are really struggling, taking a nap to release stress can be very beneficial. You might need to repeat this step many times between the other steps to keep your mind relaxed. A stressed mind will not be helpful, as it is more likely to direct you to vibrationally-equivalent stress-filled ideas and stressful outcomes.

Step 4: Research Find out what the most successful people in the related industry are doing. If you want to lose weight, find out what the experts suggest for diet, exercise, and supporting therapies. These days, the web is a great place to begin searching. Refrain from pre-judging what you read about or deciding that you don’t have the money or resources to do what others have done. Just concentrate on finding out what others have done as it might spur other ideas.

Step 5: Brainstorm Then, it’s time to ask your imagination to provide solutions: Brainstorm ideas, and withhold judgment of any single idea until later. Just let the ideas flow forth. Write down whatever ideas come to you. The more you try this technique, the more ideas will flow. You can even ask the person assisting you to brainstorm with you, if they are willing. Ask first. Most mentors and coaches will do this, but I am not sure about all counselors as different kinds of therapies have different approaches.

Step 6: Take a break before reviewing Remember to rest your mind regularly during this process, and allow yourself to have fun doing things that feel good. Once you feel you have completed your research and brainstorming, set the information aside, and again, go do some fun things. Let your mind relax, while the subconscious works out some solutions. When you are relaxed and feeling good, review your compiled list of ideas. Notice which ideas feel good, even if you are unsure about how to do it, or fear you don’t have the resources/time/money/whatever to go that route. The ones that feel good are the best options for you. This is where a coach or counselor can really help you believe in yourself. Also, notice what new ideas come to mind that might be better options for you. For instance, if you’ve always wanted to learn to dance, consider taking lessons as a way to learn AND get aerobic exercise.

Step 7: Pay attention for right action Right action is the action that is, deep in your heart, right for you. Once your subconscious mind begins to work on these ideas of what’s possible, and you’ve reviewed your research and brainstorming, you may begin noticing opportunities. New information may be sent to you. New ideas will pop into your awareness. Hybrid ideas—a combination of what has been and done what really appeals to you—may bubble up. Be willing to consider ideas that may have seemed out of reach. Pay attention to everything that shows up or comes to mind, and how you feel about each idea.

Follow and take action on everything that feels good to you! The way you feel is guidance for what is best for you…your right action. When you feel sure about a certain action, take it. When you feel unsure or doubtful, go do something else. Often, when we are in a relaxed state, we’ll know exactly what steps are best for us.

A good advisor, mentor, coach or counselor can also support you in weeding out the unhelpful energy, so you can discover the right choices for you.

Is there something in your life that you are now committed to changing? Share below what possibilities you are choosing to believe in….

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The Ultimate Commitment

Ultimate Commitment - 450w[This article about the ultimate commitment  was previously published on AffirmingSpirit.com. It has been revised and updated for the enjoyment of blog-readers.]

The Ultimate Commitment is the most important commitment you will make in your lifetime.

When we think about important commitments in our lives, we usually think of things like marriage, children, career, family, and so forth. No doubt, all of those are important, but what is the value of these commitments when one isn’t living well, not eating healthy or exercising, have no time for yourself or your thoughts, and are in a constant state of stress and/or survival mode?

The Ultimate Commitment

The ultimate commitment is the one most often forgotten: Commitment to Self. When I use the word Self, I am not talking about mindless selfishness or the-world-revolves-around-me narcissism. I am talking about the commitment to all of you: Your body, mind, and spirit, and the on-going well-being of all three. Another term for this is self-care.

Making the Time
Women, particularly, often find it easier to commit to helping others than to helping themselves. The irony is that we are really failing those we love and want to help when we haven’t taken care of our own needs first. The woman who makes certain she has regular self-care is not only happier, but also the one who then has the most to give others.

Your overall well-being, including mental attitude, nutrition, exercise, relaxation, and good sleep are the foundation for creating success in other areas of your life. A small amount of time each day invested in taking care of all of you, body-mind-spirit, will pay rich dividends. When you nurture these aspects of who you are, you will feel a deeper sense of gratitude that connects you better to those around you and to your passions. Your commitments to marriage, children, career, and family will feel like less of a burden, and more of a blessing. Everyone around you benefits.

Taking care of oneself is actually one of the least selfish things you can do.

