Thanksgiving Tale of Two Business Partners

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This Thanksgiving, I have been contemplating my observations of two business partners. Neither of them are my clients, so I am not at liberty to guide or help either one of them. But, I can (anonymously) share with you my findings and you can benefit.

Thanksgiving: What’s Business Got to Do with It?

Both partners share and operate a business together, and both of them have separate business interests outside of the partnership.

One business owner has a mantra that goes like this: I can’t afford that! That’s too much money! I just can’t do it! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

The other business owner has a mantra that goes like this: This is fun! I enjoy this! Everything is working out great! This mantra is repeated regularly, with great enthusiasm.

I’m betting that even brand new students of Law of Attraction can easily guess what happens next with these business partners.

No matter how often the first business owner makes more money, in his mind he never has enough. He cuts costs and corners at every opportunity, and even disregards his business agreements, creating disharmony and struggle every where he goes, in pursuit of the elusive *more*. However, because his mantra is on auto-pilot (literally and virtually), he doesn’t even consciously notice the flow of money coming into him…nor does he appreciate it. What he fails to appreciate, depreciates.

Appreciation Appreciates

That’s true for all of us, actually. The more we appreciate and see the blessings in every experience, including our business transactions, the more open our conscious and subconscious mind brings the opportunities to our attention.

When we’re either observing shortfalls, and constantly reliving them in our mind, or imagining pending doom and hardship before it’s happened, we’re not focusing on appreciation. We can’t complain and appreciate at the same time. We all must choose one master to serve.

I bet you’ve already guessed what is happening with the second business partner. Yep: Outsiders are convinced he’s got the midas touch. His expenses are often much higher than the first business owner, yet in his mind he’s always got plenty, he’s having fun, enjoying the process, and everything seems to work out well for him. When things don’t work out as he’d hoped, he looks for opportunities in the situation.

The second business owner is upbeat, happy, and appreciative. His appreciation for the employees, contractors, customers, and others involved with the business is obvious. The more he appreciates, the more his investment in the business appreciates.

Same business, two very different experiences. One partner never has enough and gets little value from his involvement in the business. The other partner is having fun, enjoying the process, and reaping the rewards. Their mantras explain the difference.

This Thanksgiving, I ask you to consider…if this was your business, which business partner would you be? Is it the business person you would choose to be?

Happy Thanksgiving!

Image credit:
Barry-Jansson & Associates

with primary image from Gajus

Subconscious Mind Patterns

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Have you noticed the same situations happening again and again with your business?
Do you wonder why you are having similar issues recur with clients or vendors?
When was the last time you asked, “Why does this keep happening?

Brain research estimates that our conscious mind is only aware of about 10% of what happens around us and in our thoughts. The vast majority, 50-60% it is estimated, takes place below the conscious level in the subconscious mind.

Bringing the Subconscious Mind to the Light

The 50-60% of our mind that is subconscious is running mental programming 24/7. This part of our mind uses our memory, knowledge, and experiences to make decisions for us. By bringing subconscious beliefs to our conscious attention, we can decide what to keep and what to transmute.

Not all subconscious beliefs need to be transmuted, as helpful beliefs support us in moving through the world without having to consciously address everything. However, most of us through the process of living have some unhelpful subconscious programming that could use some conscious transmutation.

This is because when we were younger, and before we could speak or advocate for ourselves, we made decisions and developed beliefs that became part of our unhelpful subconscious mind programming.

For instance, a child who felt fearful and began crying may have been admonished by the parents for making noise (crying). The parent’s objection may have been to the noise of the crying child, but the child perceived the admonishment as disapproval, which formed a belief that they cannot freely express their fears or cry. As the child matures into an adult, an unhelpful subconscious program based on this belief continually steers them toward not expressing fear or crying.

As an adult, the ability to express our emotions is vitally important, so having a subconscious program running that is counter to our health and well-being would be helpful to uncover and transmute.

Uncovering Versus Looking For Unconscious Beliefs

It’s important for me to point out the difference between uncovering unconscious beliefs for conscious transmutation versus actively looking for unconscious beliefs. The first recognizes that our experiences have always been lovingly pointing to the answers we seek, and that we can raise our energy by being conscious of what we are shown.

The latter approach comes from a dis-empowering energy that there is something wrong with us that needs to be fixed or eradicated. That approach leads us to feel that nothing is good about us, our business, or what we offer. It might even lead us to imagining, manufacturing, and eventually manifesting, more unhelpful unconscious beliefs.

This post is about the former approach—gently and lovingly uncovering what’s already before us. Using our conscious awareness to understand the lesson, and then consciously choosing a new story, a new attitude, a new belief that better supports us and our business.

Subconscious Patterns

subconsciousHave you ever considered ways that unhelpful subconscious mind patterns are working 24/7 in your business?

Bringing subconscious mind patterns to light so we can consciously choose to transmute them is a powerful way for business owners to shift their energy and succeed.

In his 3CD Workshop entitled, The Millionaire Course: A Visionary Plan for Creating the Life of Your Dreams, the author shares examples of how his poverty thinking had been running a program in his subconscious for decades. (If you missed my post with Marc Allen’s interview, you can watch it here.)

