‘Tis the season when I ponder which rituals I will embrace to appreciate the old and celebrate the new.
The word ‘ritual’ has always been a loaded one for me. Being a recovering Catholic and deeply apologetic Christian, that word used to be synonymous with seriousness, control, and fear.
Let’s face it, while there are rituals that are very fear-based, that doesn’t mean all rituals must be fear-based. The good news about Law of Attraction is that you can choose, from day-to-day, year-to-year, the rituals that feel best to you.
Rituals are whatever intentions, thoughts, and/or actions that you decide to implement at certain times. We usually start them because doing so feels meaningful to us.
Meaning is what makes our rituals matter. And we are the ones who create and apply meaning to our intentions, thoughts, and actions. We get to decide what rituals we want to partake in, and what meaning we choose to give those rituals.
Some rituals are cultural (think seasonal, sports, and national pride). Some rituals are fun (trips to the beach, picnics, going to the same ice cream shop every year with friends), and some are more deep and somber, while others can be both. For instance, I love putting up lights and lighting candles during the winter holidays. Doing so feels “light” (no pun) and joyful, and yet…I’ve had some pretty deep and introspective experiences sitting quietly by the soft glow of lights and candles.
Some of us celebrate the cultural ritual of Thanksgiving by eating turkey with family and friends, while others enjoy adding gratitude lists to their yearly ritual. My son doesn’t like turkey, and it makes me very sleepy (hello, tryptophan) so when he was younger we opted instead to make Lasagna, garlic bread, and salad part of our Thanksgiving ritual. (Yes, this was my pre-Paleo days – now I’d grill grass-fed steak with some great veggies sidedishes.) While dinner was baking, we’d make our gratitude lists, and share them during our meal.
Law of Attraction experts teach many different processes that can easily be interpreted as rituals, and the more you do them the more meaningful they become. Abraham-Hicks have 22 of the most well-known LOA processes listed in their classic book, Ask and It Is Given.
We create the meaning and magic of rituals in our minds. Whatever we decide an intention, thought, and/or action will do for us, it will do first on a vibrational level then on a physical level. The more often we practice a ritual, the more meaning it will have for us.
The only right is what feels good to you and the only wrong is what feels bad or wrong to you. When a ritual stops feeling good to you, that’s the sign to choose a new ritual to embrace that feels better. Anything that feels light and opens your heart is a good one to choose.
At the end of the year, many people…
A. Declutter. Get rid of the old to make room for the new. Mothers might sort through their family’s clothes and donate what no longer fits. Business people often clear out old files, put new files in place. Men may clear out their garages. Women often revamp their clothes closets.
B. Make lists. Get clear on what you want to embrace and what you want to release. Express your appreciation for the past year and send thank you notes to key people. Some write out intentions for the new year. Others write out their priorities for the year ahead.
I do not recommend resolutions, though, especially if you view them as something you always fail at completing. Set yourself up for success by creating intentions to feel better about yourself and your life.
My local Unity asks us to write a letter to God asking for what we want and letting go of what no longer works, then the letters are burned (released into the energetic field). They have a separate service for selecting a white stone to represent your intentions for the new year.
C. Create new affirmations. Based on those updated lists, you can begin writing your new affirmations for the year ahead. If you need assistance in creating your affirmations, go download my free Six Steps to Powerful Affirmations eCourse and audios.
Feel free to share with friends, too, either virtually or in person. One client told me that a group of girlfriends downloaded my eCourse and made a sacred party out of creating and writing out their new affirmations together. Whether you do this in a group or by yourself, do something to make it special.
D. Create Your Own Ritual. Letting go of the old and embracing the new can come in many forms. Choose the ones that feel good to you.
Someone recently mentioned that they use the end of the year to forgive anyone they previously haven’t forgiven. I know other people who think forgiving is admitting something was wrong. Still others give thanks for what they’ve learned through trial and error.
E. Practice. Rituals grow in power as they are practiced and felt in the heart. Whatever you feel in your heart, you are broadcasting to the world. What do you want to broadcast?
The last week of the year, between Christmas and New Years, is the time when I am most quiet and introspective. I appreciate all I have learned in the year past, and establish my intentions for the coming year. I meditate daily and ask for Inner Guidance. I follow my inner nudges for visualizing and affirming. This time always feels sacred and serene to me. On New Year’s Eve, I relax with an aromatherapy bath and relax my way into the new year.
What are your favorite LOA rituals? Share with us in comments what works best for you, and have a happy new year!