Change the World
Looking for a way to build a better world? Begin where you are by focusing on making yourself happy. The ripple effect will transform those around you, and those around them, and so on!

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When I was a newly-single mother trying to juggle a full-time job with motherhood, I was fortunate enough to participate in a single-parenting support group. The first session, the counselors told us that we each needed to find time for ourselves everyday to fill up our ‘Mommy’ bank—that never-ending source of unconditional love and support that our children need and draw upon.

At first, this made no sense to me and even seemed selfish. But, then I started noticing…on the days that I had a chance to exercise or have quiet time to myself, I was much happier around my son and his behavior seemed more manageable. What appeared as better behavior was, in part, due to my calmness around him coupled with an enhanced ability to cope when issues arose. Both of us benefited when I committed to my own self-care.

Since that time, I have made a commitment to take care of myself, and have watched my son grow into a happy, motivated, high school junior. There were ups and downs along the way, but what kept me sane and grounded was the time I took to take care of my body, mind, and spirit. I’ve never regretted the time I took to take care of myself so I could be a better parent, but I can’t say the same about other activities.

The Self-Care Secret
Recently, the Oprah Winfrey show featured women who looked young for their age. All of them had these things in common: They had positive mental attitudes, exercised regularly, took good care of their skin, and spent their days doing things that they truly loved. The show was incredibly inspiring, and proved that taking care of yourself not only makes life more enjoyable, it keeps you looking younger, and makes you more healthy!

If you are feeling resentful of the demands on your time, this is your wake-up call to make a shift. Take time to notice what’s working, and what’s not. Release what is no longer working for you, and make a plan to do more of what is working for you! I can’t make this change for you. Your neighbor can’t make any changes. It’s all up to you.

Your current and future health and well-being rest on your commitment to self. Regardless of how much you have to change, the good news is that you don’t have to do it all at once. Start by making one change a week. You can easily change one aspect of your life this week, and get the ball rolling.

Affirming Your Best
One of the best ways to nurture a positive attitude is by creating and using positive affirmations. Feeding your mind a steady diet of positive thoughts is a very powerful and effective way of building your self-esteem and creating positive change for your life. The brain does not know the difference between reality and perceived reality, so as you read and say affirmations repeatedly, the brain begins to see it as reality.

Even more important is the emotion behind those words and thoughts. Heart science has proven that positive thoughts combined with emotion causes our heart, and the electro-magnetic field it generates, to vibrate in coherence. This coherent state causes all the organs of the body to function better as well as the release of beneficial hormones in the brain. Our body literally *shifts* energetically to embrace positive change!

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Change, in itself, is neither good nor bad. Change is what we make of the experience. For example, underweight people might be happy for weight gain, whereas overweight people would not be so enthusiastic. How you feel about the change in your life is key to how you will experience it.

Change can be daunting unless you prepare your mind for the process, which is precisely what affirmations can do for you. When you say your affirmations, do you feel uplifted and happy? If so, you know that you are ready for that change to take place. If not, either the wording of the affirmation or it’s intention, the meaning behind the affirmation, is not aligned with what you really want.

For instance, if you say you want to lose weight, but sub-consciously feel it’s too difficult, then no amount of affirmations will allow you to experience weight reduction. The counter-intention (that it’s too difficult) is too strong!

When you are able to recognize the need for change(s) and feel motivated to experience them, you are at a place where affirmations will be most effective in helping you make the change. The good news is that you can’t really make a mistake, so it’s worth reaching for the experiences (and affirmations) that make your heart sing.

Not motivated, yet? Don’t beat up on yourself.

Procrastinating—or not feeling motivated to take action—is just a sign that your vision and your reality are not quite aligned. Relax and think about what you really want. When you are ready, inspiration and motivation will be effortless, as will be taking the appropriate actions. We’ll be there for you when you are ready to make the Ultimate Commitment.

For those who are ready, click here to download a few PDF pages that will start you on your journey.

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Manifest Better Mental Health in 30 Days

We can intend and get into the feeling all we want, but we really want to start all our Deliberate Focusing from a platform of mental health and well-being.

At the beginning of January 2014, SF-based psychologist, author of 40 books, and creativity coach, Eric Maisel started a blog series on Psychology Today entitled, “30 Days to Better Mental Health“. This is a great time to jump into the series, begin reading and practicing his daily suggestions.