Now a mult-millionaire, Marc Allen, author, musician, and founder of New World Library is happy to teach others how to bring their subconscious core beliefs into the light for conscious re-consideration.

Addressing Your Core Beliefs Process

In his workshop, Allen shares a process for shedding light on the subconscious programming that is running in the background of our consciousness. I recommend this process for all business owners as an empowering way to bring unconscious programming to conscious light.

I also recommend that this tool be used on a frequent basis—quarterly, at a minimum. Make the experience enjoyable by setting some quiet time aside, turn on some music, grab a cuppa something you enjoy, then have a nice journal or a new pen handy to write out your answers. The more you do this process, the more you’ll easily see what unhelpful subconscious programming has been working on your business with you.

Don’t be surprised if something you wish you’d known about before emerges after a while of using this process. When you’re ready to release the programming that is no longer serving you, those thoughts/beliefs will appear and become obvious to you. You will know immediately that it’s time to let them go and be ready to do so.

Personally, it has helped me be a more conscious business owner, develop better relationships with clients and vendors, nip problems earlier rather than later, make decisions from an energetically clearer place, and tell a better story about my business.

Here is the process Marc Allen offers in his workshop:

  1. Describe the ‘problem’ as you perceive it to be at the present moment?
  2. What (specific) emotions are you feeling at the present moment?
  3. What specific physical sensations are you feeling in your body?
  4. What are you thinking about right now? (What is your current self-talk?)
  5. What’s the worst that can happen? Then, the next worst that can happen? and the next worst?
  6. What’s the best that can happen? The next best thing that can happen? and the next best?
  7. What fears and limiting beliefs have been revealed in the answers above?
  8. Create an affirmation to refocus each fear and limiting belief.

I recommend creating as many affirmations as you feel comfortable working with at a given point. Personally, I often choose 3 – 5 at a time, so that when I say the affirmations in succession I can feel the powerful *new story* emerging within me. Since we are ALWAYS affirming something, being conscious about what you are saying and thinking is very empowering.

As business owners tell a new story, and consciously shift our thinking from the unhelpful to the helpful, we begin to feel an energetic shift that is reflected in our business experiences.

Are you willing to give this a try, or have you done something similar? Share your thoughts below in the comments.

Image Credit: Montage by Barry-Jansson & Associates
with images from Artem SVYSTUN, ALEQ1463, + Bruce RoLFF


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Letting Meaning Find You

meaningMeaning. Fulfillment. Purpose.

We’ve all heard those buzzwords for career and business.

They are used so often it makes us wonder if our career or business is only valid if it involves experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose.

So many people spend their time continually ‘chasing’ these experiences, never quite finding them, stuck in the cycle of flailing action, constantly wondering what they have to do next in order to actually experience them.

It’s exhausting to think what some people do to feel…meaning…fulfillment…and purpose in their career and business. It begs the question, what part of our mind decides that we’re experiencing meaning, fulfillment and purpose? Or not experiencing them?

Lately, I’ve been noticing people who are doing amazingly good, powerful, impactful work in the world…work that is really making a difference…and the common thread: All of them came to this work (career or business) through contrast.

Rather than consciously ‘deciding’ to do this work, the work itself pulled them forward into the next necessary step in their career.

The Pull Toward Success

For instance, Barry Kibrick, the host of the book-reviewing series, Between the Lines with Barry on PBS (in the U.S.), recently admitted that the only reason his author interview show began was because of a previous failed business deal. Out of failure came a new career that has given him greater visibility and helping authors as well as readers.

Another example: Suzanne Somers, who found herself the most popular character on the most post popular TV show in the 1970s being let go at the time of her contract renewal. This career bump could have derailed her, but instead she began following her own interest in health and well-being, researching topics of personal interest that later became resources for her best-selling books. Now she’s considered very knowledgeable on the topic of nutrition, health, and wellness. Twenty six books, fourteen of which have been NYT best-sellers. In addition, she now sells a wide range of products that support what she has learned and shared in her books, and she has a secondary career as a lecturer.

Suzanne Somers is heads a business empire that wouldn’t have been created if her TV career had continued on its original trajectory.

How about Leah Remini!?! After a mildly successful acting career, Leah has finally hit a home run after she began transmuting her pain of abruptly leaving Scientology (having been raised as and living as a devout member for about 34 years) into an opportunity to help others leave or better yet, never enter this organization (what many are calling a cult). She wrote a book about her experience, entitled Troublemaker: Surviving Hollywood and Scientology, and publicly supported the HBO Documentary Going Clear.

Then, she created the powerful A&E show, Leah Remini: Scientology and The Aftermath, now in it’s second season and recipient of a well-earned 2017 Emmy Award winner for Outstanding Informational Series or Special. Leah and her team has created one of the most powerful, impactful and important TV series I have ever witnessed*.

*Please Note: I was not raised in a cult, so I personally find the series extremely empowering, literally watching people take back their power and regain their voices!!! If you were raised in a cult, though, you might find that it triggers deep negative emotions. Your mileage may vary.

