It’s music to my eyes to read that you are an advocate of self-care. This is something every woman needs to learn, especially if she wants any level of success. I believe that self-care is the Ultimate Commitment~nurturing the most important relationship you will ever have, the relationship with self~and the *least* selfish act any one can take.

Thank you for sharing your ideas and suggestions, and for the important work you are doing with The Gratitude Circle!

Many blessings,
Nancy

I am a big advocate of self care – which goes hand-in-hand with self love that you speak of. Too many times is the craziness of life, we run ourselves to the ground doing, doing, and doing…not caring for ourselves (our souls or physical body). I always challenge people to take the time for self – it doesn’t need to be complicated or expensive…but when one takes care of their own well-being, they are much better off to help others and go about their daily lives. I like to use the airplane analogy…the flight attendant always says that you have to first place the mask on yourself and then help others. It’s the same in our lives and it starts with self-love and self-care.

Thank you!
In abundant gratitude,
Deanna

SELF LOVE is the NUMBER ONE Most important factor in all of this – if you aren’t loving yourself – then the Universe won’t be able to love you back with what ever you desire be it love, money, success or impact in the world.

Self-love really is the foundation from which everything else is built. I so appreciate you taking time to visit and comment! )

Many blessings,
Nancy

I especially note this comment:

you should not for one minute think that achieving that success won’t change you. In fact you will change to become the person you most likely need to be, one example of that is confidence. If you are not a confident person it will be the first change you will want to make.

This reminds me of Abraham’s latest teaching about manifestation: We are not manifesting a THING or EXPERIENCE, we are actually creating an upgraded version of OURSELVES with that THING or EXPERIENCE. If you cannot ENVISION yourself being, doing, having, then you are much farther away from stepping into that experience than if you CAN ENVISION that expanded version of yourself! That’s powerful stuff!

In other words, if we are breathing, we are continually creating new versions of ourselves…either at the same place (stuck) or stepping into something new.

Thank you for sharing such wisdom, Gaylena!

Many blessings,
Nancy

Thanks for sharing your light with all of us!

Peace and infinite blessings of light, Amethyst

This is a great post, I have to much to say on this subject!

You set your goals and work to achieve them but you should not for one minute think that achieving that success won’t change you. In fact you will change to become the person you most likely need to be, one example of that is confidence. If you are not a confident person it will be the first change you will want to make.

In my experience when the success you want to achieve is far bigger then that of your group or social circles current state of success. They could reject you as being different and treat you differently than they use to and that can put stress and fear on you and make you want to stay at the same level of success you have always had.

It is wise to get support and at this point it is good to add more positive people to your social circle.

The success you want can seem scary and so lead to self-sabotage, however, I have known people to realize that something is wrong and push forward anyway. That is one way to do it but there are others, if it comes to your attention that you are or might be self-sabotaging, you will want to get someone to support you through it.

I have seen many signs of fear and sabotage which are: anger, highly stressed, putting off the goal at hand, and feeling bad about it, and snapping at people as a result etc.

The best way I have found to set yourself up for success is to imagine yourself as having already achieved the success you desire. Imagine yourself a couple years from now living the success you every day, ask that version of you to support you, if you have accomplished in the future you can do it now.

Take it in little steps and work up to in baby steps, think of every little thing you do as going together to make the bigger picture and write down even the smallest accomplishment. I ask myself constantly what supports me and what doesn’t get more in my life that does, in turn I also keep my network or social circle only of those people that are positive.

The last thing I do is to take good loving care of self because if I am not at my best, then everything I do suffers and my growth does to.

This post was mentioned on Twitter by affirmingspirit: Do you know how 2 prepare UR chances 4 success? U might want 2 read this ~ Allowing Success http://is.gd/4t5Vw #loa #freelance…

I actually had a different name for the title of this post, when the content itself focused solely on the problem (self-sabotage). I decided that it was more fulfilling to include solutions. That’s when I came up with “Allowing Success” so the post could end with a focus on the solutions.

As fellow Abers, you & I know about “allowing”, but many non-A-H followers are new to this concept. It seems simple on the surface, but it’s deeper than an iceberg! ) Many reading this will, at first, have no idea how they could be blocking (not allowing) their own success. I hope this post helps them to recognize and course-correct.

I’m with you, Maria—I could talk about this stuff non-stop. And hey, I do !!! )

Many blessings,
Nancy

Susan, your comments are so powerful and fully received! Yes, low self-esteem is at the very root–which is why attention to self-love is so crucial to allowing success! (Jeannette’s point as well)

I love your Chamber story (perfect example!), and your points about the forms and journey of success. This is really a deep topic that there are many facets which could not be covered in a single blog post. Thank you, again, Susan for the time you take to comment on my posts!

Many blessings,
Nancy

This topic of this post is definitely the key to unlocking all of our dreams and desires. As we know from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, Allowing is the 3rd part of the equation and it is the one that many of us have the most difficult time with.

Many of my clients (and me too at times!) have suffered from that “see-it-like-it-is”-itis and then judged ourselves for what we just observed. It can be a vicious cycle and one that does not serve us at all. For instance, if you are someone who is not satisfied with how successful you have been in your own business and you keep on observing where you are and judging yourself for not being more successful, how can you attract success to you? I find that it is important for the person to re-define success, find the small wins and celebrate those, look for the things that prove to you that you are moving in the right direction.

Allowing is about aligning those thoughts & feelings with the exact thing you want to attract into your life. It is not focusing on the lack and hoping that success will come your way.

Great post, Nancy. I could speak about this topic all day long!

Warmly,
Maria C. Lesetz, CEO of Lovin’ Life
Law of Attraction Health Coach