I’m quite a fan of Dr. Maisel’s work and I’ve shared some of his ideas before on this blog. I was introduced to him when he came to speak about creativity to our Silicon Valley-based watercolor society. In addition to being a gifted and humorous speaker, he had an ease about which he approaches and demystifies creativity from which everyone can benefit.

Dr. Maisel knows about sensitive people and empaths, and he knows how to help them feel better and find meaning in what they do. As a creative, I find his writing incredibly soothing, and gently uplifting, even if it isn’t always 100% LOA friendly. (Despite that, you will notice that virtually all that he shares dovetails beautifully with Abraham’s teachings.)

Here are the links for the first 14 days of this web series on Psychology Today:

Day One: Flipping the Calmness Switch

Day Two: Giving Life a Thumb’s Up

Day Three: Tolerating a Difficult Thought for 10 Seconds

Day Four: Becoming a Past Whisperer

Day Five: Changing Your Mood with One Simple Sentence

Day Six: Not Tripping Repeatedly in the Very Same Spot

Day Seven: Having Hope When Hope Makes Little Sense

Day Eight: Offering One Small Gift with Love

Day Nine: Reducing Your Anxiety Using One Simple Visualization

Day Ten: Tracking Boredom Behind Our Frantic Busyness

Day Eleven: Turning Your Meaning Needs Into Actions

Day Twelve: Reducing Meaninglessness with One Single Question

Day Thirteen: Feeling Better Sooner Rather Than Later

Day Fourteen: Reducing Meaninglessness with One Single Question

Look here for future installments

Sleep Your Way to Success

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Jeannette Maw, the Good Vibe Coach, just posted her most popular blog posts for 2014 (well worth checking out this fabulous list for deliberate creators!). I was so honored to see that my guest post entitled, Sleep Your Way to Success, made #2 spot for most clicked posts! Sharing the blog post here for AffirmingSpirits who may have missed it the first time around.

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What’s the connection between sleeping and success? You might be surprised!

It is a well-known spiritual teaching that anything that exists in physical form, including your success in life, started first as an idea. When the idea is contemplated and the imagination takes hold, the thought begins to attract vibrationally similar thoughts, and before you know it, the idea begins to take shape.

Brain science tells us that our mind does not know the difference between reality and imagined past, present, or future. Many elite athletes take advantage of this fact to continue training their minds during their off-time. In the same way, you can harness your sleeping time (including naps) as a manifesting tool.

New Thought Teacher and Author, Neville Goddard, wrote in his book The Law and The Promise that “imagination creates reality.” Remember using your imagination as a child and being transported to other worlds in the process? Using sleep takes advantage of both your imagination and the state of relaxation that facilitates allowing.

In Goddard’s book, he details a number of stories in which people engaged their imagination while falling asleep to manifest their desires. In several cases, the people were manifesting a new home or renters for their existing home. To act AS IF they already have what they are manifesting, each of these people fell asleep each night imagining they were falling asleep in their preferred location.

This is ridiculously easy to do since, in most cases, you’ll be taking your own bed with you. If you have a pet who sleeps nearby, snoring or purring the night away, it’s easy to imagine they are on the journey with you!

Here’s How You Can Sleep Your Way to Success:

1. Lay in bed, close your eyes, relax and begin imagining what you desire has already come to pass and you are sleeping in your desired state.

 

2. Allow yourself to feel as if you’re at the end of a day after your manifestation arrived, relaxing in your bed, taking it all in.

 

3. Really appreciate what you’ve just created. Then, let yourself drift off to sleep.

 

Repeat as often as you feel inspired, knowing that everything is perfectly aligning on the non-physical level. When you feel done, let it go, knowing it’s already created and you’ll be inspired to the next step.

I’ve used this process many times as a way to keep me positively focused on the days when it was really hard to do so. If redirecting my thoughts didn’t work, I would go lay down, close my eyes and imagine. This immediately redirects my thoughts and I feel better, even more hopeful. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. So, if you are reading this and beginning to doubt you can do it, just stop thinking about it and give it a try!

San Francisco’s writing coach and author, Eric Maisel, teaches a similar process in his book Sleep Thinking. Maisel’s suggestion is to cultivate a sense of “wonder” as you fall asleep and let your subconscious discover the answer while you sleep. Upon wakening, the answer often presents itself, but sometimes this process requires staying in that sense of wonder several nights in a row.