Ms. Remini has transmuted her own pain while also educating the rest of the population about how Scientology works, and what to expect if they went down that road. This not only helps us understand the issues, but develops compassion for the people who have been victimized and rebuilding their lives after leaving this organization. Remini’s new ‘work’ is educating the masses while giving former Scientologists a voice and emotional support. I feel like CHEERING during and after every episode I watch! I can see this getting better and better as time goes on.

Meaning, Fulfillment and Purpose Found Them!

None of these great examples made a conscious decision to get into their existing fields. Meaning, fulfillment and purpose found them! As a result, they are all having much greater impact on the world than if their original careers had worked out as planned.

If you’ve been derailed, deflated, frustrated or exhausted trying to ‘make’ your current career or business thrive, take heart. These examples show you that something even better may be just around the corner.

Perhaps the key to really finding meaning, fulfillment, and purpose is: Don’t chase meaning, fulfillment, or purpose. Let it FIND you!

Image credits: Bruce Rolff,
Barry Kibrick, Organic Authority,
and A&E Telelvision.

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Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

unsolvableDo you feel your creative or healing business has unsolvable problems…the kind that seem to keep your mind going in circles?

You’d like to make more money, but you don’t feel you can raise your rates or attract more customers / clients.

You need to find better vendors to support you, but seem to have exhausted all resources in your area.

You know your business offers great value to potential clients, yet every attempt to reach them seems to fail.

The circular thinking keeps us energetically stuck, and our business doesn’t move forward. What’s really going on here? Are the problems truly ‘unsolvable; or is there a way out of the cycle of problems?

Solving the ‘Unsolvable’

A Course in Miracles (ACIM) tells us that there is really only ONE problem, and all our problems are outcroppings of this one belief: We believe we are separate from Source Energy / God / All That Is. In our forgetting our connection with the Infinite Divine, we allow ourselves to believe we have unsolvable problems.

Actually, ACIM says it’s our mind ~ our ego, specifically ~ that manufactures unsolvable problems to keep us preoccupied and distracted from our connection to Source. In that respect, the ego often succeeds until we become consciously aware.

When I first heard this, it didn’t make sense to me. But then, I started noticing the steady stream of seemingly unsolvable issues that began cropping up for me in my business. When one problem was somehow miraculously solved, another one was soon making an appearance. I realized that this is exactly what ACIM is saying!

Once I reconnected with Source, I noticed that both my labeling any situation a ‘problem’, and the conviction that I was right (and the need for vindication) about how difficult the situation had become were keeping me stuck and unable to find viable solutions.

As long as our attention is on the struggle, we are not energetically aligned with any solutions.

(I keep typing ‘soulution’, and then correcting the typo, but I’m sure that’s not a coincidence!)

As long as we believe any solution is *outside of us*…something we have to seek, then we fail to recognize our innate power: To connect with Infinite Divine and receive the answers internally.

Just because we’re in business for ourselves doesn’t mean that our connection to the Divine ends at the start of business hours. If you’re in a cycle with your business of unsolvable problems, know the ego is involved.

Spiritual teacher Adyashanti has said that the ego is addicted to identification (labeling), to thinking (using only the mind to solve problems), and attachment to thought/thinking (needing know and to be right). He said, “this is a fiction created by circular thoughts and beliefs, what ACIM calls the ‘unsolvable problems’.

Thoughts and thinking have their place, but the unsolvable problems find resolution when we reconnect with Source. In doing so, the brain relaxes, the solutions present themselves, and we remember it’s not up to us to ‘figure it all out’.

Emotional Guidance Scale

The way out is first to become consciously aware of the cycle of problems, and then use the awareness to connect you with your emotions.

Emotions are always communicating with us, letting us know where we are energetically. When we feel good, those emotions are telling us that we are in alignment with Source Energy. Solutions are easier for us to see and identify, and all organs of our body are functioning optimally, when are energetically in a good feeling place.

Abraham-Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale is a tool that reminds us that when we’re feeling lower on the vibrational scale, we’re still aligned with the problem(s) and our brain is not functioning at it’s optimal. We cannot see the vast array of solutions Source has available for us.

When I say ‘feeling good’, I am talking about a sustained feeling of lightness and appreciation. If you feel good for just a few minutes, then feel bad again, such as when you feel like taking revenge, it’s a sign that you’re still at the lower end of the vibrational scale.

If you’ve been at the lower end of that scale for a while, you may need to give your self a break from the subject—take a walk in nature, cuddle with your beloved pet, take a nap, listen to a guided meditation—and come back to it when you’re feeling better.

Invoke Easy World, and take a mental break. Give yourself a weekend or a week off of worrying and mentally spinning.

ACIM instructs us to give the question to Source / God / All That Is by saying, out loud or silently:

Take this thought and judge it for me, return to me thoughts of peace and well-being.

Or tell yourself quickly:

Let me recognize this problem so it can be solved.

Then try to suspend all judgment about what the problem is. If possible, close your eyes for a moment and ask what it is. You will be heard and you will be answered.

