When I am working with clients who are distressed about not experiencing what they prefer, it’s relatively easy for me to see what’s going on because I am not emotionally caught up in the experience. (This is just one of the reasons we all benefit from working with teachers, mentors, and/or coaches…they can help us see and navigate issues that we are too close to emotionally.)
First thing you have to remember is that: When there is emotional discord, it is a signal that what we are thinking is discordant with the goal we have in mind.
Caught in the emotional web, we often cannot see where we are creating discord in our thoughts and feelings. As Einstein said, you cannot solve a problem with the same energy that created the problem. Quantum Physicists say that when two or more vibrations match up, they are “coherent”. Coherent energy is the opposite of discordant or incoherent energy. The energy of the problem and the energy of the solution are discordant, not coherent.
In order to solve your problem, you must get into vibrational coherence with the energy of the solution. Here is a quick tip for those discordant moments when you want to release the negative energy get back on track with positive energy. I call this tip: WTF? It is a reminder to ask the question: What’s The Feeling? Yeah, I bet that’s not what you thought it meant. 😉
Step 1: Take out a piece of paper. Draw a line sideways on the paper half-way down to break it into two sections. At the top of both sections, write: WTF?
Step 2: In the top section, write down how you are currently feeling...dump all the raw emotions inside of you out onto this piece of paper. As soon as you begin to acknowledge how you are truly feeling you are in a better position to release that energy.
Step 3: On the bottom half of the paper, answer the question: What’s the Feeling of my preferred outcome? Usually, we only want to experience something because we think it will feel better than what we are currently feeling. So, tap into the feeling you anticipate that your preferred outcome will evoke in you. Immerse yourself in what that would look, sound, and feel like to you and write that down.
Step 4: Compare the feelings from the top and bottom sections. If you are feeling unhappy, it is because you want the feeling in the bottom section but you are stuck in the feeling of the top section. Now you can clearly see WHY you are feeling discordant: too much of your attention has been focused where you don’t want it and not enough has been on the feelings that you want to evoke.
Step 5: It’s time to let go of the energy that is creating the discord: tear or cut off the top part of the paper and dispose of it (crumple it up, burn it in a safe container, or throw it out).
Step 6: Refocus your energy. With the bottom half of the paper remaining, ask yourself how you can begin feeling more the way you know you want to feel. If an answer comes immediately, do it. If it doesn’t, trust that the answer will show up and you will be ready for it when it does! One idea: use the list of feelings that are coherent with your desire(s) to create your own powerful customized affirmations.
As you focus your attention MORE on the feeling you desire, you move yourself vibrationally into coherence with that desire. Your emotions are an indicator of where you are focusing your thoughts and feelings. They are truly a divine gift to help you see where you need to get into vibrational coherence.
I am inviting you to begin asking yourself this question, all day, every day. This could quite possibly the most important question you can ask yourself throughout the day: WTF? = What’s The Feeling? What am I feeling right now? What feeling is closest to what I want to experience? What can I do to focus on the feeling I want to evoke?
Now you have a new meaning for WTF…one that can help you get back on track vibrationally. Share below your comments and suggestions for getting into coherent feelings.