Cultivate a Sense of Wonder by asking asking questions just as you fall asleep…

I wonder how I will (fill in the blank)?

OR

I wonder where (that missing item) is located?

OR

I wonder when is the best time to (fill in the blank)?

Ask your questions and remain in an open-minded state. Don’t try to consciously answer with your mind. Let your subconscious take over as you fall asleep, and you’ll often wake with the answer or become aware of the answer sometime during the following day.

In The Law and The Promise, Goddard discusses the power of “Revisioning,” which is also a fantastic tool to use as you fall asleep. Revisioning is using your imagination to go back in time and imagine a different experience or outcome.

One of Neville’s students used this technique to heal a long-standing injury that had caused chronic pain since childhood. This student fell asleep each night re-imagining the day they were on the swing. Instead of remembering how they fell off and broke their bones, they saw themselves jumping off the swing and landing safely in front of their mother. Over and over, night after night, they revisioned the experience being a positive one, and within a few weeks all the pain subsided until one day they noticed it was completely gone.

You can do the same with any situation, whether it requires physical healing or revisioning a better relationship or financial outcome. Your imagination is a powerful tool, and when we sleep we are most often in the most relaxed and allowing state of the day. Combining the two gives you a powerful yet easy way to create a new positive outcome for yourself.

I hope this helps you think about how you might enjoy sleeping your way to success! Let’s hear your stories for how you use this technique or want to use it in the future …

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This guest post originally appeared on the Good Vibe Blog on April 4, 2014, and has been shared here with permission. Jeannette Maw is the LOA party host at GVU and publisher of the rave reviewed Good Vibe newsletter, which you can subscribe to here.

 

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WTF?

WTF - What's The Feeling?

When I am working with clients who are distressed about not experiencing what they prefer, it’s relatively easy for me to see what’s going on because I am not emotionally caught up in the experience. (This is just one of the reasons we all benefit from working with teachers, mentors, and/or coaches…they can help us see and navigate issues that we are too close to emotionally.)

First thing you have to remember is that: When there is emotional discord, it is a signal that what we are thinking is discordant with the goal we have in mind.

Caught in the emotional web, we often cannot see where we are creating discord in our thoughts and feelings. As Einstein said, you cannot solve a problem with the same energy that created the problem. Quantum Physicists say that when two or more vibrations match up, they are “coherent”. Coherent energy is the opposite of discordant or incoherent energy. The energy of the problem and the energy of the solution are discordant, not coherent.

In order to solve your problem, you must get into vibrational coherence with the energy of the solution. Here is a quick tip for those discordant moments when you want to release the negative energy get back on track with positive energy. I call this tip: WTF? It is a reminder to ask the question: What’s The Feeling? Yeah, I bet that’s not what you thought it meant. 😉

Step 1:  Take out a piece of paper. Draw a line sideways on the paper half-way down to break it into two sections. At the top of both sections, write: WTF?

Step 2: In the top section, write down how you are currently feeling...dump all the raw emotions inside of you out onto this piece of paper. As soon as you begin to acknowledge how you are truly feeling you are in a better position to release that energy.

Step 3:
On the bottom half of the paper, answer the question: What’s the Feeling of my preferred outcome? Usually, we only want to experience something because we think it will feel better than what we are currently feeling. So, tap into the feeling you anticipate that your preferred outcome will evoke in you. Immerse yourself in what that would look, sound, and feel like to you and write that down.

Step 4: Compare the feelings from the top and bottom sections. If you are feeling unhappy, it is because you want the feeling in the bottom section but you are stuck in the feeling of the top section. Now you can clearly see WHY you are feeling discordant: too much of your attention has been focused where you don’t want it and not enough has been on the feelings that you want to evoke.

Step 5: It’s time to let go of the energy that is creating the discord: tear or cut off the top part of the paper and dispose of it (crumple it up, burn it in a safe container, or throw it out).

Step 6: Refocus your energy. With the bottom half of the paper remaining, ask yourself how you can begin feeling more the way you know you want to feel. If an answer comes immediately, do it. If it doesn’t, trust that the answer will show up and you will be ready for it when it does! One idea: use the list of feelings that are coherent with your desire(s) to create your own powerful customized affirmations.

As you focus your attention MORE on the feeling you desire, you move yourself vibrationally into coherence with that desire. Your emotions are an indicator of where you are focusing your thoughts and feelings. They are truly a divine gift to help you see where you need to get into vibrational coherence.