When we stop trying to ‘think’ the solutions into being, we’ll feel better, our mind will be more relaxed, and we’ll move into energetic alignment with the solutions of Source.

The good news about energy is that it can always shift. Nothing is set in stone— unless we believe it is. We can always work our way back up the vibrational scale and revisit any subject from a higher energy vantage point. When you do, you’ll understand the power of positive energy.

How have you handled your ‘unsolvable’ problems? Share your experiences and suggestions below for others to benefit.

 

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with image from alphaspirit

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Becoming a Magnet for Your Ideal Clients

magnetWouldn’t you LOVE to be a magnet for your most ideal clients? Last February, I led a Rock Your Business the LOA Way call at Good Vibe University to teach people how to do just that. The topic of the call was creating Strategic Action Plans that Work for You!

If you aren’t familiar with Strategic Action Plans, they are the subject of the book Attracting Perfect Customers: The Power of Strategic Synchronicity by Stacey Hall and Jan Brogniez (2001, Berrett-Koehler Publishers). You can find this book and others that I recommend on my Recommended Reading page.

These do-it-yourself plans are an excellent tool for anyone, especially the LOA savvy self-employed who want to regularly zero in energetically on their desired outcome(s).

You can think of a Strategic Action Plan as a combination of a Pray Rain ideal client / project list and an affirmative list of positive aspects on a single piece of paper you can carry around. It’s a tool to keep you grounded in what’s important for you and where you have decided to focus your attention.

Bring Out the Magnet!

Since everything is energy, we naturally expand energetically where we focus our attention. The more we do, the more we become like a magnet to the experiences and object(s) of our attention. I’m sure you can think of many positive ways you might want to focus on growing and sustaining your business.

To learn how to make your own Strategic Action Plan, download my call notes (right-click the images below):

For more in-depth material, you’ll want to invest in the book (linked above).

As you develop your own Strategic Actions Plan(s), they will continually change as you grow in consciousness and develop new preferences. I find myself editing the list almost daily, and by the end of two weeks, I use the new information to create a fresh new Strategic Action Plan to work from.

Keep in mind that you are not limited to just one Strategic Action Plan…you can make as many as you’d like, for any aspect of your business and/or your life. Play with them, see what works best for you and have fun with them!

Have you worked with Strategic Action Plans before? If so, share your experiences in the comments below. If you haven’t, download the instructions and give them a try.

 

Image Credit: Barry-Jansson & Associates
using images from olivier26 and nataliagesto

Connecting the Spiritual Dots with Your Business

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Connecting the spiritual dots with your business is essential, but many business owners are oblivious to its power. Does this sound familiar to you…

You understand the Law of Attraction, but have never made the leap to manifesting your desires with your businesses or career.

How can this be? The Law of Attraction is ALWAYS working. Always. No exception. So, how is it that you “understand” the Law of Attraction but are not reaping the benefits?

The answer is that you already ARE reaping benefits!

You are reaping the benefit of continously energetically de-cohering with (repelling) your desire(s). Nothing seems to improve in your business or career because you are reaping the same benefits over and over, and they are not the benefits you say you prefer.

Just a side note about saying we want something and then refusing to shift our energy in the direction of our desires. I’ve done this, and I bet most people have at one time or another, so I’m stating this from personal observation.

To me, this behavior shows that the person is not (at that red-hot moment) truly ready to make the energetic shift. Sometimes humans have to wait for problems to get so bad that they can no longer endure them before they will do the inner work.

 

Of course, you can always consciously choose to opt out of things getting really bad before you begin making energetic changes.

 

One of the benefits of contrast is that is often pushes people to go within and deal with long-standing issues they might otherwise have ignored.

 

So, if you find yourself in this category, just be aware of it. Release self-judgment and embrace your curiosity. Awareness and curiosity have tremendous power for helping us release what’s not working and move forward.

 

Connecting The Spiritual Dots

In order to align with our desires, we have to be willing and ready to start connecting the spiritual dots, and doing it the sustainable way takes some time and retraining of the bodymind (mind and emotions).

In physics-speak, the Law of Attraction means like vibrations cohere and unlike vibrations de-cohere. That is, we draw to us what we’re aligned with vibrationally (energetically), and repel what we are not or no longer aligned with vibrationally.

Change begins happening quite quickly when we finally connect those energetic dots and shift our own energy. It’s never too late to start (unless you’ve already decided it’s too late for you). Having a great mentor or counselor can help people see where they’ve been blocking themselves.

Here’s the most important part to understand: Connecting the Spiritual Dots requires an INTERNAL SHIFT. Nothing changes in your external world until you shift internally, both mentally and emotionally!

Source Leads the Way

In their many books, videos, and workshops, Abraham has repeatedly said that the moment consciousness comes to a new perspective, a new preference, Source immediately BECOMES the new preference.

Whether consciousness is a one-celled amoeba in the ocean, cells in your body, or a thought about your business, Source is immediately responding and calling you vibrationally toward your new preference(s). We feel bad when we do not answer that energetic call from Source.

The angst we feel is when we resist the calling of Source.

We feel angst when we argue for why we can’t get what we prefer.