I am inviting you to begin asking yourself this question, all day, every day. This could quite possibly the most important question you can ask yourself throughout the day: WTF? = What’s The Feeling? What am I feeling right now? What feeling is closest to what I want to experience? What can I do to focus on the feeling I want to evoke?

Now you have a new meaning for WTF…one that can help you get back on track vibrationally. Share below your comments and suggestions for getting into coherent feelings.

Getting the Most from Business Advice

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I’ve been inspired to share this insight with you today.

You have probably noticed that I don’t write blog posts every day, every week or even every month. There is an important reason for this beyond the fact that there are already a myriad of free resources on this site. I used to write more often, and all of it is available in the archives, but I’ve learned the importance of only taking inspired action. In the meantime, I remain quiet to become aware and allow my intuition to show me when it’s time to take the action of sharing insights.

Let’s back up a moment and look at thoughts and actions from a vibrational point of view.

Everything we perceive starts first as pure consciousness—as a thought that may eventually become more thought, word, energy, or inspire actions. Pure consciousness is formless and ever-present, ready to respond and be transformed by our energy. Since we live in a vibrational universe (yes, that includes the full spectrum of sounds we can hear as well as those we cannot), the vibration or resonance of the formless consciousness has a direct effect on the resulting thoughts, words, energy or actions. Furthermore, our beliefs are additional filters through which the pure consciousness passes on its way to generating an effect.

Therefore, it doesn’t matter if you take the same actions as other people, your results will reflect the consciousness you are flowing.

For instance, a belief that certain clients are always difficult will skew pure consciousness on its way to effecting new thoughts, words, energy or actions related to acquiring new clients or managing existing clients. No matter what actions you take they will result in you experiencing those certain clients as difficult. It must, because the lens through which you are perceiving consciousness is directing it to be so. Law of Attraction is always vibrationally lining us up with our consciousness so that we prove our beliefs as *right*. Until we change our beliefs and the consciousness we are flowing, nothing else will change.

Seems like wherever you turn, there are people dishing out one-size-fits-all business advice based on their point of view or what worked for them (or others) in the past. Everyone has an opinion on how you should run your business. This is beyond crazy-making for business owners who want to find the right solutions. What worked for one person at one time in their life may not work for another person, or even the SAME person at a different point in their life. Why is that? Because the vast majority of business advice is offered with little, if any, attention paid to the consciousness that accompanies their point of view or experience.

Even if it makes absolutely NO sense for your business or for you as the business owner! Taking action is so much less important than being aware of and conscious of the energy you are flowing.

Andrew Carnegie, once the richest industrialist in 1900s America and the man who inspired Napolean Hill to write his powerful book, Think and Grow Rich, understood this important nuance. Andrew, along with his cousins, was first taught this concept by his Uncle in his native Scotland. On his way to building some of the largest and most profitable companies in his time, Andrew asked questions and listened to answers, but he never took action unless it felt right to him. Even if everyone else was doing it, Andrew took the time to become aware of his own thoughts and feelings, to listen to his intuition, and only take inspired actions on any decision.

There are a few people who truly understand this, and those are the people who do not give out one-size-fits all advice. Not everyone who is currently in business is emotionally, physically, or spiritually prepared to receive this information. Those folks may need to live more life before their own consciousness is ready for the next step. In the meantime, they will read or listen to the surface words and never understand the profound underlying teachings.

Fortunately, if you are reading this blog post, you have a leg up on the majority! Here are 3 simple steps to invest your time and attention so you may begin to do to get the most from any business advice:

1. Start with Awareness Awareness is a form of pure consciousness and it has amazing healing powers. Choosing to become aware of a story we are telling, or a feeling inside of us (even when we cannot attach words to it), or an action we are taking can help us see what is working and what is not working for our lives and business. In order to become aware, you must first be willing to be quiet. Be silent in the stillness, and just notice what you become aware of. That’s it. No judgements. No actions. Just awareness. Incredibly powerful!

So many people are overwhelmed with the daily details of life that they think taking time to be quiet and aware is a waste or unproductive use of time. Nothing could be further from the truth! Those are the people who are forever on a rat-wheel and never able to move beyond. Invest the time in your own quiet awareness, and you’ll see your intuition blossom as you start to see your situation from an entirely new perspective*. Solutions will present themselves, and struggle will become a forgotten habit.