We feel bad when we’re constantly telling the opposite story of our preference(s) and wondering why our preference hasn’t shown up.

We feel frustration when we focus more on ‘what is wrong now’ versus our new preference.

We feel uneasy at best, worried and fearful at worst, when we try to figure out HOW to accomplish our new preference before we are energetically aligned with our preference. We’ve put the energetic carriage before the horse: Get into alignment FIRST.

Can you relate?

Alignment Connects the Dots

Part of connecting the dots is getting into agreement with your preference. We call this aligning or alignment. The process of aligning may require retraining our bodymind, patience, and consistent decisions to stay focused on our new preference(s).

Here are a few practices to begin the process of making the internal shift by getting into alignment with your preferences:

• Practice Being Quiet – Whether you meditate on your breath, watch the clouds float by, or get into a deep state of Pure Awareness, the regular practice of being quiet rewires the brain and allows us to better hear our own inner guidance. Think of this as the gardener prepping the landscape for the new seeds.

• Practice Noticing Your Responses – Use your natural ability to observe to become aware of your response to your new preference(s). No judgement or correction, just notice them. For instance, consider something you’ve been wanting to improve in your business for quite a while…notice your response to the idea that you can begin experiencing this improvement today or tomorrow, or next week. Your response lets you know how you really feel at a deeper level.

Once you have become aware of your responses, you can always choose a new response. The timing is up to you. Think of this as the gardener pulling the weeds so the seeds can grow better.

• Practice Noticing Your Counter Intentions – This is a big one! At least it has been for me. For instance, you say you want more clients, but you find yourself not wanting to work with the potential clients who show up. What’s really going on here? A counter intention (maybe more than one!) is splitting your energy by pulling you in the opposite direction of your preference. The result is getting nowhere, fast. Think of this as the gardener extracting the whole root on those really deep-rooted weeds, so they don’t come back.

Notice and clear your counter intentions, and watch your world shift!

• Practice Working with the Four Mighty Ones – Neville Goddard wrote about the Four Mighty Ones of the Imagination in his book, Seedtime and Harvest. They are the producer, the author, the director and the actor in the drama of your life. Practice each of those roles in relation to your preferences. (Click the link above to learn more.)

Think of this practice as the gardener planting seeds with the really powerful organic fertilizers.

• Practice Believing in the Possibilities – Take a few minutes every day, first thing in the morning or just before bedtime, to write down your preferences, why you believe you can have / experience what you prefer, and ways in which you might be seeing glimpses of it already. Some people prefer to have a separate journal for this, but pieces of paper placed in a binder can work just as well. Don’t be surprised if one day, you no longer feel the need to write it down because it’s so *obviously possible* to you!

Think of this as the gardener watering and lovingly nurturing the plants.

• Practice Affirming Your Preferences – Think and speak in ways that affirm what you prefer. Create your own powerful customized affirmations that speak directly to your unique preference(s). Write them on beautiful cards you place around your home, car, office and purse / briefcase to remind, uplift, and inspire you.

When you think and speak affirmatively toward your preferences, it’s like the gardener creating the ideal environment for the best possible crop!

What has helped you connect your spiritual dots and shift from just ‘understanding’ the Law of Attraction to experiencing regular manifestations? Share your experiences below in the comments below…

Image Credit: Barry-Jansson & Associates
working with images from huntthomas and teerawit.

Marisa Peer Can Teach Your Mind to Believe

Marisa PeerIf you’ve been struggling with your business success for a while, there may be unconscious ways in which you are blocking your success. A few months ago, I stumbled across Marisa Peer’s 2015 talk at MindValley’s Belief Hacking Event in Costa Rica. Marisa is an internationally known and respected Hypnotherapist who helps people develop positive beliefs and improve their life experiences. After watching the video and following along with the exercise, I immediately was impressed by what she shared and knew it could help many people.

Shortly after sharing the post on my AffirmingSpirit Facebook page and at Good Vibe University, I began receiving numerous comments and emails thanking me, sharing the AHAs each person had experienced. This particular video hits the nail on the head for many people who have felt like ‘no matter what they do, it’s not working’. They have been in their own way for a long time, but don’t see it.

Marisa Peer: How to Teach Your Mind That Everything is Available to You

Take a moment to watch this powerful video and follow along with the short guided exercise that will help you teach your mind that everything is available to you…

As children, we often received messages of lack, struggle, difficulty, and ‘not enough’ from our care givers. Some of us were constantly told, “no, you can’t have what you want.” It may have seemed that we never could have what we wanted or asked for from our guardians. No question, the care givers in our lives were doing the best they could with what they had.

As adults, other than extreme cases of abuse, we might look back on our experiences with compassion and understand what our ill- informed guardians were trying to do—and how they thought they were preparing us for the “Real World”. But as children, we often internalized those experiences to mean that there’s not enough, we’re not enough, we’re not capable of having what we desire, and that what we desire is not only out-of-reach…but not even available to us.

You Are Supported!

Marisa Peer makes it clear in this video that the Universe that created you, and gave you all of your amazing talents, will support you in EVERYTHING—everything that you want.