*Don’t be surprised when you begin to realize that every life and business dilemma is an opportunity for spiritual growth. Not religious growth – spiritual growth, growing your own consciousness, and becoming a better version of you.

2. Let intuition guide you Once awareness has opened the door to possibilities, your intuition will begin quietly pointing you toward the best solutions for you. Not the best solutions for everyone. Not even the best solutions for others in your area. Your intuition is your personal guidance, meant only for you. Listen to it and follow it, and it will reward you every time!

3. Follow the inspiration With your awareness and intuition in place, you will start to notice when an idea feels really good to you. Only take actions that feel good to you. I don’t mean good for a few minutes, then irritating or like pulling teeth the rest of the time. I mean actions that feel light and easy to you the entire way. That emotional guidance is telling you that is the direction for you to go. It might not be the right direction for everyone, but the light and easy feeling is an indication that it is right for you.

Some people will think that you are crazy for following your own intuition. Let them. They need to mind their own vibrational guidance, and let you mind yours.

Taking action when something does not feel good usually means that you are trying to force an outcome. Your consciousness is not aligned with the action, which is why it doesn’t feel good. No good result will come of effort taken that doesn’t feel good in your heart. However, recognizing and being aware when it doesn’t feel good to you is powerful information for making decisions moving forward.

With these three steps in place, if anyone offers you business advice, you will know if it’s right for you. It’s OK to take a pass. (Just like the old adage, take what resonates and leave the rest.) It’s best to follow the advice that is aligned with your intuition and inspiration. Read that last sentence again, because it’s really the only one-size-fits-all business advice that’s worth following.

What have your life and business experiences shown you about getting the most from business advice? Share your thoughts and comments below.

 

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Divine Matrix: Mirror, Mirror, All Around

DivMat_cvrIn 2007, Gregg Braden released his book, The Divine Matrix: Bridging Time, Space, Miracles, and Belief. In this science-dense book, he explains how Newton’s discovery of gravity in 1687 launched modern science on a trajectory that has created huge problems in the 20th Century. It turns out that Newtonian Physics can explain large bodies like planets in orbit, but it falls apart when scientists examine smaller particles like atoms.

For smaller matter, scientists have resorted to micron microscopes and the mathematical formulas of Quantum Physics to explain what happens at levels too small for a microscope to see. Scientists have not agreed on a term for the Quantum Field, but Braden’s term for it is the Divine Matrix: an intelligent thought field that is always responding to our thoughts and feelings. There’s no way that one blog post can cover a complete introduction to Quantum Physics, but I highly recommend Gregg’s book if you want more details or suggest you view PBS’s NOVA series The Elegant Universe.

Where ancient texts and indigenous cultures have told us that everything is energy and we are all connected, modern science is only just catching the same clue. Where modern science has barely made this discovery via Quantum Physics, many cultures around the world already know this and have learned how to harness it’s energy for human good including immediate shifts in energy and nearly instant healings.

What does this have to do with the Law of Attraction and Deliberate Creation? A LOT! Of the 20 Keys to Conscious Creation that Braden outlines in his book, the first one is this:

Key 1: The Divine Matrix is the container that holds the universe, the bridge between all things, and the mirror that shows us what we have created.

Everything we experience with our senses is part of the Divine Matrix in response to the energy we are sending out through the electro-magnetic field generated by our hearts. In the Divine Matrix, Braden goes on to say…

Because the Divine Matrix constantly reflects our beliefs, feelings, and emotions through the events of our lives, the everyday world provides insights about the deepest realms of our hidden selves. In our personal mirrors, we’re shown our truest convictions, loves, and fears. The world is a powerful (and often literal) mirror, one that isn’t always easy to face. With complete honesty, life gives us a direct window into the ultimate reality of our beliefs, and sometimes our reflections come to us in ways that we would never expect.

In this way, all of your interactions with everything on this physical plane (people, flora, fauna, and inanimate objects) is a mirror of your own state of consciousness. If you recognize this, you can take responsibility for what you’ve created, stand in your own power, and create a better outcome.

The wise Deliberate Creator uses each irritation and struggle in their life as a window into their own consciousness. They are fearless in looking at their mirrors and recognizing patterns, discovering where their thinking has created an undesirable outcome, and making the necessary adjustments.