You are fully supported in your success and well-being. Author Chellie Campbell calls the Universe is a “Big Yes Machine”—happy to give you the essence of whatever you request. However, if your mind does not know this, and your thoughts / words / actions do not support this understanding, that split energy could be holding you back.

Not feeling supported, and not feeling enough—capable enough, talented enough, knowledgeable enough, resourceful enough, strong enough, smart enough, etc.—is at the heart of a lot of business (and life) dysfunction.

When your mind, body, and spirit feels supported and ‘enough’, there is a sense of inner peace, calm, and relaxation that replaces the constant need to fill the void. If you followed along with the guided exercise in the video and recognize yourself in Maria’s talk, you might want to begin affirming your support and enough-ness.

Below are three short generic affirmations inspired by Marisa’s talk which you can begin saying to yourself when you wake up, throughout your day, and as you fall asleep at night.

By regularly repeating (saying and writing) these affirmations, you will flood your mind and spirit with the realization that the Universe is supporting you, everything you want is available to you right this moment, and you are always ‘enough’.

Any affirmation, but especially generic affirmations like these, are most effective when we’re relaxed and not contradicting the affirmations. So, make sure you are breathing deeply and slowly, and feeling no tension in your body when you repeat these affirmations to yourself. When you say them, notice how your body feels when you know the truth of these powerful statements.

What did you think of Marisa shares in this video, and the guided exercise? I’d love for you to share your AHAs and thoughts below in the comments.

Image credit: mindvalley and Barry-Jansson & Associates

Enjoying Your Ongoing Journey

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Whether you are new in business, or a veteran business owner with the stories to prove it, there is great benefit in recognizing the ongoing spiritual lessons that are part of the entrepreneurial journey.

The Ongoing Journey

In fact, the women business owners I serve who most-quickly accept and enjoy their entrepreneurial journey as a delightful adventure also tend to be most successful.

From an energetic, Law of Attraction point-of-view, it’s easy to see why these business owners are most successful: Their energy is lighter, more relaxed, and trusting that everything is all working out well. They carry a natural humbleness AND a great sense of humor. They can find the humor in almost every situation and laugh at themselves while learning new skills. The upswings in business do not disorient them or distract them from their core mission, and the downs become sacred opportunities to grow…the fertile ground for the next upswing.

Your business will show you where you (personally) can be more patient, more accepting, and more compassionate.

You will be confronted with any underlying money, health, and relationship issues you may have. If you thought you could avoid those personal downfalls by throwing yourself into your business, think again.

Your business will also show you when and how to set boundaries, and when to hold them firm. You’ll discover strengths you didn’t know you had, along with your weaknesses. You’ll quickly learn to  either overcome each weakness or hire others to handle those aspects of your business.

One of the first lessons that I learned was that no business is successful in a vacuum. As business owners we are dependent on the connections with our vendors as well as our clients and colleagues.

Connecting with other business owners via my local chamber and networking group not only kept me up-to-date on local business news but also put me in touch with potential clients and vendors. It also gave me a reason to set my work aside, get away from my office, and interact with other people.

When you love your business, especially if your business is mostly online and you are a solopreneur, you can forget the importance of socializing and connecting with others in-person!

The more I connected with others, helping others along the way, the more my business flourished. Still, I didn’t realize my business would lead me even further down a spiritual (not religious) path, and that it would benefit from ongoing conscious self-improvement.

It Gets Easier

If you are at the beginning of your business journey and feeling a little daunted by the emotional and spiritual demands of your business, know that it does get easier over time.

It’s like compound interest: What you learn about yourself this week, this month, this year, builds upon itself and will continue to serve you as you move forward.

Learning what spiritual tools work best for you, and practicing them like it matters, will not only make you happier in business but also enrich your ongoing journey. At this point in my journey, regular meditation, affirmations and visualization are all part of my processes. When I am emotionally drawn into a situation, I know it’s time for me to do my inner work.

As it turns out, your business is NOT just business, it’s personal!

 

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The Magical Power of Anger

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The magical power of anger

That’s right: magical! There’s magic in our ability to transmute our anger, not just for our business but for all aspects of our lives.

Personally, I don’t know any business owner who doesn’t, at least occasionally, experience anger in running their business. One of the hot spots are tricky experiences with vendors.

Ideally, vendors support you in your business so you can fully support your clients and customers with ease. You rely on your vendors, and they become part of what makes you and your business successful.

In worst case scenarios, though, difficult vendor experiences can actually harm or derail your businesses. I don’t need to list the potential difficulties for you…and we don’t need to dwell there, either.

In your anger and frustration with the situation, your instincts might have you making rash decisions you’ll regret and send you scrambling to find alternative providers.

LOA savvy business owners know that is a trap: ‘what we resist, persists’.

Any action you take will reflect the energy with which it was taken. The angry journey reveals an angry result.

If you don’t clean up the anger with one vendor, you’ll just experience similar energy with the next, and the next, and the next. Worse case, that anger will seep into other aspects of your business and cultivate more resentment.