You can make great strides if you are willing step out of victimhood and take back your power by accepting responsibility. We can overcome situations that others who are unaware of the Divine Matrix might deem impossible or too difficult.

We can heal our physical bodies. We can release our error thoughts that create negative outcomes. We can lovingly confront the parts of ourselves reflected in difficult relationships. If we choose not to consciously address those issues, they will just continue show up over and over and over again in noticeable patterns until we take the time to do the inner work.

When people tell me there is someone in their life they don’t like and they ask me how to use the Law of Attraction (LOA) to remove them, the fastest way is always: stop blaming the mirror and look within yourself.

If you were standing in front of a mirror wearing a red dress that you didn’t like, how much sense would it be to yell at the mirror about the dress?  The same way an image in the mirror will not change until you “change”, our own consciousness must change internally to see the change reflected back to us externally. This is why all the ancient texts and gurus have told us to heal ourselves first. As soon as we address and heal our own consciousness, what is mirrored back to us must change.

If you insist on blaming others for anything, you give them all of your power to change and keep yourself in a state of victimhood. Victims have no ability to regain their power. If you are unwilling to let go of blame and do the inner work, you can remain mired in the difficulty for the rest of your life.

The Divine Matrix is the mirror all around you, the intelligent, responsive field that some call God, Christ Consciousness, All That Is, or Source Energy. The name you give it does not “matter”. How you choose to interact with your mirrors truly does!

I’d love to know what you think about the Divine Matrix “mirror”. Please share your thoughts and comments below.

Value Contradictions?

Most of us grew up in a world that said, “The way to success is to work hard and be kind to others.”  Yet, we are also routinely taught by the most successful people that…

You have to be bold ~ nice guys finish last.

It’s better to beg forgiveness than ask permission.

You can’t help others if you are not wealthy.

Winning at all costs is most important.

Winning = having a lot of disposable income.

contradiction_180x240You may not think you have made value judgements about money, earning money, spending money, saving money, or having an excessive amount of it, but chances are those judgements are subconscious.

Chances are you are already very clear that there are acceptable and unacceptable ways to make money. You’ve likely made value judgements about people who make money drug dealing, prostituting, pimping, money laundering, or even as an elected official, etc. These value judgements are actively at effect in your unconscious mind whenever you think or talk about money.

Today, I heard about this study at the University of California at Berkeleywatch this 8 min video and you’ll quickly see why it caught my attention:

At the beginning of this video, I could relate because I’ve noticed the same thing in the SF Bay Area: luxury cars are usually the first to run stop signs, drive through cross walks with pedestrians, and will literally drive hazardously if you get in their way. I’ve actually gotten to the point of just pulling over to let them past me because they often drive so aggressively.

One time, I was driving in the far left carpool lane of Interstate 280 North, doing the speed limit with my son in the car when a Mercedes station wagon with 1 person overtook me on the left side in the *Emergency Lane* (freeway shoulder for emergency vehicles only) because he didn’t want to follow behind me. Incredibly dangerous and stupid behavior that probably only saved him less than one minute in travel time.

Still, I don’t think of myself as a person who thinks ill of wealthy people…

It had never occurred to me that I may have so internalized beliefs based on observations that it might be blocking me from greater financial success. Never had it dawned on me to think less of myself when around people who are wealthier, and yet…I often pull over to let the obnoxious luxury car drivers past me rather than put up with their tailgating…and more than once have tolerated those same drivers not giving me the right of way as a pedestrian.

I was actually shocked by some of the findings in this study, and yet I routinely put up with and tolerate inappropriate behavior of others. Humans make value judgements against those we consider selfish or only “out for themselves”, while at the same time…

1. Virtually all spiritual teachers/channels tell us to take care of ourselves, first. Make feeling good a priority above everything/everyone else. Take action only if it feels good to do so. So when this study shows that wealthy people are *looking out for #1*, that could explain how they got wealthy to begin with!

Is there a fine line between taking good care of yourself and being compassionate for your fellow man? Or is it a big WIDE line?

2. All spiritual teachers and most religions point to our Divine Right to be,  have, and do *anything* that our heart’s desire. We are innately entitled as humans, and we have treated animals accordingly. Yet a large percentage of people are stuck in jobs they don’t like, putting up with circumstances they find almost unbearable at work and home, and barely surviving financially.

I hope you can you spot the contradictions here! What do you think after watching this video? Share your thoughts in the comments below…

 

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