However, when you embrace the magical power within your emotions, you’ll gain understanding of your limiting beliefs, and get clues to resolving not only the current issue, but any future issue, as well!

Navigate tricky vendor relations

The most reliable, and sustainable way, to manage difficult vendor relations is by understanding the energy of your emotions and the magic that is within.

This past week, I was pondering various topics to write for my next blog post, and then I received a gift of an intensely frustrating vendor experience. Don’t you just love when your real-life business hands you such opportunities?

OK, for some of you, that sounds like a ‘trick question’. It’s really not! Aware and savvy business owners learn how to manage their energy and transmute the difficult experiences into growth opportunities.

Now, I don’t go out of my way to seek anger, but over the years I’ve learned that it’s worth my energy and attention to transmute the anger, first, before taking any actions. Below is yesterday’s story broken down into the steps that helped me do exactly that: Transmute the anger into magic!

The time it takes to work through these steps will depend on your situation, and how long you’ve been practicing these skills.

STEP ONE: FEEL IT, FULLY

When you notice you are angry, give yourself a moment to really feel it in your body. This serves three purposes: 1.) Increases your awareness of your own emotions, 2.) Allows the limiting beliefs and stories (which hold the emotion in place) to surface, and 3.) This is the starting place for transmuting the emotion.

Feel the emotion doesn’t mean dwell there. Or stop there. Or let it derail you. It means allow yourself to feel what you really feel, including all levels of anger and sadness, before you continue with your inner work. Without giving yourself a few minutes to really feel your emotions, you might stuff them and the magical transmutation never has a chance to start.

So, here’s how I applied this step. Late on Monday, I became aware that a vendor had charged me for services I never requested for the second month in a row….and was only just finding out about it. It was too late in the evening to do anything, so I decided to deal with it on Tuesday.

I was so angry about it that when Tuesday morning rolled around, I was ready to fire them on the spot, and see if they had broken industry regulations by not notifying me sooner. The anger in me was so intense that I felt vengeful. I kept wanting to pick up the phone to chew someone’s face off. But each time I started to dial the number, I realized my energy was too intense and I needed to step back before going any further.

STEP TWO: NOTICE THE ‘STORY’

When we’re angry, odds are pretty high that we have a ‘story’ in place that made us angry and keeps us stuck there. In some cases, it’s not just one story, but several ‘stories’…past, present, and even future ones!

Once you’ve properly given yourself some time to feel the feeling, start noticing what story is playing in your head about this situation.

Admittedly, I was so angry yesterday, that I wasn’t able to do this immediately after I became aware of my feelings. In fact, it wasn’t until after I ordered myself to calm down, that I eventually heard myself rehashing the ‘stories’ I had going on: They are really pissing me off! This is so wrong—I won’t let them get away with it! What makes them think they can take advantage of me? I’ve been a good client for them for years, I don’t deserve this! This cannot be legal…I should report them! What kind of slimy business are they running? How many other people are they abusing?

Spot the stories? I had already concluded that they had willingly wronged me and were doing it to others. Feeling victimized, and stoking the stories that kept me a victim. Ready to get revenge! They were running a slimy operation and needed to be stopped!

Yeah, it was the last one that got my attention. Extremes often show up in ‘stories’ that keep us stuck in anger and vicitimhood. In the past, I would have sat down and made a list of these crazy stories so I could address them, one-by-one, but having done this so often…I took mental note and quickly moved to step three.

STEP THREE: QUESTION THE ‘STORY’

Or (multiple) stories. Question them. In my case, I did The Work: Is this really true? Can I absolutely be sure this is true? How do I feel when I think this thought? How would I feel if I didn’t have this story? Turn it around.

For me, the first story being questioned looked like this:
They are really pissing me off!

Is this really true? YES!

Can I absolutely be sure this is true? YES!

How do I feel when I think this thought? UGH! It makes me even angrier!

How would I feel if I didn’t have this thought? I might not be so angry, or I might not be angry at all. I might be calmer and thinking more clearly.

Turn it around: I am pissing them off!; I am pissing myself off!

Oh, yeah…there it is! Truth prevails.

As soon as I stated the second ‘turn around’, I immediately saw how I was the one who was creating my anger and I was blaming them for making me feel angry. No one can make me, or any of us, feel anything unless I/we give them the power to do so.

Just questioning the first story made it easier for me to de-escalate, and calm down. I started laughing at how I had frothed myself up in anger without having all the details or information. I was already feeling better as I sailed through questioning the other stories that propped up my anger.

STEP FOUR: LET AWARENESS BRING CLARITY

The transmutation was in process! Once I had calmed down, gained awareness by questioning my stories, it became really clear to me: When it came down to it, I didn’t have the full story. I was only seeing ‘my side’ and needed to communicate with the vendor to get the full story.

All I had was a statement showing that they had billed me for non-requested (and un-received) services, and I had allowed myself to stir up my own feelings of anger.

What do I really want to experience? I wanted to speak to the vendor to get the full story, to have my account corrected, and monies refunded.

I grabbed the statement and a piece of paper. At the top of the paper, I wrote the date, the vendor’s name and phone number. Under that, I wrote 3 words to describe how I wanted the situation to unfold:

Calm, Smooth, Easy.

Then, I wrote my objectives:

  • Ask about the statement.
  • Get the account corrected.
  • Get any refund, if applicable.

The magic was activated and ready to launch!

STEP FIVE: TAKE ACTION WITH CLEAN ENERGY

By now, I’ve felt my full emotion, noticed the stories, questioned them, and gotten clear on what I want to transpire and set my intentions. I felt so much calmer, relaxed, and at ease. Knowing that this was all going to work out, I picked up the phone and dialed the number. While it rang, I reminded myself: Calm. Smooth. Easy.

The first person I spoke to couldn’t answer any question and seemed confused. He was reflecting some of my earlier wonky energy. I knew it was time to get my energy clear: I silently re-affirmed Calm, Smooth, and Easy.

As soon as I did this, he transferred me to a second person. I re-explained the problem, and this second guy had answers for ALL my questions! His voice was pleasant and helpful as he pulled up my statement on his computer, saw the charges, then researched the requests which triggered the charges. In a calm and helpful tone, he saw the error (another client’s charges were showing up on my statement), and began apologizing.

“Let me fix this immediately. I am so sorry for this mix-up, and so glad you called!”

A computer error — that explained a lot! Immediately, in just a few minutes, he fixed the error, refunded monies automatically charged, corrected my balance due, asked if he could do anything more, and cheerfully wished me a good day.

Talk about a magical experience! I never had to raise my voice, and was easily able to remain calm during the entire encounter. The experience was smooth and easy, just as I had written down while I was getting clear on my preferred outcome. Doubt that would have been the case had I called earlier in the day when I was so angry!

STEP SIX: REST AND REVIEW

I was smiling when I got off the phone. I had been on quite the magical ’emotional journey’, going from vengeful white-hot angry to calm and satisfied, in just a few hours.

After taking a break, I came back to my office and took stock of what happened. (That’s when it became obvious that writing this post was the next step.) Take the time to learn from your experiences. If you could have done better, take note. If you did a good job, acknowledge yourself.

Without a doubt, I did a REEEAAAAALLLLY good job of feeling my feelings fully. (giggle) Although, it might have served me to notice the stories sooner. Giving myself some ‘space’ so I could, finally, notice the stories…essential to this whole process! So glad I didn’t take action when I was really angry. Very happy that I questioned the stories, and was able to laugh, before getting clear on what I really wanted. Making the call with clear energy and intentions completed the anger-to-magic transmutation.

Come to think of it, if this vendor hadn’t made the mistake to begin with, I wouldn’t have gone on this emotional journey or learned so much about myself in the process…let alone, been able to share it with you. For that, I am very appreciative of that vendor and their mistake. Bless them!

Did this post give you some insights into transmuting your own anger? Or how to work through a sticky vendor, client, or employee situation? If so, share your insights below.

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Energy Lessons from Dogs

dogsIf you’ve been reading my blog posts about the power of our energy and our influence on the world around us, but it’s still not making sense to you…please to direct your attention to dogs.

Yes, you read that right. Dogs!

Energy lessons from dogs

Dogs are pack animals who look to the ‘Alpha’ in their pack for energetic cues and direction. This makes dogs a perfect reflection of their human’s energy.

If you’ve ever watched Cesar Millan work with dogs, you’ve seen countless times how an out-of-control dog calms down when the energy is corrected. In any of his shows, The Dog Whisperer, Leader of the Pack, Cesar 911, or his new show Dog Nation, you’ll see in real-time how Millan teaches the humans to better manage their energy and their dog responds!

Below is just one video clip of a couple who had a dog who would constantly initiate fights with other dogs. In a few minutes, he helps these humans see how their dog responds to their energy…

How does a relaxed dog behave? They are calm, happy, and more sociable.

Most problems with dogs occur when their humans are not taking the Alpha aka Leader of the Pack role. The dogs, in their desperation for a pack leader, take on the role themselves and havoc ensues.

The Universe is a lot like a dog

Just like a dog, the Universe is responding to your energy.

Your energy is instructing the Universe, via the law of attraction, which life experiences and people to send your way. Whatever signal you are sending, the law of attraction is lining up similar energy. Like energies cohere (come together) and unlike energies de-cohere (repel).

When your signal to the Universe is mixed, just like when you give a dog mixed signals, the results are equally mixed. When you only observe ‘what-is’ around you, and refuse to focus deliberately, you are relinquishing your creative powers to others around you.

When your signal to the Universe is clear, deliberate, and consistent, you will see that reflected in your results.

LOA savvy business owners know it is important to keep their own energy clear, deliberate, and consistent. They actively engage positive and uplifting people, media (including movies, audios, podcasts, and books), and they deliberately focus their attention on their businesses, too.

When you’re actively and deliberately focusing your energy in positive and uplifting ways, your business and your clients / customers will reflect that energy back to you. Don’t take my word for it…try it for yourself!

So, now it’s your turn: What are you willing to do to keep your own energy clear, deliberate, and consistent? Share in your comments below…

 

 

Image credit: Still from Cesar 911 video

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